99 episodes

We got married with children, together we have 4 kids! We want to share what works for us and what doesn't. For step-parents, co-parents, marriage, being your best self, managing work, family, friends & health... we're going to talk about everything, always.

Everything Always Michael and Summer Mulder

    • Kids & Family
    • 4.8 • 44 Ratings

We got married with children, together we have 4 kids! We want to share what works for us and what doesn't. For step-parents, co-parents, marriage, being your best self, managing work, family, friends & health... we're going to talk about everything, always.

    Everything Always Episode 99: Our Anniversary!

    Everything Always Episode 99: Our Anniversary!

    You probably guessed by the episode title that today is our anniversary! July is a big month: it’s Summer’s birthday month, we celebrate Independence Day, and the best part of July is the day that we celebrate our commitment to each other.
    In this episode, we’re reminiscing about the past and sharing how our relationship has grown stronger over the years despite the many challenges and obstacles that life has sometimes thrown our way. We are also divulging our biggest piece of advice for other couples to remember when times are hard - because even the strongest relationships experience hardship, but it’s in the adversity that we can really grow together.
    2:00 - 3:00 - Why we love July.
    3:00 - 4:04 - Reminiscing about the past.
    4:05 - 7:59 - What is the biggest difference between being married and dating?
    8:00 - 11:39 - Adversity makes you stronger together.
    11:40 - 16:44 - Summer’s favorite all-time family memory.
    16:45 - 20:27 - Our advice for pushing through those hard times.
     
    Takeaways:
    July is the best month. Perspective is everything. Embrace adversity. Love grows exponentially.  Make time to be together.
    Quotes:
    “The longer I’m with you, the more I like you.” - Mike
    “Adversity makes you stronger.” - Mike
    “Those moments when everyone is disconnected but so connected to each other makes you feel so warm and fuzzy and puts perspective on all the things that we have gone through.” - Summer 
     
    3 Interesting Clips:
    8:55 - 9:25 - Our love grows deeper and stronger with every challenge thrown our way.
    14:00 - 14:40 - The importance of putting things into perspective.
    18:00 - 18:20 - Make your relationship a priority, always.
     
    Links:
    Everything Always Episode 02: The Story of Us. The Story of You. Text us: 760-389-3722 Send us an anonymous letter  
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    • 20 min
    Everything Always Episode 98: When Your Partner is Fighting with Their Ex Over the Kids

    Everything Always Episode 98: When Your Partner is Fighting with Their Ex Over the Kids

    Your family needs you at your best, but when conflict creeps in between your partner and their ex, it has a tendency to wind you up tight and cause all kinds of frustration and anxiety. So how can this be avoided? And how do you, as a step-parent, know where to draw the line when it comes to your involvement? In this episode, I will be talking about what you can do in these situations, what we have done, and what step-parents are not responsible for doing.
    This is a one-on-one session, just me and you, where you’ll get a better understanding of what you can control, what you can’t control, and how to show up for yourself and others in the best way. My ultimate goal is to let you know that you’re not alone and that you shouldn’t be full of guilt and anxiety over these situations. After this episode, you will be able to breathe a little easier and have more clarity on what you can and cannot do as a step-parent.
    2:20 – 4:22 – A thank-you from me to you.
    4:23 – 5:57 – Why I’m talking about step-parent issues
    5:58 – 10:45 – The disruption that conflict has on you and your family.
    10:46 – 14:04 – What you can’t control.
    14:05 – 21:17 – What you can do.
    21:18 – 25:55 – The most important influence you have.
    25:56 – 28:29  – How to bring positivity and perspective.
    28:30 – 38:05 – The opportunity that comes with hard times.
     
