Influence & Impact for female leaders Carla Miller

Do you find yourself overpromising and creating unnecessary stress for yourself?  Or putting in lots more effort than anyone expects, or needs you to? How about saying yes when you’ve got no capacity to get more work done or jumping into help when no-one has asked you to? 

 

If any of those resonate it sounds like you may be overcommitting - constantly trying to show how much value you add, by going above and beyond when it isn’t needed.   

 

In this episode I’m going to… 

break down the ways we overcommit  
explain why we overcommit 
share the questions you can ask to help you dial back the overcommitting (and still do a great job!) 

 

I also share a brilliant new free resource I’ve created for you – the How To Say No Challenge which you can sign up to at carlamillertraining.com/sayno 

 

This is the first in a series of 3 podcasts this summer around mindset and setting boundaries and you can expect an episode on people pleasing and another one on worrying too much what people think of you.  I’ve also recorded some great guest interviews such as exclusive presence and managing the menopause which we’ll be releasing in the coming months.   

 

My name’s Carla Miller, leadership coach, author, trainer and founder of Women Leading, the community that helps women lead without overwhelm.  I’m on a mission to empower women leaders in the workplace and make leading less lonely.   

 

And this is the Influence & Impact podcast for women leaders, helping you confidently navigate the ups and downs of leadership and feel less alone on your journey as a leader.  In fortnightly episodes I share practical tools and insights from myself and my brilliant guests that will help you succeed in your career. 

 

FREE RESOURCE - How To Say No Challenge: 


If you struggle to say ‘no’ then this free 5 day challenge is for you.  You get a short email containing a short video each day, taking you through the 5 steps of my How To Say No framework. We’ll get you happily saying no in just 5 days. 

Access it at carlamillwertraining.com/sayno  

 

Women Leading: 

You can now join over 40 women in Women Leading for just £49 a month and learn to lead without overwhelm.  It includes peer support calls, group coaching calls, regular menopause events and a live leadership or wellbeing workshop each month on topics including… 

 

Managing an Overwhelmed Team 
How and When to Coach Your Team 
Reducing Drama in your Team 
Giving Feedback Without Feeling Awkward 

 

Find up more and sign up at https://www.carlamillertraining.com/womenleading  

 

 

 
Many workplaces are dominated by short term thinking, intense pressure to produce immediate results and a focus on growth at all costs.  Sound familiar?  This short term focus often leads to poor decision making, poor long term performance and risks employee burnout.  

 

In today’s episode my guest Cath Bishop makes a powerful case for implementing what she calls Long Win Thinking.  Cath knows a bit about winning as a three time Olympian with a silver medal and a fascinating career in diplomacy within conflict zones! 

 

We discuss: 

 

Why workplaces benefit from focusing on the Long Win 
How Cath’s mindset around winning shifted across her 3 Olympic Games and how she felt at the start line of her medal-winning Olympic race  
What insights Cath has taken from her diplomatic experience into leadership coaching 
How early in life we start thinking winning is important 
Separating performance from results and winning 
Cath’s 3 C model for implementing long win thinking in your team 

 

I found this episode really timely as I reflect on the impact I want to make through my work and what success means to me.  I hope it brings you some insights both personally and also as you think about how to create high performance in your team. 

 

My name’s Carla Miller, leadership coach, author, trainer and founder of Women Leading, the community that helps women lead without overwhelm.  I’m on a mission to empower women leaders in the workplace and make leading less lonely.   

 

And this is the Influence & Impact podcast for women leaders, helping you confidently navigate the ups and downs of leadership and feel less alone on your journey as a leader.  In fortnightly episodes I share practical tools and insights from myself and my brilliant guests that will help you succeed in your career. 


 

  

Women Leading: 

You can now join over 40 women in Women Leading for just £49 a month and learn to lead without overwhelm.  It includes peer support calls, group coaching calls, regular menopause events and a live leadership or wellbeing workshop each month on topics including… 

 

Managing an Overwhelmed Team 
How and When to Coach Your Team 
Reducing Drama in your Team 
Giving Feedback Without Feeling Awkward 

 

Find up more and sign up at https://www.carlamillertraining.com/womenleading  

 

About Cath Bishop: 

 

 

Cath Bishop is a triple Olympian, World Champion and Olympic silver medallist in rowing. In her career as a diplomat, she specialized in stabilization policy for conflict-affected parts of the world. She now works as a coach and consultant, advising on leadership, performance and culture across business, sport and education, and teaches on Executive Education programmes at the Judge Business School, Cambridge University. She writes monthly articles for The Guardian on topics of culture in sport and co-hosts The Inside Out Culture 

Podcast. She is a globally sought-after speaker. 

 

Websites: www.cathbishop.com www.thelongwin.com  

Instagram: cath_bishop  


Inside Out Culture Podcast: https://insideoutculture.buzzsprout.com/  

X: @thecathbishop  

https://www.theguardian.com/profile/cath-bishop 

 

Does just looking at your inbox create a rush of overwhelm?  You’re not alone in that, the average person receives 121 work emails every single day!  
 
