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Humans in Love is a podcast for curious people--a venue for wide-ranging conversations about culture, relationships, and personal development featuring unconventional perspectives. Featuring interviews with authors, musicians, coaches, psychologists, and a wide range of others, think of it as “self-improvement” that doesn’t take itself too seriously.

One week we might be talking about sex, relationships, and travel, the next we might be unpacking a bestselling author’s creative process. No subject is off limits on Humans in Love, as host and guests share revealing personal stories and explore the unique challenges associated with becoming a better human in the 21st century. The three essential prerequisites for guests and listeners alike are lust for life, a sense of humour, and an open mind.

Humans in Love is hosted by author and coach Zachary Stockill, whose work on culture and personal development has been featured on BBC News, BBC Radio 4, the Huffington Post, The Art of Charm, and many other podcasts and publications. Described by one generous listener as “Anthony Bourdain meets Alan Watts,” Zachary is the author of the guidebook Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy, and the founder and head coach at RetroactiveJealousy.com, where he has helped hundreds of thousands of men and women in over 190 countries overcome jealousy and possessiveness in their relationships.

In 2016 Zachary hosted the podcast Travels in Music, which was featured as 'New and Noteworthy' by iTunes US, UK, Canada, Australia, and more, cracking the top-20 podcast charts in several of those countries. Over the past decade, Zachary has interviewed Grammy, Emmy, and Oscar winners, Rock and Roll Hall of Fame alumni, NYT best-selling authors, even a former Beatle.

Humans in Love picks up where Travels in Music left off, exploring an even wider range of topics, stories, and insights from some of the planet’s most interesting and insightful people. Guests include world-renowned Beatles authority Mark Lewisohn, legendary psychotherapist Dr. Brad Blanton, and award-winning author Isabel Losada, to name a few.

Sign up for updates, discover show notes, bonus content, and much more at https://www.humansinlove.com.

You can follow Zachary on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram @zfstockill.

And please don't forget to SUBSCRIBE on iTunes and leave a rating and a review.

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    • Sexuality
    • 4.9, 65 Ratings

Humans in Love is a podcast for curious people--a venue for wide-ranging conversations about culture, relationships, and personal development featuring unconventional perspectives. Featuring interviews with authors, musicians, coaches, psychologists, and a wide range of others, think of it as “self-improvement” that doesn’t take itself too seriously.

One week we might be talking about sex, relationships, and travel, the next we might be unpacking a bestselling author’s creative process. No subject is off limits on Humans in Love, as host and guests share revealing personal stories and explore the unique challenges associated with becoming a better human in the 21st century. The three essential prerequisites for guests and listeners alike are lust for life, a sense of humour, and an open mind.

Humans in Love is hosted by author and coach Zachary Stockill, whose work on culture and personal development has been featured on BBC News, BBC Radio 4, the Huffington Post, The Art of Charm, and many other podcasts and publications. Described by one generous listener as “Anthony Bourdain meets Alan Watts,” Zachary is the author of the guidebook Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy, and the founder and head coach at RetroactiveJealousy.com, where he has helped hundreds of thousands of men and women in over 190 countries overcome jealousy and possessiveness in their relationships.

In 2016 Zachary hosted the podcast Travels in Music, which was featured as 'New and Noteworthy' by iTunes US, UK, Canada, Australia, and more, cracking the top-20 podcast charts in several of those countries. Over the past decade, Zachary has interviewed Grammy, Emmy, and Oscar winners, Rock and Roll Hall of Fame alumni, NYT best-selling authors, even a former Beatle.

Humans in Love picks up where Travels in Music left off, exploring an even wider range of topics, stories, and insights from some of the planet’s most interesting and insightful people. Guests include world-renowned Beatles authority Mark Lewisohn, legendary psychotherapist Dr. Brad Blanton, and award-winning author Isabel Losada, to name a few.

Sign up for updates, discover show notes, bonus content, and much more at https://www.humansinlove.com.

You can follow Zachary on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram @zfstockill.

And please don't forget to SUBSCRIBE on iTunes and leave a rating and a review.

    #43 – Reclaiming the Masculine in Relationship with G.S. Youngblood

    #43 – Reclaiming the Masculine in Relationship with G.S. Youngblood

    G.S. Youngblood is an American coach, and the author of The Masculine in Relationship: A Blueprint for Inspiring the Trust, Lust, and Devotion of a Strong Woman.







