Episode #83 Kenneth Play on how to hack your sex life to be the best lover possible Next Level Guy

THE BASICS

Today’s guest is Kenneth Play, who is an international sex expert and sex educator. From a deeply insecure Asian immigrant to 8 million views on PornHub and being named the World’s Greatest Sex Hacker by GQ, Kenneth develops sex techniques to help couples learn new ways to connect and overcome challenges in the bedroom. His newest course features over 71 videos and 12 hours of content, and was described by AskMen as having "at least one nugget of sexual learning you’ve almost certainly never encountered before, if not several." His teaching has been described as a mashup of Bruce Lee’s mixed martial arts approach and Tim Ferriss’s 80/20 rule. He worked with Dr. Zhana Vrangalova to conduct the world's largest survey on squirting; with Pamela Madsen at the Back to the Body Sensual Retreats for Women; and has been a featured presenter at New York University and San Jose State University. He has devoted his life to empowering couples to close the orgasm gap and experience the best connected sex of their lives.In this interview, we discuss story, sex education, sex hacks, how to make true connections with others and give true pleasure to all, and how to hack your sex life to become the best lover and partner possible.

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WHAT WE COVER

In this interview, we discuss gems like: Who he is What was the motivation for him to become a sex education coachHow do we change our mindsets, to be acceptance of love, better sex and the confidence to seek itWhere does he see most guys going wrong with their sex approachWhy do we put labels on our sex lives and what we are turned on byHow do different cultural upbringings affect how you approach sex and how not to pleasure block yourselfAre there things he sees women seeking more of, less of, things he wished men did more of in bed etcHow should couples better their communications when it comes to what they want in the bedroom and sexlifeWhat does he think is wrong with the sex education that men usually getDo things change when you are hooking up and when with a long term partner?What is his opinion on the pick up industry?How can single guys better themselves right now away from the bedroomCan you 80/20 sex?Do I mention BJJ ... well yes I do! See how I do it around 40 mins in!How to learn techniques and use them effectivelyHow can we learn to overcome negative emotions like jealousyWhat is his opinion on porn?How can we learn to be in the moment during sexWhat about sex toys and accessories, what should all guys haveWhat does he want the evolution of his brand to be 

SOME THINGS TO REFLECT ON

In this interview, a lot of jewels of self-improvement are discussed. Some of these and their associated thoughts include: Changing yourself on the outside isn't enough, you also need to change who you are internally as well to make a lasting change in yourselfThere is a stigma about sex that needs to be eliminated, there is nothing wrong with wanting to get better at sex, to become better loversEveryone is born deserving of loveSexual confidence needs to be earned The more satisfied your lovers are the more sex you will get. Sex should be about satisfaction and enjoyment for all partners and not just yourself. If you want to bring a change into your sex life, by becoming vulnerable for example, you need to take personal responsibility and make the changes you want to see by showing the characteristic yourself Porn is not a good sex education toolSex has a golden rule, 'don't be a dick' to another personWomen can want sex more than men, but they want good sex, the game has changed, they want to sleep with men who are good lays, not just using them as a piece of meatYou can become a better lover by becoming a better personTrain your skills until they become you and you can use them whilst still being in the momentDo not treat every sex session as a master performance, have times when you try to learn,