It's Not About the Alcohol

Colleen Freeland

Would you like to reduce your alcohol consumption by 80 percent so you can enjoy drinking socially without relying on alcohol to manage your stress, anxiety, loneliness and boredom when you're by yourself? Most high achieving women assume over-drinking is caused by a lack of willpower--or worse, the incurable disease of "alcoholism." So they beat themselves up and avoid asking for help because they feel ashamed and out of control. Whether you're a daily drinker who can't break the habit, or you're still going to sobriety meetings even though you don't drink anymore, the real problem is that you don't trust yourself. Which means it's not about the alcohol. It's about your relationship with yourself. I'm an intuitive drinking coach helping professional women learn how drinking less (or not at all) is actually a superpower, even when the idea of giving up the only thing that helps them quiet their mind feels impossible. The solution to alcohol use disorder is a FEELING. If you felt comfortable in your own skin and at ease in your life, you would drink like someone who is comfortable and at ease! Join me each week for holistic, evidence-based strategies to fix your dopamine deficit, regulate your nervous system, cure imposter syndrome, manage sugar cravings, improve your sleep and reclaim your mental health so you no longer have the urge to escape your own body. Get happy, not sober. Because happy people don't drink themselves into a stupor.

  1. EP284 Minisode: Try my favorite tool: Full Body Reset

    23小时前

    EP284 Minisode: Try my favorite tool: Full Body Reset

    In this episode, Colleen revisits a recording in which she introduces a powerful tool that continues to help women interrupt autopilot and reconnect with their bodies — The Full Body Reset. She originally shared it on a morning when she didn't use it — a reminder that growth isn't about perfection, it's about awareness, compassion, and reconnection. When we're tired, stressed, or overstimulated, the brain will always reach for what's easy. The Full Body Reset helps you pause, remember what's true, and let your body cast a vote for what you really need. Through this story, she normalizes what it means to be human — to miss cues, to wish you'd chosen differently, and to repair with yourself instead of spiraling into shame. It's a simple, embodied practice that anchors emotional sobriety: building trust, honoring truth, and returning to yourself one pause at a time.   🔑 Key Takeaways The absence of alcohol use disorder isn't perfect behavior — it's the absence of shame when you stumble. Your body always knows what you need — you just have to pause long enough to listen. A Full Body Reset interrupts autopilot and reestablishes self-trust. Repairing with yourself builds the emotional maturity needed for long-term change. True power is being "Team You" — even when you don't get it right.   If you are ready to get support from a community of women who are co-creating this change with intention and clarity— Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL.    Do you want help from Colleen with a situation you're struggling with? Click here to submit your question for Colleen's NEW Q&A episodes. Your name will not be mentioned on air!    Find me on: YouTube: @HangoverWhisperer TikTok: @hangoverwhisperer Instagram: @thehangoverwhisperer  X (Twitter) : @NotAboutTheAlc   Transcript

    15 分钟
  2. EP283 Minisode: Why you need small group support

    2天前

    EP283 Minisode: Why you need small group support

    The truth is, you can't out-think a thinking problem. And yet, that's what so many women try to do—reading, journaling, "working on themselves"—all while staying quietly trapped inside their own minds. In this episode, Colleen reveals why the real work of emotional sobriety doesn't happen in isolation. It happens in connection. Through years of observation, data, and lived experience, she's found that the single most powerful predictor of lasting success inside The Next Chapter isn't perfection or willpower—it's participation. When women join accountability groups and actually show up, something profound shifts. They start learning faster, healing deeper, and rebuilding trust in themselves through the simple act of reflection. That's not luck—it's neuroscience and emotional regulation working together in real time. If you've been trying to "figure it out" alone, this episode will help you see why connection is not a luxury in recovery—it's the catalyst. You'll understand how community accelerates self-trust, quiets shame, and helps you live from power instead of performance. Because emotional sobriety isn't about never falling down—it's about finally having the support, skills, and structure to rise in a different way. 🔑 Key Takeaways True change happens through reflection and relationship, not isolation. Emotional sobriety deepens when you feel seen, heard, and safe to be honest. Shame dissolves in connection—the accountability group is where courage grows roots. You don't need to "do more." You need to belong more. Healing happens faster when you stop performing and start participating.   If you are ready to get support from a community of women who are co-creating this change with intention and clarity— Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL.    Do you want help from Colleen with a situation you're struggling with? Click here to submit your question for Colleen's NEW Q&A episodes. Your name will not be mentioned on air!    Find me on: YouTube: @HangoverWhisperer TikTok: @hangoverwhisperer Instagram: @thehangoverwhisperer  X (Twitter) : @NotAboutTheAlc   Transcript

