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A group chat brought to life by Venita Aspen and Sophie Gold.

Group Chat Realness Sophie Gold & Venita Aspen

    • Business
    • 4.9 • 68 Ratings

A group chat brought to life by Venita Aspen and Sophie Gold.

    Ep 18: Interviews, Job Hunting, Salary Negotiations in COVID and Beyond

    Ep 18: Interviews, Job Hunting, Salary Negotiations in COVID and Beyond

    Job hunting is a full-time job, which is why today we are bringing you some of our top tips to help you find the job you are looking for, ask for more money, and generally step into your amazing self. Many people lost their jobs last year, and with the increasingly competitive job market, it is crucial to know how to stand out. Sophie dives right in, talking about the power of LinkedIn and why your network is your net worth. Having transitioned from a prolific career in finance to the entertainment industry, Sophie has seen just how valuable connections are. Having never had a conventional 9-to-5, Venita has also had most of her opportunities come from the people she knows. We then talk about cover letters, where Venita gives her take on why they are almost more important than resumés. People want to work with people they know, like, and trust, so your cover letter is your chance to show who you are. Other topics we cover in this jam-packed conversation include virtual interviews, being aware of how your social media impacts your ability to land a job, and the power of following up. Just remember, you are going to get rejected, and that is ok. That says nothing about just how brilliant, unique, and valuable you are. Keep going and have faith; your dream job is just around the corner!  


    Key Points From This Episode: 
    LinkedIn is your best friend when job hunting: hear tips on making a profile detailed enough.The importance of networking and how this helped Sophie transition from finance to media.Venita’s professional history and the numerous jobs she has had without working a traditional 9 to 5.The rave reviews Venita got for her cover letters and what she looks for in potential hire’s cover letters.Why your lack of experience does not have to hold you back from getting the job you want.How Sophie reached out to people when she moved to the U.S.Don’t underestimate the connections you make; you never know where they could lead.Ask for help and find mentors with whom you can build mutually-beneficial relationships.Tips on negotiating your salary so you get paid what you are worth.Why you should invest in a ring light for your Zoom interviews.Ways to stay professional and how to stand out in virtual interviews.Be open, but understand that there are lines that should not be crossed.There are no limits to what you can attach to emails; send a video of yourself in a job application.If your social media compromises your ability to get a job, tidy it up, or hide it.Job interview day tips: be ready with notes, send a thank you and follow up email.Why you should never accept a job on the spot. Don't be afraid to ask why you did not get a job; it's a lesson for your next application.Final tips: take what works for you and apply it to your job hunt, and rejection is not the end!

    Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:
    Group Chat Realness Facebook Page
    Venita Aspen
    Venita Aspen on Twitter
    Venita Aspen on LinkedIn
    Venita Aspen on Instagram
    Sophie Gold
    Sophie Gold on Twitter
    Sophie Gold on LinkedIn
    Sophie Gold on Instagram
    Group Chat Realness on Instagram
    Kate Spade

    • 37 min
    Ep 17: Pregnancy, Adoption, and Families

    Ep 17: Pregnancy, Adoption, and Families

    We have some wonderful news: Sophie is pregnant with her first child! It is something she has wanted for as long as she can remember. To celebrate, we are talking about pregnancy, family, and adoption in today’s show. We hear about Sophie’s pregnancy so far and why – even though she shares her life on social media – she has decided to keep details like the baby's sex private. She offers her thoughts on sharing baby pictures online and why she might not do this. As a Black pregnant woman, there are legitimate concerns about your treatment in hospital, and while Sophie is aware of this, she has trust in her body and the medical system to make sure her baby’s journey earth-side is safe and gentle. We also touch on women who choose to remain childfree and why this choice does not make you less of a woman. As the conversation wraps up, Venita talks about being adopted, the impact this has had on her, and the deep gratitude she feels for her mother. Tune in today to hear this wonderful and uplifting conversation.


