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Ep 148 - 3 worst diets disguising themselves as intuitive eating in 2021
Today we are rating and reviewing the 3 worst diets disguised as intuitive eating in 2021.
Lets dive right in because we have lots to discuss:
Coming in third place:
This is a diet (yes a diet) from Beachbody.
The creator has her own weight loss story and uses this to sell the program.
A lot of the messaging does sound so appealing – never be hungry and still lose weight, live your life and still lose weight, it sounds so good. Honestly even when I read it I have a moment of hope. But then the truth comes crashing in.
Here are some other things that it says:
What to eat first at every meal to lose weight
What to order first at a restaurant to lose weight
“Dozens of my proven weight loss secrets” , if anyone ever promotes their weight loss program or tips as secrets – they lying. Anything that actually worked would be such big news it would not be a secret.
Then it says “results may vary based on starting point, effort and following Beachbody’s exercise and healthy eating plan” – okay soooo a diet.
Then it says it again – get my secrets to results that last a lifetime. If its a secret its a lie.
Then as we go into the website you see that she also has packages that include the beachbody shakes – it gets more diety the deeper you dig.
And this is all to say: WE KNOW this sounds appealing for many, this is the problem. Diets disguise themselves as not diets, as something different and this is what leads people down the road an extra 5 years thinking – oh maybe this ones the answer, maybe this one….
It’s really harmful.
We want to confirm that this is a diet and pursuing weight loss leads to the same results no matter the name of it.
Runner up is:
It is advertised as: “A clear but flexible, four week plan combining intuitive eating with intermittent fasting and Ketotarian foods. It’s designed to optimize our wellbeing and set us up to feel our best for all the other weeks to come. This is not a book of dogma. It will not punish you or restrict you. “
You’ll notice these are ALL buzz words and this description doesn’t really say anything.
Dr. Will Cole, the author of this book (who is not a medical doctor by the way, he is a quote “leader in functional medicine – his bio on instagram says intuitive fasting + ketotarian + inflammation spectrum (the buzz words that mean nothing.. honestly).
The contradictions here are astounding:
Dr. Will Cole says – Not everyone is created equal- The realization that everyone is created differently. There is not a one-size-fits-all approach to getting well. What works for one person can flare other’s triggers. To treat symptoms and ailments, functional medicine uses herbal botanical medicine, lifestyle modifications, supplements and medications when needed to regain health.
Yet I have written a 4 week plan that you should all BUY!
There is no such thing as intuitive fasting. This is like saying be a vegetarian and eat meat – nope not possible. No matter how hard you sell it.
The word intuitive is used here because they know that intuitive eating is on the rise in popularity and strict diets are on the outs.
What it actually is:
This program is actually just 3 of the more popular ways of eating right now, intermittent fasting, intuitive eating and keto (obviously one of these things is not like the other) – and smashing them together to sell something.
This program is nothing new, there is nothing intuitive about it and it’s in fact very harmful.
Diets suck. We know that.
AND the reason these specific diets are the most harmful is because they are a wolf in sheep’s clothing. People who are embarking on the journey to become an intuitive eater often still want to lose weight – so someone coming along and saying Hey, don’t worry you can be intuitive-ish and still fast and eat keto,
Ep 147 – But what if losing weight would help my knee pain/ blood work?
Welcome to How to Love Your Body - on today’s episode we are going to be talking about “weight loss for health / weight loss to relieve physical pain.” We get this question a lot - It seems as though people want to justify their weight loss if it’s for health - so let’s talk about this.
No matter what the reason is for wanting to lose weight - dieting/ pursuing weight loss doesn’t work for 80-95% of the population.
This means that if you are focusing on weight loss to improve blood work or reduce knee pain you have the same chance of losing weight and keeping it off as you do if you were pursuing weight loss to change your body size.
Your body can't tell the difference if you are dieting to get a smaller waistline or dieting for health.
