Christian Mama's and trauma recovery coaches walking you through the healing journey.
Integrating Christianity and Psychology and Intertwining Trauma Healing Modalities with Jesus, the true healer while still giving you practical tools, Strategies and Skills that support your healing, growth and connection to Jesus
Create a Safe Base
One of the most impactful things for me has been creating a Safe Base with Jesus. This is where I go to 'do the work,' to be refuelled by him, to surrender and forgive, to freak out and let all my big emotions out, and to have a safe place to do it all.
This tool is to create your own safe base for your own journey
Life After Healing - An Interview with Ashley Henriott
This POWERFUL episode is the perfect way to end season 2.
We sit with Ashley Henriott, A Christ-centered Confidence coach and content creator (among several other amazing things she does)
Ashley tells us a little bit of her story, her redemption and how Jesus saved her life.
We talk about the road from Healing to Heaven, that place where we live after we have done deep healing but still live in this messy world before Jesus comes. How we must have boundaries and tools to keep us moving forward in healthy ways.
The powerful part of the conversation lies in talking about our identity and where that comes from the importance of knowing Jesus and the truth to not get swallowed up by the worlds lies or even false gospels.
Grief: Grieving your Childhood
We all have things that happened in our childhood that have impacted us. But if we don’t grieve the stuff that hurt us, whether it was intentionally done or not, it will hold us back from growing. Sometimes we had parents who couldn’t meet our emotional needs, or who were emotionally dysregualted themselves that we had to learn how to cope around that, or things happened like bullying or lots of moves that Impacted our childhood. We need to have our own grieving process so that we can let go (not forget or act like it didn’t happen) and move on and able to live as the person we were created to be!
Grief: WITHOUT Loss
Today we talk about Grief without loss.
Much of the time when we think about grief we think about when someone dies, but there are so many loss's we experience that cause emotional pain and today we talk about this.
-loss of a job
-loss of a relationship
-loss of the hopes and dreams for our life (also in regard to the two above)
-loss of a marriage
-loss of our old life as mothers, or the idea of motherhood (mother we thought we would be or the kids we thought we would have)
-loss of our freedoms and all the pandemic has caused us to grieve
We end the episode on a high note: how we can move to acceptance and that can allow us to have a future, even if we still are sad about the past.
Grief: When you lose someone you love
An amazing interview with Amber Kuipers!
The next podcast series is: GRIEF
This episode is about Grief after loss.
We dive into
👉🏻 our culture's response to grief and how it can be harming those who are grieving, even from the church community
👉🏻what NOT to say to someone grieving
👉🏻what TO DO for someone grieving
👉🏻All the different roles we can play in grief depending on if we are grieving ourselves, supporting someone grieving or a mixture of both
👉🏻Ambers children’s book about grief ‘When Grey came to Stay’
👉🏻Her new sympathy card line and what’s coming up in the future for her in terms of grief boxes, new books etc
Connect with amber
Amber's Instagram: https://instagram.com/amberskuipers?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y=
Amber's Website: www.amberkuipers.com
Amber's Sympathy Cards: http://chasinghope.squarespace.com
Nervous System pt. 5 Fawn
Today we discuss the FAWN response. A great description I found "it is the maladaptive way of creating safety in connections with others by essentially mirroring the imagined expectations and desires of other people"
This is the hallmark of people-pleasing and codependency. We discuss how this looks as an adult who struggles with saying no, putting up boundaries and whose value is based on helping others or being needed.
We looked at how in relationships it shows up in abandoning our own needs for our partner's needs.
As parents it shows up as giving, giving and giving until we burn ourselves out
And most important, how it shows up as our kids who become the 'good kids' who never act out or challenge us and learn how to appease their parents in order to stay safe and connected. A big saying we talked about is 'people-pleasers began as parent-pleasers'
I really REALLY want to love this!
I have been listening to podcasts for 20+ years. This is an excellent topic that is not talked about enough. The sing-song quality of the host’s voice is off putting. The speech is very halting. There shouldn’t be so many pauses in a sentence. If the host would just speak normally - as if having a conversation - it would flow much better and would be easy to listen to. I listened to a few minutes of the first episode and the latest episode. I just can’t get past the halting nature of the host’s manner of speaking.
It’s so hard to hear “like” so much from BOTH of you. Really!?! That is speaking 101.