    Key Points From This Episode: 
    Details about Sophie’s pregnancy and why she is choosing to keep her baby’s sex a secret.Sophie’s heightened gratitude and appreciation for her body now that it is growing her baby.How Sophie told her partner that she was pregnant and his reaction.Sophie’s decision to fire her OBGYN and what she learned about listening to her body.Acknowledging that Black women are treated differently in hospitals than white women.The fears Sophie has around giving birth in a foreign country and during the pandemic.Men are generally left out of the conversation around pregnancy and are missing milestones because of the pandemic.Sophie's message for those who might be struggling to conceive.It is more than fine to not want to have children; your life will still be full!Kids should be born from love, not as a way to save your relationship.Venita’s experience of being adopted and how this shaped her life.Why Venita has chosen not to find her biological mother.There are so many different ways to be a parent and give love!Plus-sized pregnancy: Many women are shamed and made to feel unhealthy.How Sophie deals with unsolicited advice and unwarranted attention now that she’s pregnant.The story of how Sophie watched her cat giving birth and the feeling she took away.

    Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:
    Group Chat Realness Facebook Page
    Venita Aspen
    Venita Aspen on Twitter
    Venita Aspen on Instagram
    Sophie Gold
    Sophie Gold on Twitter
    Sophie Gold on Instagram
    Group Chat Realness on Instagram
    'Black Doctor Dies of Covid-19 After Complaining of Racist Treatment'
    AAMC
    Women Who Run with the Wolves
    William Blake
    Grace Atwood on Instagram
    Kim Kardashian West

    • 46 min
    Ep 16: New Years Resolutions, Vision Boards and Setting Intentions

    Ep 16: New Years Resolutions, Vision Boards and Setting Intentions

    As you may have seen all over social media, there are advertisements for losing weight, getting fit, setting goals, and learning new skills. Yes, it’s that time of the year, where we are bombarded with messaging around new year’s resolutions. In this episode, Sophie and Venita ask – is setting new year’s resolutions a healthy thing to do in January? Tuning in, you’ll hear their personal responses to that question, as well as their musings on better ways to set personal goals for yourself. As we already know, small, actionable goals are easier to fulfill than grand resolutions, so that’s a good place to start! You’ll also get some tips for setting intentions during a pandemic and holding hold yourself accountable in quarantine, and Sophie and Venita share personal stories of the things they have manifested by creating vision boards. Listen in and stay tuned for some of our hosts’ intentions for the year ahead! All this and more in today’s episode.


    Key Points From This Episode: 
    Why Venita believes that it isn’t healthy to set new year’s resolutions: namely, pressure.The difference between resolution and intention depends on who you’re doing it for.Small, actionable goals are easier to fulfill than grand annual resolutions.Creating goals when you can’t plan ahead – how to set intentions during a global pandemic.Some of the little things you can do every day that doesn’t rely on external validation.Hold yourself accountable by getting your friends involved or keeping a journal.Quarterly intentions are another way to break down new year’s resolutions.Get rid of what isn’t serving you or create a vision board that reflects your intention.Sophie and Venita share stories of what they have manifested through creating vision boards.Sophie shares two reasons why things take time to manifest or don’t manifest at all.Venita shares three intentions she has for 2021, starting with being more intentional.Hear some of Sophie’s intentions for 2021: read more, get outdoors more, and cook more.

    Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:
    Dr. John Demartini
    Tim Ferriss
    The Secret
    Group Chat Realness Facebook Page
    Venita Aspen
    Venita Aspen on Twitter
    Venita Aspen on Instagram
    Sophie Gold
    Sophie Gold on Twitter
    Sophie Gold on Instagram
    Group Chat Realness on Instagram

    • 29 min
    Ep 15: Shapewear, Photoshop, the Male Gaze, and Unhealthy Media Stereotypes

