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The goal of healing isn't just stopping the crisis. It's ultimately moving into genuine and meaningful connection with ourselves, each other, and the world around us. Join licensed therapist and author Geoff Steurer as he interviews experts and other guests about how to move out of the crisis of sexual betrayal and relationship betrayal trauma toward connection. The information in these interviews transcends religious and cultural lines, as we all seek the same healing power of connection.

From Crisis to Connection - with Geoff Steurer From Crisis to Connection

    • Health & Fitness
    • 4.9 • 103 Ratings

The goal of healing isn't just stopping the crisis. It's ultimately moving into genuine and meaningful connection with ourselves, each other, and the world around us. Join licensed therapist and author Geoff Steurer as he interviews experts and other guests about how to move out of the crisis of sexual betrayal and relationship betrayal trauma toward connection. The information in these interviews transcends religious and cultural lines, as we all seek the same healing power of connection.

    How to stay optimistic and motivated after a recovery setback - Geoff Steurer - Episode 120

    How to stay optimistic and motivated after a recovery setback - Geoff Steurer - Episode 120

    Some call them relapses. Others call them slips. Regardless of what you call it, setbacks in recovery are often a huge source of shame, disappointment, and emotional turmoil. They reopen old wounds, impact trust, and have the potential to generate a lot of hopelessness. The way you respond to your own setbacks in recovery can make all the difference in your progress. 

    In this episode, I respond to a few questions from a man who is working through his own recovery process and was feeling discouraged after a recent setback. Here are the questions:


    How do you find optimism and emotionally recovery quickly after a relapse?
    How do you deal with a sexual dream? They happen sometimes and, dang it, it always precedes a difficult day.
    How do you stay willing when you know your willingness is the only thing saving you from relapse? It gets tough to not worry when not worrying is the only thing saving you.
    How can I handle emotions of discontent or stress or loneliness when my normal schedule is interrupted by a trip or event? It definitely happens a lot, and I don't want it to be an Achilles heel for me. 

     

    Download Geoff’s FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse: https://www.geoffsteurer.com/3-steps-to-end-your-marriage-argument

     

    Connect with Geoff Steurer:

    www.instagram.com/geoffsteurer/

    www.facebook.com/GeoffSteurerMFT

    Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.

     

    About Geoff Steurer

    I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.

     

    • 31 min
    Setting boundaries with family during the Holidays - Geoff & Jody Steurer - Episode 119

    Setting boundaries with family during the Holidays - Geoff & Jody Steurer - Episode 119

    The Holidays are upon us and that means family and friends gathering. This can be something you dread or something you cherish. Either way, it's going to require healthy boundaries if you're going to stay sane! Join me and my wife, Jody, as we answer questions from our listeners on their most challenging holiday boundary questions.

    My wife, Jody, is the co-host of the podcast, Speak up Sister

    Podcast listeners can receive a 20% discount on my Trust Building Bootcamp by entering the coupon code: PODCAST20 at checkout. 

    https://www.geoffsteurer.com/trust-building-bootcamp 

     Download Geoff’s FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse: https://www.geoffsteurer.com/3-steps-to-end-your-marriage-argument

     

    Connect with Geoff Steurer:

    www.instagram.com/geoffsteurer/

    www.facebook.com/GeoffSteurerMFT

    Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.

     

     

     

     

     

    • 1 hr 16 min
    Building a shame-free marriage in recovery - Hayden and Savannah Paul - Episode 118

    Building a shame-free marriage in recovery - Hayden and Savannah Paul - Episode 118

    It's possible to build a healthy marriage when recovering from a pornography addiction, but several important things need to be in place. I interview Hayden and Savannah Paul, a couple who are committed to building a shame-free marriage as Hayden works through his addiction recovery. Hayden was transparent about his struggle with pornography early in their dating relationship and has taken charge of his own recovery. If you want to hear what it takes to build a shame-free marriage in recovery, listen to what this couple is doing.