    From Amazon:







    In this book is a model of Masculine groundedness that you can manifest in your relationship with a strong and capable woman. Such a woman doesn’t settle for mediocre. She needs you to consistently follow through on your word, have purpose in life, remain grounded in the face of her intense emotion, make her feel safe, and provide leadership in the relationship. When that doesn’t happen, she may start to drift. Things between you will start to feel flat, contentious, or even toxic. To you, she will seem to nag and criticize more, and have less interest in sex. When she gets really angry, you’ll label it as “crazy” and blame her. But, in truth, she’s just expressing the pain of you not stepping up. It is a relationship arc that is all too common. Fighting or defending yourself doesn’t resolve anything. Withdrawing into work or your phone just makes it worse. And contorting yourself to avoid conflict just kills her respect for you. The answer is to develop and live from your Masculine core. This book shows you how in an actionable three-part framework: Respond vs. React, Provide Structure, and Create Safety. This is not the old model based on control, but a modern model based on clarity and leadership. This is not a manual for Alpha Dogs, nor a fuzzy spiritual guide. Rather, it is a clear set of principles that help you develop your Masculine leadership. And it doesn’t take anything away from Feminine power. It is a blueprint for inspiring your woman’s trust, lust, and devotion.







    In today’s episode of Humans in Love, I had a great conversation with G.S. Youngblood about The Masculine in Relationship, recovering from breakups and divorce, how to live from your Masculine core, how to deal with conflict in your relationship, the pillars of masculinity, dealing with jealousy, and much more. Hope you dig.







    Today’s episode of Humans in Love is brought to you by my new book: The Breakup Recovery Workbook: Daily Writing Exercises for Surviving (and Eventually Thriving) Through the End of a Relationship, available for Kindle and paperback via Amazon.



















    Connect with G.S. Youngblood at:







    * His personal website







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    • 48 min
    #42 – Mission, Purpose, Open Marriages, and Jealousy with Caleb Jones

    #42 – Mission, Purpose, Open Marriages, and Jealousy with Caleb Jones

    Caleb Jones is an author, consultant, and speaker promoting “freedom-focused lifestyle design for men.”







    With this podcast I remain committed to presenting unconventional perspectives on culture, relationships, and personal development–and that’s exactly what Caleb Jones has to offer.







    From his website:







    Many years ago I found myself in the same boat most men eventually do. Stressed out. Too many bills to pay and not enough money. Too much debt. A typical marriage that felt more like obligation than something that actually made me happy. A business that owned me rather than a business that set me free.Finally, in my early 30s, after much pain and soul-searching, I started to turn all of this around. I wanted to design a life of maximum freedom and maximum happiness.Today, my life looks completely different. It’s a fantasy come true. I make a six figure income from three different diversified companies. I only need to work about 15 hours per week to maintain this income. (I work much more than 15 hours per week, but that’s only because I choose to.) 100% of my income is location independent. I can make my income literally from anywhere in the world as long as I have my laptop. Over the past ten years, I have maintained multiple, concurrent relationships with women, dating all off them at the same time. They all stayed with me knowing I was doing this; there was no “cheating”. Today I am married to the women of my dreams, but in an open marriage where still sleep with other women when I wish. I travel all over the world, literally whenever I want.This is the lifestyle of the Alpha Male 2.0. It is the lifestyle most conducive to long-term masculine happiness. Today, I live life on my terms, no one else’s.And I’m the happiest man I know.







    In today’s episode of Humans in Love, Caleb Jones and I talk about dealing with the coronavirus pandemic, the failure of his first marriage, his personal transformation, discovering one’s mission, finding purpose in life, his ideas about “outcome independence,” what people get wrong about open marriages, how he approaches sexual jealousy, and much more.







    Really enjoyed this conversation with one of the most thought-provoking speakers in the men’s development space. Hope you dig.



















    Connect with Caleb Jones at:







    * His website* Caleb’s Open Marriage Manual e-book (affiliate link)* Caleb’s Superior Man Inner Circle (affiliate link)* Caleb’s main book, The Unchained Man (affiliate link)* Caleb’s Ultimate Online Dating Manual (affiliate link)







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    • 1 hr
    #41 – A Soundtrack for Social Distancing

    #41 – A Soundtrack for Social Distancing

    And now for something completely different…







    A music-only episode!







    Loosely based around the theme of social distancing, and the sheer weirdness of being human in May of 2020. Hope you dig.