Even though this is the case about the pursuit of weight loss - we want to share 3 points on why pursuing weight loss isn't the answer but what you can do instead.
1. No one is saying weight loss wouldn’t help BUT how will you do that?
Just because we aren’t in favor of PURSUING weight loss doesn’t mean we don’t think it could be helpful - maybe some weight loss could help bloodwork? Who knows ? Maybe weight loss could reduce knee pain? Who knows? THE POINT - even if weight loss may help - how are you going to pursue weight loss, keep it off, and live a sustainable life with a healthy mindset around food and your body? Because from the looks of it - our past is a pretty good indicator that diets don’t work and most of the time - we end up heavier after we pursue a diet. In this situation, trying to lose weight for health reasons doesn’t really justify pursuing weight loss this time around. You’ll find yourself obsessing over food, feeling restricted, and in a constant battle with your mind. Do you see how pursuing weight loss will actually backfire? Do you see how it will actually do the opposite of what your intention was to begin with - which was to improve your health. But all of that doesn’t not seem good for your health. Agree? We aren’t being negative Nancies over here - we just want to give it to you straight - in our next point we will share what you CAN do to improve health without the pursuit of weight loss and rigid dieting.
2. Losing fat doesn’t improve blood work, it’s not the weight loss, it's the behaviors that come with the weight loss - moving your body, eating nourishing foods may have you see health improvements, but it’s short term!! It doesn’t work long term and there are so many negative side effects to rigid dieting.
SO without the focus on weight loss here are positive health behaviors that can help - strengthening your muscles, stretching, moving your body in ways you enjoy, adding/ eating nourishing foods AND not restricting any other foods, enjoying life (having fun, connecting with friends/ family) , de-stressing, sleeping more, prioritizing your mental health, going to physical therapy, meditating, working on positive self-talk, going to regular doctor visits (advocating for yourself ie. asking to not be weighed if you don’t want to be, working with doctors that support IE/ HAES (or at least are open to it). You are not limited to this list - there are so many other ways to focus on your true genuine health without the focus on weight loss).
3. If you have been told by your doctor to lose weight to improve x health issues - Ask your doctor about what else you can do other than focus on weight.
If weight loss were the “fix” to all health issues - people who do lose weight / people who live in thinner bodies wouldn’t have health issues - but as we know that’s far from the truth - you can lose weight and be in a thinner body and have any health risk/ issues a person in a larger body has and vice versa.
A couple of amazing doctors to follow on Instagram who are aligned with this message is @fatdoctorUK and @drjoshuawol
Ep 146 - I keep eating past fullness!
We get many people who say I can’t seem to honor my fullness, I often go past being full and I just cannot seem to control myself! What is going on?
These people often are allowing all food, honoring their hunger and they are doing the work so what is going on? Why does this piece feel so difficult?
There are a few reasons this could be happening and we will go through them today and chat about what you can do to take steps in the direction of being at ease with fullness and having it feel much more simple.
The top 3 reasons you might not feel like you can honor your fullness is:
Reason #1: We say this all the time but it is the sneakiest part of this work - mental restriction.
What does mental restriction sound like:
It's thoughts like:
“oh i really shouldnt be eating bread again”
“I’ll just try to be more intuitive tomorrow”
“I shouldn’t be hungry already!”
All of these judgements can lead to overeating because your body reacts almost the same to mental restriction as it does to physical restriction. This is why people can continue to struggle even though they’re allowing “all the foods”.
So what can happen if you mentally restrict?
last suppers (body is still expecting to be restricted at some point)
Feeling more urgent with food (eating it all now - EVEN THOUGH you technically know you could eat more tomorrow)
How can you begin easing this?
Listen to your thoughts - do they contain shoulds? What are these shoulds about? Time (I really shouldn't have to eat for a few hours), types of food (I shouldn't be eating carbs again today), amounts (1 cookie is plenty, I shouldn't have eaten 3!!) or other rules?
