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How To Break The Retroactive Jealousy Cycle: Hear This The Zachary Stockill Podcast
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In today’s video, I share my view on how to break the deadly retroactive jealousy cycle.
Read or watch below to learn how to break the retroactive jealousy cycle.
Zachary Stockill: What do retroactive jealousy sufferers and drug addicts have in common? The answer might surprise you, and that’s exactly what I will go into in today’s video.
For the people here for the first time, the term “retroactive jealousy” refers to unwanted intrusive thoughts, often obsessive curiosity, and what I call “mental movies” about a partner’s past relationships and/or sexual history.
It’s pure hell, but if you found this article and are reading it, you probably know exactly what I’m talking about.
As I mentioned a moment ago, since 2013, I’ve been working full-time on this issue of retroactive jealousy; as part of that work, I host a private Facebook group.
It’s a secret Facebook group for students taking my premium online course “Get Over Your Partner’s Past Fast,” as of today, we’re over 500 members strong.
There are always fascinating discussions, with plenty of individuals who’ve conquered retroactive jealousy choosing to stay, provide support, and share their insights and advice.
One of the best things I’ve ever done in my professional life is to create this secret Facebook group.
Anyway, I mention this because not long ago, a student in this Facebook group left a brilliant comment that I just had to share with you.
So, the quote is from this student in my group:
“One thing I’d like to add is that I think it’s something I’ve experienced is that retroactive jealousy can be like an addiction. You get the adrenaline rush, reassurance, and the feeling of calm.
It’s not a pleasant experience, and perhaps something that the sufferer isn’t doing consciously, but it’s important to replace that cycle with something. Otherwise, it’s a possibility that it could continue.”
I thought this was great, and it helped articulate something that I’ve thought a lot about in terms of the similarities often between retroactive jealousy and addiction.
So, full disclosure: I’m not an addict, and I have no personal experience with this. But I know a little bit about how addicts and how addiction functions.
There’s a constant craving for a thing, whether it’s reassurance from our partner or details about our partner’s past. Whatever it is, there’s this constant craving.
For a drug addict, the craving for the drug is constant. They might feel better once they obtain what they desire, like the reassurance and all the details they need.
For a few hours, a day, a week, whatever. They might even feel euphoric and hear something from their partner that makes them feel great.
We may gain some insight into their past, making us feel fantastic. Similarly, a drug addict might experience a high from their drug of choice, feeling blissful for a few hours, a day, or even longer,
In today’s video, I share my view on how to break the deadly retroactive jealousy cycle.
Read or watch below to learn how to break the retroactive jealousy cycle.
Zachary Stockill: What do retroactive jealousy sufferers and drug addicts have in common? The answer might surprise you, and that’s exactly what I will go into in today’s video.
For the people here for the first time, the term “retroactive jealousy” refers to unwanted intrusive thoughts, often obsessive curiosity, and what I call “mental movies” about a partner’s past relationships and/or sexual history.
It’s pure hell, but if you found this article and are reading it, you probably know exactly what I’m talking about.
As I mentioned a moment ago, since 2013, I’ve been working full-time on this issue of retroactive jealousy; as part of that work, I host a private Facebook group.
It’s a secret Facebook group for students taking my premium online course “Get Over Your Partner’s Past Fast,” as of today, we’re over 500 members strong.
There are always fascinating discussions, with plenty of individuals who’ve conquered retroactive jealousy choosing to stay, provide support, and share their insights and advice.
One of the best things I’ve ever done in my professional life is to create this secret Facebook group.
Anyway, I mention this because not long ago, a student in this Facebook group left a brilliant comment that I just had to share with you.
So, the quote is from this student in my group:
“One thing I’d like to add is that I think it’s something I’ve experienced is that retroactive jealousy can be like an addiction. You get the adrenaline rush, reassurance, and the feeling of calm.
It’s not a pleasant experience, and perhaps something that the sufferer isn’t doing consciously, but it’s important to replace that cycle with something. Otherwise, it’s a possibility that it could continue.”
I thought this was great, and it helped articulate something that I’ve thought a lot about in terms of the similarities often between retroactive jealousy and addiction.
So, full disclosure: I’m not an addict, and I have no personal experience with this. But I know a little bit about how addicts and how addiction functions.
There’s a constant craving for a thing, whether it’s reassurance from our partner or details about our partner’s past. Whatever it is, there’s this constant craving.
For a drug addict, the craving for the drug is constant. They might feel better once they obtain what they desire, like the reassurance and all the details they need.
For a few hours, a day, a week, whatever. They might even feel euphoric and hear something from their partner that makes them feel great.
We may gain some insight into their past, making us feel fantastic. Similarly, a drug addict might experience a high from their drug of choice, feeling blissful for a few hours, a day, or even longer,
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