Everything Always Michael and Summer Mulder

Going through divorce and family troubles is incredibly personal and can be difficult to talk about on a public platform. However, by discussing these issues, we can help others navigate their way through these real-life hardships that so many people have to deal with. So, in this episode, we have Mike’s nephew, Anthony Ellsworth joining the show to share his story of divorce, co-parenting his kids in two different locations, and the struggles with dating as a newly single father.
Listen in as Anthony explains when he started to notice that his marriage was not as strong as it once was and how his mental health was impacted during his divorce. You will learn what Anthony did to ensure his daughter never had negative feelings towards her mom, why you must show up for your children consistently, and his advice for those going through a divorce right now.
5:00 - 7:00 - Anthony’s background and how his upbringing impacted his life.
7:00 - 10:30 - When Anthony realized his marriage was starting to fall apart.
10:30 - 14:05 - How Anthony navigated his way through his divorce.
14:05 - 20:25 - How Anthony made sure that there was nothing bad said about his daughter's mother in front of her.
20:25 - 23:05 - How to cope with the grief of divorce.
23:20 - 28:00 - How Anthony handled co-parenting from two different locations.
28:00 - 34:30 - If Anthony has any regrets from his divorce.
34:30 - 41:00 - The importance of showing up for your children consistently. 
41:00 - 44:30 - The benefit of remembering that your life will go through seasons and things will pass. 
44:30 - 49:02 - Anthony’s advice for others going through divorce.
Takeaways:
The importance of not dragging out your divorce for the sake of your children. Why so many people follow the same patterns as their parents. How your upbringing can make a big impact on the way you deal with trauma. How Anthony handled going through a divorce during a pandemic. What Anthony did to help his mental health through his divorce. The importance of showing up consistently for your children. Quotes:
“Show up for your kid consistently.” - Anthony Ellsworth
“I made sure that I never gave [anyone] a reason to talk bad about my daughter's mom because I didn’t want my daughter to think badly about her.”- Anthony Ellsworth
“Nobody is perfect.” - Anthony Ellsworth
3 Interesting Clips:
10:30 - 11:15 - How Anthony’s upbringing impacted his adult life.
15:45 - 18:40 - How Anthony’s mental health suffered through his divorce and what he did to work through it.
28:00 - 30:00 - The importance of setting a great example for your children through a healthy, happy relationship with your co-parent.
Links:
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How much pain are you experiencing because you feel less than warm and secure in your own home? If you feel like your family life has turned into a battlefield or that being in a blended family is non-stop fighting, this episode is for you. Dr. Patty Ann Tublin joins the show today to share from her wealth of knowledge as a relationship, communication, and emotional intelligence expert.
Listen in as she shares ways for your family to break free from the cycle of screaming and yelling at each other. Her insight into helping your kids to get along better is incredibly valuable, and she provides tools to help you manage your family better. You will walk away with actionable and WORKING ways to make your home a peaceful place again.
0:56 – 7:53 - Who Patty is and her expertise in successful relationships.
7:54 – 13:45 – Where to go when you’re feeling disconnect and tension in your home life.
13:45 – 17:45 -  The difference between the romantic relationship and the family relationship working or not working.
17:55 – 29:29 – Setting boundaries and the security that comes with that.
29:30 – 37:24 – How to manage time and feeling like there’s just not enough.
37:25 – 43:15 – The importance of empathy and connection when parenting imperfectly.
43:16 – 49:35 – Patty’s book on entrepreneurship and how she navigated business and children.
49:36 – 101:32 – Finding the right way to do things and communicating well verbally and non-verbally.
Takeaways:
Go into a blended family situation with aligned (and realistic) expectations. The romantic relationship often becomes a casualty of a blended family not working. You need boundaries and alignment on rules and expectations. It’s important to communicate about things that bother you. Be clear on who you are, what you want, what your core values are, and how you live them out. Parent imperfectly with connection and empathy. Do what works for YOUR life and don’t get wrapped in what other people think is the “right way.” Quotes:
“The perfect storm comes whenever it feels like it.” – Dr. Patty Ann Tublin
“Pull yourself out emotionally, and your partner, and tell them you need to have a talk about expectations.” – Dr. Patty Ann Tublin
“The pace of the world is like a squirrel on crack cocaine. We have the responsibility to set our pace, and if we don’t, we’ve abdicated that to someone else.” – Dr. Patty Ann Tublin
3 Interesting Clips:
12:04 - 13:10 – Where to start when you see signs of trouble and how to go into a blended family.
18:35 – 19:01 – What to do when rules and expectations in different homes don't align.
22:34 – 23:00 – What to do when you “didn’t sign up for this.”
49:37 – 50:33 – How to do it the “right way.”
Links:
Dr. Patty Ann Tublin: Website | LinkedIn | Instagram | Twitter | Facebook
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Talking about sex with your children can feel awkward for many people. However, talking about sex, sexuality, and bodies with your child from a young age can help your child understand that sex and sexuality are healthy parts of life. So, where do you even begin this conversation? And what do you need to say? Here to help us dive into this topic further and answer all of your questions is Andrea Brand, life coach and passionate proponent of comprehensive sex education.
Listen in as Andrea explains the right time to bring sex up with your children, as well as what you should do if your child is a teenager and you haven’t had “the talk” yet. You will learn how to make this topic less uncomfortable, how to ensure your children are staying safe during sex, and what to do if you are raising a child with an ex and you have different views about this topic.
02:00 - 3:30 - What made Andrea a passionate proponent of comprehensive sex education.
3:30 - 5:00 - How the way we were brought up impacts our thoughts about sex.
5:26 - 9:47 - The right age to start talking about sex.
9:47 - 21:00 - Simple steps to take to make the conversation less awkward.
22:00 - 28:00 - What to do if you’re raising a child with an ex and you have different views.
28:00 - 37:00 - Ways to start this conversation with your kids.
37:00 - 47:45 - The risks of not having this conversation with your children.
 
