32 min
Hillary Rodriguez: Moving forward after a child's diagnosis The Motherhood Metamorphosis
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Hillary Rodriguez is a pilot wife, working mother of three, travel lover, serial over- volunteer-er, home baker, book lover, and disability advocate.
My conversation with Hillary Rodriguiz was close to my heart as we both have kids with extra needs. Whew! Even as I was listening to the episode again to do the edits, I got tears in my eyes.
We both showed up in a big way with our stories and emotions about the journey of parenting a child with special needs, hitting on key issues like grief, fear, and building empathy within ourselves, our kids, and the siblings of our kids with extra needs.
Overall, it was a beautiful and emotional conversation that I hope touches your heart and mothering experience, whether your kids have special needs or not.
Quotable Quotes:
Hillary: "I’ve been fortunate—I’ve never lost a child. The pain, I don’t think, can compare to that. But you do have a dream. You spend your whole pregnancy coming up with these dreams. “My daughter is going to be a doctor and she’s going to be an astronaut!” And she’s going to be these grandiose things! And then all of a sudden… “Can she drive?” I don’t know. We’ll see. We’ll have to just wait and see. Things get a little bit different and we have to get through that grief. It takes time."
Hillary: "“I always talk to people and when their children are newborns, they want to know what to do. My biggest piece of advice is just to appreciate them, who they are, and love them just right now because they grow so fast. But getting over that grief and coming to acceptance is a big thing. Being okay with what you’re family’s going to look like and the community you’re going to get and all these gorgeous things that come from it is big. But that initial period of denial and grief is a lot for people to overcome. But once you get past it…."
Brittany: "I remember talking to someone once who was going through a diagnosis, and saying “You have to love your child more than your grief over what you thought their future was going to to be.” And I say that as somebody who has loved their grief at times more than their child. I had to make a choice about whether or not I was going to grieve over their future or step into that love.”
Terms and references for this episode:
IEP: Individual Education Plan
"Welcome to Holland" by Emily Pearl Kingsley
You can find Hillary @Hycastillo85 on Instagram
Check out her article on Her View From Home here!
Support the Show.
Join the new FB group here!
Check out the new shop on Buy Me a Coffee and please consider becoming a $5 supporter of the show (I need 8 per month to cover the out of pocket expenses of producing the podcast)
I'm so glad you are here! Please share the podcast with a friend and don't forget to leave a review on Apple Podcasts!
Hillary Rodriguez is a pilot wife, working mother of three, travel lover, serial over- volunteer-er, home baker, book lover, and disability advocate.
My conversation with Hillary Rodriguiz was close to my heart as we both have kids with extra needs. Whew! Even as I was listening to the episode again to do the edits, I got tears in my eyes.
We both showed up in a big way with our stories and emotions about the journey of parenting a child with special needs, hitting on key issues like grief, fear, and building empathy within ourselves, our kids, and the siblings of our kids with extra needs.
Overall, it was a beautiful and emotional conversation that I hope touches your heart and mothering experience, whether your kids have special needs or not.
Quotable Quotes:
Hillary: "I’ve been fortunate—I’ve never lost a child. The pain, I don’t think, can compare to that. But you do have a dream. You spend your whole pregnancy coming up with these dreams. “My daughter is going to be a doctor and she’s going to be an astronaut!” And she’s going to be these grandiose things! And then all of a sudden… “Can she drive?” I don’t know. We’ll see. We’ll have to just wait and see. Things get a little bit different and we have to get through that grief. It takes time."
Hillary: "“I always talk to people and when their children are newborns, they want to know what to do. My biggest piece of advice is just to appreciate them, who they are, and love them just right now because they grow so fast. But getting over that grief and coming to acceptance is a big thing. Being okay with what you’re family’s going to look like and the community you’re going to get and all these gorgeous things that come from it is big. But that initial period of denial and grief is a lot for people to overcome. But once you get past it…."
Brittany: "I remember talking to someone once who was going through a diagnosis, and saying “You have to love your child more than your grief over what you thought their future was going to to be.” And I say that as somebody who has loved their grief at times more than their child. I had to make a choice about whether or not I was going to grieve over their future or step into that love.”
Terms and references for this episode:
IEP: Individual Education Plan
"Welcome to Holland" by Emily Pearl Kingsley
You can find Hillary @Hycastillo85 on Instagram
Check out her article on Her View From Home here!
Support the Show.
Join the new FB group here!
Check out the new shop on Buy Me a Coffee and please consider becoming a $5 supporter of the show (I need 8 per month to cover the out of pocket expenses of producing the podcast)
I'm so glad you are here! Please share the podcast with a friend and don't forget to leave a review on Apple Podcasts!
32 min