1 hr 12 min
Handling Divorce with Melinda Previtera Unlearn Everything
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- Self-Improvement
“Instead of focusing on all the negativity surrounding divorce—which, let’s be honest, there is,” says Melinda Previtera of Previtera Law Firm, “I want to change people’s mindsets as to how divorce can be an opportunity for rebirth and growth through self-love.” Part of that self-love is maintaining a sense of independence in a marriage, otherwise people start to desire control and get resentful and keep score. Individuals and couples need to be clear with their goals and their purpose, both short-term and long term, and Melinda helps them do that. Above all, people have to be willing to change.
Despite the prevalence of divorce in our culture and the upcoming generations who are foregoing marriage altogether, there is still a great deal of stigma around the subject. People tend to project their own indecisions and insecurities onto divorced people, and value the endurance of a marriage over how much it actually serves those involved, including the children. Once divorced and navigating custody, there are important dos and don’ts that Melinda discusses here.
Join Melinda and Deevo discuss the antiquated beliefs around marriage, the many lies people tell themselves about what’s best for the kids, and why divorce is the most radical act of self-love.
Quotes
• “I want to introduce a new perspective to this transition to this lifestyle reset is how I describe it, because when the decision to end the marriage is made, whether it’s made jointly or by one party, there is an opportunity for growth, evolution, and a reset in your life.” (8:49-9:12 | Melinda)
• “At the end of the day, everybody going through this process is in pain, no matter how amicable, it’s a loss and there’s pain. So, I treat it with that kind of respect and dignity, rather than trying to win a divorce case.” (14:44-14:58 | Melinda)
• “When you hear ‘we’ve outgrown each other,’ what that means is one person wants to grow and evolve, and the other person doesn’t.” (23:40-23:48 | Melinda)
• “I felt like when I was getting judged post-divorce, or even while I was in the process, I felt like some of the questions I was getting asked were people’s way of using me as their litmus on how happy or unhappy they were (41:16-41:29 | Deevo)
• “What’s the most common reason you find people are getting a divorce in this day and age?”(53:15-53:19 | Deevo)
Links
Connect with Melinda Previtera:
Website | https://www.petrellilaw.com/
Instagram | @lawyeringforlove
Connect with A Little Impolite:
Deevo Instagram | @fusionphotog
Lisa Instagram | @lisastaffphoto
Business Instagram | @sproutconnectors
Here it is! Our gift to you. The free download for “All of the Tools You Need for a Healthy Relationship with Social Media”: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/62462253b3be600de2a2710c
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCn4C58U6MRnBaJP8NOknYHg
Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/mind-body-business/id1360851323
Podcast production and show notes provided by HiveCast.fm
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“Instead of focusing on all the negativity surrounding divorce—which, let’s be honest, there is,” says Melinda Previtera of Previtera Law Firm, “I want to change people’s mindsets as to how divorce can be an opportunity for rebirth and growth through self-love.” Part of that self-love is maintaining a sense of independence in a marriage, otherwise people start to desire control and get resentful and keep score. Individuals and couples need to be clear with their goals and their purpose, both short-term and long term, and Melinda helps them do that. Above all, people have to be willing to change.
Despite the prevalence of divorce in our culture and the upcoming generations who are foregoing marriage altogether, there is still a great deal of stigma around the subject. People tend to project their own indecisions and insecurities onto divorced people, and value the endurance of a marriage over how much it actually serves those involved, including the children. Once divorced and navigating custody, there are important dos and don’ts that Melinda discusses here.
Join Melinda and Deevo discuss the antiquated beliefs around marriage, the many lies people tell themselves about what’s best for the kids, and why divorce is the most radical act of self-love.
Quotes
• “I want to introduce a new perspective to this transition to this lifestyle reset is how I describe it, because when the decision to end the marriage is made, whether it’s made jointly or by one party, there is an opportunity for growth, evolution, and a reset in your life.” (8:49-9:12 | Melinda)
• “At the end of the day, everybody going through this process is in pain, no matter how amicable, it’s a loss and there’s pain. So, I treat it with that kind of respect and dignity, rather than trying to win a divorce case.” (14:44-14:58 | Melinda)
• “When you hear ‘we’ve outgrown each other,’ what that means is one person wants to grow and evolve, and the other person doesn’t.” (23:40-23:48 | Melinda)
• “I felt like when I was getting judged post-divorce, or even while I was in the process, I felt like some of the questions I was getting asked were people’s way of using me as their litmus on how happy or unhappy they were (41:16-41:29 | Deevo)
• “What’s the most common reason you find people are getting a divorce in this day and age?”(53:15-53:19 | Deevo)
Links
Connect with Melinda Previtera:
Website | https://www.petrellilaw.com/
Instagram | @lawyeringforlove
Connect with A Little Impolite:
Deevo Instagram | @fusionphotog
Lisa Instagram | @lisastaffphoto
Business Instagram | @sproutconnectors
Here it is! Our gift to you. The free download for “All of the Tools You Need for a Healthy Relationship with Social Media”: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/62462253b3be600de2a2710c
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCn4C58U6MRnBaJP8NOknYHg
Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/mind-body-business/id1360851323
Podcast production and show notes provided by HiveCast.fm
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Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/unlearneverything/support
1 hr 12 min