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Hopestream is the defacto resource for parents who have a teen or young adult child who's misusing drugs or alcohol, hosted by Brenda Zane. Brenda is a Mayo Clinic Certified health & wellness coach, Parent Coach, and mom of a son who nearly lost his life to addiction. Guests include experts in addiction, prevention, and treatment, family members impacted by their loved one's substance use, and wellness and self-care specialists. You'll also hear heartfelt messages from me, your host. It's a safe, nurturing respite from the day-to-day chaos and confusion you're living with. After the episodes join me and a tribe of fierce mommas who are all in this together at www.thestreamcommunity.com.

Hopestream for parenting kids through drug use and addiction Brenda Zane

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Hopestream is the defacto resource for parents who have a teen or young adult child who's misusing drugs or alcohol, hosted by Brenda Zane. Brenda is a Mayo Clinic Certified health & wellness coach, Parent Coach, and mom of a son who nearly lost his life to addiction. Guests include experts in addiction, prevention, and treatment, family members impacted by their loved one's substance use, and wellness and self-care specialists. You'll also hear heartfelt messages from me, your host. It's a safe, nurturing respite from the day-to-day chaos and confusion you're living with. After the episodes join me and a tribe of fierce mommas who are all in this together at www.thestreamcommunity.com.

    The 5 Stages of Why and How Your Child Decides to Change and What To Do at Each Stage, with Brenda Zane

    The 5 Stages of Why and How Your Child Decides to Change and What To Do at Each Stage, with Brenda Zane

    Host: Brenda Zane
    Show notes: www.brendazane.com/hopestream/66
    Free e-book: www.brendazane.com/hindsight
    The Stream, a community for moms: www.thestreamcommunity.com

    If you watch your child do harmful things and they don't see them as a problem, they waffle with ambivalence about what they're doing, start and stop behaviors over and over and also struggle with relapse, this is your episode.

    The Stages of Change model is one that's well known and used in the addiction treatment world but one I didn't learn about until late in my son's struggle, yet it would've helped me so much as I observed what looked like completely crazy behavior. We also rode the roller coaster of change and then relapse and then more change and then reverting to old habits and ways - it was confounding and devastating as a parent.

    This episode will walk you through what the stages are, how to tell if your child is in that stage, and what you can do as a parent to meet them where they are. It's practical and direct, and just the right length for a summer dog walk or errand trip.

    You can download a "Stages of Change" cheat sheet at www.brendazane.com/hopestream/66 and use it when you're lost and confused at your son or daughter's behavior.

    • 38 min
    What Are CRAFT and Harm Reduction and Can They Work With Young People Who Are Misusing Drugs or Alcohol? with Dee-Dee Stout

    What Are CRAFT and Harm Reduction and Can They Work With Young People Who Are Misusing Drugs or Alcohol? with Dee-Dee Stout

    Host: Brenda Zane
    Guest: Dee-Dee Stout, https://www.deedeestoutconsulting.com/
    Show notes: www.brendazane.com/hopestream/65
    Free e-book: www.brendazane.com/hindsight
    The Stream, a community for moms: www.thestreamcommunity.com

    Dee-Dee Stout is a force to be reckoned with in the world of substance use treatment and specifically in the area of harm reduction. She’s in long-term recovery herself and is an author, coach, speaker, and professor.

    In this episode, Dee-Dee shares much knowledge and wisdom from her work with families and organizations related to CRAFT, motivational interviewing and harm reduction. It’s a must-listen for parents who aren’t finding success with traditional treatment programs or who are just looking for ways to improve communication in their home.

    We covered a lot of ground including:
    2:29 background on Dee-Dee, her work and her book
    11:00 Dee-Dee’s family trauma, challenges with existing therapeutic options
    15:27 Dee-Dee explains CRAFT and harm reduction in Portugal
    20:08 co-addiction/co-dependent, family systems, and an STI analogy
    23:11 stages of change, getting un-stuck, diet Coke, the “f-its” and the trump card parents have to be careful with
    30:53 how motivational interviewing and CRAFT are related
    36:07 we do a role-play of a worried mom and kid using street Xanax (Xanax + fentanyl)
    41:50 CRAFT in the real world, harm reduction - what it is, Dee-Dee’s thoughts about teens and lifelong abstinence
    48:08 abstinence, relapse, and the disease theory, harm reduction in a non-substance use scenario
    52:01 asking kids why they’re using substances, partnering with kids as a method of harm reduction, safe vs safer
    1:00 normalizing difficult conversations with our kids, fentanyl = the perfect door opener to talk with your kids about harm reduction and being safer
    1:08 what kids are most afraid of and how to eliminate it from the conversations you have, the role of residential treatment, acknowledging the time and energy it takes to parent through this
    1:11 Dee-Dee’s billboard choice and the role COVID has played this year with families who have a child struggling

    • 1 hr 14 min
    When Life Feels Unfair: Staying Away From Victim Mentality When Your Child is Misusing Drugs or Alcohol, with Brenda Zane

    When Life Feels Unfair: Staying Away From Victim Mentality When Your Child is Misusing Drugs or Alcohol, with Brenda Zane

    Host: Brenda Zane
    Show notes: www.brendazane.com/hopestream/64
    Free e-book: www.brendazane.com/hindsight
    The Stream, a community for moms: www.thestreamcommunity.com 

    There's no doubt that life can feel very unfair when your days and nights become consumed with your child's substance use issues, whether they're just experimenting or in active addiction. We wonder what it would be like to not have a large portion of our hearts and heads filled with worry, doubt, concern and resentment. 