    Takeaways:
    How you are brought down, even by things that have nothing to do with you. Why you can’t change another person’s behavior. Why focusing on you will help you show up better for others. How to contribute to the situation without going too far. Why you should embrace challenges and treat them as opportunities for unity.  
    Quotes:
    “If you are the step-parent and your partner is going through an icky, terrible mess, even if you think it is about you, it really isn’t.” - Summer
    “You’re probably putting an overwhelming amount of pressure on yourself thinking that somehow you can control all of these outcomes, but all of these outcomes have little to do with you.” - Summer
    “Be that sounding board for the anger or venting without inserting your judgment unless asked—and sometimes not even then!” - Summer
    3 Interesting Clips:
    5:05 – 5:29 – An important reminder about being a step-parent.
    11:44 – 12:24 – Your role in changing other people’s behavior.
    14:35 – 15:12 – The importance of a clear head.
     
    Links:
    Text us: 760-389-3722 Send us an anonymous letter Subscribe & Review in iTunes!
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    • 38 min
    Everything Always Episode 97: Balancing Business and a Blended Family with Karyn Glemaud

    Everything Always Episode 97: Balancing Business and a Blended Family with Karyn Glemaud

    Bringing a new person into your child’s life can be confusing and difficult for both you and your child, but there are ways to do it with love and understanding. Karyn Glemaud joins us on the show today to give us some great ideas for how to make the blending process go more smoothly from the start of dating all the way through marriage and moving in together.
    Karyn is an entrepreneur, student, and children’s book author who co-wrote a book with her son. She shares from her own experience in a very blended family and discusses how she encourages communication, listening, and empathy—but also firmness through the whole process. You will also get to hear about why she decided to write a book and the impact of this book on her own blending experience.
    1:40 – 3:50 – Who Karyn is and her experience in business and writing about a blended family.
    3:51 – 8:49 – Why she decided to move to New Zealand and write a book with her son.
    8:50 – 11:07 – Insight on when and how to introduce your children to someone new.
    11:08 – 14:39 - The importance of sharing relationships the right way.
    14:40 – 24:44 – How to make sure everyone feels important and valued in a blended family.
    24:45 - 30:49  – How to deal with the pressure of business, a busy life, and guilt while handling a blended family.
    30:50 – 33:54 – The learning curve of business success and blending families.
    33:55 – 38:48 – Where to find Karyn's book and other resources.
     
    Takeaways:
    Figuring out the timing of allowing children to meet a new partner. The importance of location. Why it’s key to listen to the child’s feelings but also stand firm. How to ensure everyone feels valued. Handling the guilt and pressure that comes with being a mom and a business owner.  
    Quotes:
    “I encourage people to not be afraid and to lead with love.” - Karyn
    “Ultimately, I think it’s important for you to find love and be able to share that with your children. Your children should see a good example of a loving relationship.” - Karyn
    “There’s no right answer, and every child will respond differently.” - Summer
    3 Interesting Clips:
    6:09 – 6:30 – How her son became her co-author.
    9:42 – 10:24 – Validating your child’s feelings while still being firm.
    11:12 – 11:45 – The importance of being an example and sharing the right things with your children.
     
    Links:
    Karyn Glemaud: Website | Facebook Mommy’s New Friend by Karyn Glemaud Text us: 760-389-3722 Send us an anonymous letter Subscribe & Review in iTunes!
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    • 38 min
    Everything Always Episode 96: Surviving Divorce with Kate Anthony

    Everything Always Episode 96: Surviving Divorce with Kate Anthony

    Being in a blended family and dealing with an ex that puts a strain on your marriage is something a lot of people deal with. In this episode, Kate Anthony joins the show to share her insight on surviving divorce and making key decisions that will help you deal with exes, a difficult second marriage, blending for a second time and more. She has helped women all around the world to make the most difficult decision of their lives and transition out of toxic marriages.
    If you are trying to decide whether to heal your relationship or find a way out, Kate has an incredible way of putting things in perspective and shares key steps you should take in order to make a wise and thoughtful decision. Kate talks about things that a lot of us might not want to own up to and it’s so important to hear that and learn from that. She pulls from her own experience along with that of those she has coached and you will be able to gain some incredible insight from that.
    6:34 – 9:12 – The "should I stay or should I go" conversation and how common it is for even 2nd & 3rd marriages.
    9:13 – 14:59 – Kate’s experience in a volatile abusive marriage and what brought her to helping other people through divorce.
    15:00 – 21:25 – Dealing with a dramatic ex and an interesting situation she got herself into with her ex.
    21:26 – 27:02 - What the shifting of primary is and how to embrace and recognize it.
    27:03 – 24:05 – Making things smoother for the kids and what it takes to get there.
    24:06 – 41:25 – How to think clearly in a stressful state and make the best decision for yourself and others.
    42:26 – 48:24 – The importance of knowing yourself well and how that effects our relationships.
    48:25 – 56:03 – How to not drag your kids through the mud while you’re going through relationship problems.
    56:04 – 1:02:06 – Do kids deserve to know the truth about the divorce?
     