In this episode, my guest, career and executive coach Fay Wallis shares 6 practical strategies you can use to reduce your email overwhelm.  We discuss:
 
Why grouping emails by sender is insightful The problems with using your email inbox as a to-do list and what to do instead When to hit unsubscribe  How to ‘unsubscribe’ from internal emails Using tools like email templates and schedule send Prioritising deep work Setting email boundaries  
I also share an excerpt from my current favourite book, Four Thousand Weeks by Oliver Burkeman on why inbox zero isn’t actually going to bring us the peace of mind we think it will.
 
This is the Influence & Impact podcast for women leaders, helping you confidently navigate the ups and downs of leadership and feel less alone on your journey as a leader.
 
My name’s Carla Miller, I’ve been coaching leaders for the past 15 years and I’m your leadership bestie.  I’m here to remind you of the value to bring to your organisation, to help believe in yourself and to share practical tools and insights from myself and my brilliant guests that will help you succeed in your career.
 
You might also enjoy…
Episode 120 Developing your career with Fay Wallis Episode 144 Finding focus when you’re overwhelmed with Julia Wolfendale   
And we mentioned Graham Allcott’s book, How to be a Productivity Ninja and his email Rev up for the Week - https://www.grahamallcott.com/
 
Women Leading:
Come and join over 40 women in Women Leading – my community to help you lead without overwhelm.  It offers peer support calls, group coaching calls, regular menopause events and a live leadership and wellbeing workshop each month on topics including…
 
Managing an Overwhelmed Team How and When to Coach Your Team Reducing Drama in your Team Giving Feedback Without Feeling Awkward  
Find up more and sign up at https://www.carlamillertraining.com/womenleading 
 
About Fay Wallis:
 
Fay is a career and executive coach, with a background in HR who specialises in coaching HR & People professionals. She is the Founder of Bright Sky Career Coaching and has a 5 star rated podcast called HR Coffee Time, where you can hear free career advice and ideas every week.
 
Bright Sky Career Coaching: https://www.brightskycareercoaching.co.uk/ 
Fay’s LinkedIn profile: https://www.linkedin.com/in/faywallis/ 
HR Coffee Time podcast page: https://www.brightskycareercoaching.co.uk/hr-coffee-time-podcast/
 
 

 
 
If you’ve noticed unhelpful patterns of behaviours playing out in your team or if you’ve got a tense relationship with a colleague then this week’s episode can provide insight into what’s causing those patterns.   

 

My guest, leadership coach and podcast host Rebekah Whitaker shares why we get pulled into the ‘drama triangle’ and what we can learn from Transactional Analysis to understand ourselves and our relationships with others better. 

 

Transactional Analysis is new to me so it was really interesting to understand the ‘drama triangle’ and reflect on how it plays out in the workplace and the role we can play as leaders in creating more positive behaviours and relationships. 

 

In this episode Rebekah provides an introduction to this concept and I’m delighted that she’s running a workshop within Women Leading this autumn to bring the next level of insights into how leaders can reduce drama within their teams. 

 

This is the Influence & Impact podcast for women leaders, helping you confidently navigate the ups and downs of leadership and feel less alone on your journey as a leader. 

  

My name’s Carla Miller, I’ve been coaching leaders for the past 15 years and I’m your leadership bestie.  I’m here to remind you of the value to bring to your organisation, to help believe in yourself and to share practical tools and insights from myself and my brilliant guests that will help you succeed in your career. 

 

Women Leading: 

Come and join over 40 women in Women Leading – my community to help you lead without overwhelm.  It offers peer support calls, group coaching calls, regular menopause events and a live leadership and wellbeing workshop each month on topics including… 

 

Managing an Overwhelmed Team 
How and When to Coach Your Team 
Reducing Drama in your Team 


Giving Feedback Without Feeling Awkward 

 

Find up more and sign up at https://www.carlamillertraining.com/womenleading  

 

About Rebekah Whitacker: 

Through Quest for EST Rebekah is on a mission to change the way that we approach leadership development, equipping leaders with skills to support them from the start of their leadership journey. She is also the co-host of In Pursuit of the Better You, a podcast dedicated to helping you maximise your potential personally and professionally. 

 

Rebekah’s website: www.quest4est.co.uk  

Rebekah’s substack: https://quest4est.substack.com 

 

 

 

 

 

 
 
Networking is an idea that makes some of us cringe.  Others would love to network more but struggle to attend events due to workload and caring responsibilities. But what if networking didn’t have to be so uncomfortable and you could do it in a way that works for you? 

 

That’s what Ellie Rich-Poole, career development coach and one of LinkedIn’s Top Voices for careers. 

 

We cover… 

 

Why networking is key to developing your career and accessing opportunities 
How to build your network in a way that works for you 
The power of making genuine connections rather than working the room 
How to make yourself actually go to networking events 
Making the most of networking opportunities 
Creating a croissant not a bagel (you’ll have to listen to decipher that one) 

 

 

This is the Influence & Impact podcast for women leaders, helping you confidently navigate the ups and downs of leadership and feel less alone on your journey as a leader. 

