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Episode 31: Porn, Sex, Yeah, We Just Went There Fostering Voices Podcast
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- Kids & Family
This week's episode is not for little kids' ears!
But it is one for husbands, wives, moms, dads, and teenagers. And is definitely a discussion topic for you and your pre-teens.
It's a good reminder to also mention that this is not a topic solely for those in the foster/adoptive community. There are many children that come from hard places that have had egregious sins committed against them, but in the realm of pornography and masturbation - this is a topic that affects everyone. Even if you don't believe me.
One scary and true thing that was said in this episode is that your children may not be looking for porn - but porn is looking for them! This is a multi billion dollar industry that wants to find new addicts.
We have Robert Watson as our special guest this week. He is a pastor at Sun Valley Community Church, and he delivered an awesome sermon on this topic last year. You can find it here, but he shares all the main points on the podcast today.
This is not just a typical sermon. This is a science lesson and soul lesson wrapped in one.
Some bullet points on what we discussed:
- In the realm of sex and porn, people don't want to talk about this because the topic is taboo and filled with GUILT and SHAME. We want people to escape from that realm and walk in the light, where there is Freedom and Peace.
- Pornography and masturbation are addictions and appetites that need to be filled the more that they are practiced. When you go to the store on an empty stomach - you will make less healthy food choices in the long run, and you will sample anything and everything along the way. Similarly with sex, you may be longing for intimacy or relationship, but you fill yourself with garbage and actual ruin your ability to enjoy true intimacy and relationship by engaging in porn and self-pleasuring.
- Young women! Think about what you post online. Why are you always in a bikini? Why do you always need to show your boobs?? WHAT DO YOU WANT? Just some attention? For people to tell you that you are pretty? Hot? Think about WHAT you want (attention? relationship? intimacy?) and think about HOW you want to get it.
Brain chemistry and some weird terms (but great rapper names):
- There is a protein that your brain creates called DeltaFosB. "[ΔFosB is] almost like a molecular switch. ... Once it's flipped on, it stays on for a while and doesn't go away easily. This phenomenon is observed in response to chronic administration of virtually any drug of abuse. It is also observed after high levels of consumption of natural rewards (exercise, sucrose, high fat diet, sex)." Read the full article here.
- Crebb. "CREB is like the brakes on a runaway reward center; it slows the pleasure response. [22]With CREB onboard, porn that once excited a person stops having the same effect. [23] Scientists believe that CREB is partly why consumers have to keep increasing their porn intake to get aroused. [24] That numbed-out state is called “tolerance,” and it’s part of any kind of addiction." Read this full article here. What this means is people need to keep upping the ante on what they are watching and doing and how frequently they are doing those addictive things.
- This is not a podcast episode to tell men that they are terrible. Women are also addicted to porn, as well as romance novels! You can read this article about how this happened to a well known Romance Book author, Francine Rivers.
- This is why sin is progressive, when we decide to hide and keep it a secret from those we love, it just keeps getting worse. But there is help for everyone in all situations, once we choose to get help!
Now what?
- The Adam and Eve Effect: This is when you love the one you are with. You don't compare them to anyone else - because back in the day - there was no one to compare Eve to. She was Adam's one and only. And same with Eve.
- Robert mentioned this TedTalk by Gary Wilson, who talks about how men who have come out of
This week's episode is not for little kids' ears!
But it is one for husbands, wives, moms, dads, and teenagers. And is definitely a discussion topic for you and your pre-teens.
It's a good reminder to also mention that this is not a topic solely for those in the foster/adoptive community. There are many children that come from hard places that have had egregious sins committed against them, but in the realm of pornography and masturbation - this is a topic that affects everyone. Even if you don't believe me.
One scary and true thing that was said in this episode is that your children may not be looking for porn - but porn is looking for them! This is a multi billion dollar industry that wants to find new addicts.
We have Robert Watson as our special guest this week. He is a pastor at Sun Valley Community Church, and he delivered an awesome sermon on this topic last year. You can find it here, but he shares all the main points on the podcast today.
This is not just a typical sermon. This is a science lesson and soul lesson wrapped in one.
Some bullet points on what we discussed:
- In the realm of sex and porn, people don't want to talk about this because the topic is taboo and filled with GUILT and SHAME. We want people to escape from that realm and walk in the light, where there is Freedom and Peace.
- Pornography and masturbation are addictions and appetites that need to be filled the more that they are practiced. When you go to the store on an empty stomach - you will make less healthy food choices in the long run, and you will sample anything and everything along the way. Similarly with sex, you may be longing for intimacy or relationship, but you fill yourself with garbage and actual ruin your ability to enjoy true intimacy and relationship by engaging in porn and self-pleasuring.
- Young women! Think about what you post online. Why are you always in a bikini? Why do you always need to show your boobs?? WHAT DO YOU WANT? Just some attention? For people to tell you that you are pretty? Hot? Think about WHAT you want (attention? relationship? intimacy?) and think about HOW you want to get it.
Brain chemistry and some weird terms (but great rapper names):
- There is a protein that your brain creates called DeltaFosB. "[ΔFosB is] almost like a molecular switch. ... Once it's flipped on, it stays on for a while and doesn't go away easily. This phenomenon is observed in response to chronic administration of virtually any drug of abuse. It is also observed after high levels of consumption of natural rewards (exercise, sucrose, high fat diet, sex)." Read the full article here.
- Crebb. "CREB is like the brakes on a runaway reward center; it slows the pleasure response. [22]With CREB onboard, porn that once excited a person stops having the same effect. [23] Scientists believe that CREB is partly why consumers have to keep increasing their porn intake to get aroused. [24] That numbed-out state is called “tolerance,” and it’s part of any kind of addiction." Read this full article here. What this means is people need to keep upping the ante on what they are watching and doing and how frequently they are doing those addictive things.
- This is not a podcast episode to tell men that they are terrible. Women are also addicted to porn, as well as romance novels! You can read this article about how this happened to a well known Romance Book author, Francine Rivers.
- This is why sin is progressive, when we decide to hide and keep it a secret from those we love, it just keeps getting worse. But there is help for everyone in all situations, once we choose to get help!
Now what?
- The Adam and Eve Effect: This is when you love the one you are with. You don't compare them to anyone else - because back in the day - there was no one to compare Eve to. She was Adam's one and only. And same with Eve.
- Robert mentioned this TedTalk by Gary Wilson, who talks about how men who have come out of
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