The holidays are both a wonderful time of year as well as a time that can trip up women who have stopped drinking, from those in early sobriety to those that might have quit months (or years) earlier.
A lot of us might get to November and December and think, I've been doing this not drinking thing for a while now. I've got this.
But the holidays are a unique combination of back-to-back drinking events + occasions, family dynamics, memories of previous years drinking, physically being surrounded by alcohol with powerful emotional and social triggers.
The holiday season can undermine your recovery if you're not prepared to navigate it in a way that supports your sobriety.
In this episode, Jean and I share all the tips and tricks to having a wonderful holiday season without drinking.
We talk about:
How to socialize sober + reduce stress and anxiety around attending holiday gatherings Specific strategies for navigating Thanksgiving, Hanukkah, Christmas + New Year’s Eve Practical advice on attending + hosting holiday parties, traveling + staying with family or having family members stay with you What you can share with family + friends so they can make not drinking easier for you during the holidays Why annual traditions and the specific expectations around what events happen during the holiday season, who hosts, what is served, how long people are together, who travels + for how long, can lead to resentments + challenges for your sobriety Why it’s important to identify your expectations around the holidays + evaluate how they might impact you physically, mentally and emotionally How to say no, modify traditions + set boundaries without feeling like you’re high maintenance The fun stuff: why to set up a seasonal or holiday ‘bucket list’ with ideas of how to make the most of this special time that’s not centered around alcohol Ideas for new traditions that can make the season more joyful, memorable + fulfilling
About Jean McCarthy
Jean McCarthy is the host of the Bubble Hour Podcast, an award winning blogger + recovery advocate. Jean is an author of two books.
Her book, The Unpickled Holiday Survival Guide - staying alcohol free during the festive season is a wonderful resource about sobriety for people in recovery and for their families.
Her collection of poetry, The Ember Ever There - Poems on change, grief, growth, recovery and rediscovery was published in early 2020.
I interviewed Jean for this podcast in episode nine about her poetry and her story.
Jean started her blog, Unpickled in 2011, and has continued to chronicle her alcohol free lifestyle. Since her first day of sobriety, thousands of readers have credited Unpickled as a motivating factor in their decision to quit drinking.
Links and resources mentioned
Connect with Jean Mccarthy
Link to buy Jean’s Holiday Survival Guide and The Ember Ever There books: www.jeanmccarthy.ca/books
Facebook pages for Unpickled (www.facebook.com/unpickled) and The Bubble Hour (www.facebook.com/thebubblehour)
Also websites: https://jeanmccarthy.ca/, https://unpickledblog.com/, https://jeanmccarthy.ca/the-bubble-hour/, https://www.amazon.com/dp/1999299906
Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson
Grab your Free Sober Girls Guide To Quitting Drinking
Get support during the holiday season from women who are on the alcohol-free path with the guide on How to find and join my Favorite Private Sober Facebook groups
Instagram: Casey @ Hello Someday Coaching (@caseymdavidson)