    19 分钟
  3. EP282 How to eat to change how you drink, with Dr. Brooke Scheller

    4天前

    EP282 How to eat to change how you drink, with Dr. Brooke Scheller

    Here's what nobody tells you when you're trying to change your drinking: Your alcohol cravings at happy hour are not just about needing a break after a hard day. And they're definitely not about  how much you "just love wine." In reality, you haven't eaten since noon and your blood sugar is in the basement. This is about what you ate for lunch–or more accurately, what you didn't eat. What I've learned doing this work—and what my guest today is going to blow your mind with—is that you can't white-knuckle your way through a nutritional deficiency. You cannot mindset your way around a physiology problem. And yet most of us try to do exactly that, and then beat ourselves up when it doesn't work. Today I'm sitting down with Dr. Brooke Scheller, Doctor of Clinical Nutrition and author of "How to Eat to Change How You Drink." And she's going to explain why your evening drinking habits are not a sign that you lack willpower. You lack protein, vitamins and minerals. This conversation will give you easy, simple ideas for how to bridge the gap between where you're at and where you want to be.  Spoiler: You don't need to try harder. You need to eat breakfast. If you are ready to get support from a community of women who are co-creating this change with intention and clarity— Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL.    Do you want help from Colleen with a situation you're struggling with? Click here to submit your question for Colleen's NEW Q&A episodes. Your name will not be mentioned on air!    Find me on: YouTube: @HangoverWhisperer TikTok: @hangoverwhisperer Instagram: @thehangoverwhisperer  X (Twitter) : @NotAboutTheAlc Connect with Dr. Brooke Scheller: Website: Brooke Scheller Instagram: @drbrookescheller Substack: @drbrookescheller Book: "How to Eat to Change How You Drink" (Available on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, and Audible)

    51 分钟
  4. EP281 Minisode: Primal versus Power states

    10月25日

    EP281 Minisode: Primal versus Power states

    In this minisode, Colleen distills emotional sobriety into its simplest form: learning to recognize when you're operating from your primal state versus your power state. Most of us spend our lives reacting to the world from old programming—patterns shaped by fear, pain, or the need for control—without realizing that we can pause, interrupt, and return to presence. She explains how to move from being controlled by your mind to consciously using it as a tool, how emotional energy drives every "problem," and how the act of letting go—physically and mentally—is the real path to peace. This is more than nervous system regulation; it's a full reclamation of agency over your inner world.   🔑 Key Takeaways You live in one of two states: primal (reactive) or power (conscious). Every problem is emotional—it begins with the meaning your mind assigns. Letting go is a physical skill that quiets the mind by releasing tension in the body. You can't think your way out of stress; you have to feel your way back to calm. Power isn't something you find—it's the moment you remember you already have it.   If you are ready to get support from a community of women who are co-creating this change with intention and clarity— Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL.    Do you want help from Colleen with a situation you're struggling with? Click here to submit your question for Colleen's NEW Q&A episodes. Your name will not be mentioned on air!    Find me on: YouTube: @HangoverWhisperer TikTok: @hangoverwhisperer Instagram: @thehangoverwhisperer  X (Twitter) : @NotAboutTheAlc   Transcript

    18 分钟
  5. EP280 Minisode: Are you more worried about how you look than how you feel?

    10月23日

    EP280 Minisode: Are you more worried about how you look than how you feel?

    In this minisode, Colleen unpacks the hidden link between insecurity and control — and how most of us try to manage our anxiety by managing other people's opinions. Through a grounded, body-based perspective, she reframes confidence not as something you "earn," but as something you practice by returning to yourself again and again. She challenges the myth that insecurity means something is "wrong" with you. Instead, she explains that it's a call to turn inward — to redirect your energy from controlling perception to cultivating presence. The goal isn't to eliminate self-consciousness, but to move the needle toward self-possession, one thought, one feeling, and one moment at a time.   🔑 Key Takeaways   Anxiety is a signal to focus inward, not manage others' opinions. Your thoughts about what others think are still your thoughts — and you can change them. Confidence is a feeling created by intentional thinking, not external validation. The "confident you" is built through repetition — one conscious moment at a time. True growth is reaching the tipping point where self-trust becomes your default state. If you are ready to get support from a community of women who are co-creating this change with intention and clarity— Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL.    Do you want help from Colleen with a situation you're struggling with? Click here to submit your question for Colleen's NEW Q&A episodes. Your name will not be mentioned on air!    Find me on: YouTube: @HangoverWhisperer TikTok: @hangoverwhisperer Instagram: @thehangoverwhisperer  X (Twitter) : @NotAboutTheAlc   Transcript

    8 分钟
  6. EP279: The Consistency Code: How to stop self-sabotaging your health with Courtney Townley

    10月21日

    EP279: The Consistency Code: How to stop self-sabotaging your health with Courtney Townley