Takeaways:
When you should start talking to your kids about sex. When it is too late to start talking about sex. How to bring the topic of sex up with your children. How to talk about sex with your children when you are co-parenting. What to do if you have different values from your co-parent. Quotes:
“Take a slow, deep breath and know that you’re not alone [in feeling awkward about conversations around sex] and know that you’ve go this.” - Andrea Brand 
“It’s never too late [to start talking about sex].” - Andrea Brand
“The more we walk about [sex], the less uncomfortable it’s going to get.” - Andrea Brand
3 Interesting Clips:
5:25 - 7:15 - When to bring the conversation of sex up with your children.
10:45 - 14:40 - How to make the conversation less uncomfortable.
32:00 - 35:00 - How to start the conversation with your child.
Links:
Andrea Brand: Website | LinkedIn | Instagram Stop Sweating & Start Talking by Andrea Brand Text us: 760-389-3722 Send us an anonymous letter Subscribe & Review on Apple Podcasts!
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No matter how great you are at handling behavioral problems with your child, there always seems to be more that you can learn. Today’s guest is Kimball Lewis, owner and CEO of EmpoweringParents.com. He dives into the reasons why kids act out and shares insight into how to find parenting solutions that address what’s going on beneath the surface.
Listen in as Kimball discusses the ways that parents can deal with difficult kids and offer problem-solving skills that allow for a better relationship. You'll learn the importance of having a unified front as parents and providing consistent consequences and enforcement. Kimball also shares incredible parenting insight and effective takeaways that can improve your parenting skills.
00:58 – 04:43 – Who Kimball is and all about the Transformation Workshop.
04:44 – 10:28 - The time when parents tend to reach out for help and why kids act out.
10:29 – 17:57 - Why you may need to adjust your parenting style for difficult kids.
17:58 – 28:12 - The importance of clear consequences and parents having a unified front.
28:13 – 44:15 - How to avoid the power struggle and quick tips for handling common parenting situations.
44:16 – 56:08 - Underlying self-esteem issues and how behavior is intertwined with that.
50:10 – 56:27 - The truth about our difficult kids and future leaders.
 
