The Christian Mindset Coach with Alicia Michelle Alicia Michelle

Is it possible to stop people pleasing when you have spent your entire life seeking approval from others? If you were raised in chaos and dysfunction, you probably spent your childhood years searching for connection and security in your life - and have now carried this pattern with you. Author Courtney Burg and I discuss helpful strategies for people pleasers, the impact of staying tethered to our family of origin, and how to build God-centered confidence. 
WHAT YOU’LL LEARN:
[03:13] Where Does The Pattern of People Pleasing Come From?
[08:44] Implementing Healthy Confrontation Instead of Gossip
[11:48] Are You Wrapped Up in The Narrative of What it Means to be Caring, Hardworking, and Loyal?
[15:40] We Aren’t Meant to Stay Unhealthily Tethered to Our Family of Origin
[19:43] “There's A Lot of Freedom When We Unhook From Being Each Other's Messiah”
[21:35] How Did Jesus Manage The Line of Pleasing God versus Not Pleasing Man?
[26:42] Ways We Can Start to Work Through People Pleasing 
[32:02] Alicia’s Reflections: Can We Implement God-Centered Confidence and Move Forward With Change in Our People Pleasing Patterns?


RESOURCES:
Stuck in the overwhelm and exhaustion of perfectionism, people pleasing, or trying to prove yourself worthy? This doesn’t have to be your reality! Sign up for the Free Workshop, Break Free From Feeling Never Enough, to find healing from a lifetime of worry, shame + striving.
Connect with author, speaker, and teacher Courtney J. Burg

Have you ever found yourself pushing past the point of exhaustion even though you are completely overwhelmed and tired? So many of us are experiencing burnout and mental exhaustion yet we feel as if something is wrong with us for needing rest or we are scared of slowing down. Today I am joined by Jess Connolly, author of “Tired of Being Tired”, to talk about the importance of giving things over to God, ways that we can implement rest into our lives, and self-care for women (which goes much deeper than quick fixes). 
WHAT YOU’LL LEARN:
[03:27] “Receive God's Realistic Rest for Your Soul-Deep Exhaustion”
[07:58] We Need to Be Renewed by God Before Realistic Rest Can Work
[11:51] Equating Our Spiritual Worth in How Much We Can Do - Pushing Past The Point of Exhaustion 
[19:59] Giving Things Over to God - Practicing for Heaven
[23:11] You Aren’t Broken If You Can’t Carry The Weight of The World or Handle The Pace of Our Culture
[27:01] It’s Scary to Slow Down and Rest - Rest Takes Courage and Bravery
[30:19] What Are Some Real Ways That We Can Make This a First Step of Change? 
[34:51] Alicia’s Reflections: Where in Our Lives Do We Need Rest in This Season?


RESOURCES:
Looking for a simple way to bring more peace into your day? Check out my incredible resource, Christian Meditations for Daily Calm, where you can refresh your mind + dwell in God's peace (in about 5 minutes!) when life is stressful. 
Grab Chapter One of Jess’s Book “Tired of Being Tired” for free!

Do you find yourself staying in your comfort zone because of anxious thoughts and fear of the future? I have seen so many women wanting to move toward what God has called them to do but have not learned how to move with fear. Join business coach and best-selling author Jennifer Allwood and I as we share about moving forward despite fearful thoughts, including how courage and confidence build as we work through fear (not vice versa).
WHAT YOU’LL LEARN:
[03:27] We Must Choose to Work Through Fear Instead of Run from Fear
[08:10] We Have Been Trained to Not Trust Ourselves 
[11:39] If We Pay Too Much Attention to Our Feelings, They Will Always Steer Us in The Wrong Direction
[15:27] “Confidence is a Crock of Crap”
[25:54] “You Cannot Ask God to Show You What He Wants You to Do If You've Been Ignoring What He's Been Whispering in Your Ear for Years”
[35:58] Alicia’s Reflections: Am I Letting Fear Get In The Way of What God Has Planned For Me?