     

    Podcast listeners can receive a 20% discount on my Trust Building Bootcamp by entering the coupon code: PODCAST20 at checkout. 

    https://www.geoffsteurer.com/trust-building-bootcamp 

     

    Download Geoff’s FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse: https://www.geoffsteurer.com/3-steps-to-end-your-marriage-argument

     

    Connect with Geoff Steurer:

    www.instagram.com/geoffsteurer/

    www.facebook.com/GeoffSteurerMFT

    Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.

     

     

    About Hayden and Savannah   

    Hayden and Savannah Paul were married on January 24, 2020. Since then they’ve been living in Sandy, Utah. Hayden and Savannah seek to change the conversation surrounding pornography with a focus on de-shaming the problem so true healing can occur. They host a weekly podcast titled “I Stand at The Door.” It’s geared toward helping parents, youth and church leaders understand and navigate the complicated issue surrounding porn. Hayden personally fought a 10-year battle against this struggle and after learning many lessons has now, for over a year, felt the peace and freedom that comes from the Atonement of Jesus Christ. Savannah is a native of Illinois and a returned missionary from the Las Vegas West mission. She finished her degree in nursing at BYU this past April and gave birth to their baby, Walker, a week later. She loves to sing, play the piano, and watercolor. Hayden grew up in Sandy and served his mission in Budapest, Hungary. He is an infantry rifleman in the United States Marine Corp and currently serves in a reserve capacity with 4th LAR Charlie Company. He loves being a dad and throws their baby around more than Savannah would like. Hayden also works for Operation Underground Railroad, an organization dedicated to the rescue and rehabilitation of children who are in the bonds of sex trafficking.

    https://www.istandatthedoor.com/ 

    • 53 min
    How burnout can make you stronger - Valerie Hamaker - Episode 117

    How burnout can make you stronger - Valerie Hamaker - Episode 117

    If you're feeling burned out, you're not alone! We're all feeling the effects of the worldwide pandemic, economic uncertainty, political divisions, and family challenges. It's a tough time and many people feel like they're reaching their limit. However, my guest on this episode, Valerie Hamaker, says that burnout is actually an invitation that puts us in contact with our true selves. She teaches that burnout is the perfect opportunity to dig deeper and do life in a better, more supportive way. Come listen as she breaks down how we can do this without feeling the need to do more. 

    Podcast listeners can receive a 20% discount on my Trust Building Bootcamp by entering the coupon code: PODCAST20 at checkout. 

    https://www.geoffsteurer.com/trust-building-bootcamp 

     

    Download Geoff’s FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse: https://www.geoffsteurer.com/3-steps-to-end-your-marriage-argument

     

    Connect with Geoff Steurer:

    www.instagram.com/geoffsteurer/

    www.facebook.com/GeoffSteurerMFT

    Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.

     

    Valerie Hamaker is an individual and couples therapist with special training in trauma recovery, sexual health, depth psychology, and issues of spiritual development.

    Valerie presents nationally on a variety of topics and most recently has turned her focus to the tackling of issues of burnout from a depth psychology lens.

    Valerie’s podcast Generation Exhausted is a weekly commentary on the recovery of burnout in marriage, gender roles, parenting, institutional religion, and body image and she has recently launched an online community in her website [www.exhaustedGen.com] where she supports people live in their burnout recovery journey.

    • 57 min
    How we build trust with others (part 2) - Hank Smith - Episode 116

    How we build trust with others (part 2) - Hank Smith - Episode 116

    This is part 2 of my interview with Hank Smith, speaker, author, and professor, who did his doctoral research on building trust in relationships. We dive into the research on what it takes to build trust in our close relationships, especially after trust has been damaged. Hank shares stories, examples, and some really helpful acronyms to help us remember key principles in building trust with others. Make sure to listen to part 1 (episode 115) as well!

