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This is a safe space to present questions and have a casual dialogue about life. I am not your expert. Only you can be that. Here, we share our triumphs and challenges together as we embrace all of our humanness, and address the real problems everyday people face.

“Is That SOO?” is a double entendre, in that it has two meanings. “Is That SOO?” represents the School of Outliers and the practice of equanimity, or the practice of developing inner peace.

This show invites on Guests who have made a practice of embracing their Shadows, or painful points of our life that led to limiting beliefs, and emerged with a more intimate relationship with their authentic parts of beingness. We invite you to a seat at our table if you move in love and are about Living In Truth, or being L.I.T. for life.

"Is That SOO?" with the Nocturnal Therapist Harry Turner

    • Health & Fitness
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This is a safe space to present questions and have a casual dialogue about life. I am not your expert. Only you can be that. Here, we share our triumphs and challenges together as we embrace all of our humanness, and address the real problems everyday people face.

“Is That SOO?” is a double entendre, in that it has two meanings. “Is That SOO?” represents the School of Outliers and the practice of equanimity, or the practice of developing inner peace.

This show invites on Guests who have made a practice of embracing their Shadows, or painful points of our life that led to limiting beliefs, and emerged with a more intimate relationship with their authentic parts of beingness. We invite you to a seat at our table if you move in love and are about Living In Truth, or being L.I.T. for life.

    Start Fresh with Felicia Miller Johnson

    Start Fresh with Felicia Miller Johnson

    IS THAT SOO presents, "Friday Night Enlightenments" with one of our very special guests from Season 2, Felicia Miller Johnson, Intuitive Life Coach and Webcaster. In the final episode of this mini-series we talk about how you can start fresh, regardless of where you are in life or what you aspire to do. We break down what keeps us stuck, and how we can make new choices to move forward and lead a life of authenticity.

    Connect with Felicia: LinkedIn | Facebook | Website

    Felicia's Book: Do you feel like a fraud?: A certified life coach's guide to help you recognize and overcome impostor syndrome

    Connect with Harry: LinkedIn | Facebook | Instagram

    Start your Journey: becomeanoutlier.com/links

    Episode Highlights:
    04:15 - What does a "fresh start" actually mean?

    "I don't believe in fresh starts because every moment is fresh, I believe in fresh choices."

    "If we're gonna make new choices, a fresh start, and you're trying to create a new pathway, then that you got to do something different than what you did before, which requires you to go into the unknown or the uncertain."

    08:30 - How can someone make a fresh start when it comes to relationships?

    "When we accept where we are currently, then we understand that those choices that we made in the past, they've had expiration dates... And we haven't updated the software of our system, being our mind, to understand where we are at this present time."

     12:15 - Why making new choices feels so hard 

    "We've created rules around how to behave that keep us locked in a certain pattern."

    13:13 - Saying goodbye to our old stories

    "When you're talking about how to say goodbye, what you're referring to is attachment... It is the nature of the mind to attach itself to things if we stare at it long enough."

    16:52 - Fresh starts can arise from unexpected opportunities 

    "I know that when a crisis happens, the symbolic representation of a crisis is a combination of the words: danger, and opportunity. So even though I was afraid... I lean into that discomfort and decided to do what I could do."

    "That's sometimes how people get to a fresh start, is something happens in their life, that exposes them to something different."

    20:45 - What keeps us stuck 

    "When you look at mental health, you can see mental rigidity across the board and all mental health disorders."

    23:11- Why we're afraid to take risks and do things differently

    "The thing about imposter syndrome is, underneath all of that is that most people experience imposter syndrome are really successful. They just deny this success. They don't own it. They disregard it."

    "I know you want to protect me and have the reservation so I can be safe. But I am going forth into this next expansion of what I need to go into."

    28:24 - Harry breaks down 'intentionality reflects relationship'

    "Everything is energy. And wherever you pour your awareness, your energy, wherever attention goes, energy flows."

    "We are always in the process of creating and even indecision is a decision within itself, because when we are indecisive, we choose to remain in the familiar past."

    30:25 - How to go after your dream, regardless of what it is

    "All I need to do is let life know I'm gonna continue to respond to this. And I will not stop responding to that, until I experience what it is that I chose and life will honor that."

     

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    Keywords: imposter syndrome, people, life, fresh, understand, choices, created, person, discomfort, podcast, mind, oscillate, flow, talk, continue, connected, frequency

    • 46 min
    Create Your Own Luck with Felicia Miller Johnson

    Create Your Own Luck with Felicia Miller Johnson

    IS THAT SOO presents, "Friday Night Enlightenments" with one of our very special guests from Season 2, Felicia Miller Johnson, Intuitive Life Coach and Webcaster. In part 2 of this mini-series, we explore the concept of "luck", universal laws, and how we can manifest the experiences we desire. We discuss why it's important to develop a plan of approach to life, and how we can stay open to opportunity and live with intention. 