    Ep 15: Shapewear, Photoshop, the Male Gaze, and Unhealthy Media Stereotypes

    You’ve seen them: SPANX, SKIMS…so many different brands offering and promoting shapewear, promising to give you confidence and whatever else your heart desires. Today we understand that corsets are old-fashioned contraptions that made it impossible for women to breathe, yet we still force our bodies into shapewear that make us look sucked in and tight. Are we truly empowering women or are we busy perpetuating the idea that our bodies are there just to satisfy the male gaze? Now, we don’t have a problem with shapewear in principle. Perhaps you want to avoid underwear lines, or maybe you just like the way it makes you feel. Whatever your reason, we just want you to wear it for a practical reason and not because you think that your body should look any other way to be beautiful. It comes down to your motivation for choosing to wear it. Sophie and Venita talk about the problem of hiding your soft lady bits or amplifying others where you feel you lack ‘volume’, because, sooner or later, you are going to be naked. They get into the topic of retouching and photoshopping, the futile task of striving for a perfect body, and what the media can do to prove to all of us that they have finally changed their ways. 


    Key Points From This Episode: 
    Sophie responds to a question about why she likes to wear SPANX. Is shapewear perpetuating the narrative that women have to be sucked in and ‘tight’? How corsets were designed to shape a women’s body in service of the male gaze. Understanding that – once you are naked – your body will be seen for what it is. How your motivation for wearing shapewear determines whether it is good or bad for you. The problematic marketing and messaging that goes into certain ‘beauty’ enhancers. Thoughts on the theory that everything men and women do are driven by sex. Plastic surgery and the obsession with bodily perfection that does not exist. Examples of brands that portray a healthy perspective on the role of beauty enhancers. Why brands tailor their marketing toward the male gaze and the media still use photoshop. The difference between retouching and photoshopping an image. 

    Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:
    SPANX
    SKIMS 
    KAY Jewelers 
    Ulta Beauty
    Aerie 
    Venita Aspen
    Venita Aspen on Twitter
    Venita Aspen on Instagram
    Sophie Gold
    Sophie Gold on Twitter
    Sophie Gold on Instagram

    • 22 min
    Ep 14: External Voices and Why You Should Focus Within

    Ep 14: External Voices and Why You Should Focus Within

    Hello, Darlings! It’s the week of Thanksgiving and, after nine years in the US, Sophie still feels weird about celebrating this holiday. Speaking of holidays, isn’t this the time of year where we get bombarded with external voices, particularly the opinions of family members who we only see once a year? In light of preparing our listeners for the snarky remarks of Aunt Louise or the pep talk from the Uber driver, we discuss the possibility of focusing inward rather than subjecting yourself to the voices out there – because there are a kajillion. The best antidote to sacrificing your inner happiness to get the approval of others is not to seek it in the first place. When you know who you are and have taught yourself to trust your inner voice, other people’s thoughts and feelings no longer pull you from pillar to post. Just look at Meghan and Harry: The pair said no to all the royal roles and societal expectations to pursue the life that they wanted, thereby expressing their uniqueness and purpose in life. Sophie and Venita talk about giving yourself permission to date who you date, work where you work, and do with your money whatever you want. They will also help you wrap your head around not apologizing for your decisions and offering explanations when it is none of anybody’s business. Be sure to come along for the ride! 


    Key Points From This Episode: 
    Preparing yourself for the inevitable questions that will pop up around the dinner table. The challenge of dealing with people’s opinions about how you should be living your life. Venita talks about the unwelcome encounter she had with a check-in official at the airport. How to respond to inappropriate questions in the most empowering manner. The importance of permitting yourself to do whatever you want with your hard-earned money.The wonderful things that happen when you begin to focus on your own voice and happiness. Why you have to learn to make decisions without the input and advice from others. The scary reality that some people become who society prescribes for them to be. Harry and Meghan: An example of a couple who defied the rules to honor their happiness. Sophie talks about the three things that happen when you begin living life on your terms. How conforming to others’ expectations robs you of living out your purpose and uniqueness. Why “yes” and “no” are complete answers that require zero explanation or excuse!A list of resources for becoming a more critical thinker and learning to trust yourself. Keeping in mind the biases and limitations inherent in another person’s advice.

    Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:
    Dr. John Demartini 
    Runaway Bride
    The Tim Ferriss Show
    Bill Bryson
    Kurt Vonnegut 
    Eckhart Tolle
    Maya Angelou 
    Venita Aspen
    Venita Aspen on Twitter
    Venita Aspen on Instagram
    Sophie Gold
    Sophie Gold on Twitter
    Sophie Gold on Instagram

    • 29 min
    Ep 13: Dating, Breakups, and the Over-Sexualization of Black Women

    Ep 13: Dating, Breakups, and the Over-Sexualization of Black Women

    Sophie is dishing out hard-to-hear relationship advice today, so buckle up. To the modern listener, her ideas might be antiquated, but wait until she argues the hell out of the popular advice we are given in progressive women’s magazines. Basically, her point is this: If he treats you like a plaything, fails to call you, does not open the car door or pull out your chair, girl, he is not that into you (or at least not in the way that you had hoped). Women want to be courted and chased (gasp!) and men should be allowed to step up to the plate and fight for them. And while Sophie is aware that her inbox might soon be flooded with messages from people accusing her of anti-feminism, she comes at it from the perspective of compassion, personal experience, and what she has seen happen with her girlfriends over and over again. Whether we like it or not, when something or someone is too accessible, we lose interest, whether it be in work, life, or dating. A man needs to see just how different you are from the other girls who chat him up and get the check on the first date – you want to show him that you value yourself and will not settle for a booty-call every second Tuesday. In this episode, Sophie and Venita also get candid about the over-sexualization of Black, especially curvy, women, explaining how they are primarily portrayed as the wild, exotic seductresses rather than the girl-next-door who the guy ends up marrying. Listeners will hear their take on sharing the details of your relationship with your girlfriends, what you can do to fix a toxic relationship (spoiler alert, nothing!), and why you might want to call up a therapist when working through a break-up. 


    Key Points From This Episode: 
    How the problematic portrayal of Black women in the media impact men’s perceptions. Sophie shares some of the derogatory messages she has received on dating apps. How the deep-rooted issue of oversexualizing Black women started with the slave masters.  Thoughts on how the hip-hop and rap cultures might be perpetuating these narratives. What Sonic the Hedgehog reveals about society’s changing perceptions of Black women. The idea that curvy Black women are more readily subjected to over-sexualization. Venita talks about the insecurities she had because she doesn’t look like a ‘normal’ Black woman.  Suggestions for how you can deal with a man who reveals his intentions to simply use you. The importance of knowing your boundaries when it comes to dating and life in general. Why it is okay to cut someone off after the first time they do something that offends you. Sophie makes a case for why – despite the modern world – men should pay for the first date. Advice about initiating texts, first-date sex, and letting a man open doors and pull out chairs. Communication: the first clue about whether a guy is into you or weighing up his options. How, when women do everything for a man, it impacts the dynamic of the relationship.

    Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:
    Sonic the Hedgehog
    Sex and the City
    He’s Just Not That Into You 
    Maya Angelou 
    Venita Aspen
    Venita Aspen on Instagram
    Sophie Gold
    Sophie Gold on Instagram

    • 50 min

Customer Reviews

4.9 out of 5
68 Ratings

68 Ratings

Tyler_Wood ,

Venita & Sophie are GOLD!

This is a really stellar podcast. Each and every episode will leave you walking away feeling inspired to go out and change the world or perhaps think a little differently. Venita and Sophie keep the conversations current, relevant, and down to earth. Their eloquent but real personalities and the flow of topics will keep you immersed in the podcast to the very end and leave you wanting more.

Kristibrawner ,

Love!

My new favorite podcast. Love the hosts, love the conversation around real issues, love the whole thing!

D2GLOBALINC ,

Great hosts & candid convos

Love the candid conversations and the hosts are a great duo!

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