Plan Simple with Mia Moran Mia Moran

“You can actually speak up for yourself with poise and grace and kindness.”
–Amy Green Smith
Can you be compassionate and assertive at the same time? I’m really excited to talk with Amy Green Smith about self-empowerment and how she stopped being a people pleaser.
Don’t think you are a people pleaser? We go beyond the idea of people pleasing being something a timid wallflower does. Any time we alter who we are in order to gain favor from another person or party at a cost to us is people pleasing. Sometimes we people please to stay safe. It’s important to see where people pleasing is keeping us safe and where it is stealing our joy.
We don’t always have to be disrupters. Sometimes we just want to be ourselves. The middle path can be messy, but it’s possible to stand up for ourselves without anger. We can communicate without yelling and screaming or biting our tongue all the time. 
We talk about: 
Taking up equal space with people with different ideasSetting and holding boundaries around challenging areas in relationshipsHow to live life according to what you want, not other’s demands Recognizing and feeling dichotomous feelings and not falling prey to guiltGoing back to your internal compass and checking your intentionQuestions to ask to find your truth
ABOUT AMY
Amy Green Smith is a certified and credentialed life coach and hypnotherapist, masterful speaker, and personal empowerment expert. Amy uses her roles as coach, writer, podcaster, and speaker to move individuals to a place of radical personal empowerment and self-worth. 
With acute focus on helping people “find their voice”, she is highly sought after for her uncommon style of irreverence, wisdom, and humor and has been a featured expert in Inspired Coach Magazine and on Fox 5 San Diego.
LINKS
Website: https://amygreensmith.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heyamygreensmith/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/heyamygreensmith/
DOABLE CHANGES
At the end of every episode, we share three doable changes, so you can take what you've heard and put it into action. Action is how change happens.
Often we feel like our actions have to be huge to match the bigness of our desires, but we have seen over and over and over again that the little things add up. By stacking up a series of Doable Changes, you will create that big change that you crave. Choose the one that really resonates with you this week and really make it part of your life. 
Here are Three Doable Changes from this conversation:
CHECK YOUR INNER COMPASS. You will get a lot of feedback from other people, and it’s not helpful. When you are feeling bad about how people react to something you say or do, return to your inner compass and check your intention.FIND YOUR TRUTH. Use this three prong question to find your truth in any situation. Ask: What are the facts of the situation? What am I making up? What else could be true? SET A BOUNDARY. Boundary setting is not easy. It takes time and energy, but it is an important step to living the life you want to live and giving up harmful people pleasing. Start by getting really clear about what you will and will not tolerate. Then communicate that firmly and with compassion.

Imagine you have a big puzzle to solve. It's so big that it might feel overwhelming to finish it all at once. So, instead of trying to put all the pieces together in one go, you decide to break it into smaller parts — so smart!
That's what a 90-day plan is like! It's like breaking the big puzzle (a year)  into smaller puzzles that you can solve one at a time. In this minisode, I dive into why this is such a win for women.
Here's why it's super cool:
Less Scary: Just like solving a smaller puzzle feels easier, focusing on smaller goals for 90 days makes big goals feel less scary.
Flexibility: 90 days provides enough time to make significant progress, yet it's short enough to adjust your plans based on changing circumstances or feedback.

Easier to Focus: When you know you have 90 days to finish something, you can focus better because you don't have to worry about what will happen far in the future. As some, we hold so much.  Achieving goals within a shorter time frame boosts motivation and confidence, encouraging you to continue working towards your long-term objectives.
Feels Like a Game: It's like playing a video game with levels. Each 90-day period is like a level. When you finish one level, you feel awesome and ready to tackle the next one.
Learning to Plan: You learn how to make plans and stick to them. This skill is super important because it helps you achieve your dreams, just like beating levels in a game gets you closer to winning.
Makes Big Goals Possible: Sometimes, big goals seem impossible. But when you break them into smaller pieces with a 90-day plan, you realize that every step gets you closer to your big dream.

Evaluation and Adaptation: At the end of each 90-day period, you can review your progress, evaluate what worked and what didn't, and make adjustments accordingly.

So, a 90-day plan is like your secret weapon for making big dreams come true, one small step at a time!