These are then rules that you want to begin shifting even if they rule is just in your brain. If you think you SHOULD only eat one cookie that’s a rule AND ironically it’s more likely to lead you to eat more than one cookie every time because of the restriction. If you TRULY tuned in and said, I can eat as many cookies as I like, let’s start with 1 and see how I feel, if I want more I can have more. Sometimes maybe 3 is awesome, sometimes 1, sometimes maybe none! When true mental and physical permission is present you can then truly listen to your body and let your intuitive eating muscles get stronger!
Reason #2: Clean plate club
You might be familiar with the term and you might feel like a veteran member at this point. People can be a part of the clean plate club for various reasons:
They were always told to clear their plate as a kid and now they fear wasting food etc.
As dieters we often would plate what we were ALLOWED to have so of course we were going to eat it all, this is all we can have. Now as an UnDieter this tendency may be following you even though you are allowing more food now.
You may not be paying attention at all to how you’re feeling when eating and you use the plate being cleared as a signal that you’re done
It is FINE to clean your plate but if you find yourself with an empty plate and a stuffed stomach at every meal it’s absolutely something you can look into some more.
How to begin shifting this:
Dive into what the motivator is for you. Does your clearing of the plate come from childhood? Were you told to never waste food because other children were starving? Do you feel guilt if you throw food away or “waste” it by not eating it?
Are you still feeling a scarcity mindset around food and your body just eats whenever food is available because of this?
Are you using an empty plate as a signal that the meal is done?
Now that you’re more aware of why this is happening you can begin to question your thoughts around this.
Does it really help anyone if I eat food I don’t want? Will it create less waste? How can I save leftovers even if it’s small amounts? Would this be more enjoy
Ep 145 - Eating at Night When You're Alone
Welcome to How to Love Your Body - I’m Lauren and this is Jenna. On today’s episode we are going to be talking about eating at night when you’re alone. We wanted to talk about this because this specific theme has come up a handful of times in our community in The UnDiet Collective Intuitive Eating App.
We get why eating at night when you’re alone feels like a “habit” you want to stop. Maybe there is even some shame that comes up around night time eating - it might feel secretive and like you’re getting away with something that is “bad” and “wrong.”
First, it’s not bad, it’s not wrong, and by no means do you need to guilt and shame yourself every single time this scenario happens.
We want to share ways in which we can help alleviate this situation and make you feel like it’s okay to eat at night but also maybe help you get to the bottom of why this feels like such a problem for you - here are different areas you can explore that you may find helpful.
1st - What do you make “night time eating” mean? What is the energy around it? What is your experience with it? Most likely it’s coming from a place of “I shouldn't be doing this, it’s bad to eat this at night, why do I do this to myself, I told myself I wasn’t going to feel this sick again” etc - there is not only guilt but a lot of judgement.
So the first step to this process around night time eating is to see it in a different light - let’s create some new energy around it, gentle, kind, compassionate energy.
Can you see it as a sacred time for yourself - when you can actually have some time to relax - where you can “turn off” and mentally unload from the day. This is a time to recharge.
If you love to eat during this time - ALLOW yourself to truly enjoy it. Make an empowered choice rather than an effort in trying to stop this nighttime eating. If you allow yourself and embrace this time - it won’t feel so powerful.
Instead of telling yourself “I’m NOT eating at night tomorrow” - say to yourself - “I EXPECT to eat at night tomorrow.” - If I want to eat, I will eat - and I will listen to my body and give myself permission to enjoy.
Here’s a little activity - Get a journal or notebook - write out your old experience with night time eating - talk about the shame, guilt, judgement, whatever comes up for you. Once you are completed with that - rip it up into tiny pieces and throw it away - NEXT - write your new story around night time eating - talk about the allowing, the enjoyment, the sacred time to yourself - write about how compassionate you are for yourself. Create a new loving experience when it comes to night time eating and hold that energy within you..
