Interview by Damian Andrews of SHAIR.care: What it means to be a man (1‪)‬ The Sex, Porn & Love Addiction Podcast

What is Man-ness?
There is still a caveman instinct inside of us as men. Has the image got distorted as men try to metamorphize ourselves to fit what society tells us a man should be. Trying to fit what we are really not, is hard work. At some point there may be an increased desire to self-soothe and escape into cyberworld for a while – using sex, porn and/or other compulsive behaviours. Consider this poem:
Children Learn What They Live by Dorothy Law Nolte
If a child lives with criticism, he [she] learns to condemn.
If a child lives with hostility, he [she] learns to fight.
If a child lives with ridicule, he [she] learns to be shy.
If a child lives with shame, he [she] learns to feel guilty.
If a child lives with tolerance, he [she] learns to be patient.
If a child lives with encouragement, he [she] learns confidence.
If a child lives with praise, he [she] learns to appreciate.
If a child lives with fairness, he [she] learns justice.
If a child lives with security, he [she] learns to have faith.
If a child lives with approval, he [she] learns to like himself [herself].
If a child lives with acceptance and friendship, he [she] learns to find love in the world.

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