    Connect with Felicia: LinkedIn | Facebook | Website

    Connect with Harry: LinkedIn | Facebook | Instagram

    Start your Journey: becomeanoutlier.com/links

     
    Episode Highlights
    2:02 - About the crystal that inspired this week's theme, Green Aventurine

    "Simply by changing your energy, you have the power to shape your own fate. The first step is to align your thoughts, beliefs, in energy with that of what you want."

    3:31 - Harry's thoughts on luck

    "I'm not lucky, any successes people see in me is because I've been unreasonable. I have not settled for what other people say is reasonable for me, because that's what we deem to be reasonable in the first place."

    5:59 - What does "luck" actually mean?

    "When we don't understand that thing, we chalk it up to superstition. And no matter how brilliant the human mind is, we can't contemplate the way that life moves. I mean, it moves in mysterious ways."

    8:13 - Creating our own luck when it comes to job interviews

    "Ask those powerful questions, so you don't feel as though that you just got lucky in a position."

     11:47 - Abundance, universal laws and showing up 

    "A life of authenticity is the life of skillfully practicing living through your values. It's skill building, it's practicing, it's choosing every single moment, and every single day."

    16:22 - Staying open to opportunity

    "Know that that experience, the thrill, the excitement, the life that you want to experience, that you can experience that in different ways doesn't have to look the way that you expected it to look or the way that you want it to look. But you have to be open."

    19:31 - Using green aventurine to invite luck into our lives and connect with what we really want.

    "That's really the luck that it's talking about, which, for me, is life conspired in your favor. You move intentionally,"

     23:01 - Life conspires in our favor when we align with our truth

    "We wouldn't be as intentional as we are, if we didn't have faith in ourselves that we could experience exactly what it is that we chose to experience for ourselves. Life loves that."

     26:10 - Felicia closes with practice for manifestation

    "There's a power in the magic to when you take what it is that you want. And then you write that down. And then you think about that."

    If you loved this episode, please be sure to leave us a review and share with someone else who might find it enlightening. 

    Agape

     

    Keywords: people, life, luck, talking, conspiring, opportunities, love, universal laws, create, understand, interviews, lucky, unreasonable, seeking, open, green, doors, actions

    • 31 min
    Go With The Flow with Felicia Miller Johnson

    Go With The Flow with Felicia Miller Johnson

    IS THAT SOO presents, "Friday Night Enlightenments" with one of our very special guests from Season 2, Felicia Miller Johnson, Intuitive Life Coach and Webcaster. In this mini-series, we talk about living authentically and discuss what causes us to feel attached to an outcome. We explore what could result if we became more flexible, and how we can show up to meet unexpected changes. Harry closes off Part 1 with a relaxing meditation to help you go with the flow.

    Connect with Felicia: LinkedIn | Facebook | Website

    Connect with Harry: LinkedIn | Facebook | Instagram

    Start your Journey: becomeanoutlier.com/links

     

     Highlights 
    01:22 - What does it mean to go with the flow?

    "We want perfection, but then we have to let go of that illusion of perfection, because our perfectionism is no more than this illusion that we have to change something about ourselves in order to belong."

    03:55 - How mental rigidity prevents us from adapting

    "As Einstein said tomorrow's problems can't be solved with today's thinking, how are we evolving? What are we doing to be intentionally purposeful about evolving and growing with this new present moment and its demands?"

    05:11 - What causes someone to feel attached to an outcome?

    "Wherever attention goes, energy flows wherever you place your awareness that that's where you are."

    08:37 - What does it mean to transmute, transform and transcend?

    "In that moment where you choose to lean into your discomfort, and you choose to go through it, that's you beginning that process of that coal becoming a diamond."

     11:35 - What becomes possible when we are more flexible?

    "Too many of us are still holding on to the old 'I ams' and won't let it go because we're too rigid. So cognitive flexibility, from a scientific standpoint, it allows you to adapt to change, it makes you the fittest."

    15:26 - How can we show up to meet unexpected changes? 

    "All that, maybe is to be able to free up space and capacity for you to be allowing that individual to go and explore, and come up and let new people come into their life versus you leaving somebody behind."

    21:33 - Using Aquamarine for healing, meditation, and opening the throat chakra

    "The throat chakra has much to do with our true authentic voice where faith and understanding combine... when the throat chakra is in harmony, we speak our truth where we say what we mean and mean what we say. We express ourselves easily, creatively and authentically."