    We ask why this is happening to us, why we're the ones who have this unrelenting burden and weight to carry around. Why me?

    This is a tough topic because no one wants to sound petty and we try our best to keep our spirits up, but the reality is life can feel very unfair and it's easy to fall into a victim mentality when your child has serious, ongoing issues with mental health and/or substance use. 

    This short, personal episode may help you reframe these feelings, while not discounting them or making you feel guilty for having them.  You'll discover ways to honor the difficulties in your life while also keeping them in their place and finding joy and peace through the chaos.

    • 18 min
    Your Child Isn’t The Patient: The Parent's Role When A Teen Or Young Adult Is Misusing Drugs Or Alcohol, With Rebekah Tayebi

    Your Child Isn’t The Patient: The Parent's Role When A Teen Or Young Adult Is Misusing Drugs Or Alcohol, With Rebekah Tayebi

    Guest: Rebekah Tayebi, Satya Family Coaching
    Show notes: www.brendazane.com/hopestream/63
    Free e-book: www.brendazane.com/hindsight
    The Stream, a community for moms: www.thestreamcommunity.com 

    Rebekah Tayebi has been working with families in a variety of therapeutic settings for 18 years and has valuable insights for parents when they have a child who needs help with mental health issues or substance use. An important one is that your child isn't and shouldn't be identified as the "patient" or client.

    This episode provides you with considerations for 
    when it makes sense to seek outside help, 
    what parenting leadership really is and what it takes to have it,  
    discerning between mental health problems and typical teen behavior, 
    triggers parents might face, 
    why we tend to want to have someone "fix" our child, 
    the role of shame and blame as we work to help our kids, 
    my personal tangent/rant about ADHD and ADD diagnoses
    how empathy, honesty and neutrality are important parenting skills

    and lots more. It's a candid, insightful conversation that will give you such a great perspective on how you as a parent have incredible influence, and how your way of being is incredibly important for your child's healing.

    • 55 min
    Parents Traumatized By Their Child's Substance Use; Restoring Your Health Through Trauma Release Exercise with Ericka Thomas

    Parents Traumatized By Their Child's Substance Use; Restoring Your Health Through Trauma Release Exercise with Ericka Thomas

    Guest: Ericka Thomas, Elemental Kinetics - www.elementalkinetics.com
    Show notes: www.brendazane.com/hopestream/62
    Free e-book: www.brendazane.com/hindsight
    The Stream, a community for moms: www.thestreamcommunity.com 

    You may not realize how much trauma your body is holding onto from the stress, anxiety, and fear you experience if your son or daughter is misusing substances or having mental health challenges. Telltale signals of too much stress and trauma include depression, anxiety, gut health challenges, appetite change, and poor sleep.

    This episode takes a deep dive into what's happening in your body when you endure months, years, or even decades of trauma when your child is at risk and suffering serious health challenges. My guest, Ericka Thomas introduces us to trauma release exercise, or TRE, which is a practice you can add to your day-to-day routine to release the negative impacts of trauma.

    This is a fascinating topic that's so relevant to parents and can also be helpful to people who are working at getting healthy and creating a substance-free life.

    • 1 hr 2 min
    Insider Perspective, Insights and Harsh Realities Parents Need to Hear From a Therapeutic Educational Consultant with Jennifer Taylor

    Insider Perspective, Insights and Harsh Realities Parents Need to Hear From a Therapeutic Educational Consultant with Jennifer Taylor

    Guest: Jennifer Taylor, JET ED Consulting - Therapeutic Educational Consultant
    Show notes: www.brendazane.com/hopestream/61
    Free e-book: www.brendazane.com/hindsight
    The Stream, a community for moms: www.thestreamcommunity.com 

    Parents have so many questions when their teen or young adult kids are starting to veer off the path of normal, healthy growth and development. They may suspect substance use, emotional issues, trauma, or may have no idea why their child is struggling. It's confusing, and when you're so closely intertwined emotionally and physically with your son or daughter, it's hard to be objective and know what the right resources might be for them.

    Therapeutic educational consultants are professionals whose job is to take input from families, specialists, doctors, and therapists to assess and develop a plan for kids who need help getting through rough times - or times of crisis. 

    In this direct, heart-to-heart discussion with Jennifer Taylor, who is a therapeutic educational consultant in the Bay Area, I ask the questions parents often have and get answers that can sometimes be difficult to hear. 

    Jennifer works with families all over the country to navigate the right plan and placements that can help their children (teens and young adults) with everything from emotional and behavioral concerns to substance use. You may not like everything you hear, but it's critically important information as you work to help your child. 

    • 1 hr 14 min

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