Handing the Shame Back Gloria Masters

Meet Juanita Phillips
Survivor. Advocate. Poet.
 She survived abuse from 8 perpetrators starting from the age of 3. She tried to get justice by going to court, not once but twice. The first time in the late 90’s and then again in 2017. Juanita felt that not much has changed, within the justice system, it is still not a good experience. What helped her was the unconditional love she got from pets, and telling someone with the same sort of history helped. You can contact her on Email: juanitmil@aol.co.uk or Phone: +44 0779 4674953 
A Healing Poem
There she is, our beautiful star, beaming light on me from ever so far.
Warming my body and soothing my mind. 
How lucky am I, this peace here to find.
The green field; it beckons, the dog leads the way. 
A robin is singing 🎶 let’s hear what the earth has to say 🎶.
My footsteps tread lightly, my soul here it’s free.
Then right here beside me, the mighty oak tree.
Calming my spirit and holding me tight.        
Whispering to me “it’ll all be alright”.
The seasons are with us, with you and with me.
Just as the world’s turning, all’s as it should be.
By Juanita Phillips
HELP
NZ    Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
          Help Auckland  0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA  RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK    NAPAK  https://napac.org.uk/  Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA   Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/  Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them. 
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport 
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids
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All too often as survivors we find ourselves justifying what happened, over explaining, compensating, rationalising and defending our position.
Stop doing that.
We don't owe anything to anyone, the abusers are the ones that should be doing this. Its important to realise our over explaining is just our wounded child needing validation, and we need to hold our heads up high and hold our power.

Go to our website (see below) for more information on our foundation 
If you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#handsign4kids
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback
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Survivors:
Sometimes we have an intention or a wish to have certain things experienced.
We put it out there and hope it will happen. BUT: Then we get really busy, scrambling to MAKE it happen. STOP!! Get out of your own way. 

Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/ 
#handingtheshameback #handsign4kids #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback
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Survivor, advocate, Traditional Chinese Medicine Practitioner 
'After decades, a NZ woman reveals her explosive escape from the SRA cult she was meant to lead'. This is Phillippa's story.
She was abused by her grandfather from when she was a baby and then subsequently over the years. He had trained her father to be a perpetrator as well, and her mother was complicit in the abuse, as was controlled by the cult her grandfather belonged to.
You can reach out to Phillippa at email: phillippa@clearqiacupuncture.com - (from October this will change to: phillippa@clearqiholistichealing.com)
www.clearqiacupuncture.com - (From October this will change to: www.clearqiholistichealing.com)HELP
NZ    Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
          Help Auckland  0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA  RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK    NAPAK  https://napac.org.uk/  Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA   Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/  Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them. 
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport 
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids
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Survivors 
Seeing your Abuser
This provides insight into responses triggered by seeing your abuser unexpectedly. Your behaviour may surprise you, especially if they were not charged, or just got away with what they did. Please, if you don't know what to do: do nothing!  That way you cant look back in time to come, and regret your actions. 

Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/ 
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback
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Meet Rehann Handford,
Dad. Survivor. and Mens Mental Health Advocate.
He was sexually Abused between 7 and 12 years of age by a male family friend around 5 years older than he was. Unsurprisingly, this impacted Reehan's entire life. 
He believes that it is ok to not be ok, and to allow yourself to work through that. 
When he finally shared the truth of his abuse with someone, he walked out of that office feeling so light, he almost felt like a feather.
You can reach out to Rehann on email: essentialoilbro@gmail.com or IG  @essential_oil_bro
HELP
NZ    Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
          Help Auckland  0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA  RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK    NAPAK  https://napac.org.uk/  Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA   Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/  Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them. 
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport 
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback
To learn more reach out to
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