    25:03 - Why speaking our truth is not always easy

    "The task of being authentic, it's not about doing it easy... It's about doing it anyway."

    27:21 - Harry closes off with a "54321" Meditation

    "Oftentimes, I say you must experience the experience in order to experience it. You don't have to physically move anywhere."

    If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to leave us a review wherever you listen to podcasts and share it with a friend.

    Agape

    Keywords: meditation, flow, aquamarine, throat chakra, adapt, understand, space, feel, alignment, place, synchronicity, moment, attention, true, liminal space, flexibility

    • 39 min
    How To Attract Your Soulmate & A Love You Deserve - Part III

    How To Attract Your Soulmate & A Love You Deserve - Part III

    Are you putting out the right energy to attract the love you deserve? We've got a very special guest, Nicole Sublette, returning to the show to discuss the energetics of love, and how you can attract your soulmate into your life in this 3-part series.

    Nicole is a licensed clinical counsellor, certified hypnotherapist, reiki master, integrative medicine provider, and a doctoral candidate in bioenergetic medicine. She is also an empowerment coach who supports women with being their best versions of themselves, specifically, healing from toxic relationships.

    In Part 3, we discuss...

    00:25 - Being deserving of love

    "When we go through situations, especially challenging ones, we tend to judge ourselves based off of these situations, which is not the act of love at all."

    01:45 - The energy of love

    "So to attract love in your life, it's important that you look at your energetic alignment, and you look at your aura in your ask yourself, Am I embodying that energy of love?"

    03:10 - Fear, expectations and recognizing our own needs

    "We often tend to place a series of expectations... outcomes and desires as to what we want, how we want the other person to be, how we want the other person to show up. And then when that doesn't work out, that way, we then name it as unloving."

    05:32 - Getting in tune with the vibration of love

    "Love places no conditions on us, we don't have to be a certain kind of way, you know, to to be deserving of love... love is and it accepts us as is."

    09:05 - Raising your frequency to become magnetic

    "The longer that you stare into that space, the longer that you stand in that room of higher vibrations, the more that you are refueling in energetically aligning your energetic field your aura to that vibration of love. Because whatever we stare at becomes a reality because perception is reality."

    11:44 - Cognitive flexibility

    "When you begin to identify these mechanisms that the inner critic use to keep us safe... we begin to understand that that awareness is key - key to being liberated from our own biological built in defense mechanism of deception."

    13:59 - Healing ourselves so we can show up fully for others

    "It's hard to show up for someone else, when you don't know how to show up for yourself. And then we can ask ourselves, How can we give of ourselves when we don't think that we're anything worth giving?"

    20:45 - Radical acceptance

    "So if we're practicing those resonant states of love, peace, joy and gratitude, we can really move through any space, any relationship. It doesn't mean that it's going to always be easy, it doesn't mean that we're not going to face difficulties. But what it does mean is that we can move through these spaces with increased resiliency, increased openness and increased compassion. And that ultimately, what we find is that all that we desire to experience is that we can truly align with that within ourselves."

     23:24 - The true gift of love

     

    Connect with Nicole: Facebook | Instagram

    www.BecomingGoddess.comwww.NicoleSubletteCounseling.com

    Connect with Harry: LinkedIn | Facebook | Instagram

    www.becomeanoutlier.com/links 

    Keywords: people, fear, practicing, love, state, relationship, understand, compassion, experience, thought, emotion, person, energy, trigger, space, represents, vibration

    • 48 min
    How To Attract Your Soulmate & A Love You Deserve - Part II

    How To Attract Your Soulmate & A Love You Deserve - Part II

    Are you putting out the right energy to attract the love you deserve? Last week we dove deep into the importance of self-love and doing the inner work. We're joined again by Nicole Sublette, a licensed clinical counsellor, certified hypnotherapist, reiki master, integrative medicine provider, and a doctoral candidate in bioenergetic medicine. She is also an empowerment coach who supports women with being their best versions of themselves, specifically, healing from toxic relationships.

    In Part 2, we discuss...

    04:34 - Understanding internalized oppression

    "Understand that when it comes down to being loving towards yourself, and that you have to also love those things that you yourself have deemed as unlovable."

    06:26 - The psychology of fear-based thinking

    "At the top of that, when the oppressor has done its job is for the person to instantly shame themselves oppress themselves and think that it is a them thing. But it's actually part of the system... a lot of things that we have been conditioned to are not love based, but indeed rather fear based."

