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Are you dragging your feet about having the sex talks? Do you wish someone would just tell you what to say to your tween (or any age kid) about this important part of life? You are in the right place.

I’m Amy Lang, a sex and parent educator, and in my frank (really frank), opinionated, and full of swears advice-column style parenting podcast, I answer real questions from real parents about the talks. I also provide topic-specific scripts so you can sound like a pro.

Most episodes are a potluck of questions that run the gamut from abortion to porn and everything in between. They need to know about all of these things by the time they start middle school.*

When you have no idea about the best age to start the birds and bees talks; what’s age appropriate; and what to actually SAY to them about sex, it makes the sex talks daunting (to say the least)!

When it comes to the sex talks, keeping it sex positive, light and fact based is key to getting them to listen to you and see you as their go-to birds and bees source. Just Say This can help you make this happen.

To record a question for me to answer in a later show (even if you think it’s a stupid one) call 206-926-1522.*

I love funny sex talk stories, too. So feel free to call those in, too.

+ IG @BirdsBeesKids
+ FB @BirdsBeesKids
+ BirdsAndBeesAndKids.com

*Not a thing.

**In middle school they talk about everything so it’s better (and safer) for your kid to be super-well informed so that they feel confident and smart as things get really real. Do you remember middle school? Wouldn’t it have been so much better if you had known everything? Or anything?

Just Say This! How to have sex talks with tweens Amy Lang, MA

    • Kids & Family
    • 4.9 • 142 Ratings

Are you dragging your feet about having the sex talks? Do you wish someone would just tell you what to say to your tween (or any age kid) about this important part of life? You are in the right place.

I’m Amy Lang, a sex and parent educator, and in my frank (really frank), opinionated, and full of swears advice-column style parenting podcast, I answer real questions from real parents about the talks. I also provide topic-specific scripts so you can sound like a pro.

Most episodes are a potluck of questions that run the gamut from abortion to porn and everything in between. They need to know about all of these things by the time they start middle school.*

When you have no idea about the best age to start the birds and bees talks; what’s age appropriate; and what to actually SAY to them about sex, it makes the sex talks daunting (to say the least)!

When it comes to the sex talks, keeping it sex positive, light and fact based is key to getting them to listen to you and see you as their go-to birds and bees source. Just Say This can help you make this happen.

To record a question for me to answer in a later show (even if you think it’s a stupid one) call 206-926-1522.*

I love funny sex talk stories, too. So feel free to call those in, too.

+ IG @BirdsBeesKids
+ FB @BirdsBeesKids
+ BirdsAndBeesAndKids.com

*Not a thing.

**In middle school they talk about everything so it’s better (and safer) for your kid to be super-well informed so that they feel confident and smart as things get really real. Do you remember middle school? Wouldn’t it have been so much better if you had known everything? Or anything?

    Boy masturbating in mom's bedroom; should you buy condoms in front of your kids; and is a body pillow OK for my teen? -- Episode 196

    Boy masturbating in mom's bedroom; should you buy condoms in front of your kids; and is a body pillow OK for my teen? -- Episode 196

    GOT A QUESTION? Anything goes! Just leave a quick voice mail and I’ll answer it on the show! 206-926-1522

    This episode's notes!
    Good old Amaze has great videos on masturbation (and more)! Show your kids ages 9+.


    Masturbation Females and Masturbation Birth Control Basics: Condoms, The Pill and The Patch  Anime Body Pillows! Check some out here.
    BBK Bookstore is here
    Sex Talks with Tweens: What to Say & How to Say It is all scripts and some tips!
    Other resources
    My YouTube channel is full of videos for you to watch! Get the details on the sex talks, sexual abuse prevention and even some vids you can watch with your kids. 
    Sign up for my news letter and get helpful 7 Tips to Have Great Birds & Bees Talks –   Birds & Bees & Kids 
    The podcast can only get you so far...The Birds & Bees Solutions Center can help you become the trustworthy adult you didn’t have and your kid's go-to person. Includes group coaching, a massive library of resources AND one Quickie Consultation is included! 
    Use coupon code PODCAST for $10 off.
    Need more help? Schedule a Quickie Consult!
    Work with kids? Visit my site for professionals BBKpros.com
    Other resources
    Stop It Now – Sexual Abuse Prevention info and support RAINN – National Sexual Assault Hotline. Free. Confidential. BARK – Monitoring and filtering (US only)  Qustodio – Monitoring and filtering (outside US)   
    Facebook
    Instagram
    YouTube
    Website
    Join the postcarding movement! Center for Common Ground - you can send postcards to BIPOC people in conservative fucked up states and encourage them to vote!

