Episode 434. Validation and Apology: How to Build Trust and Safety in a Relationship with Matthew Fray Radically Loved with Rosie Acosta

A successful relationship needs both partners to build trust and validate the other. So if one partner doesn’t feel respected or loved, the relationship will inevitably fall apart.
One way couples unintentionally ignore the feelings of their significant other is through invalidation.

By belittling the emotions of our loved ones, we are indirectly saying that we don’t value them. How can we avoid falling into this pitfall? Unfortunately, there’s no precise answer to this. But we can always start with the basics—build trust and offer genuine apologies and heartfelt consideration to our loved ones.

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In this episode, Matthew Fray joins us to share the lessons he learned about failed relationships and divorce. He explains why invalidation destroys trust and security in a relationship and how genuine apologies help build trust toward a healthy marriage. Finally, he imparts how couples could respond better to feelings of invalidation expressed by their partners.
If you're searching for how to build trust, create emotional safety, and be a better partner, this episode is for you!
Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:
1.Understand why relationships fail.
2.Discover the importance of a genuine apology.
3.Learn why a strong relationship needs you to build trust and validation.
Resources
●Grab a copy of This Is How Your Marriage Ends https://www.amazon.com/This-Your-Marriage-Ends-Relationships-ebook/dp/B097RPC1SD by Matthew Fray
●Contact Matthew
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Episode Highlights
Matthew Ten Years Ago
●Matthew believed he was a decent person and a good partner.
●When we are unaware of hurting others, it diminishes our responsibility to the consequences of our actions.
●Today, Matthew understands the gravity of his actions to his loved ones.
●A person’s happiness sometimes depends on the awareness and validation of their significant other to their experiences.
Why Relationships Fail
●Failure to do simple and small tasks for your partner shows indifference to their feelings.
●Relationships end when someone’s feelings are hurt or ignored.
●Someone might not feel safe in their relationship.
●Someone with a healthy set of boundaries will voluntarily leave a harmful relationship.
●Paying attention to the small things creates a lasting relationship.
On Keeping a Relationship
●Couples break up because of the absence of trust and safety in their relationship.
●Deep wounds are carved into someone’s heart when they’re unloved and disrespected by their significant other.
On Saving Relationships
●There is a limit to how much betrayal and pain someone can take.
●Promising to care and love someone is irrelevant when you inflict pain on them.
●Demonstrating love through actions is just lip service. Couples need to learn how to build trust, safety, and respect.
Habits to a Healthier Relationship
●Validation and consideration are two habits needed to maintain a happy relationship.
●Validate your partner’s feelings. When we disregard our loved one’s emotions, their trust slowly slips away.
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