    Podcast listeners can receive a 20% discount on my Trust Building Bootcamp by entering the coupon code: PODCAST20 at checkout. 

    https://www.geoffsteurer.com/trust-building-bootcamp 

     

    Download Geoff’s FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse: https://www.geoffsteurer.com/3-steps-to-end-your-marriage-argument

     

    Connect with Geoff Steurer:

    www.instagram.com/geoffsteurer/

    www.facebook.com/GeoffSteurerMFT

    Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.

     

    About Hank Smith

    Dr. Henry “Hank” Smith grew up the son of a golf professional in sunny St. George, Utah. After earning a Bachelor’s Degree from Dixie State University, Hank earned a Master’s Degree in Business Administration from Utah State University and a Ph.D. in Educational Leadership from Brigham Young University, where he is an Assistant Professor of Ancient Scripture.

    Hank enjoys speaking , writing, and podcasting, especially for members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.

    His weekly podcast followHIM with Hank Smith and John Bytheway is enjoyed by millions across the globe and shares the gospel of Jesus Christ.

    Hank has also authored many books, talks, and additionally speaks to tens of thousands of youth and adults each year.

    Hank loves the Utah Jazz, biking, and running. He and his wife Sara are the parents of five adorable children.



    Podcast: followHIM with Hank Smith and John Bytheway



    Websites: http://www.hanksmith.com, http://www.followHIM.co (NO M), http://www.hankspeaks.com



    Instagram: @hanrkrsmith, @followhimpodcast



    Facebook: hanksmithcds

    • 45 min
    How we build trust with others (part 1) - Hank Smith - Episode 115

    How we build trust with others (part 1) - Hank Smith - Episode 115

    My guest this week is Hank Smith, speaker, author, and professor, who did his doctoral research on building trust in relationships. We dive into the research on what it takes to build trust in our close relationships, especially after trust has been damaged. Hank shares stories, examples, and some really helpful acronyms to help us remember key principles in building trust with others. This is part one of a two-part interview. Stay tuned for the second part of this interview in the following episode. 

    Podcast listeners can receive a 20% discount on my Trust Building Bootcamp by entering the coupon code: PODCAST20 at checkout. 

    https://www.geoffsteurer.com/trust-building-bootcamp 

     

    Download Geoff’s FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse: https://www.geoffsteurer.com/3-steps-to-end-your-marriage-argument

     

    Connect with Geoff Steurer:

    www.instagram.com/geoffsteurer/

    www.facebook.com/GeoffSteurerMFT

    Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.

     

    About Hank Smith

    Dr. Henry “Hank” Smith grew up the son of a golf professional in sunny St. George, Utah. After earning a Bachelor’s Degree from Dixie State University, Hank earned a Master’s Degree in Business Administration from Utah State University and a Ph.D. in Educational Leadership from Brigham Young University, where he is an Assistant Professor of Ancient Scripture.

    Hank enjoys speaking , writing, and podcasting, especially for members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.

    His weekly podcast followHIM with Hank Smith and John Bytheway is enjoyed by millions across the globe and shares the gospel of Jesus Christ.

    Hank has also authored many books, talks, and additionally speaks to tens of thousands of youth and adults each year.

    Hank loves the Utah Jazz, biking, and running. He and his wife Sara are the parents of five adorable children.



    Podcast: followHIM with Hank Smith and John Bytheway



    Websites: http://www.hanksmith.com, http://www.followHIM.co (NO M), http://www.hankspeaks.com



    Instagram: @hanrkrsmith, @followhimpodcast



    Facebook: hanksmithcds

    • 46 min

Customer Reviews

4.9 out of 5
103 Ratings

103 Ratings

Sunshine & Rain ,

So inspirational

Love that Geoff tackles some really hard topics! He’s helped me navigate several relationships in my life and he is by far one of my favorite podcasts to listen to every week!

Justine Nicole Brent ,

Love!!!

Just listened to “How we build trust with others” and absolutely loved the 4 types of trust discussed. Can’t wait for the other half of it.

LizMLC ,

Relationship booster for all

Geoff, thanks for creating such a huge resource for couples and individuals seeking to have thriving and healthy relationships. You’ve been a joy to get to know! Keep up the good work!

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