Are you feeling lost or lonely and looking for meaningful relationships in a community that understands and supports you? Do you feel there's so much more in store for you, but you aren't sure how to get there? It's never too late to create the life you were meant to live. Stop settling for less than what's possible. It's your time to shine! Each week we'll share stories, discuss how-to's and provide tips and resources to tap into your best self. Let's do this already!
17. Season Finale- Find Growth in the Journey
In this episode I reflect on the past year. Initially, when thinking of 2019, I focused too much on what I didn't accomplish instead of what I DID- Like creating a freaking podcast!
I got too caught up on the fact that I didn't get an episode out each week, instead of being proud of the fact that I created 17 beautiful episodes with great love and care, and all the work and progress that went into it. Maybe you need this reminder too? To not be so hard on yourself, and to look at the what, the who, and the special moments with a grateful heart.
I challenge you to look back on this past year and highlight ALL YOU DID... the big and small wins, the new people you met, and those who continue to show up and bless you. Although it's important to recognize the obstacles so you can learn from them, it's more important to notice the growth in the journey.
I hope you join me in doing that, not only as you look back, but as you plan ahead to the New Year!
ACTION ITMES To Consider:
1) Write down all the things you are grateful for this past year. How you will continue to bless yourself, and others?
2) As cheesy as it may seem, write yourself a love letter. Really. Do it. Write down all the things you love about yourself and put it in a place that's visible for you to read, and add to, in the New Year.
3) Give yourself a Word for the year. What's your word? How will you incorporate it into the year? For example, if it's "inspire" then do all the things, and focus on all the people and places, that inspire you.
"Heal the Body and the Mind Will Follow." This is a quote from an episode of Seal Team. My husband shared this with me after our talk on how I feel called to focus on my body this year. I've worked on mindset for some time now, and have neglected my body and can feel the impact of that. I feel called to switch gears and come full circle with mind, body and soul in the next several months and see where it takes me. Does this resonate with you too?
WHY the END of a SEASON?
This past year, I created a podcast and transitioned back to full time work in higher education. That, along with navigating parenting the teen years, and an opportunity to host my parents in St. Louis for the winter months, has made me realize I need to re-focus my efforts. Therefore, I am taking a break to be present with life, and family, at this time.
Don't worry, I plan to return (hopefully in spring) with new ideas, stories, old and new guests, and maybe a few surprises!
If you'd like to remain connected during my time away from the podcast, feel free to join me in my Facebook group, "Find Your Glee with Dinah G" or find me on Instagram.
THANK YOU for your continued love and support. Many blessings and much growth to you in 2020!
16. Fierce After 40: Six Tips for Your Younger Self
It’s so important to look at how far you’ve come and to celebrate the older wiser woman you are becoming.