RESOURCES:
Need support for navigating new beginnings, creating new routines, or chasing divine dreams? Join us in the Onward + Upward Collective: A Christ-centered community offering the accountability, support and encouragement (plus optional 1:1 coaching) that Christian women need to boldly pursue God's good plans. Go here to learn more and join us (doors close April 15)!
Grab Chapter One of Jennifer’s Book “Fear Is Not The Boss Of You” for free!

We often hear about the fear of failure but there are so many more types of fear such as the fear of success that play a role in holding us back from our dreams. Listen in as I share Bible stories about fear, why it is important to face fear rather than run from it, and a few personal stories around how I am navigating my fear of success. 
Need support in overcoming fear to fulfill the dreams God has put in your heart? If so, apply now for the Onward + Upward Collective - spots are limited!
WHAT YOU’LL LEARN:
[01:44] Where Does The Fear of Success Come From?
[09:16] “Lord, Will I Be Able to Handle This Success?”
[16:28] Differentiating Between Pachad Fear and Yirah Fear 
[21:05] We Need Others to Help Motivate Us and See Things We Cannot See to Help Us Fulfill Our Dreams


RESOURCES:
Need support for navigating new beginnings, creating new routines, or chasing divine dreams? Join us in the Onward + Upward Collective! Coaching is by application only and spots are limited (plus we start April 15) so sign up today!


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250: What Character Trait Would Make Your Current Life Season Easier?

Have you ever thought about how developing different character traits could make your current life transition easier? The traits we have ingrained in us are automatic responses, which can save us time and energy. Join me today as I talk about four different character traits with practical examples of how they can help us, why we need to be mindful of our thoughts, and how we can develop new character traits. 
Want to work on building different Christian character traits with 1:1 support? If so, apply now for the The Onward + Upward Collective- spots are limited!
WHAT YOU’LL LEARN:
[02:32] Let’s Navigate Lifestyle Change Well in the Onward + Upward Collective!
[05:15] Allow God to Transform the Way You Think
[07:05] Character Traits are a Repeated Set of Actions That Have Been Ingrained in Us
[10:05] Four Different Character Traits That Can Help You in a Life Transition
[13:45] How Can We Start to Develop New Character Traits?


RESOURCES:
Need support for navigating new beginnings, creating new routines, or chasing divine dreams? Join us in the Onward + Upward Collective! Coaching is by application only and spots are limited (plus we start April 15) so sign up today!


RELATED EPISODES:
247: Avoiding Burnout: Finding Emotional + Mental Rest Despite Life’s Everyday Chaos
248: Going through Life Changes (or Need to Make Some Changes?) You’re Invited to Accountability, Encouragement and Support in Group Coaching

Ever desire to dream big for God and have expectant faith… but wonder, “how does that really happen when life feels hopeless and I have no idea how to make these dreams a reality?” Today we’re talking about taking the first step toward a dream (even when we’re full of fear and need help finding hope). Listen in to find biblical encouragement and to learn the first steps toward believing God to bring big dreams to fruition.
P.S. We aren’t meant to make changes alone! if you want 1:1 help working through obstacles, and to find accountability, encouragement and community as you pursue God-sized dreams, apply now for the The Onward + Upward Group Coaching Program!
WHAT YOU’LL LEARN:
[05:07] We May Have Faith… But Do We Have Expectant Belief in God’s Unseen Plan? 
[08:06] How Do We Handle Doubt, Especially When We’ve Made Mistakes?
[11:50] Will You Emotionally Dwell in the Victories or the Challenges?
[13:24]  God Shows Us the Next Step After We’ve Taken the First One
[16:19] Let Me Help You Work Through the Obstacles and Make Your God-Sized Dream a Reality 


RESOURCES:
Need support for navigating new beginnings, creating new routines, or chasing divine dreams? Join us in “The Onward and Upward Group Coaching Program”! It is by application only and spots are limited so sign up today!


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