Okay now - let’s talk about some practical areas in which we can explore to help you see this night time eating in a new light ---
What may be going on in your day -
Are you eating enough during the day? Eating at night is absolutely okay and if you feel like you are eating more than you’d like - this could be that you’re famished because you didn’t eat enough during the day. You may not even realize it but it’s important to ask yourself if you are feeling satisfied and full after your meals during the day without having the feeling of grazing or like you’re still hungry. At night, once all the distractions are gone - like the kids are in bed, your work day is over, and you get some time to yourself to just relax - you feel the desire to eat because you may just be really hungry!! There’s other things that may be going on which is fine and absolutely “normal”- such as emotional eating or maybe just the desire to enjoy some food and watch some tv - but start becoming aware of how you feel during the day and making sure you are eating enough for your body to feel good and satisfied!
Another question to ask yourself:
Are you allowing the same foo
Ep 144 - The UnDiet Collective Intuitive Eating App
Welcome to How to Love Your Body - this is Lauren and Jenna - on today’s episode we are going to be talking all about our Body Image and Intuitive Eating App that is officially LIVE as of Feb 1st, 2021 called The UnDiet Collective!
We want to share the elements of the app and how it will help support you 365 days out of the year.
There are 4 levels of support.
1st level - UnDiet Dailies
2nd level - Community Support groups
3rd level - Living Coaching
4th level - Monthly bonuses and guest expert speakers
We’ll share more about each level so you can get a feel for what this type of support entails.
The intention of the UnDiet Dailies are to give you quick/ simple UnDiet action steps and tips every single day of the week. This is long term work as UnDieters and we want to make it valuable content without the overwhelm. No more feeling “behind” in a course with lots of content to dive through each week. This is about small daily action steps that you can choose to take on or not any day of the week.
Here is the schedule:
Mondays - UnDiet Prompts
Tuesdays- Live Coaching
Wednesdays- UnDiet Action Step
Thursdays- Live Coaching
Fridays- FAQ Video
Saturdays- Weekly check in
Sundays- Positive Affirmation
Everyday of the week you’ll have something different sent right to your phone.
How does this help?
This work requires consistency and long term engagement. Meaning doing a 6 week course doesn’t cut it. Think of this work as a slow burn instead of a sprint. You want to be consistently reframing your thoughts, questioning your beliefs and learning about your body and how to best care for it in an intuitive way. That’s what these dailies will help you do!
2. Community Support Groups
This is a place where the entire Collective can build connections/ friendships and also ask any questions that will be answered by us each day. The best part about these groups is that you don’t have to have a Facebook anymore to be a part of it!
How does this help?
It is so important to be in community when you’re doing this work. Why? Because everyone in your real life in likely a dieter and when you’re doing something that no one around you is doing (and that often goes against what mainstream thinks is right) you can get stuck in continually questioning if this work is the right thing to do. When you’re in a community who is doing the same work with counsellors who have expertise in UnDieting and Intuitive eating you can find solace in knowing you’re on the right path.
3. Live Coaching
You’ll be able to submit your questions through our intuitive eating app and we will be going live on Tuesdays and Thursdays to answer your questions. They will be housed in a group called “Live Coaching” so if you can’t watch it live you’ll be able to go into this group and have access to all the live recordings - we will have the questions that are being answered in the post and what time they are being answered so if you don’t feel like watching the whole thing you can skip to the questions you do want to watch.
How does this help?
Getting your questions answered in real time can be so helpful. Your counsellors are in the group every weekday answering your questions but a typed answer can only provide so much information. When we can interact and talk things through this is when we can share more of the nuance and complexities of this work! Getting this twice a week will be hugely beneficial in moving your forward to being a confident UnDieter.
4. Monthly Bonuses and Guest Experts
Every month there will be a unique experience such as a 5 day intensive, Exclusive Workshops, Guest expert speakers, and more! The month of Feb we will be doing a 5 Day Self Love Intensive starting Feb 15th-19th.