These are the Top 6 Things that I Wish I Would Have Told My Younger Self:
LET IT WORK ITSELF OUT- Give it time- Be patient and trust that it will work out over time- There’s no need to rush it- No Need to overwhelm yourself with unrealistic timelines or expectations- Take a break from the chaos- get out in nature, have fun, try new things… WHEN I WAS YOUNGER I would want to try to fix things right away and sometimes it would make things work- now each situation is different and some may require quick action, but in most cases I’ve learned to step back, give it some time and love and let it sit for a while without dwelling on it (It takes discipline and practice to not dwell, but keep working on it- find your mantras to say during this time like- "I chose love and trust time will heal this…") DON’T TAKE IT PERSONAL- When someone lashes out at you- 9 times out of 10 it is because of something THEY are INTERNALLY dealing with that has NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU- so Remember that when you think about how you will respond and what you will do when this happens. WHEN I WAS YOUNGER I would assume it was my fault. I would take it personally, I would apologize even when I didn’t do anything wrong, I wouldn’t stick up for myself- NOW when someone lashes out or I find myself in the middle of conflict I say to myself I wonder what internal struggles this person is going through and empathize with what they may be dealing with internally- I give the situation and myself love and remind myself I am doing my best and to give myself some grace. IT’S OKAY IF NOT EVERYONE LIKES YOU- Oh boy if I had practiced this sooner I would have saved some heartache. No matter where you are and what you do YOUR PEOPLE WILL FIND YOU and YOU WILL FIND YOUR PEOPLE. Please say that to yourself a few times. And, if they aren’t your people then they, or you, will move on and it’s OKAY. WHEN I WAS YOUNGER I would have been crushed if I didn’t get a warm and fuzzy feeling from everyone. If I felt like someone didn’t like me or notice me. Now I am okay with it. I don’t have a lot of time these days to invest in a lot of friend relationships so when I do it’s got to feel right. When I get a vibe from someone that is special I make note and if I don’t I move on. DON’T JUST GO WITH THE FLOW BECAUSE YOU DON’T WANT TO ROCK THE BOAT- Have an opinion, make a decision, follow your heart your gut, your whatever, but don’t compromise your beliefs and what feels right so other’s aren’t uncomfortable. WHEN I WAS YOUNGER I would jeopardize my happiness for others. I would do things that didn’t bring me joy –don’t get me wrong sometimes we have to do that, but too often when I was younger I would not set boundaries and say yes to everything. This left me drained and unhappy. NOW- I know my limits and say no if it doesn’t serve me or is something I know I can’t realistically fit in. NEVER STOP WORKING ON LOVING YOURSELF- It all starts with YOU. YOU know yourself best. YOU are the one who ultimately is going to do the thing so start believing in YOU and when you are disappointed in you or wish you would have handled something different give yourself some grace and forgiveness. Talk to yourself as if you would your best friend. You wouldn’t treat them like crap when they are down and start yelling profanities at them. You would comfort them and remind them of all the things you love about them. Why is it so hard to do that for ourselves? WHEN I WAS YOUNGER I would beat myself up over every little thing. I recall thinking it was good to put yourself last and be humble and not gloat about yourself and I think that’s what perpetuated me not investing in me or saying anything flattering about myself even if in my head. NOW I practice being kind to myself. I prioritize taking care of M
15. Interview with Holistic Coach Becca Kunce: Love & Trust Your Whole Self- Body, Mind, and Soul!
As a Holistic Coach, Becca is passionate about helping people return to their authentic self-love, reconnect with themselves, and experience freedom in their bodies.
Becca knows firsthand the tenderness and shame that comes with feeling trapped in your body and also knows what’s waiting for you on the other side. There is so much here for you. A former math teacher and chronic self-shamer, Becca is an expert at identifying unloving patterns, facilitating safe space to question them, and guiding you to transform them into total liberation.
Are you ready to love your whole self?
Are you ready to be ready?
Then Tune in to Today's Episode...
BOOK REFERENCED IN THIS EPISODE:
"The Body is Not an Apology" by Sonya Renee Taylor
HOW TO FIND BECCA:
Facebook, Instagram & Gmail: @wholelovewithbecca
14. Seven Tips to Avoid the Comparison Trap
Do you suffer from compare and despair?! You know what I mean, like when you scroll through social media and suddenly start to feel like crap because your life is not as perfect as someone else’s. Why does it seem like everyone else is always on vacation and having the best time? Maybe all you did this summer was a stay-cation which involved mostly home improvements and running errands. Productive maybe, but nothing glamorous or social media worthy. When you constantly hear and see how perfect everyone’s life seems it’s hard not to compare to how your life looks and feels.
Even though we know no one’s life is perfect, and we all have struggles, it can be difficult to avoid the comparison trap. I can go from having a wonderful day to feeling pretty s****y about myself after a few minutes of scrolling. Don't get me wrong I’m genuinely happy for people when they are celebrating life’s happy moment’s- Lord knows we all need to celebrate the wins- besides it’s not fun to share the misfortunes of life, but naturally when others share their highlight reels I can’t help but think about what I DON'T have or what I'm NOT doing.