    Mentioned in this episode:







    * Tangentially Speaking with Dr. Chris Ryan* “One More Year” by Tame Impala* “Digital Witness” by St. Vincent* “Time” by Pink Floyd* “Worldwide” by Allen Toussaint* “That’s the Way the World Goes ‘Round” by John Prine* “I’m the Slime” by Frank Zappa* “Mother Canoe” by Stephen Jenkinson & Gregory Hoskins







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    • 37 min
    #40 – Recovering Our Humanity in a Time of Trouble with Stephen Jenkinson

    #40 – Recovering Our Humanity in a Time of Trouble with Stephen Jenkinson

    Stephen Jenkinson is a culture activist, teacher, and author.







    Stephen Jenkinson is also one of the most articulate and thought-provoking public intellectuals I know.







    From his website:









    Stephen is the creator and principal instructor of the Orphan Wisdom School, co-founded the school with Nathalie Roy in 2010, convening semi-annually in Deacon, Ontario, and in northern Europe.

    Apprenticed to a master storyteller when a young man, he has worked extensively with dying people and their families, is former programme director in a major Canadian hospital, former assistant professor in a prominent Canadian medical school. He is also a sculptor, traditional canoe builder whose house won a Governor General’s Award for architecture. Since co-founding Nights of Grief and Mystery with Gregory Hoskins in 2015, he has toured this musical/tent show revival/storytelling/ceremony of a show across North America, U.K. and Europe and Australia and New Zealand.

    Stephen teaches internationally and is the creator and principal instructor of the Orphan Wisdom School, co-founded the school with Nathalie Roy in 2010, convening semi-annually in Deacon, Ontario, and in northern Europe. Apprenticed to a master storyteller when a young man, he has worked extensively with dying people and their families, is former programme director in a major Canadian hospital, former assistant professor in a prominent Canadian medical school. He is also a sculptor, traditional canoe builder whose house won a Governor General’s Award for architecture. Since co-founding Nights of Grief and Mystery with Gregory Hoskins in 2015, he has toured this musical/tent show revival/storytelling/ceremony of a show across North America, U.K. and Europe and Australia and New Zealand.

    He is the author of Come of Age: The Case for Elderhood in a Time of Trouble (2018), and the award-winning Die Wise: A Manifesto for Sanity and Soul (2015), Homecoming: The Haiku Sessions (a live teaching from 2013).









    Suffice it to say, Stephen is a fascinating human being.







    And one who “wonders aloud” (as he describes it) about some of the most important and pressing issues of our time.







    In today’s conversation, Stephen Jenkinson and I spoke about the implications of the coronavirus pandemic, his work in the “death trade,” how he considers his own mortality, recovering our common humanity, the distinction (or not) between being human and “humane,” and much more.







    At the end of the audio-only version of this podcast, I play “Take a Little Walk/All The Songs of Love,” off of Stephen’s wonderful musical collaboration with Gregory Hoskins, Nights of Grief and Mystery.







    This is one of the most timely, humbling, and thought-provoking conversations I’ve had for this podcast. This is one I plan on re-listening to for my own benefit many more times.







    I hope you enjoy today’s episode. I also hope all of you are staying safe and healthy out there in these trying times.









    Connect with Stephen at:









    * His website, Orphan Wisdom









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    • 1 hr 12 min
    #39 – Love in the Time of Coronavirus

    #39 – Love in the Time of Coronavirus

    Greetings from Bali, Indonesia.







    View this post on Instagram Strange times we’re living in. Just put out a new solo podcast talking a little about coronavirus and Stoicism. Link to listen in bio. #coronavirus #travel #travels #travelgram #traveling #indonesia #bali #podcast #podcasting #podcasts A post shared by Zachary Stockill (@zfstockill) on Mar 16, 2020 at 8:28pm PDT







    Hope you’re all staying safe out there.







    In the midst of the coronavirus pandemic, I wanted to send some good wishes out to my little audience scattered around the globe.







    I also wanted to share an essential Stoic principle that has been giving me some clarity and perspective in the midst of a confusing and vulnerable moment for our species.







    I’ll have more for you very soon. Stay safe and healthy, friends.



















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    • 6 min
    #38 – Defining Our Legacy and Discovering Our Purpose with Jordan Luke Collier

    #38 – Defining Our Legacy and Discovering Our Purpose with Jordan Luke Collier

    Greetings from the island of Siargao, Philippines!







    On today’s episode of Humans in Love, I’m joined once again by my good friend Jordan Luke Collier.







    Jordan is Head Coach at Ars Amorata, and one of my favourite people to talk to about life, love, and long-term relationships.







    In today’s conversation, Jordan and I tackle the weighty topics of defining our legacy, and discovering our purpose as men. We also get into how long-term travel has changed and inspired us over the years.







    Hope you dig.



















    Connect with Jordan at:







    * His personal website* Ars Amorata* Facebook







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    • 59 min

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