    • 14 min
    What does sex positive mean? -- Episode 195

    What does sex positive mean? -- Episode 195

    GOT A QUESTION? Anything goes! Just leave a quick voice mail and I’ll answer it on the show! 206-926-1522

    This episode's notes!
    The Meaning of Sex Positivity, Explained - My pal and colleague Nadine Thornhill is interviewed for this article! She's fab. Check her out here. 

    Peggy Orenstein

    BBK Bookstore is here
    Sex Talks with Tweens: What to Say & How to Say It is all scripts and some tips!
    Other resources
    My YouTube channel is full of videos for you to watch! Get the details on the sex talks, sexual abuse prevention and even some vids you can watch with your kids. 
    Sign up for my news letter and get helpful 7 Tips to Have Great Birds & Bees Talks –   Birds & Bees & Kids 
    The podcast can only get you so far...The Birds & Bees Solutions Center can help you become the trustworthy adult you didn’t have and your kid's go-to person. Includes group coaching, a massive library of resources AND one Quickie Consultation is included! 
    Use coupon code PODCAST for $10 off.
    Need more help? Schedule a Quickie Consult!
    Work with kids? Visit my site for professionals BBKpros.com
    Other resources
    Stop It Now – Sexual Abuse Prevention info and support RAINN – National Sexual Assault Hotline. Free. Confidential. BARK – Monitoring and filtering (US only)  Qustodio – Monitoring and filtering (outside US)   
    Facebook
    Instagram
    YouTube
    Website
    Join the postcarding movement! Center for Common Ground - you can send postcards to BIPOC people in conservative fucked up states and encourage them to vote!

    • 7 min
    The Valentines Edition: Telling a 6 year-old they can have a "girlfriend" as long as they get good grades; helping tweens navigate crushes; and are trans kiddo romantic sleepovers damaging?

    The Valentines Edition: Telling a 6 year-old they can have a "girlfriend" as long as they get good grades; helping tweens navigate crushes; and are trans kiddo romantic sleepovers damaging?

    GOT A QUESTION? Anything goes! Just leave a quick voice mail and I’ll answer it on the show! 206-926-1522
    BBK Bookstore is here
    Sex Talks with Tweens: What to Say & How to Say It is all scripts and some tips!
    Other resources
    My YouTube channel is full of videos for you to watch! Get the details on the sex talks, sexual abuse prevention and even some vids you can watch with your kids. 
    Sign up for my news letter and get helpful 7 Tips to Have Great Birds & Bees Talks –   Birds & Bees & Kids 
    The podcast can only get you so far...The Birds & Bees Solutions Center can help you become the trustworthy adult you didn’t have and your kid's go-to person. Includes group coaching, a massive library of resources AND one Quickie Consultation is included! 
    Use coupon code PODCAST for $10 off.
    Need more help? Schedule a Quickie Consult!
    Work with kids? Visit my site for professionals BBKpros.com
    Other resources
    Stop It Now – Sexual Abuse Prevention info and support RAINN – National Sexual Assault Hotline. Free. Confidential. BARK – Monitoring and filtering (US only)  Qustodio – Monitoring and filtering (outside US)   
    Facebook
    Instagram
    YouTube
    Website
    Join the postcarding movement! Center for Common Ground - you can send postcards to BIPOC people in conservative f****d up states and encourage them to vote!

    • 17 min
    Sugar dating with Casey O'Roarty and Christy Keating -- Episode 193

    Sugar dating with Casey O'Roarty and Christy Keating -- Episode 193

    GOT A QUESTION? Anything goes! Just leave a quick voice mail and I’ll answer it on the show! 206-926-1522
    This episode’s notes!
    Joyful Courage with Casey O'Roarty
    The Heartful Parent with Christy Keating
    BBK Bookstore is here
    Sex Talks with Tweens: What to Say & How to Say It is all scripts and some tips!
    Other resources
    My YouTube channel is full of videos for you to watch! Get the details on the sex talks, sexual abuse prevention and even some vids you can watch with your kids. 
    Sign up for my news letter and get helpful 7 Tips to Have Great Birds & Bees Talks –   Birds & Bees & Kids 
    The podcast can only get you so far...The Birds & Bees Solutions Center can help you become the trustworthy adult you didn’t have and your kid's go-to person. Includes group coaching, a massive library of resources AND one Quickie Consultation is included! 
    Use coupon code PODCAST for $10 off.
    Need more help? Schedule a Quickie Consult!
    Work with kids? Visit my site for professionals BBKpros.com
    Other resources
    Stop It Now – Sexual Abuse Prevention info and support RAINN – National Sexual Assault Hotline. Free. Confidential. BARK – Monitoring and filtering (US only)  Qustodio – Monitoring and filtering (outside US)   
    Facebook
    Instagram
    YouTube
    Website
    Join the postcarding movement! Center for Common Ground - you can send postcards to BIPOC people in conservative fucked up states and encourage them to vote!