How does this help?
Diving deeper into 1 specific area of UnDieting every month
Ep 143 - Can I still lose weight?
Welcome to How to Love Your Body - on today’s episode we are going to be talking about WEIGHT. Yes, a topic that brings up a lot of controversy due to so many intertwined beliefs that have been created from diet culture, self worth, value etc…
We get why this would be such a tender topic and we also want to address it head on as we had a lot of drama this past week after posting a couple different posts on Instagram on @thebodylovesociety
We are going to go through 2 common misconceptions around weight and also share how to shift your mindset in order to see weight in a different way and have it all - wellness and freedom.
Common misconception #1 - Losing weight is an accomplishment
The reason losing weight, fitting into your “goal weight” pants, and posting a before and after picture on social media are not accomplishments is because it still puts ALL the focus on your body - all the focus on weight loss, all the value as a person into the size of your body. It still focuses on thinner is “better.”
This could come off as harsh to some but we really advocate to stop making weight loss an “accomplishment” or “compliment” - weight loss is not a good or bad thing - but what is toxic about it is when humans feel the pressure to constantly change their bodies to fit society standards and to feel worthy. You already are worthy no matter what body you live in! No one is better than another due to a body size.
It’s important to stop making weight loss something to accomplish and instead celebrate all bodies at any size.
Weight not being an accomplishment doesn’t mean you can’t do all the things you want to do to feel good in your body like - move in ways you enjoy, eat in ways that feel good without restriction - you can still honor your wellness without it being about weight loss - (and yes you could lose weight / or not and that does not matter your body is going to do what it’s going to do) - the focus is how you feel in your body - that can be an accomplishment. The feeling, the positive health behaviors that feel good not forceful, NOT the number on the scale or the size on your pants.
Striving for a certain number on the scale with strong attachment to the number (and obsessive behaviors that go along with it) is mostly likely a number / size that isn’t sustainable - this means you may work really hard and feel “accomplished” because you lost some weight - and everyone is noticing, complementing, and congratulating you - yes, that may feel great - super validating - why wouldn’t it!? - BUUUT - what if you gain the weight back? What happens to the accomplishment? Compliments? And congratulations? They go away! An accomplishment is not something that can be taken away from you - like graduating from a school, course, or program. - Once you graduate you can't undergraduate - no one is going to say congrats and then take it away in the future - weight loss is conditional to get a congrats - it’s ONLY if the number on the scale goes down and ONLY if you look thinner - if that changes - people get silent.
What’s the shift: Un-attach yourself from a certain size / number on the scale - What would you like to accomplish without it being about or number or size? What makes you feel good? We aren’t trying to take a sense of accomplishment away from you - we want you to feel accomplished in ways that serve you - such as:
“I feel so accomplished that I’m not dieting anymore and I’m eating intuitively.”
“ I feel so accomplished that I made it to the top of the mountain, it felt so enjoyable to hike with my friend and move my body!”
“I feel so accomplished that I added some veggies into my week with a new recipe I enjoyed.”
“I feel so accomplished that I ate a delicious scone with my coffee for breakfast and for lunch I naturally craved and wanted a delicious c
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Jenna and Lauren are amazing. They are helping me to see myself as a beautiful person, no matter what size my body is, AND they are helping me change my mindset that I have to do everything perfectly. Being an intuitive eater and undieter is one of the hardest transitions I’ve ever had to make. It doesn’t come easy and it takes constant self reflection and resetting my negative/diet-seeking brain! But these ladies, and the community they’ve developed are making this journey so much easier.
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Too much negativity
While I’m an intuitive eating/anti-diet culture fan all the way, I find the negativity in this show really hard to listen to. The snarky voice they adopt when mocking people who disagree with them is upsetting— it seems like there should be a better understanding that we’re all victims of diet culture, all in different places on our journey toward dismantling it in whatever way works for us, and outright derision of those who are still finding their way out is unacceptable.