30 min
Got Goals for Your Marriage in the New Year? The Hope&Her Show
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- Relationships
It's New Year's Eve, and the girls are backing talking about resolutions for 2020. Typically towards the end of the year, we set up personal goals but rarely do we create goals and expectations with our spouses.
Audrey and Ashley start the show by reminding us why it's essential to have goals in the first place—goals protect us from chance, especially in marriage.
If you're setting resolutions for the new year, ask yourself, "What do I want out of 2020? What do I want my marriage to look like?" Once you have an idea and a vision, you and your partner can have a conversation and hold each other accountable.
Both Ashley and Audrey share that they are focusing on putting God in the center of their relationships and prioritizing their physical fitness. The ladies also briefly discuss the importance of date night and share some budget-friendly date night ideas like taking a walk, having a wine-night at home, or attending a free concert.
The first step in making relationship goals is including your partner in the creation of the goals. Goals should be specific and measurable. Remember to keep them simple, overwhelming yourself can lead to early burnout! In this process, you should also write down and include the "why" for your goals. When things get tough and you don't want to want to follow through with your goal, reminding yourself of why you committed in the first place can be helpful. Remember, you're starting a new habit, so this can take time.
Tip #1 - Become More Intimate: Intimacy happens outside the bedroom and what happens outside the bedroom, impacts what happens inside the bedroom. Intimacy can simply be good conversation, being your partner's cheerleader, or just giving your undivided attention and listening to listen instead of respond.
Tip #2- Talk for 20 Minutes: Spend the first 20 minutes after you get home talking and connecting. Enjoy some time together, ask about each other's day, and genuinely listen to what the other person has to say.
Tip #3- Learn Your Love Languages: The way you show love may be different than that of your partner. It is normal to have different love languages. Make sure you and your partner can recognize each other's love by learning their language and having conversations about it.
Tip #4- The Bead Method: Sex with vaginismus can be stressful and cause tension. Often men want sex to feel close, and women need to feel close to want sex. At times a man's desire can catch women off guard or at a time when she doesn't feel particularly sexy. The Bead Method can help. When one member of the relationship wants to be intimate, they place a bead in a jar. From this point, the couple has 24 hours to have sex. This window allows each person to prepare.
Later the ladies answer a question from an Instagram fan whose recent marriage struggles have impacted her desire to use her dilators.
In This Episode
Ashely and Audrey's Marriage Goals [1:30]
Cheap Date Night Ideas [6:30]
Planning Your Marriage Goals [9:10]
Tip #1 [13:50]
Tip #2 [16:55]
Tip #3 [18:10]
Tip #4 [20:25]
Vaginismus Question From Instagram [24:15]
Resources
Carolyn Evans - The Bead Method
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Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/hopeandher/support
It's New Year's Eve, and the girls are backing talking about resolutions for 2020. Typically towards the end of the year, we set up personal goals but rarely do we create goals and expectations with our spouses.
Audrey and Ashley start the show by reminding us why it's essential to have goals in the first place—goals protect us from chance, especially in marriage.
If you're setting resolutions for the new year, ask yourself, "What do I want out of 2020? What do I want my marriage to look like?" Once you have an idea and a vision, you and your partner can have a conversation and hold each other accountable.
Both Ashley and Audrey share that they are focusing on putting God in the center of their relationships and prioritizing their physical fitness. The ladies also briefly discuss the importance of date night and share some budget-friendly date night ideas like taking a walk, having a wine-night at home, or attending a free concert.
The first step in making relationship goals is including your partner in the creation of the goals. Goals should be specific and measurable. Remember to keep them simple, overwhelming yourself can lead to early burnout! In this process, you should also write down and include the "why" for your goals. When things get tough and you don't want to want to follow through with your goal, reminding yourself of why you committed in the first place can be helpful. Remember, you're starting a new habit, so this can take time.
Tip #1 - Become More Intimate: Intimacy happens outside the bedroom and what happens outside the bedroom, impacts what happens inside the bedroom. Intimacy can simply be good conversation, being your partner's cheerleader, or just giving your undivided attention and listening to listen instead of respond.
Tip #2- Talk for 20 Minutes: Spend the first 20 minutes after you get home talking and connecting. Enjoy some time together, ask about each other's day, and genuinely listen to what the other person has to say.
Tip #3- Learn Your Love Languages: The way you show love may be different than that of your partner. It is normal to have different love languages. Make sure you and your partner can recognize each other's love by learning their language and having conversations about it.
Tip #4- The Bead Method: Sex with vaginismus can be stressful and cause tension. Often men want sex to feel close, and women need to feel close to want sex. At times a man's desire can catch women off guard or at a time when she doesn't feel particularly sexy. The Bead Method can help. When one member of the relationship wants to be intimate, they place a bead in a jar. From this point, the couple has 24 hours to have sex. This window allows each person to prepare.
Later the ladies answer a question from an Instagram fan whose recent marriage struggles have impacted her desire to use her dilators.
In This Episode
Ashely and Audrey's Marriage Goals [1:30]
Cheap Date Night Ideas [6:30]
Planning Your Marriage Goals [9:10]
Tip #1 [13:50]
Tip #2 [16:55]
Tip #3 [18:10]
Tip #4 [20:25]
Vaginismus Question From Instagram [24:15]
Resources
Carolyn Evans - The Bead Method
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Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/hopeandher/support
30 min