Gender dysphoria has become a minefield for public discussion, with many afraid to express their views or question the narrative. Our mission is to examine this important and complex topic from a range of perspectives, but always through a psychological lens. By openly considering and examining gender identity, transition, and the transgender umbrella, we hope to give all interested parties permission to engage these fascinating topics with less fear and more honesty. Interviews and discussions will involve clinicians, medical professionals, academics, transgender people, parents, detransitioners and other interesting individuals whose lives have been touched by the concept of gender.
Conversations between two practicing therapists give listeners an opportunity to contemplate gender from a depth perspective not currently taken up in most of today’s accessible debates. As a result of their work with gender dysphoric therapy clients as well as their personal divergent experiences with gender, Stella and Sasha hold a refreshing and informed perspective.
Is gender identity a facilitation of development and expression of creativity, or can it be a defense against painful existential realities of living in a human body? What can we discover about masculinity, femininity, identity, gender performance, and sexuality when we peer beneath the surface and dive into a deeper psychological exploration? What is the relationship between body, mind, identity, culture, and psyche?
This podcast engages listeners in an intimate and fascinating behind-the-scenes inquiry about a topic as taboo as it is salient today.
* We are partially sponsored by ReIME, Rethink Identity Medicine Ethics. ReIME is a non-profit organization dedicated to improving long term care for gender variant individuals. To learn more, visit https://rethinkime.org/
45 - Helena Part 1: Social Justice, Fandoms & FtM Gay Boys
This is Part 1 of a two-part conversation with Helena. She is a 23-year-old detransitioned woman, well-known on Twitter and YouTube for her insights into the FtM trans kid mindset. The self-described “gender apostate” shares her thoughts on ROGD’s relationship with critical social justice, fandom culture, “shipping,” and the extraordinary fascination many teenage girls have with young gay men.
44 - Multiple Meanings of Gender Dysphoria: A Conversation with Aaron Terrell
Aaron Terrell transitioned female-to-male in 2011. He wasn’t involved in social media or the trans community until roughly 2017 when he noticed some unusual anomalies involving the new cohort of females identifying as trans men and undergoing medical transitioning. Then, earlier this year, Aaron read JK Rowling’s essay and everything changed …
43 - Sasha & Stella Answer Your Questions: Part 3
The listeners’ questions continue to absorb our interest and influence our discussion. The issue of power struggles between parents and children has been raised along with a special focus on knowing when to hold ’em and when to fold ’em. The script that trans-identified teenagers often use to declare their trans identification is outlined and Sasha & Stella discuss a kind of counter script for parents. Finally, we suggest a liberal parents’ guide to explaining your child’s gender-related distress with friends, neighbors, and the wider community.
42 - ROGD and the Struggle to Grow Up
Many children with ROGD seem reluctant to grow up. Sometimes this is related to the difficulties of an early puberty or the hyper-sexualisation of children. Other times the gap between the Disneyfied wonder of childhood and the grim hard reality of adulthood feels unsurmountable. Sasha and Stella delve into the psychology of the fear of growing up and how elements of both transition and transgender activist dogma may further infantilize and stunt development.
41 — Trans: A Conversation with Helen Joyce
The New York Times describes Helen Joyce’s book, Trans: When Ideology Meets Reality, as “an intelligent, thorough rejoinder to an idea that has swept across much of the liberal world seemingly overnight.” Joyce reminds us that her book is not about trans people, but rather, it is about the idea “that people should count as men or women according to how they feel and what they declare, instead of their biology.” Helen explains the ways it’s more acceptable for men to “give up some privilege” and strategies women in other cultures have used to opt out of unfavorable circumstances. Perhaps denying sex leads to a perfectly clear demonstration of just how different men and women can be. We also reflect on the differences between American’s tendency to double-down on bad policy and the hopefulness Helen feels with the unfolding UK reckoning with gender self-ID. In this episode, we discuss the many ramifications of “you are exactly who you say you are.”
40 — Social Transition: A Powerful Psychosocial Intervention
Social transition is often the first recommended intervention when a young person begins questioning his or her gender identity. It entails changing one’s name, pronouns, appearance, and other identity markers to match the desired gender. In very recent years, schools, led by the current gender identity affirmative approach, have taken it upon themselves to support and sometimes encourage students with social transition. Families often feel pressured by professionals to make these powerful changes despite little evidence supporting these interventions. At times, living in another identity can create more problems than it resolves. In this episode Sasha and Stella do a deep dive into the many challenges that arise with social transition.
Extremely important conversation
It is so hard to find quality information around gender and the various ways people in distress are coping with it these days. This podcast is an antidote to the online echo chambers of Reddit and a massively refreshing, informed, empathetic take from two professionals on the front lines.
The most valuable part for me is the engagement with actual peer reviewed research in the field and experts in the various fields of medicine and law that are connected to gender.
I came to the podcast as someone I care deeply about is struggling with questioning their gender. I am terrified and so is he, but the mainstream culture and medical establishment gives only one narrative now: confirm their identity and start medical transition as soon as possible. That’s not compassion, it’s not kindness, it’s not supported by any quality studies or scientific research, and and it’s all moving way too fast along a political track.
The MOST INFORMATIVE Podcast on Gender Today
This is the NUMBER 1 podcast to learn about gender related issues in contemporary culture. Therapists Stella and Sasha dive deep into compassionate, well-rounded, informed exploration into gender, identity, sexuality, psychology, and so much more. Not only will you learn many secrets of gender you have always wondered about, but you will learn a plethora of relevant information about today’s culture and psychology of youth, development, mental health, and therapy of the digital age. Stella and Sasha are delightful hosts who bring earnest empathy, curious questioning, and empirical research into the nuanced issues of gender and society. They are crucial advocates for the disenfranchised, especially children, parents, and detransitioners. Each guest has a welcomed unique perspective into gender topics and brings fascinating insights into the gender discussion.
This podcast is for anyone who values free-thinking, free-speech, psychological understanding, and creating a better world for non-conforming individuals and their loved ones.
Research shows that when trans youth are not supported in their gender identity (by parents, providers, peers) negative mental health outcomes - including suicidality - increase. As a clinician and researcher who works with LGBTQ+ youth, I disagree with the dangerous opinions shared in this podcast.