97 episodes

We got married with children, together we have 4 kids! We want to share what works for us and what doesn't. For step-parents, co-parents, marriage, being your best self, managing work, family, friends & health... we're going to talk about everything, always.

Everything Always Michael and Summer Mulder

    • Kids & Family
    • 4.7 • 43 Ratings

We got married with children, together we have 4 kids! We want to share what works for us and what doesn't. For step-parents, co-parents, marriage, being your best self, managing work, family, friends & health... we're going to talk about everything, always.

    Everything Always Episode 97: Balancing Business and a Blended Family with Karyn Glemaud

    Everything Always Episode 97: Balancing Business and a Blended Family with Karyn Glemaud

    Bringing a new person into your child’s life can be confusing and difficult for both you and your child, but there are ways to do it with love and understanding. Karyn Glemaud joins us on the show today to give us some great ideas for how to make the blending process go more smoothly from the start of dating all the way through marriage and moving in together.
    Karyn is an entrepreneur, student, and children’s book author who co-wrote a book with her son. She shares from her own experience in a very blended family and discusses how she encourages communication, listening, and empathy—but also firmness through the whole process. You will also get to hear about why she decided to write a book and the impact of this book on her own blending experience.
    1:40 – 3:50 – Who Karyn is and her experience in business and writing about a blended family.
    3:51 – 8:49 – Why she decided to move to New Zealand and write a book with her son.
    8:50 – 11:07 – Insight on when and how to introduce your children to someone new.
    11:08 – 14:39 - The importance of sharing relationships the right way.
    14:40 – 24:44 – How to make sure everyone feels important and valued in a blended family.
    24:45 - 30:49  – How to deal with the pressure of business, a busy life, and guilt while handling a blended family.
    30:50 – 33:54 – The learning curve of business success and blending families.
    33:55 – 38:48 – Where to find Karyn's book and other resources.
     
    Takeaways:
    Figuring out the timing of allowing children to meet a new partner. The importance of location. Why it’s key to listen to the child’s feelings but also stand firm. How to ensure everyone feels valued. Handling the guilt and pressure that comes with being a mom and a business owner.  
    Quotes:
    “I encourage people to not be afraid and to lead with love.” - Karyn
    “Ultimately, I think it’s important for you to find love and be able to share that with your children. Your children should see a good example of a loving relationship.” - Karyn
    “There’s no right answer, and every child will respond differently.” - Summer
    3 Interesting Clips:
    6:09 – 6:30 – How her son became her co-author.
    9:42 – 10:24 – Validating your child’s feelings while still being firm.
    11:12 – 11:45 – The importance of being an example and sharing the right things with your children.
     
    Links:
    Karyn Glemaud: Website | Facebook Mommy’s New Friend by Karyn Glemaud Text us: 760-389-3722 Send us an anonymous letter Subscribe & Review in iTunes!
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    • 38 min
    Everything Always Episode 96: Surviving Divorce with Kate Anthony

    Everything Always Episode 96: Surviving Divorce with Kate Anthony

    Being in a blended family and dealing with an ex that puts a strain on your marriage is something a lot of people deal with. In this episode, Kate Anthony joins the show to share her insight on surviving divorce and making key decisions that will help you deal with exes, a difficult second marriage, blending for a second time and more. She has helped women all around the world to make the most difficult decision of their lives and transition out of toxic marriages.
    If you are trying to decide whether to heal your relationship or find a way out, Kate has an incredible way of putting things in perspective and shares key steps you should take in order to make a wise and thoughtful decision. Kate talks about things that a lot of us might not want to own up to and it’s so important to hear that and learn from that. She pulls from her own experience along with that of those she has coached and you will be able to gain some incredible insight from that.
    6:34 – 9:12 – The "should I stay or should I go" conversation and how common it is for even 2nd & 3rd marriages.
    9:13 – 14:59 – Kate’s experience in a volatile abusive marriage and what brought her to helping other people through divorce.
    15:00 – 21:25 – Dealing with a dramatic ex and an interesting situation she got herself into with her ex.
    21:26 – 27:02 - What the shifting of primary is and how to embrace and recognize it.
    27:03 – 24:05 – Making things smoother for the kids and what it takes to get there.
    24:06 – 41:25 – How to think clearly in a stressful state and make the best decision for yourself and others.
    42:26 – 48:24 – The importance of knowing yourself well and how that effects our relationships.
    48:25 – 56:03 – How to not drag your kids through the mud while you’re going through relationship problems.
    56:04 – 1:02:06 – Do kids deserve to know the truth about the divorce?
     