Matter of fact, a few days ago I was reading a post from a fellow podcaster I adore who celebrated her 1 year anniversary and mentioned how she had over 40,000 downloads and I immediately started to think how low my numbers were compared to hers. I’m on my 14thepisode and close to 900 downloads— which I was super proud of, but after reading how she has over 40,000 at her year mark, I instantly felt defeated. I started to question what I was doing and thinking maybe this isn’t for me. I haven’t even been doing this a year, and there is so much I love about it and what’s come from it, but because of the negative feelings that surfaced I actually thought of giving up. Thankfully it didn’t take me long to snap out of it and get back in my own lane, but still I didn’t like the negative self-talk and feelings that surfaced. I want to share some tips I use to re-direct my thoughts and get me back on track so you too can try them when you feel these emotions coming on.
PRACTICE GRATITUDE- Start running through a list of things you are grateful for- write them down if you must- and don’t overlook anything- list it all and keep going until you start to feel better. CHANGE YOUR MINDSET- Change your mindset to a feeling of abundance versus lack. When we linger in a state of wanting and not having, we can get lost in a state of lack that never seems to subside. This is an energetically draining and can pile on a load of self-doubt and low self-esteem and prevent us from reaching our goals. On the other hand, when we look at all we DO HAVE we see all the possibliities and the confidence to get there and the more positive vibes we’ll attract. Think of what you want to attract more of and start thinking and acting in that manner. MEDITATE- Practice the Art of Being in the Present Moment. Put your phone away. Find a comfortable seated position either on the floor or in a chair. Sit up with your back straight and chin down. Close your eyes. Get quiet. Notice your body. Recognize the sounds around you. Pay attention to your breath in and out. Count up to 5 inhales then 5 exhaies. Do this for at least five minutes or until you feel like you are relaxed and present and can move on with your day in a productive way. RECOGNIZE YOUR FEELINGS- Recognizing and Identifying your feelings helps you move past them- I’ll sometimes say “Dinah it’s time to choose better thoughts.” Or say a mantra something like “I am gratful and blessed” or “I choose love for myself and others.” PRACTICE LOVE AND COMPASSION- Show some love for the situation. Try to come from a place of love. How would you respond if you were coming from a good place? Then respond in that way. TAKE A BREAK FROM SOCIAL MEDIA- If it’s someth
13. Take the Half-Way-Through-the-Year Challenge with Me!
We are Half-way to 2020!
Maybe this half-way point in the year has you high-fiving yourself and singing your praises for all you’ve accomplished so far which is awesome! I applaud you. If you are like me, however, you may have had some set-backs, took some breaks to reflect, and aren’t sure where you are going to end up this year- and that’s okay. Life isn’t always a race and a 24/7 hustle.
Making note of this half-way point in the year is not meant to make you feel bad for not being as far as you hoped right now. It’s an opportunity for you to reflect and think about how you want to make the most of finishing the year out. And, it’s important to recognize all that you HAVE DONE. It's okay if you need to adjust your goals from what they were at the beginning of the year. Maybe the best thing for you right now is to think of the ONE THING you plan to accomplish by December.
What’s the ONE THING that you know you can commit to for the next 6 months? Or, maybe you break it down to 6 small things (for example cutting out sugar in July, commit to doing a 5K in August, incorporate a weekly meditation schedule in September, build a gratitude practice into your daily routine in October, etc.). Whatever you decide, plan to do it for the next 30 days, then re-access. Who’s with me? We can hold each other accountable and motivated. If you are interested join me in my “Find Your Glee with Dinah G” FB group. I’ll share motivational posts, videos, and tips to keeping us on track.
