60 episodes

Listen to the incomparable therapist Esther Perel counsel real couples as they reveal the most intimate, personal, and complicated details of the conflicts that have brought them to her door. This season Esther speaks to a constellation of new relationships: A couple wrestling with the guilt they feel over the happiness their infidelity created. Another trying to make space for their queerness in an outwardly appearing hetero relationship. A set of friends trying to sort out if their childhood friendship needs to continue into adulthood. And Esther checks back in with couples from seasons past to see where they are now as she creates a space for us to hear our own lives and struggles articulated in the stories of others. So....where should we begin?

Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel Esther Perel Global Media & Gimlet

    • Society & Culture
    • 4.8 • 12.1K Ratings

Listen to the incomparable therapist Esther Perel counsel real couples as they reveal the most intimate, personal, and complicated details of the conflicts that have brought them to her door. This season Esther speaks to a constellation of new relationships: A couple wrestling with the guilt they feel over the happiness their infidelity created. Another trying to make space for their queerness in an outwardly appearing hetero relationship. A set of friends trying to sort out if their childhood friendship needs to continue into adulthood. And Esther checks back in with couples from seasons past to see where they are now as she creates a space for us to hear our own lives and struggles articulated in the stories of others. So....where should we begin?

    You Want Me to Watch the Kids While You Go Out With Other Men?, Where Are They Now

    You Want Me to Watch the Kids While You Go Out With Other Men?, Where Are They Now

    When Esther first met with them two years ago, they’d recently opened up the marriage. At the time only she had ventured out, and after a lifetime of feeling her sexuality wasn’t her own, she felt an awakening. But at what expense? Her newfound freedom seemed to result in his misery. This time around, they are both exploring elsewhere, but the subject of their non-monogamy takes a backseat to other foundational stories within their marriage.
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    • 58 min
    Esther Calling - Having Needs Doesn't Make You Needy

    Esther Calling - Having Needs Doesn't Make You Needy

    He’s in a new relationship and wants it to be exclusive, but he can’t get a read on his partner's feelings. It’s hard for him to have an open honest conversation about his needs without feeling weak, especially when he’s met with silence from her. Esther encourages him to feel confident in his vulnerability and to not mistake having needs for “neediness.”
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    • 18 min
    My Orgasm Is Not Just For Me

    My Orgasm Is Not Just For Me

    What starts as a story of sexual incompatibility and a difference in life goals for these two women takes a wildly unexpected turn during this session. Esther finds herself witness to a fantasy ritual unlike anything she’s experienced before in her work.
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    • 57 min
    Twice Married, To Each Other

    Twice Married, To Each Other

    They were married, divorced, and then married again. And with four kids between them, tensions run high. They fight about everything: the chores, the cats, who gets to tell who what to do. They come into the session with one story and Esther helps them write an alternate version.
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    • 56 min
    Esther Calling - Will He Make The Space For Me

    Esther Calling - Will He Make The Space For Me

    Her new boyfriend’s wife died four years ago. Reminders of her are all over his house, from her clothes in the closet to her photos on the wall. It makes the caller feel uncomfortable and inadequate. She wonders if there’s room in his house — or his heart — for her.
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    • 17 min
    Esther Calling - It's a Matter of Pride

    Esther Calling - It's a Matter of Pride

    In another episode of Esther Calling, he worries his desire for a serious relationship is putting women off. But early in their phone call, it becomes clear to Esther that he’s talking about a particular woman from his past. He describes his feelings for that woman as “intense”, whereas she was more ambivalent. Esther and the caller explore the question: when is yearning for someone’s unreciprocated feelings more about pride and getting what you want than it is about that other person?
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    • 19 min

Customer Reviews

4.8 out of 5
12.1K Ratings

12.1K Ratings

hnshsne s ,

Exactly what I needed to hear

Just finished “My orgasm is not just for me” and I’m sitting here dazzled. The beauty, openness, generosity & love these two guests showed, in addition to Esther’s exquisite sensitivity & perceptiveness—whew. It was such a privilege to hear their stories. I have been in deep anxiety & mourning for the future of reproductive & sexual freedom in America. Listening to Esther & guests hold sexual healing, love, culture, and creativity in such a place of honor was, again, a real privilege & something that will stay with and sustain me for a long time. Deep thanks to all involved. I am sure the ancestors are rejoicing!

TNapp12 ,

Amazing

This latest episode, “Twice Married, to Each Other,” is definitely one to download and listen to multiple times. I find myself saying this often for most of Esther's episodes but this one FOR REAL! I often say, if I had this podcast and knew about Esther’s coaching and books 15 years ago, I’d still be married. She gives us much needed insight and perspective and tools to help. I simply can’t recommend this podcast enough. On behalf of my future husband, thank you. I’m forever changed.

KM98654 ,

Love this podcast!

Thank you, Esther. I learn so much about my life and marriage through these sessions.

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