My name is Shiro Bergbauer, DNP, CRNA. Becoming a mom was a huge shift and transition from me. I needed to find information on transitioning to becoming a working mom that was relevant to my career and I found that most information was targeting corporate moms who work traditional 9-5 hours. As I surveyed moms in medical careers, I realized the paucity of content addressing our needs. We take care of other people at We take care of other people at work and at home. We aren’t always equipped for the transition from clinician to working mom, and this isn’t how it should be.
Babes and Beyond: Pediatric Sleep
Kim Davis: Certified Pediatric Sleep Consultant
Babes & Beyond
The Wonder Weeks Book:
The Wonder Weeks App:
When you become a mother, there are shifts that will happen in your identity, priorities, work, relationships, body, essentially: your whole world.
This podcast delves into how we can move with those changes, embrace the new person you're becoming, navigate changing dynamics with friends, and maintain a connection with your full self.
Please enjoy the 29th episode of the Stethoscopes to Swaddles Podcast: Rebranding Mama!
And Baby Makes 3: How Not to Hate Your Partner After Having Kids
The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse:
Criticism, Defensiveness, Contempt, Stonewalling
How to Fight:
Repair- words, jokes, gestures
Explain what was difficult
Ask for forgiveness
Ask for help and what you DO need
And Baby Makes Three by Jon and Julie Gottman
How Not to Hate Your Husband After Kids by Jancee Dunn
Hold me Tight by Sue Johnson
The Mental Load of Motherhood
The mental load is a term for the invisible labor involved in managing a household and family.
HOW TO IDENTIFY OVERLOAD
Burnout and depletion, Resentment and dissatisfaction, Overwhelm, Feeling unseen
MANAGING THE LOAD
“Mothering mothers” (Luthar and Ciciolla 2016, p. 1820).
Consider the magnitude of responsibilities
Write down examples
Ask for help with management
Task lists/ Project manage
Prioritize rest/ Self care
Deconstruct gender stereotypes with family
Why is No One Talking About the Effects of the Pandemic on Working Mothers?
Before the pandemic- our identities as mothers and employees were separated
Many of the salient relationships described primarily transpired in our homes due to the constraints of social distancing and quarantine imposed by the
The four main themes
mental load and exhaustion
Shame cycle,- guilt, shame, gratitude
connection and reflection
The Fifth Trimester
Trimester 1,2,3,4,5- Pregnancy and Beyond, You Can Survive
Lauren Smith Brody: The Fifth Trimester
The Fifth Trimester is when the working mom is born. If the first three trimesters are pregnancy and the fourth is the newborn phase, the fifth is when mom heads back to work…often before she’s physically or emotionally ready to be there. And yet there she is, because that’s the reality for American women right now. (25% of new working moms are back on the job two weeks after birth. And only 56% of working moms even qualify for unpaid FMLA leave. The percentage who can afford to take all of that time off unpaid is even lower.)
THE CHANGING BODY
Honor your body
Be patient with your body
PLANNING THE RETURN
PLANNING TO QUIT
The Five steps
The discomfort is temporary
Think about what you get out of work
Realize what your job gets out of you
Consider phasing back in
Enjoy a bit of success
Make time for each other
It’s his baby too
How not to kill your husband after having kids
Pick no battles
Ask for help
Dry run before the actual return day
Pump breaks & Pumping spaces
Know your rights
Postpartum mood disorder support
Prioritizing your career or not
Judging and shaming
Formula vs. breast milk, co-sleeping vs sleeping solo, sleep training
Handling the conversations
Acknowledge their interest. “I appreciate that you’re thinking about what’s best for our family. I know you love us/ care. Here is what we think is best.
Legitimize their cultural cluelessness. “As you can see, this is a topic and debate that so many people are having right now. Here’s the choice we’re making”
Deflect their attention by asking, “What did YOU do?”
Check your baby's weight, length, and head circumference
2nd round of (DTaP, Hib, polio, PCV, and rotavirus)
This concludes the series of Trimester 1, 2, 3, 4, 5- Pregnancy and Beyond, You Can Survive. Thank you for joining us on this journey! You're welcome to reach out with any questions with an email to Hello@anesthesiamom.com
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Trust that you're making the right choices. Take pressure off of yourself to try everything. You're doing a great job Momma, see you next week!
Relevant for mothers in healthcare
I really appreciate the unique perspective this podcast provides to mothers in healthcare. There are so many relevant topics discussed in a manner that is easy to listen to. I appreciate that this host provides actionable items for the listener.