    Takeaways:
    How to know when to stick it out when it comes to a second marriage becoming rocky. The importance of doing the healing work and taking responsibility for your decisions. Advice on how to decide whether to blend a whole new family (the second time around). Overstepping boundaries when it comes to the ex and their new partner. The importance of navigating family dynamics with the kids in mind.  
    Quotes:
    “You can sign the papers but it doesn’t mean anything if you keep up a relationship that continues the dynamic.” - Kate
    “This person may be a total a**hole but you picked the a**hole.” - Kate
    “If you’re waiting for the other shoe to drop, it probably will. So protect yourself and have those boundaries.” - Kate
     
    3 Interesting Clips:
    4:15 – 5:20 – A little (important) secret that Kate and Summer share.
    7:00 – 7:36 – The reality of 2nd divorces and having to blend again.
    14:01 – 14:43 – How to make sure you don’t make the same mistakes over and over.
     
    Links:
    Kate Anthony: Website | Blog | Instagram | Facebook Community The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast Text us: 760-389-3722 Send us an anonymous letter Subscribe & Review in iTunes!
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    • 1 hr 2 min
    Everything Always Episode 95: Teaching vs. Learning with Kelsey Komorowski

    Everything Always Episode 95: Teaching vs. Learning with Kelsey Komorowski

    A lot of our episodes are focused around the challenges that come with being part of a blended family and parenting, but today we’re doing a bit of a shift. In this episode, we're diving into what our children learn in school, how they learn in school, and how we can encourage them to realize their potential. We’ll be talking with an expert, Kelsey Komorowski, about the difference between teaching vs. learning and how we can ensure that we’re putting our children in the best position to truly learn.
    Listen in as Kelsey discusses how we as parents can foster increased engagement and foster a stronger ability to learn in our children. She shares some of the key issues kids tend to have when it comes to actually learning and how their learning environment has a huge effect on that. Kelsey has a fascinating perspective on education, and we think that any parent will really enjoy this episode and get a lot of valuable information from it.
    5:52 – 10:56 - The importance of paradigm shifts and why Kelsey stepped into the education space.
    10:57 – 13:09 - What we can do as parents to encourage more effective learning and excitement for learning in our children.
    13:10 – 14:23 - How Komo Consulting works with teachers to bridge the gap between classroom teaching and at-home learning.
    14:24 – 20:59 - The reasons families want to work with Komo Consulting and the transformations that come from that.
    21:00 – 33:41 - How the transformations actually happen and how parents can facilitate change.
    33:42 – 47:16 - The feelings that happen when we are learning and how to teach problem-solving, resilience, and confidence.
    Takeaways:
    Why we need to focus on the things that get kids excited. Why parents need to be taught alongside and as well as their kids. The importance of understanding what skill-building really is. Why we need to re-think the role of educators, teachers, and ourselves as parents. How we’re able to help our kids realize how much potential they have. Quotes:
    “There’s an assumption that being taught to in the classroom equates to learning, and that’s just not true.” - Kelsey
    “You can be the best teacher in the world, but if the student isn’t tapped into themselves as a learner, it’s not going to matter.” - Kelsey
    “It doesn’t matter what you’re being taught—what’s important is what you’re learning.” - Kelsey
    3 Interesting Clips:
    11:50 – 12:54 - What school is for and how we should view it.
    17:45 – 18:35 - The problem of identity and grades.
    23:21 – 24:22 - Why student achievement is greatly shaped by household dynamics.
    Links:
    Kelsey Komorowski Komo Consulting Text us: 760-389-3722 Send us an anonymous letter Subscribe & Review in iTunes!
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    • 47 min
    Everything Always Episode 94: Raising Other People’s Children with Debbie Ausburn

