1 hr 12 min
Grace & Melinda Pokela >> laughter, committing to yourself, being single, being married, and constant growth Heartwork
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- Relationships
Takeaways:
There is so much love and joy in laughter. You can hear it in this episode. Find people you can laugh with. It’s such an easy way to open your heart to more love. Don’t hold back on life just because you’re single. Don’t wait for that special person to arrive before you feel fulfilled. Learn to live for yourself first. Choose to love your own life. There’s something important that happens when you decide to fully commit to yourself.Too much emphasis on finding love might end up in unhappiness. Live your life for you now, not for what life could become in the future.Communicate until you’re blue in the face. Communicate, communicate, communicate! In a relationship a growth mindset and the perspective of continually working to learn your partner is helpful. Learn how to fight. Learn how each other processes. Learn your styles. Talk about fights after you’ve had them. You have to let someone love you back. Be aware if you’re the one putting all the energy into your connection. If you are, then it might be time to move on to greener pastures. A person who loves you will show up to love you in their own time without any effort or games on your part. When dating, don’t put all your energy into one person and bank on it becoming serious. Play the field! Know your worth and shop it out. Melinda is a great example of this. Until the time comes when you’re both ready to commit and show up for each other, don’t sink your whole heart into the connection.When dating someone, it often happens that people don’t realize they’re playing games. Grace is a great example of this. Their actions might not be about you at all. They might be entirely in their own world with their own hang ups. Try not to take it personal and move on when you’re not feeling valued. Stop fantasizing about whether or not the person you’re dating is the love of your life. There’s a high chance it will push the partner of your dreams away. Try to channel your obsessive tendencies into other things that serve you.Stop dating people that aren’t right for you! Know what works and what doesn’t from your experiences. When telltale signs of what doesn’t work for you appear, don’t indulge in that behavior or connection anymore. When dating online, try to move the online conversation to a phone call or in person meeting quickly. The connection will most likely be stronger and you won’t waste as much time or energy in a connection that might not work out. What do you want your relationship to exude? Welcomeness? Joy? Family? It’s worth it to identify and work towards because it most likely will happen. Grace and Melinda are such an excellent example of this.
Takeaways:
There is so much love and joy in laughter. You can hear it in this episode. Find people you can laugh with. It’s such an easy way to open your heart to more love. Don’t hold back on life just because you’re single. Don’t wait for that special person to arrive before you feel fulfilled. Learn to live for yourself first. Choose to love your own life. There’s something important that happens when you decide to fully commit to yourself.Too much emphasis on finding love might end up in unhappiness. Live your life for you now, not for what life could become in the future.Communicate until you’re blue in the face. Communicate, communicate, communicate! In a relationship a growth mindset and the perspective of continually working to learn your partner is helpful. Learn how to fight. Learn how each other processes. Learn your styles. Talk about fights after you’ve had them. You have to let someone love you back. Be aware if you’re the one putting all the energy into your connection. If you are, then it might be time to move on to greener pastures. A person who loves you will show up to love you in their own time without any effort or games on your part. When dating, don’t put all your energy into one person and bank on it becoming serious. Play the field! Know your worth and shop it out. Melinda is a great example of this. Until the time comes when you’re both ready to commit and show up for each other, don’t sink your whole heart into the connection.When dating someone, it often happens that people don’t realize they’re playing games. Grace is a great example of this. Their actions might not be about you at all. They might be entirely in their own world with their own hang ups. Try not to take it personal and move on when you’re not feeling valued. Stop fantasizing about whether or not the person you’re dating is the love of your life. There’s a high chance it will push the partner of your dreams away. Try to channel your obsessive tendencies into other things that serve you.Stop dating people that aren’t right for you! Know what works and what doesn’t from your experiences. When telltale signs of what doesn’t work for you appear, don’t indulge in that behavior or connection anymore. When dating online, try to move the online conversation to a phone call or in person meeting quickly. The connection will most likely be stronger and you won’t waste as much time or energy in a connection that might not work out. What do you want your relationship to exude? Welcomeness? Joy? Family? It’s worth it to identify and work towards because it most likely will happen. Grace and Melinda are such an excellent example of this.
1 hr 12 min