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On this episode of How to Be Fine, Kristen and Jolenta talk about a looming feminist movement called “The Great Divorce”. Plus, they offer up advice on how to manage a shifting friendship dynamic, and how to avoid keeping track of family gift ideas.



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Sources:

The great divorce - https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZT8joNFfe/

Decenter men summer - https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZT8jEv7gv/

Mel Hamlett decentering men - https://www.tiktok.com/@melhamlett/video/7272349102459866401?_r=1&_t=8fpYVdiBQUt

Shar Henley on king baby - tiktok.com/@sharhenley_/video/7236168121772526894?_t=8fpVerh8qXG&_r=1



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On this episode of How to Be Fine, Kristen and Jolenta share surprising facts about S.A.D. (Seasonal Affective Disorder). Plus, they offer up advice on how to make less noise as an upstairs neighbor, and how to cope with a new work schedule.



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On this mini episode of How to Be Fine, Kristen and Jolenta share listener feedback on Not Washing and Dopamenus. Plus, Kristen creates her own dopamenu, and listeners share some additional tips for a letter writer who regrets giving her children culturally insensitive names.



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On this episode of How to Be Fine, Kristen and Jolenta talk about how to create a dopamenu, and when it may be useful. Plus, they offer up advice on dealing with a life-changing medical diagnosis, and maximizing limited free time.



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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-6WCkTwW6xg

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On this episode of How to Be Fine, Kristen and Jolenta talk about showering, and how much of it is actually necessary. Plus, they offer up advice to a parent who regrets giving their children culturally insensitive names, and a letter writer who is getting ready for a fresh start on life.



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On this mini episode of How to Be Fine, Kristen and Jolenta share listener feedback on Marathons and Brain Tapping. Plus, listeners share some additional tips for a letter writer who recently went through a breakup, and another who is concerned about not having shared interests with her partner.



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