12 min

Finding New Friends When You Are Childless The "So Now What?" Podcast

    • Self-Improvement

I am feeling so full, so grateful and so energized by the amazing students that I've been working with and all of the people that have been so receptive to my new coaching collective that I presented to you on Episode 47 last week. 
First, I just want to say thank you for your interest in becoming the best version of you. For so long. I lived my life believing that if I couldn't become a mom, I would always be at 80% max and that my life would be good, but it would never be great.  I've learned that that is just wrong. 
 
My ability to create a life that I love, even if I'm not a mom, is so real and so available. I show up here every week with a message for you to hear and start to believe that that is possible for you too.  You don't have to live your life at. 80% max, you don't always have to look around and think or believe that you are missing just a small piece of the puzzle, and if you just had that one piece, things would be great for you. It's not true.
I only know, because I spent many years believing that, and I know you do too.  There was no one out there talking about what life could look like feel like, and be like, if you weren't a mom. The stories that we heard were always the sob stories and the sad stories and the stories of broken women and women that never felt complete. I'm here to tell you that completion is available to you and you have everything you need right now within you, but maybe you just don't know how to find it within you.  That is why I show up here every week and do my best to bring to you the topics that come up often within my coaching practice and with my students.
Last week we talked about a topic a lot of people feel sadness around and a lot of people feel judgment for themselves. If they're feeling like they're outgrowing friendships, or if the friendships that they've had for their lifetime just don't fit in the same peg that they once did. You heard me talk about that in Episode 47 if you haven't listened to it, I advise you to go back, take a quick listen and know that it is okay. If friendships change in form, and the role that you play in someone's life or that someone has played in your life historically changes. And that is the beauty of us evolving as humans is that life is fluid.
 
And how boring would it be if we only had the same four friends for the rest of our life. So listen to episode 47 and then come back to episode 48, where we are gonna talk about  the things that I created as sort of a laundry list that has come up as I've been coaching my students on this very topic.
 
Yes. We know that we have friendships we might have outgrown. We might not feel the same that we once did when we are in the company of certain people. But how do we meet new people without being creepy and without feeling like we're on a dating app to meet other women that we solely wanna have friendships with, how do we find ways to engage ourselves in activities that will allow us to find people that align with the interest that we have at this point in our life.
 
 I went through and I created a list of ways to  expand your friendship circle
 
There are a lot of people that are not used to being initiators in their friendships and decide now that if you are one of those people who historically was not comfortable with walking into a crowd and introducing yourself or being the one to propose plans, decide now that you are just curious enough to try it a few times.
 
You can go back to not being an initiator and not being one to make plans after you just promise me that you'll give it a shot just a few times. When we decide that we can try to come out of our comfort zone and try new things, we just might be able to uncover some new qualities that we've acquired as we've grown through this process of being new people and creating a new life that we truly love, even though we couldn't become moms.
 I've always been a connector. If you've ever taken Strengthsfinder,

I am feeling so full, so grateful and so energized by the amazing students that I've been working with and all of the people that have been so receptive to my new coaching collective that I presented to you on Episode 47 last week. 
First, I just want to say thank you for your interest in becoming the best version of you. For so long. I lived my life believing that if I couldn't become a mom, I would always be at 80% max and that my life would be good, but it would never be great.  I've learned that that is just wrong. 
 
My ability to create a life that I love, even if I'm not a mom, is so real and so available. I show up here every week with a message for you to hear and start to believe that that is possible for you too.  You don't have to live your life at. 80% max, you don't always have to look around and think or believe that you are missing just a small piece of the puzzle, and if you just had that one piece, things would be great for you. It's not true.
I only know, because I spent many years believing that, and I know you do too.  There was no one out there talking about what life could look like feel like, and be like, if you weren't a mom. The stories that we heard were always the sob stories and the sad stories and the stories of broken women and women that never felt complete. I'm here to tell you that completion is available to you and you have everything you need right now within you, but maybe you just don't know how to find it within you.  That is why I show up here every week and do my best to bring to you the topics that come up often within my coaching practice and with my students.
Last week we talked about a topic a lot of people feel sadness around and a lot of people feel judgment for themselves. If they're feeling like they're outgrowing friendships, or if the friendships that they've had for their lifetime just don't fit in the same peg that they once did. You heard me talk about that in Episode 47 if you haven't listened to it, I advise you to go back, take a quick listen and know that it is okay. If friendships change in form, and the role that you play in someone's life or that someone has played in your life historically changes. And that is the beauty of us evolving as humans is that life is fluid.
 
And how boring would it be if we only had the same four friends for the rest of our life. So listen to episode 47 and then come back to episode 48, where we are gonna talk about  the things that I created as sort of a laundry list that has come up as I've been coaching my students on this very topic.
 
Yes. We know that we have friendships we might have outgrown. We might not feel the same that we once did when we are in the company of certain people. But how do we meet new people without being creepy and without feeling like we're on a dating app to meet other women that we solely wanna have friendships with, how do we find ways to engage ourselves in activities that will allow us to find people that align with the interest that we have at this point in our life.
 
 I went through and I created a list of ways to  expand your friendship circle
 
There are a lot of people that are not used to being initiators in their friendships and decide now that if you are one of those people who historically was not comfortable with walking into a crowd and introducing yourself or being the one to propose plans, decide now that you are just curious enough to try it a few times.
 
You can go back to not being an initiator and not being one to make plans after you just promise me that you'll give it a shot just a few times. When we decide that we can try to come out of our comfort zone and try new things, we just might be able to uncover some new qualities that we've acquired as we've grown through this process of being new people and creating a new life that we truly love, even though we couldn't become moms.
 I've always been a connector. If you've ever taken Strengthsfinder,

12 min