“By conciously choosing foods, you are not only fueling your body but also honoring its needs.” – Mia
Bringing more feminine into your day isn’t about doing more. It’s about how you do what you do. It’s about support in what you do. More feminine in your day brings more balance and ease.
When you are used to the masculine — to pushing through, to doing all the time, to a focus on efficiency and what you did not how you felt — things might feel hard. Some of the same things can feel easier, calmer, or more joyful when you bring in the feminine.
In the first episode about feminine productivity, I explained a new process for planning that takes into account intuition, how you feel, and visioning. In the last episode, I show you to weave the feminine into your business. Today, let’s look at how to weave it into your day-to-day.
If you are juggling a bajillion things and think this can’t work for you, I promise it can. I’ve used this process myself for years and taught it to hundreds of women who are doing the things they said were important to them and feeling good at the end of each day. I’ll teach you a new way to plan and love your day today in the free workshop Take Control of Your Day.
7 Simple ActionsThese simple actions can shift the energy or your mood, support you, and help you tap into your intuition. They can happen in a few minutes and some even while you are doing something else.
1. Start the day with gratitude. Gratitude is a way to center. It’s a tool we can use to lift our vibration before making a choice. It leads to different choices. Starting the day with gratitude is like setting the foundation for a beautiful house; it provides a sturdy base upon which to build the rest of your day.
2. Support your body. This is an act of love and the feminine leads with love. Choose what you will feed yourself and how you will take care of yourself. By consciously choosing foods, you are not only fueling your body but also honoring its needs. Choosing nutrient-rich foods that nourish your body from the inside out can have a profound impact on your energy levels, mood, and overall well-being. Similarly, how you take care of yourself physically—whether through regular exercise, adequate rest, or practicing mindfulness—reflects your commitment to prioritizing your health and vitality. When you support your body, you are sending a powerful message of love and appreciation to yourself and laying the groundwork for a great day.
3. Pull an Oracle card. Oracle cards are a powerful tool for tapping into intuition and gaining insight into various aspects of life. By pulling an Oracle card, you invite a moment of reflection and connection with your inner wisdom. These cards often carry symbolic imagery and messages that can provide guidance and inspiration for navigating your day.
4. Leave space in your calendar. In our fast-paced world, it's easy to fill our calendars with endless tasks and commitments, leaving little room for spontaneity or self-care. By intentionally leaving space in your calendar, you create opportunities for rest, creativity, and magical moments. Embracing this openness allows you to flow with the rhythms of life, rather than constantly pushing against them.
5. Ask for help. Doing everything alone is baked into the patriarchy, and somewhere along the line many of us came to understand this as we are doing it better if we can figure it out. This is just not true. The feminine likes a village. When something comes up that you can feel yourself tensing up, ask “who not how,” and see what pops in. Many of us tend to lean on one person for everything. A big part of what we will do in our...

“I check in with my intuition before I plan for anything.”
–Mia
When you think about the qualities that go into building a successful business, things  like strategic thinking, self-discipline, decisiveness, efficiency, focus might come to mind. When I asked Chat GPT to give me the top attributes of masculine energy, these were all on that list. 
When I asked Chat GPT about the top attributes of feminine energy, some of the words that stuck out to me that have been most important in growing my businesses are intuition, flexibility, reflection, desire and belief.
There’s a lot of masculine energy that comes into building a business, but today I want us to consider how we can bring the feminine energy into our businesses and lives. 
It’s not that masculine energy is bad, but many of our systems and structures are infused with a lot of negative masculine. Even if they contain positive masculine attributes, we need more balance with the feminine. We need both masculine, but many of us were taught, or see around us, all the masculine stuff, and do not value, or even learn, the feminine pieces. 
We will be officially launching the Feminine Productivity course soon that helps you bring more feminine energy into your business and day. 
For now I want to share more about implementing in a new way in your business. I’m going to use the example of how I weave feminine into building a course, but what I share will work for any goal — filling your private practice, writing a book, growing your social media, landing a new big client.
Listen to those kind, gentle intuitive nudges.If we can listen to our intuition, we have found our path to a result. The feminine is subtle, sometimes quiet. She is waiting for the right time, not because she is scared, but because she is wise and just knows. She grows to the rhythm of her seasons.
Three years ago, I dreamt about the name of the course, Feminine Productivity. I loved it. I knew that was the name the second it rolled off my tongue. I bought the url. The same knowing that delivered the name, kept telling me not now whenever I sat down to write. I did not always listen. I made a workshop with the name. It was our least attended ever. I forced myself to write, but no new words came.Then a few months ago, at a retreat, I started getting whispers of what to include. I matched the whispers with extra time to capture them, and more extra time to be quiet enough to hear.
A week or so ago, I was questioning what I was doing up so late writing. The behavior looked similar to a hustle and push mentality that has not resonated in a long time — but it did not feel that way. Instead, I was filled with excitement and purpose. I felt an internal urgency to communicate the concepts of Feminine Productivity right away. It reminded me of giving birth, and that was my intuition showing me that it was time. I was in the season of making. And I was up for it because I had just come out of a season of rest.
What does this look like in practice? 
For me it’s quiet mornings that are nurturing to me. I spend time quieting my mind and connecting to my intuition. I go between meditation, stretching, journaling, and I love pulling an Oracle card.
I have a waterproof pad in the shower, because I so often get intuitive hits there.
I don’t pack my days, because it’s harder to hear or see those intuitive nudges when I’m super busy all the time. I slow down on purpose. I take time between meetings and tasks when I can.
I eat food that literally keeps my channels open.
I check in with my intuition before I plan for anything. When I sit down to plan my week, I take time to breathe and get quiet. When I’m about to plan a big project, I often pull an Oracle card.
Wondering about how to fit intuition...