    • 42 min
    Neurodivergent kid struggles with impulse control and gal can't keep her hands out of her pants -- Episode 192

    Neurodivergent kid struggles with impulse control and gal can't keep her hands out of her pants -- Episode 192

    GOT A QUESTION? Anything goes! Just leave a quick voice mail and I’ll answer it on the show! 206-926-1522
    This episode’s notes!

    Helping Women Period - provides FREE period products for homeless and low-income bleeders.
    BBK Bookstore is here
    Sex Talks with Tweens: What to Say & How to Say It is all scripts and some tips!
    Other resources
    My YouTube channel is full of videos for you to watch! Get the details on the sex talks, sexual abuse prevention and even some vids you can watch with your kids. 
    Sign up for my news letter and get helpful 7 Tips to Have Great Birds & Bees Talks –   Birds & Bees & Kids 
    The podcast can only get you so far...The Birds & Bees Solutions Center can help you become the trustworthy adult you didn’t have and your kid's go-to person. Includes group coaching, a massive library of resources AND one Quickie Consultation is included! 
    Use coupon code PODCAST for $10 off.
    Need more help? Schedule a Quickie Consult!
    Work with kids? Visit my site for professionals BBKpros.com
    Other resources
    Stop It Now – Sexual Abuse Prevention info and support RAINN – National Sexual Assault Hotline. Free. Confidential. BARK – Monitoring and filtering (US only)  Qustodio – Monitoring and filtering (outside US)   
    Facebook
    Instagram
    YouTube
    Website
    Join the postcarding movement! Center for Common Ground - you can send postcards to BIPOC people in conservative fucked up states and encourage them to vote!

    • 20 min
    How to tell adults to respect your kids' body-boundaries

    How to tell adults to respect your kids' body-boundaries

    GOT A QUESTION? Anything goes! Just leave a quick voice mail and I’ll answer it on the show! 206-926-1522
    This episode’s notes!

    Feather Berkhower is a terrific sexual abuse preventionist. She's been at this for a very long time and knows her stuff! Check out her article here.
    BBK Bookstore is here
    Sex Talks with Tweens: What to Say & How to Say It is all scripts and some tips!
    Other resources
    My YouTube channel is full of videos for you to watch! Get the details on the sex talks, sexual abuse prevention and even some vids you can watch with your kids. 
    Sign up for my news letter and get helpful 7 Tips to Have Great Birds & Bees Talks –   Birds & Bees & Kids 
    The podcast can only get you so far...The Birds & Bees Solutions Center can help you become the trustworthy adult you didn’t have and your kid's go-to person. Includes group coaching, a massive library of resources AND one Quickie Consultation is included! 
    Use coupon code PODCAST for $10 off.
    Need more help? Schedule a Quickie Consult!
    Work with kids? Visit my site for professionals BBKpros.com
    Other resources
    Stop It Now – Sexual Abuse Prevention info and support RAINN – National Sexual Assault Hotline. Free. Confidential. BARK – Monitoring and filtering (US only)  Qustodio – Monitoring and filtering (outside US)   
    Facebook
    Instagram
    YouTube
    Website
    Join the postcarding movement! Center for Common Ground - you can send postcards to BIPOC people in conservative fucked up states and encourage them to vote!

    • 10 min

Customer Reviews

4.9 out of 5
142 Ratings

142 Ratings

Erin Hearts ,

Strong opinions- I love it!

I’m grateful for the strong opinions and topics on this podcast. Thank you for educating me so I can be communicative and open with my son and understanding as a middle school teacher.

Kfghgddx ,

Necessary. And funny!

I love this podcast. I have 2 kids under 4. It’s helpful for parents of all ages. And I love Amy’s personality and humor. Just listen to this!

RDTay ,

All parents need this education.

Thank you. ALL parents need this podcast.

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