What got me thinking of doing a half-way-through-the-year challenge you might ask? Well, if I’m being honest with myself, the last month has been difficult for me. I’ve lacked motivation and fell back to some of my old habits of not taking care of myself physically which as result got me caught up in a loop of self-doubt and negative thoughts. I know what I need to do to feel better, but lately I feel uninspired. I need to break this pattern and get back on track and believe this challenge will help me do that.
I need to focus on eating better and moving my body more. For as much as I’ve worked on my mindset, I have neglected my body. I need a better balance of a healthy mind AND BODY. What I’ve noticed is no matter how strong I feel mentally, if I don’t feel good about my eating habits and how my body feels and looks I am sluggish, foggy and it brings me down mentally. I find when both my mind and body are in alignment I feel most confident and capable in achieving my goals.
Here’s what I plan to commit to this month. I encourage you to write down your own plan, but want to also share mine in case some of these resonate with you and/or give you some ideas.
I will move my body 3 times a week. It doesn’t have to be intense. A twenty-minute walk counts. For me I’m thinking I’ll walk and/or build muscle. The Fit Bod app is great for customized workouts. You can decide what areas of your body you want to work on and how many reps, and it includes video tutorials.
I will limit my sugar intake and not eat after 7pm.
I will drink 64 oz. of water a day.
I will take my vitamins daily.
These are things I know I can do. Make sure whatever it is you commit to it’s something you know you can achieve. It shouldn’t be too overwhelming or complicated. Maybe for you it’s ONE thing to cut or add (maybe cut soda for the month, or if it’s something related to mindset like adding a daily gratitude practice). I want to meet you wherever you are at and support you on your journey.
What I want you, and me, to take away is that it’s okay to fall behind, to not be as on-top of things as you hoped you’d be this time in the year. Instead of getting down on yourself ask yourself, what do I want to accomplish for the remainder of this year? Then take it day-by-day and do it!
If you are on-board with this here are some action items:
12. Interview with SheHaus Coach Annmarie Molina: How To Go After Your Dream Life Before You Think You're Ready!
Annmarie Molina is the Founder and Business Mindset Coach of SheHaus Coaching. Former corporate leader turned soul purpose warrior, she is dedicated to helping women everywhere go after their dreams and approach their life and career with more ease, confidence and joy.
In this episode we talk about how to show up as your higher self to confidently go after and live your best life.
All too often we let our fears and doubts control our actions or lack there of and as Annmarie shares, we forget how truly powerful we really are. So sometimes we just have to “act as if” to release those limiting beliefs and go for it.
Learn about the biggest struggle holding women back and how you can finally show up, take control and go after what will make you happier and more fulfilled, even if you think you’re not ready.
Moving forward to create the life you want:
Declare you are no longer willing to stay where you are.
Have unwavering faith in yourself and what’s possible for you.
Make time to think about what you want more of in your life.
Show up as the confident best version of yourself.
Take inspired action one step at a time.
I am blessed with talents that I love.
I am worthy of going after the life I dream about.
I am successful in all that I do.
I am deserving of an amazing life.
I believe in all that I am and all that I am becoming.
FREE Workbook Mentioned in this Episode: shehaus.com/free-workbook
Books Recommended in this Episode:
"The One Thing" by Gary W. Keller and Jy Papasan
"Light Warrior" by Kyle Gray
"The Yamas and the Niyamas" by Deborah Adele
Authentic and Insightful
Dinah has a beautiful candid way of talking about real issues facing many of us today and providing insightful guidance to help us through life. I enjoy her warm genuine style and always walk away with things I can immediately apply. Good stuff!
Feels like a friend!
Dinah provides open and honest discussions on topics that anyone can relate to - you can hear compassion in her voice, and it feels comforting to listen to her interviews, like you know her.
Helpful and Warm!
If you haven't listened to this podcast yet, put it on your list now :) Dinah is the real deal! She and her approach to helping others to find glee comes from such a generous place. Dinah, your ideas for how to integrate gratitude into everyday life have stuck with me and I appreciate your vulnerability as you shared why you began this show. It's inspiring!