    Everything Always Episode 94: Raising Other People’s Children with Debbie Ausburn

    If you’re a step-parent, you know what it’s like to parent and to raise other people's children. Today we’ll be joined by Debbie Ausburn, and we're diving into the complexities, hurdles, and important needs involved with this. She will share insight that might shed light on the unrealistic standards we hold for ourselves and take some of the pressure off in regards to how we think things are “supposed to be.”
    Listen in as Debbie shares from her experience as a lawyer, foster parent, step-parent, and caregiver of other people’s children. Her passion and experience are in working with traumatized children, serving as a board member, and representing youth-serving organizations. We talk about how you can make the most of your relationship with your stepchildren and have a rewarding relationship, as well as the number one relationship when it comes to having a blended family.
    6:35 - 10:12 – An overview of Debbie’s history and why she wrote her book on parenting.
    10:13 – 17:57 - The key to understanding a child’s perspective and your position as a non-biological parent.
    17:58 – 20:38 - How to deal with guilt in your situation and embrace the journey the best you can.
    20:39 – 27:01 - Where the true priority lies in order to make things work with your blended family.
    27:02 – 30:28 - The responsibility of the child and how the commitment is one-way.
    30:29 – 36:12 - How to have a more rewarding relationship with a teenager.
    36:13 – 45:38 - How to deal with authority, setting rules, and being there the best you can.
     
    Takeaways:
    The biggest life lessons that came with Debbie serving many children. The importance of understanding your position in a child’s life and setting up structure. Why we feel guilt and how to deal with that guilt as a step-parent. How to have a rewarding relationship with teenagers or more difficult children. Practical tips and tools for being a step-parent and helping raise other people’s children.  
    Quotes:
    “Challenges arise no matter how skilled or how well equipped we are.” - Summer
    “We are their second choice as parents, and that’s okay. We can still have a great relationship.” - Debbie
    “From a child’s point of view, I am in their life because the world isn’t working the way that it should.” - Debbie
     
    3 Interesting Clips:
    10:22 – 12:00 -  What to understand when it comes to being a parent to a child that is not yours biologically.
    13:26 – 14:29 - An important tool to use when parenting other people’s children.
    16:45 – 17:57 - Something that really helps put things in perspective when it comes to addressing challenging situations.
     
    Links:
    Debbie Ausburn: Website | YouTube | Twitter | Facebook | Instagram Raising Other People's Children by Debbie Ausburn Text us: 760-389-3722 Send us an anonymous letter Subscribe & Review in iTunes!
    Are you subscribed to our podcast? If not, we would strongly suggest you do. This way you won’t miss a thing! Subscribe here: Everything Always
    And now for the pretty please with a Bordeaux Maraschino Cherry on top. We would be so incredibly grateful if you left us a review on for Everything Always as well. This will help other parents and families like you find our podcast.
    Plus, it’s fun for Mike and I to sit and read them together on date night! Just click here, click open in iTunes, select “Ratings and Reviews”, tell us your favorite moment and best take away and we will send a huge cyber hug and kiss right to you!
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    • 45 min

Customer Reviews

4.8 out of 5
44 Ratings

44 Ratings

KRAinLA ,

Fabulous, smart, and oh so helpful

Summer is a fantastic interviewer. As a guest on her pod, I felt so comfortable and like I was sitting down to have tea with a great friend. She’s knowledgeable, relatable, funny, and insightful. Highly recommend!!

Ozzielaw ,

Outstanding Transparency

I really enjoy listening to this show, and appreciate the hosts’ transparency about the very real challenges of blending a family. They are honest, upbeat, and encouraging. It’s nice to hear that we can all get through this together.

~Jazzypooh~ ,

So Real and Transparent!

After being a child who experienced divorce and growing up with a blended family, I wish my parents were as honest and open as these podcasters are. Love love love this show! Definitely recommend anyone to subscribe.

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