115 episodes

Are you loving your adult child on purpose? Are you choosing love over judgement of them? If you want to know what is getting in the way of improving your relationship with your adult children, in this podcast I will teach what the real problem is keeping you from accomplishing this goal. I am the mother of five children and a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. I know the struggle that comes with navigating a relationship with an adult child. I have learned how to choose to love my children exactly the way they are.

Loving On Purpose Bonnie Lyman

    • Kids & Family
    • 4.8 • 60 Ratings

Are you loving your adult child on purpose? Are you choosing love over judgement of them? If you want to know what is getting in the way of improving your relationship with your adult children, in this podcast I will teach what the real problem is keeping you from accomplishing this goal. I am the mother of five children and a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. I know the struggle that comes with navigating a relationship with an adult child. I have learned how to choose to love my children exactly the way they are.

    How To Solve Any Problem

    How To Solve Any Problem

    What you think is the problem between you and your adult children is probably not what you think it is.  We were raised to believe that the way they behave toward us causes us to feel a certain way.  If they have very little contact with us, we may feel we are unimportant to them.  Their behavior is the circumstance.  Circumstances are neutral.  They are the actual facts about the situation.  The circumstance causes us to have certain thoughts.  These thoughts cause us to feel in a certain way.  Knowing the cause of our problems (our thoughts not our children's behavior) is they key to feeling the emotion you want to feel, in any situation, by managing our thoughts.  Listen to this episode to hear true stories of how to make this happen in your life.
    Have you received my new resource "3 Steps To Be Yourself Around Your Adult Children?" Click HERE to receive it. You'll be amazed what life offers you when you take back the power to be yourself around everyone.

    Have you ever considered 1:1 coaching? To get started, book a complimentary call with me to find out what the cause of your struggling relationship is with your adult child. Go to bonnielyman.com (click here) to book a call.

    • 37 min
    Different Groupings of Family Members Can Cause Different Results

    Different Groupings of Family Members Can Cause Different Results

    Isn't it great when all of your family members can gather together?  We all have different opinions as to why or maybe even why not.  I am sharing some of my observations in navigating life with adult children of how different topics of information are shared depending on what makes up the family gatherings.  In this episode I discuss what I found happens to me and my involvement and interaction with my children in an entire group gathering; a single family event; only my adult children getting together with us (no grandchildren); when we meet with one of our children and their spouse; what it's like for us when we meet singly with one of our children.  Each situation creates a different result.  Listen to decide what works for you.
    Have you received my new resource "3 Steps To Be Yourself Around Your Adult Children?" Click HERE to receive it. You'll be amazed what life offers you when you take back the power to be yourself around everyone.

    Have you ever considered 1:1 coaching? To get started, book a complimentary call with me to find out what the cause of your struggling relationship is with your adult child. Go to bonnielyman.com (click here) to book a call.

    • 32 min
    Fulfilling Your Own Needs Through Friends

    Fulfilling Your Own Needs Through Friends

    Many of us had expectations of when we had adult children what life would be like.  We thought we would be involved in their lives.  When this expectation or need is not fulfilled we often feel unimportant and unloved.  As an adult, we are responsible for fulfilling our own needs.  One way to accomplish that is to spend more time with friends.
    We are fulfilling our own needs by finding like minded people to associate with.  It is not our children's responsibility to fulfill our needs.  They don't OWE us anything.  In this episode I talk about why our children possibly aren't helping fulfill our needs and five benefits to having friends to fulfill our need to love and be loved.
    Have you received my new resource "3 Steps To Be Yourself Around Your Adult Children?" Click HERE to receive it. You'll be amazed what life offers you when you take back the power to be yourself around everyone.

    Have you ever considered 1:1 coaching? To get started, book a complimentary call with me to find out what the cause of your struggling relationship is with your adult child. Go to bonnielyman.com (click here) to book a call.

