1 hr 30 min
Science of Social Bonding in Family, Friendship & Romantic Love Huberman Lab
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- Health & Fitness
This episode I discuss the science of social bonding- the process by which we form attachments. I explain the neural and hormonal basis for "social homeostasis" (our drive for a given amount of socializing) which reveals why we get lonely, why we seek out connection with others and how power dynamics (hierarchies) shape those connections. I also discuss the neurochemical basis of introversion and extroversion, of trust and how shared experiences that promote similar physiological states in two or more individuals, leads to more rapid bonding. I also discuss how food and oxytocin play key roles in social bonding. This episode covers quality peer-reviewed science and practical tools for anyone seeking to find, build or end relationships.
For the full show notes, visit hubermanlab.com.
Thank you to our sponsors
AG1 (Athletic Greens): https://athleticgreens.com/huberman
LMNT: https://drinklmnt.com/huberman
Supplements from Momentous
https://www.livemomentous.com/huberman
Timestamps
(00:00:00) Social Bonding: Child-Parent, Romantic, Friendship, Breakups
(00:03:10) Sponsors: AG1, LMNT
(00:07:08) Social Bonding as a Biological Process
(00:10:03) Social Isolation
(00:13:32) Social Homeostasis & Neural Circuits for Social Drive
(00:18:55) Brain Areas & (Neuro)Chemistry of Social Drive
(00:22:48) What is Social Homeostasis & Dopamine
(00:27:00) When We Lack Social Interactions: Short- Versus Long-Term
(00:28:10) Introverts & Extroverts
(00:31:00) “Good” Versus “Bad” Social Interactions & Hierarchies
(00:33:54) Loneliness & Dorsal Raphe Nucleus & Social Hunger
(00:37:33) Tools
(00:38:05) Socializing & Food Appetite: Crossover Craving
(00:42:45) Falling in Love
(00:45:05) Tools for Social Bonds: Merging Physiologies; Story
(00:53:54) Childhood Attachment Patterns in Adulthood
(01:03:45) Attachment Styles: Autonomic Versus Intellectual Attachment
(01:06:10) Emotional Empathy & Cognitive Empathy, Arguing
(01:09:45) Allan N. Schore & “Right Brain Psychotherapy”
(01:10:40) Oxytocin & Trust, In Males Versus Females, Hormonal Glue
(01:16:10) Repairing Broken Bonds to Self & Others
(01:18:56) Social (Media) Butterflies: Biological Basis
(01:24:08) Key Points for Bonding & Understanding Social Bonds
(01:27:07) Breaking Up
(01:28:36) Synthesis
(01:31:17) Zero-Cost Support, Sponsors, Supplements, Instagram, Twitter
Title Card Photo Credit: Mike Blabac
Disclaimer
This episode I discuss the science of social bonding- the process by which we form attachments. I explain the neural and hormonal basis for "social homeostasis" (our drive for a given amount of socializing) which reveals why we get lonely, why we seek out connection with others and how power dynamics (hierarchies) shape those connections. I also discuss the neurochemical basis of introversion and extroversion, of trust and how shared experiences that promote similar physiological states in two or more individuals, leads to more rapid bonding. I also discuss how food and oxytocin play key roles in social bonding. This episode covers quality peer-reviewed science and practical tools for anyone seeking to find, build or end relationships.
For the full show notes, visit hubermanlab.com.
Thank you to our sponsors
AG1 (Athletic Greens): https://athleticgreens.com/huberman
LMNT: https://drinklmnt.com/huberman
Supplements from Momentous
https://www.livemomentous.com/huberman
Timestamps
(00:00:00) Social Bonding: Child-Parent, Romantic, Friendship, Breakups
(00:03:10) Sponsors: AG1, LMNT
(00:07:08) Social Bonding as a Biological Process
(00:10:03) Social Isolation
(00:13:32) Social Homeostasis & Neural Circuits for Social Drive
(00:18:55) Brain Areas & (Neuro)Chemistry of Social Drive
(00:22:48) What is Social Homeostasis & Dopamine
(00:27:00) When We Lack Social Interactions: Short- Versus Long-Term
(00:28:10) Introverts & Extroverts
(00:31:00) “Good” Versus “Bad” Social Interactions & Hierarchies
(00:33:54) Loneliness & Dorsal Raphe Nucleus & Social Hunger
(00:37:33) Tools
(00:38:05) Socializing & Food Appetite: Crossover Craving
(00:42:45) Falling in Love
(00:45:05) Tools for Social Bonds: Merging Physiologies; Story
(00:53:54) Childhood Attachment Patterns in Adulthood
(01:03:45) Attachment Styles: Autonomic Versus Intellectual Attachment
(01:06:10) Emotional Empathy & Cognitive Empathy, Arguing
(01:09:45) Allan N. Schore & “Right Brain Psychotherapy”
(01:10:40) Oxytocin & Trust, In Males Versus Females, Hormonal Glue
(01:16:10) Repairing Broken Bonds to Self & Others
(01:18:56) Social (Media) Butterflies: Biological Basis
(01:24:08) Key Points for Bonding & Understanding Social Bonds
(01:27:07) Breaking Up
(01:28:36) Synthesis
(01:31:17) Zero-Cost Support, Sponsors, Supplements, Instagram, Twitter
Title Card Photo Credit: Mike Blabac
Disclaimer
1 hr 30 min