  

My name’s Carla Miller, I’ve been coaching leaders for the past 15 years and I’m your leadership bestie.  I’m here to remind you of the value to bring to your organisation, to help believe in yourself and to share practical tools and insights from myself and my brilliant guests that will help you succeed in your career. 

 


Come and join over 40 women in Women Leading – my community to help you lead without overwhelm.  It offers peer support calls, group coaching calls, regular menopause events and a live leadership and wellbeing workshop each month on topics including… 

 

Managing an Overwhelmed Team 
How and When to Coach Your Team 
Reducing Drama in your Team 
Giving Feedback Without Feeling Awkward 

 

Find up more and sign up at https://www.carlamillertraining.com/womenleading  

 

About Ellie 

 

 Ellie Rich-Poole is a Career Development Coach. She helps leaders find their perfect role and be brilliant in it, by playing to their strengths. She goes on the journey with them as a supporter and challenger to help them get to action and get results, particularly at times of transition. 

 

She has over 25 years’ experience in HR, Recruitment and Head-hunting. She founded her business in 2016 to inspire and support others with their career development. 

 

She enjoys leading group sessions and speaks on a range of career topics including ’12 ways to take control of your career’, ‘Learn to Love LinkedIn’ and ‘Stop hiding, start Networking.’ 

 

She supports a range of DEI focused organisations as an Interview Coach, a Mentor and a Career Accelerator programme lead. She is the Chief Ambassador for Girls Friendly Society (GFS) a charity working with girls in the UK’s least privileged areas. She is passionate about helping individuals achieve their potential. 

 

Ellie is a Mental Health First Aider and has lived experience of pre and postnatal anxiety. 


 

She understands the challenges of managing a career and a family. 

Ellie has lived and worked in the UK, Germany, Chile and Singapore and enjoys 

supporting globally minded individuals and organisations, and making new friends. 

 

She has studied at both Durham and Oxford University, and is an International Coaching Federation PCC level Coach. She is a Strengths Profile and Insights Discovery Practitioner. LinkedIn named her a LinkedIn ‘Top Voice’ for Careers in 2022. 

 

https://www.ellierichpoole.com/organisations/  

https://www.linkedin.com/in/ellierichpoole/  

 

 

 

 

In this week’s episode leadership coach Jennifer McCanna and I are answering your questions about dealing with difficult relationships in the workplace.
We discuss…
How to stop harsh feedback from impacting your confidence How to talk to your line manager when you’re struggling to work with a colleague Your expectations of your line manager and what to do when they aren’t being met Jen’s ‘What Next Wheel’ – a tool that helps you respond rather than react in tricky influencing situations  
This is the Influence & Impact podcast for women leaders, helping you confidently navigate the ups and downs of leadership and feel less alone on your journey as a leader.
 
My name’s Carla Miller, I’ve been coaching leaders for the past 15 years and I’m your leadership bestie.  I’m here to remind you of the value to bring to your organisation, to help believe in yourself and to share practical tools and insights from myself and my brilliant guests that will help you succeed in your career.
 
I’ve just launched Women Leading – a community to help you lead without overwhelm.  It offers peer support calls, group coaching calls, regular menopause events and a live leadership and wellbeing workshop each month on topics including…
How to Say No Managing an Overwhelmed Team How and When to Coach Your Team Reducing Drama in your Team Giving Feedback Without Feeling Awkward  
Find up more and sign up at https://www.carlamillertraining.com/womenleading
 
About Jennifer
Jen is sought after as a leadership coach who helps clients overcome even the most horrible work challenges, helping them rebuild their confidence and self-belief and realise their ambition. She supports clients to manage their energy and navigate their emotions so they can feel calm and resourceful at work.
 
Not only an experienced coach with the international coaching federation, Jen is a emotional freedom technique (EFT) practitioner, leadership development expert and valued member of the Women Leading faculty!
 
She works with clients across the charity, corporate and public sectors including the UK’s Department for Education, Oxfam, HSBC, Sheffield City Council, Pancreatic Cancer UK and hundreds of small charities delivering services across the country.
 
Ever experienced a toxic work relationship, badly handled restructure or the challenge of an HR process which rumbles on and on? Feel it knocked you for six a bit? Then Jen is your coach! In life before coaching Jen managed high profile fundraising events and diverse teams of fundraisers so she knows first hand the influencing skills, self awareness and sense of humour needed to lead a team within an organisation.
 
Jen has so many valuable resources on her website including Coffee Break
Coaching which includes 5 great exercises – everything to increase your insight
about someone you’re struggling to build a relationship with, to a reflection for the rubbish days when you just need to feel a notch better to find the motivation to get on with things.
 
Website:  mccannacoaching.co.uk
You can follow her on LinkedIn Jennifer McCanna 
And on Instagram (@jen_the_leadership_coach)