    When I was in my 30s and 40s, I thought health was something you earned with discipline. I ate clean, drank tons of water, ran marathons and swallowed whatever supplements were trending. And even though I appeared to be doing everything right, my stress was through the roof and my body constantly ached. I was always looking for the next thing to fix. But here's what I didn't realize:  I wasn't broken, or even unhealthy. I just wasn't listening to my body. I cared more about how things looked than how they felt.  I thought I had to prove that I was healthy by doing hard shit–taking on more than I could actually handle. I didn't understand that relaxation isn't something you earn after you check all the boxes. It's an essential ingredient to success.  In today's episode, I'm talking with Courtney Townley, host of Grace & Grit and author of The Consistency Code. Courtney helps women navigate the health maze of midlife—when your resilience to stress is naturally lower, and the load you're carrying has never been heavier, and the old strategies you've used to just keep going are no longer working. In this episode, you'll learn: Why doing more often makes you less healthy—and how your definition of self-care needs to change How to identify "integrity pain," the tension between who you are and how you're living What to do when your motivation disappears and you literally don't have the energy to keep up with your damn self Being healthy isn't about external metrics…it's when you learn how to experience unconditional love for your body. If you are ready to get support from a community of women who are co-creating this change with intention and clarity— Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL.    Do you want help from Colleen with a situation you're struggling with? Click here to submit your question for Colleen's NEW Q&A episodes. Your name will not be mentioned on air!    You can find Courtney at Grace & Grit ---> Grab Her NEW Book, The Consistency Code, launching November 5th!   Find me on: YouTube: @HangoverWhisperer TikTok: @hangoverwhisperer Instagram: @thehangoverwhisperer  X (Twitter) : @NotAboutTheAlc

    51 分钟
  7. EP278 Minisode: Future Casting

    10月18日

    EP278 Minisode: Future Casting

    In this episode, Colleen introduces "future casting" — a mindset tool that helps you move from emotional reactivity into grounded awareness. She reframes every "problem" as an emotional one, reminding us that what keeps us stuck isn't the circumstance itself, but the stress response and beliefs we attach to it. Through this lens, future casting becomes a way to access perspective: to pause, regulate your nervous system, and imagine yourself on the other side of the obstacle — already having moved through it. From that calmer, wiser version of you, the next right thought and action become clearer. This practice is both deeply practical and profoundly empowering. It invites you to stop fighting your emotions, reconnect with the body, and use imagination not for worry or control — but for possibility and calm.   🔑 Key Takeaways: All problems are emotional before they're logistical. Emotional regulation restores clarity and perspective. Future casting helps you access your "resolved self" now. Calm creates insight; anxiety blocks it. If you are ready to get support from a community of women who are co-creating this change with intention and clarity— Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL.    Do you want help from Colleen with a situation you're struggling with? Click here to submit your question for Colleen's NEW Q&A episodes. Your name will not be mentioned on air!    Find me on: YouTube: @HangoverWhisperer TikTok: @hangoverwhisperer Instagram: @thehangoverwhisperer  X (Twitter) : @NotAboutTheAlc   Transcript

    8 分钟
  8. EP277 Minisode: Are You A Princess?

    10月16日

    EP277 Minisode: Are You A Princess?

    In this minisode, Colleen reflects on the stories we grew up with — the ones where the lost princess or overlooked heroine is finally discovered and restored to her rightful place. These stories shaped how many of us learned to wait: for validation, timing, permission, or rescue. She'll reframe that pattern through the lens of emotional sobriety. True power isn't something that arrives once circumstances improve — it's a mindset and a way of being that can exist even in the middle of the mess. Transformation doesn't come from fixing yourself or performing worthiness, but from believing in the person you're becoming before your life catches up. You are invited to examine where you might still be waiting for rescue, and to practice showing up today as the version of yourself who already knows she's capable, worthy, and ready. 🔑 Key Takeaways: The hidden impact of waiting to be "chosen" or saved. Power as a feeling that creates new behavior. How belief precedes evidence in lasting transformation.   If you are ready to get support from a community of women who are co-creating this change with intention and clarity— Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL.    Do you want help from Colleen with a situation you're struggling with? Click here to submit your question for Colleen's NEW Q&A episodes. Your name will not be mentioned on air!    Find me on: YouTube: @HangoverWhisperer TikTok: @hangoverwhisperer Instagram: @thehangoverwhisperer  X (Twitter) : @NotAboutTheAlc   Transcript

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Would you like to reduce your alcohol consumption by 80 percent so you can enjoy drinking socially without relying on alcohol to manage your stress, anxiety, loneliness and boredom when you're by yourself? Most high achieving women assume over-drinking is caused by a lack of willpower--or worse, the incurable disease of "alcoholism." So they beat themselves up and avoid asking for help because they feel ashamed and out of control. Whether you're a daily drinker who can't break the habit, or you're still going to sobriety meetings even though you don't drink anymore, the real problem is that you don't trust yourself. Which means it's not about the alcohol. It's about your relationship with yourself. I'm an intuitive drinking coach helping professional women learn how drinking less (or not at all) is actually a superpower, even when the idea of giving up the only thing that helps them quiet their mind feels impossible. The solution to alcohol use disorder is a FEELING. If you felt comfortable in your own skin and at ease in your life, you would drink like someone who is comfortable and at ease! Join me each week for holistic, evidence-based strategies to fix your dopamine deficit, regulate your nervous system, cure imposter syndrome, manage sugar cravings, improve your sleep and reclaim your mental health so you no longer have the urge to escape your own body. Get happy, not sober. Because happy people don't drink themselves into a stupor.

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