“In the feminine model of planning, we have to be willing to trust our hearts and guts and intuitions and future selves and make a plan to fulfill what they are dishing out.” –Mia
Many of the women that we work with don’t love the idea of being a planner.
They want freedom — and a plan feels like the opposite.
I get it.
Here are a few truths about me:
I’m a creative who went to art school because the structure of other school wasn’t workingI have been labeled dyslexic and ADHD. I am a manifesting generator in Human Design, which means I need to be able to change my mind and try lots of different things.I have had bouts of being utterly tortured by procrastination.
I didn’t want the structure of a plan, but I started listening to stories of very successful women, who worked 3 days making plenty of money, were great mothers, frequented yoga, traveled… all the things. And I realized that they made a choice and charted a course.
Planning as a Creative ProcessPlanning — even for people who don’t like to plan — shifts when we shift how we plan. We need to stop putting together a puzzle of all the things we are “supposed” to do when we plan.
When we start weaving a tapestry of what matters most, planning becomes a creative process.
When we get creative and focused on what matters, we’re more likely to keep showing up for planning. When planning this way becomes a practice, eventually our days are composed only of what really matters to us and our destiny.
My favorite definition of planning is this: Planning is just making choices in advance.
When I say that to FLOW members or our audience, women heave a big sigh of relief or give a huge AHA!
Women are often more willing to be a planner when they shift how they think about planning. 
Mixing Masculine and Feminine in the Planning ProcessIf you’ve pushed back against planning, you are probably thinking a lot about masculine models of planning.
First let me clarify, when I talk about masculine and feminine planning, I’m talking about energy, not gender.
The way we plan and make choices as a society is very masculine, and the negative side of that is that planning has largely been about how much we can do. This is why “busy” became a badge of honor, even though it leads to burnout, stress, sickness, and other issues.
That isn’t to say masculine energy in planning is all bad. The problem is the feminine is squeezed out completely.
We need a balance of masculine and feminine energy to make a good plan. Since we are so entrenched in a masculine model, I think most of us need to dive deeper into the feminine.
When we bring the feminine in, the planning process becomes that tapestry of the life we want.
Understand the FLOW Planning MethodI drew heavily on feminine energy in creating the FLOW Planning Method, a new way of planning (and yes, it works for non-planners). Let’s take a look.
Center
The first step is to center. We want to make choices from the inside out, so we want to be as centered and grounded as possible when it’s time to make those choices. When we are centered, we can make choices that truly honor our future self.
Vision
From Center we Vision. We create a picture and feel the result we want as if we’ve done it. We shift our identities in advance and make the change energetically before we make it physically.
Center and vision together can take as little as 2 minutes, though sometimes we give more time for bigger decisions or longer term plans.)
Decide
With our vision set, it’s time to Decide. When we are deciding how we will spend our time, we often default to what everyone else is doing and what we’ve done before.

“I want to approach my business in a way that feeds me as opposed to depletes me.”
–Jeannie Spiro
Now is the right time to grow and change … but you have to sell it. Today I’m talking with business and sales strategist Jeannie Spiro about her own path to entrepreneurship, how she sold her programs, and how ideas about what she should do almost derailed her.
Jeannie asks some really important questions: What does running by business from home look like now? What's important to me now? Who's important to me? How do I want to spend my time? We have plenty of people telling us what we need to do, but these questions are at the core of why we do what we do.
But we’re also in business to make money, and that means making sales. I know a lot of women who are uncomfortable with sales, but Jeannie shines at it. We dive into what she does and what gets in our way.
We talk about:
Doubts about whether it’s the right time for a next step and building faith in yourselfLetting go of things that aren’t workingThe difference between marketing and sales — and why getting in front of the most aligned people is so importantDropping into your heart before you sell. Setting up systems to support your sales Practicing selling because the more you get comfortable with making invitations, the easier it gets when you go even higher up
ABOUT JEANNIE
Jeannie Spiro is a business and sales strategist specializing in helping women entrepreneurs and conscious coaches with building an impact-driven, high-end coaching business.
Through her private coaching and mastermind programs, she's helped hundreds of clients turn their expertise into high-ticket programs and develop sales systems that allow them to consistently generate multiple six and seven figures in their business.
In the past 35 years, Jeannie has closed millions in sales by selling one-to-one, selling from the stage and selling without complicated sales funnels. Through her programs, she now teaches clients her unique sales framework that allows women to stop stressing about how and when to sell and fill their programs and be able to consistently and more predictably achieve their sales and revenue goals.
Jeannie's on a mission to help more women monetize their expertise and multiply their income and impact.
When she's not helping clients monetize their business, she can be found spending time with her family, traveling, or binging the latest series on Apple or Hulu.
LINKS
jeanniespiro.com The Ultimate Speaking Lead Generation System: https://jeanniespiro.com/guideInstagram: https://instagram.com/jeanniespiroFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/jeanniespirocoaching
DOABLE CHANGES
At the end of every episode, we share three doable changes, so you can take what you've heard and put it into action. Change comes from action. 
Doable changes are things that you can add into your life, one at a time to make micro shifts and really create a ripple effect that will create a big change over time. Choose one that really piques your interest and roll with it. 
Here are three Doable Changes from this conversation:
WHAT FEEDS YOU? What does it take to have a business that feeds you instead of depletes you? Try journaling on these questions: What does running by business from home look like? What's important...