    Takeaways:
    How to know when to stick it out when it comes to a second marriage becoming rocky. The importance of doing the healing work and taking responsibility for your decisions. Advice on how to decide whether to blend a whole new family (the second time around). Overstepping boundaries when it comes to the ex and their new partner. The importance of navigating family dynamics with the kids in mind.  
    Quotes:
    “You can sign the papers but it doesn’t mean anything if you keep up a relationship that continues the dynamic.” - Kate
    “This person may be a total a**hole but you picked the a**hole.” - Kate
    “If you’re waiting for the other shoe to drop, it probably will. So protect yourself and have those boundaries.” - Kate
     
    3 Interesting Clips:
    4:15 – 5:20 – A little (important) secret that Kate and Summer share.
    7:00 – 7:36 – The reality of 2nd divorces and having to blend again.
    14:01 – 14:43 – How to make sure you don’t make the same mistakes over and over.
     
    Links:
    Kate Anthony: Website | Blog | Instagram | Facebook Community The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast Text us: 760-389-3722 Send us an anonymous letter Subscribe & Review in iTunes!
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    • 1 hr 2 min
    Everything Always Episode 95: Teaching vs. Learning with Kelsey Komorowski

    Everything Always Episode 95: Teaching vs. Learning with Kelsey Komorowski

    A lot of our episodes are focused around the challenges that come with being part of a blended family and parenting, but today we’re doing a bit of a shift. In this episode, we're diving into what our children learn in school, how they learn in school, and how we can encourage them to realize their potential. We’ll be talking with an expert, Kelsey Komorowski, about the difference between teaching vs. learning and how we can ensure that we’re putting our children in the best position to truly learn.
    Listen in as Kelsey discusses how we as parents can foster increased engagement and foster a stronger ability to learn in our children. She shares some of the key issues kids tend to have when it comes to actually learning and how their learning environment has a huge effect on that. Kelsey has a fascinating perspective on education, and we think that any parent will really enjoy this episode and get a lot of valuable information from it.
    5:52 – 10:56 - The importance of paradigm shifts and why Kelsey stepped into the education space.
    10:57 – 13:09 - What we can do as parents to encourage more effective learning and excitement for learning in our children.
    13:10 – 14:23 - How Komo Consulting works with teachers to bridge the gap between classroom teaching and at-home learning.
    14:24 – 20:59 - The reasons families want to work with Komo Consulting and the transformations that come from that.
    21:00 – 33:41 - How the transformations actually happen and how parents can facilitate change.
    33:42 – 47:16 - The feelings that happen when we are learning and how to teach problem-solving, resilience, and confidence.
    Takeaways:
    Why we need to focus on the things that get kids excited. Why parents need to be taught alongside and as well as their kids. The importance of understanding what skill-building really is. Why we need to re-think the role of educators, teachers, and ourselves as parents. How we’re able to help our kids realize how much potential they have. Quotes:
    “There’s an assumption that being taught to in the classroom equates to learning, and that’s just not true.” - Kelsey
    “You can be the best teacher in the world, but if the student isn’t tapped into themselves as a learner, it’s not going to matter.” - Kelsey
    “It doesn’t matter what you’re being taught—what’s important is what you’re learning.” - Kelsey
    3 Interesting Clips:
    11:50 – 12:54 - What school is for and how we should view it.
    17:45 – 18:35 - The problem of identity and grades.
    23:21 – 24:22 - Why student achievement is greatly shaped by household dynamics.
    Links:
    Kelsey Komorowski Komo Consulting Text us: 760-389-3722 Send us an anonymous letter Subscribe & Review in iTunes!
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    • 47 min
    Everything Always Episode 94: Raising Other People’s Children with Debbie Ausburn

    Everything Always Episode 94: Raising Other People’s Children with Debbie Ausburn