Takeaways:
You don’t have to attend every fight you’re invited to. Kids act out to solve their problems. The parent isn’t the problem—they are the solution. You and your spouse need a unified front. Explain yourself once and move on. Quotes:
"You don’t have to attend every fight you’re invited to." – James Lehman
"As a young person, you don’t know how to deal effectively with frustration." – Kimball Lewis
"The kids who are difficult are going to be difficult no matter what. You’re going to have to adjust your parenting style." – Kimball Lewis
3 Interesting Clips:
7:38 – 8:44 - Why kids act out.
11:39 – 12:11 – Why the parent is the solution.
22:04 – 22:43 – Navigating blended families: “The kids didn’t ask for this.”
Links:
Kimball Lewis: LinkedIn | Website James Lehman Explain Yourself Once and Move On I'm 18 - You Can’t Tell Me What To Do "I Hate You Mom I Wish You Were Dead" Text us: 760-389-3722 Send us an anonymous letter Subscribe & Review on Apple Podcasts!
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If you are separated from the other parent of your child, your experience with co-parenting could be anything from calm to very challenging. Oftentimes, with different houses come different rules, and these different parenting styles can make the already tricky time of co-parenting even harder. So, what do you do if you don’t agree with the way your ex parents? In this episode, we will be sharing our advice on what we believe is the best way to handle different parenting styles.
Listen in as we explain how to shift your thoughts and mindset around divorce and blended families to be more positive—because it doesn’t have to be a negative or bad thing. You will learn how to speak to your child about their other parent (even when you disagree with them), why it is not up to you to decide how your ex parents when you’re not there, and the benefit of always being clear with the rules you create for your kids.
01:40 - 4:30 - What to do when you hate the way your ex parents.
4:30 - 6:30 - What birdhouse parenting is.
6:30 - 9:00 - How to change your mindset around divorce and blended families.
9:00 - 12:00 - How to find common ground with your ex when it comes to parenting.
12:00 - 15:00 - The importance of never speaking negatively about your co-parent.
15:20 - 19:00 - How to discuss the different rules you may have with your child.
19:00 - 26:25 -The importance of good communication with your ex and your child.
 
Takeaways:
What to do when you hate the way your ex parents. The importance of recognizing the difference between dangerous situations and situations you simply disagree with. Why being divorced doesn’t have to be a negative thing. Why you can’t control how your co-parent parents. How to communicate calmly with your ex. Quotes:
“There is a difference between not liking what the other parent is doing and having your kids in dangerous situations.” - Mike
“Sometimes change is good and overcoming challenging things makes you stronger.” - Mike
“Life is always going to be throwing different challenges.” - Summer
3 Interesting Clips:
1:50- 2:30 - Why so many people struggle with this issue.
7:30 - 8:40 - How to shift your mindset around blending families.
11:00 - 11:50 - How to find common ground with a co-parent.
Links:
Text us: 760-389-3722 Send us an anonymous letter Subscribe & Review on Apple Podcasts!
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It’s been a year since we last released an episode, and we’re so excited to say that we’re back! The past year has brought many ups and downs, all of which we will be sharing with you in this episode. We will be explaining what we’ve been up to, a refresh on why we’ve created this podcast in the first place, and a sneak peek at what you can expect to hear in the coming weeks.

Listen in as we describe our exciting new family member and why we don’t share certain personal aspects of our lives online. You will learn why we’re so passionate about sharing our experience with divorce and blending families, why we never bring our children into our adult matters, and so much more.
00:50 - 4:30 - Why we went off the air for a year.
4:30 - 10:55 - Our exciting new family member.
11:47 - 14:25 - Why we don’t get as personal on this podcast.
15:00 - 21:00 - What made us start this podcast in the beginning.
21:00 - 25:30 - The importance of finding help and support if you’re feeling unsure about how to get through divorce.
25:30 - 31:00 - What we plan on talking about on this show in the future.
 
Takeaways:
Where we’ve been. The importance of keeping certain things private. The struggles that come along with blending a family. Why it is essential to be open to new ideas. Why you should never bring your children into divorce-related issues. Quotes:
“Having a dog is as much—if not more—work than having a child.” - Mike
“We’re not experts. We’re just people trying to figure it out.” - Mike
“We’re not going to talk poorly about people in the family.” - Summer
 
3 Interesting Clips:
12:45 - 13:30 - Why we don’t share everything about our lives on this podcast.
16:00 - 16:40 - Why we’re so passionate about this podcast and sharing our knowledge on this topic.
18:20 - 19:30 - The importance of keeping your divorce-related issues away from your children.
Links:
Text us: 760-389-3722 Send us an anonymous letter Subscribe & Review on Apple Podcasts!
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