Trauma Collisions in Relationships Gathering Gold

Today’s episode was inspired by a recent post that Sheryl shared on Instagram about trauma collisions in longterm relationships.
In this conversation, we explore what trauma collisions are (and are not), how they differ from arguments, and how we can become more mindful and skillful in responding to them. 
Sheryl underscores the role of self-awareness in uncovering the understory of a trauma collision, finding compassion for ourselves and our partners, and creating new, healthier patterns. 
We discuss demon dances, childhood wounds, and the core human longing for both separateness and intimacy.
References:
Sheryl’s IG post about trauma collisions
Love and Awakening, John Welwood
Essay “Intimate Relationship as Transformative Path” by John Welwood
A Little Book on the Human Shadow, Robert Bly
Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT)
Attachment theory
Hold Me Tight, Sue Johnson
Sue Johnson’s workbooks and video series
Rilke quote about those in marriage being "the guardian of the other's solitude.”