    If you’re a step-parent, you know what it’s like to parent and to raise other people's children. Today we’ll be joined by Debbie Ausburn, and we're diving into the complexities, hurdles, and important needs involved with this. She will share insight that might shed light on the unrealistic standards we hold for ourselves and take some of the pressure off in regards to how we think things are “supposed to be.”
    Listen in as Debbie shares from her experience as a lawyer, foster parent, step-parent, and caregiver of other people’s children. Her passion and experience are in working with traumatized children, serving as a board member, and representing youth-serving organizations. We talk about how you can make the most of your relationship with your stepchildren and have a rewarding relationship, as well as the number one relationship when it comes to having a blended family.
    6:35 - 10:12 – An overview of Debbie’s history and why she wrote her book on parenting.
    10:13 – 17:57 - The key to understanding a child’s perspective and your position as a non-biological parent.
    17:58 – 20:38 - How to deal with guilt in your situation and embrace the journey the best you can.
    20:39 – 27:01 - Where the true priority lies in order to make things work with your blended family.
    27:02 – 30:28 - The responsibility of the child and how the commitment is one-way.
    30:29 – 36:12 - How to have a more rewarding relationship with a teenager.
    36:13 – 45:38 - How to deal with authority, setting rules, and being there the best you can.
     
    Takeaways:
    The biggest life lessons that came with Debbie serving many children. The importance of understanding your position in a child’s life and setting up structure. Why we feel guilt and how to deal with that guilt as a step-parent. How to have a rewarding relationship with teenagers or more difficult children. Practical tips and tools for being a step-parent and helping raise other people’s children.  
    Quotes:
    “Challenges arise no matter how skilled or how well equipped we are.” - Summer
    “We are their second choice as parents, and that’s okay. We can still have a great relationship.” - Debbie
    “From a child’s point of view, I am in their life because the world isn’t working the way that it should.” - Debbie
     
    3 Interesting Clips:
    10:22 – 12:00 -  What to understand when it comes to being a parent to a child that is not yours biologically.
    13:26 – 14:29 - An important tool to use when parenting other people’s children.
    16:45 – 17:57 - Something that really helps put things in perspective when it comes to addressing challenging situations.
     
    Links:
    Debbie Ausburn: Website | YouTube | Twitter | Facebook | Instagram Raising Other People's Children by Debbie Ausburn Text us: 760-389-3722 Send us an anonymous letter Subscribe & Review in iTunes!
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    • 45 min
    Everything Always Episode 93: Navigating High Conflict Divorce with Matthew Barach 

    Everything Always Episode 93: Navigating High Conflict Divorce with Matthew Barach 

    Today’s episode is on high conflict divorces and our guest today is super fun, wicked smart and really helpful when it comes to navigating rough times. Matthew Barach, known as “the fixer” in Massachusetts family law. He owns his own law firm, over 20 years in family law experience, and is dedicated to excellence when it comes to family law
    I love talking to an attorney who cares about all parties involved and that is definitely Matthew. He has a ton of insight and wisdom when it comes to dealing with a high conflict divorce. You will get some incredible information, tips and advice on how to navigate a challenging divorce in a way that does the least damage as possible.
    7:26 – 8:42 – The truth about divorce and being a divorce lawyer.
    8:43 – 14:56 – How Matthew ended up in family law and why divorce isn’t about winning.
    14:57 - 19:01 – How to deal with parental alienation in the court and the role lawyers have in it.
    19:02 – 23:58 – What to do when parental alienation happens and crafting a solution that works on both sides.
    23:59 – 32:58 – Clarifying a father’s rights and the impact of changing roles on divorce outcomes.
    32:59 - 41:35 – The importance of shielding your child from the divorce process.
    Takeaways:
    What parental alienation means in the eyes of the court and how it might be different from what you see. What actually fixes parental alienation and how you can do your best to do that. Clarifying father’s rights and what you can do to prepare. Dealing with the stigma placed on parents who have less custody time. What’s really important when it comes to being a parent.  
    Quotes:
    “Every single solitary study says that children that were exposed to the divorce, during the time when parents were getting a divorce, had long term effects. BUT children who were not exposed to the divorce process do not have lingering effects when they’re older.” – Matthew Barach
    “It’s not really about the lawyers or judges, it’s about the parents making a decision, jointly or singularly to protect their children from the divorce.” - Matthew Barach
    “Nobody ever wins a divorce, that’s a misnomer and it’s not how it works.” - Matthew Barach
     
    3 Interesting Clips:
    12:02 – 12:59 – The gratifying part that comes post-divorce.
    16:03 – 16:48 – The difficulty of proving parental alienation in court.
    20:02 – 21:02 -  How to actually FIX parental alienation.
     