    • 38 min
    When You Dislike Your Adult Child

    When You Dislike Your Adult Child

    All of us have people in our lives that we dislike.  It seems especially painful when we dislike and finally own that we really don't like one our adult children. Sometimes we try to move too fast out of feeling this way instead of "being" with this emotion for a while. In this episode I tell of reasons some of my clients have chosen to dislike their children, why it’s owning our thoughts are causing this feeling, and not the circumstance of our children's behavior, and some remedies, some new thoughts to start “trying on” to find peace with your feelings about your adult children. 
    Have you received my new resource "3 Steps To Be Yourself Around Your Adult Children?" Click HERE to receive it. You'll be amazed what life offers you when you take back the power to be yourself around everyone.

    Have you ever considered 1:1 coaching? To get started, book a complimentary call with me to find out what the cause of your struggling relationship is with your adult child. Go to bonnielyman.com (click here) to book a call.

    • 27 min
    Emotional Self-Care

    Emotional Self-Care

    The freedom to be free of non-serving emotions, feelings that don't help us live emotionally healthy lives, can happen in our lives when we are trained in how to have thoughts that empower us and give us permission to be ourselves.  First, we need to let go of the thought that we feel we need approval in order to like ourselves.  Second, we need to quit being the victim to what's happening in our lives and starting creating the life we want to live by managing our thoughts.  I call this the practice of emotional self-care.  In this episode I give you suggestions on how to implement some thoughts to free you to be free from what's holding you back from living a happy life.
    Have you received my new resource "3 Steps To Be Yourself Around Your Adult Children?" Click HERE to receive it. You'll be amazed what life offers you when you take back the power to be yourself around everyone.

    Have you ever considered 1:1 coaching? To get started, book a complimentary call with me to find out what the cause of your struggling relationship is with your adult child. Go to bonnielyman.com (click here) to book a call.

    • 36 min
    Marriage

    Marriage

    Our relationship with our spouse is probably the relationship we should be spending the most time strengthening.  I believe families can be together forever, even after we die.  But I have millions of ancestors and could potentially have millions of predecessors so that seems like a bigger gathering than I can imagine.  But I can wrap my mind around being with my husband forever.  We worry about being with our children for eternity because of some of their behaviors.  But what about  my behavior toward my husband isn showing him love, kindness, and respect?  Could I be better?  Both relationships are important but I believe that if I work at managing my thoughts around my husband, if I practice being the person I want to be around my husband, it then transfers to how I treat everyone.  Love is always the best choice.
    Have you received my new resource "3 Steps To Be Yourself Around Your Adult Children?" Click HERE to receive it. You'll be amazed what life offers you when you take back the power to be yourself around everyone.

    Have you ever considered 1:1 coaching? To get started, book a complimentary call with me to find out what the cause of your struggling relationship is with your adult child. Go to bonnielyman.com (click here) to book a call.

    • 45 min

Customer Reviews

4.8 out of 5
60 Ratings

60 Ratings

Modern Gypsy ,

Bonnie Mom

I appreciate you Bonnie, more than words can express. Your wisdom and guidance have helped me learn a new approach to interacting with my adult children… and everyone in my life. I have had a great deal of struggle and challenge in my 68 years. Unhealthy family relationships have distorted my thinking and perspective which has required a lot of effort to undue through my own recovery work. I believe through the grace of God I found you. I share what I learn from you with my friends in recovery and I tenderly refer to you as my Bonnie Mom. Namaste

red1111111222122 ,

Hard feelings turned into love!!

Bonnie inspires love and compassion. She provides insight to our thoughts and feelings. I am so grateful to find her interesting, educational, uplifting podcasts.

KatGwood ,

She gets it.

I have really benefited from Bonnie’s insights and her strategies to be my best self and sort out the complicated relationships (at times) with my adult children. She has helped me see beauty wheee there is struggle and hope where there was frustration. Thank you, Bonnie!

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