    Links:
    Matthew Barach: Website | LinkedIn | Facebook A Family Law Guide to Appellate Practice by Matthew Barach Text us: 760-389-3722 Send us an anonymous letter  
    Subscribe & Review in iTunes!
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    • 41 min
    Everything Always Episode 92: Solving the Marriage Problem with Tim Kellis

    Everything Always Episode 92: Solving the Marriage Problem with Tim Kellis

    We are so pumped to share this episode featuring Tim Kellis with you! Tim is a coach who specializes in fixing the problems in marriages that cause people to break up and get divorced. You will hear about the number of second marriages that fail, the reasons that contribute to them failing and learn key ways to avoid or squash those issues if they crop up in your own marriage.
    Tim has a great way of breaking down big problems into simple, bite-size pieces that really give us the ability to process them and understand them better. You will gain insight into common marriage issues that crop up and how to solve them in simple, effective ways. As Mike says in the intro, “If you’re hoping to get a divorce, don’t listen to this episode.”
    5:00 – 9:08 - The scary number of divorces in 2nd marriages and why Tim is passionate about helping people stay married.
    9:09 - 11:49 - The issue with current marriage therapy and what is missing from it.
    11:50 - 19:57  - The common reasons why relationships are successful (or not) and the main reason for disagreements.
    19:58 - 17:50 - Why spiritual transformation is important to your relationship and how to grow together.
    17:51 - 34:58  - How to navigate the tension of finances and other sticky subjects you disagree on.
    34:59 – 39:39 - How to not be controlled by fear and limiting beliefs while understanding equality.
    39:40 – 52:16 – The important things in life and how our priorities got skewed.
    Takeaways:
    The value of addressing marriage mentally vs. behaviorally. Why the love languages haven’t solved the marriage problem. The common factor in unsuccessful relationships. Why mental problems are mental-based. What you should be learning when going through the divorce process in order to move into your next relationship effectively. The importance of creating a judgement-free zone for your relationship. Why always seeking understanding first is so valuable. Quotes:
    “My approach is to understand how to make marriage work from a mental perspective and when I’ve solved the problem, the solution is equality.” – Tim Kellis
    “There’s no psychological component to the 5 Love Languages.” - Tim Kellis
    “The reason why relationships are successful is because couples get along. The reason why relationships are unsuccessful is because couples don’t get along.” - Tim Kellis
    3 Interesting Clips:
    8:43-9:08 – Why Tim addresses marriage mentally.
    7:43-11:50 - The problem with love languages in an insecure relationship.
    15:12-17:52 - The hierarchy of the problem and how that plays into your relationship.
    Links:
    Tim Kellis: timkellis@happyrelationships.com | Facebook | Clubhouse The Marriage Support Group Equality: The Quest for the Happy Marriage by Tim Kellis Karl Jung Text us: 760-389-3722 Send us an anonymous letter Subscribe & Review in iTunes!
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    • 52 min

Customer Reviews

4.7 out of 5
43 Ratings

43 Ratings

KRAinLA ,

Fabulous, smart, and oh so helpful

Summer is a fantastic interviewer. As a guest on her pod, I felt so comfortable and like I was sitting down to have tea with a great friend. She’s knowledgeable, relatable, funny, and insightful. Highly recommend!!

Ozzielaw ,

Outstanding Transparency

I really enjoy listening to this show, and appreciate the hosts’ transparency about the very real challenges of blending a family. They are honest, upbeat, and encouraging. It’s nice to hear that we can all get through this together.

~Jazzypooh~ ,

So Real and Transparent!

After being a child who experienced divorce and growing up with a blended family, I wish my parents were as honest and open as these podcasters are. Love love love this show! Definitely recommend anyone to subscribe.

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