    09:54 - Recognizing & healing generational patterns

    "Part of loving is to one is to identify some of the patterns that we have in our families... or that our caretakers gave to us, and it's looking at those patterns and looking at what patterns are conducive towards our health, and our vibrancy, and what patterns actually take away from us."

    12:55 - Why we might feel unlovable

    "If you can't accept love from yourself, how can you ever expect to accept love from anybody else? You see, whenever we fall into this pattern of compulsively seeking love from the outside, that is a representation of a lack of love from the inside, but we can't meet our needs from the outside. That is an inner world problem, not an outer world problem."

    18:33 - Subconscious conditioning & projecting

    "And what we're actually doing is, there is actually an issue within us that we're seeing reflected in another. And that's why it triggers us that's why irritates us. And that's why it upsets us."

    21:50 - What to do when you're triggered

    "Oftentimes, when we're triggered in a relationship, we're not even actually responding and present moment, oftentimes, we're responding in past moments, we're actually living in the past."

    26:40 - How cognitive flexibility can help us develop confidence

    "A big part of connection is being emotionally intelligent enough, to be confident enough, to navigate during situations. Confidence is this ability to engage in connection, engage in relationships, knowing that you may stumble along the way but still have the confidence that anything that's damaged can be repaired."

    29:04 - Experiencing a state of self-love 

    "Self love is not necessarily a conscious way of thinking, it is a subconscious way of thinking. And it's also, most importantly, it is a way of feeling, and it is a way of being."

    32:04 - How to effectively practice affirmations to manifest love

    "The subconscious mind is incredibly powerful, and it will accept pretty much any truth or image that you submit to it without question. But you must act, you must be able to align these vibrations of love and you must affirm your reality of love if you plan on attracting love."

    40:30 - Navigating expectations and finding our truth

    "Every relationship, every relationship, not just romantic, is an opportunity for learning. It's an opportunity for growth. And it is an opportunity for us to learn about ourselves.

    44:14 - The illusion of expectations

    "Understand that to expect is to wait or anticipate to wait with anticipation. And if you're waiting for anticipation, for a specific outcome, that no doubt will lead to anxiety, or the bodily experience of fear."

     

    Connect with Nicole: Facebook | Instagram

    www.BecomingGoddess.comwww.NicoleSubletteCounseling.com

    Connect with Harry: LinkedIn | Facebook | Instagram

    www.becomeanoutlier.com/links 

     

    Keywords: affirmations, love, expecta

    • 56 min
    How To Attract Your Soulmate & A Love You Deserve - Part I

    How To Attract Your Soulmate & A Love You Deserve - Part I

    Are you putting out the right energy to attract the love you deserve? We've got a very special guest, Nicole Sublette, returning to the show to discuss the energetics of love, and how you can attract your soulmate into your life in this 3-part series.

    Nicole is a licensed clinical counsellor, certified hypnotherapist, reiki master, integrative medicine provider, and a doctoral candidate in bioenergetic medicine. She is also an empowerment coach who supports women with being their best versions of themselves, specifically, healing from toxic relationships.

    In Part 1, we discuss...

    01:38 - What is a soulmate?

    "A soulmate is one of those collisions that then serve as a catalyst ultimately for you to transform maybe physically, mentally, as well as spiritually..."

    03:44 - The first step of manifesting love

    "Because if we just go blindly, and we don't really know what we want, then we're going to attract anything in because the thing is, we're people, and we're magnetic ... we're constantly attracting things, we're attracting in the good, we're attracting the bad, the positive and the negative. So we have to be super conscious about our intentions."

    05:08 - It starts with Self

    "All of us have to begin with an aura alignment, energetic alignment. What we understand who we are as energetic beings, and then understand what it is that we are attracting based off of who we are."

    07:36 - Understanding our addition to safety

    "If we don't feel safe in a connection, that may not be because of that connection. It may be because that pain, that discomfort is there to make us aware of something that is unresolved within us, because we could be living in the present but still existing in the past."

    08:52 - Healing unresolved trauma

    "Step one for us to really attract what we desire, is that we need to match the frequency of what we desire. So we need to match the frequency of love."

    10:34 - The loneliness epidemic & vulnerability

    "Many of us are experiencing excruciating loneliness; understand that there's a difference between the physical state of being alone and loneliness. Loneliness is an experience and emotional experience, typically, but the alone is a physical state of being and so many of us are experiencing loneliness in spite of be even being in crowds."

    14:20 - Our past creates our patterns

    "When we have what is called adverse childhood experiences, we can have disrupted attachment. And we can learn false views about ourselves at a very young age."

    18:44 - Dealing with repressed emotions

    "When we repress it, that energy still continues in motion, but in ways that are unconscious and unseen to us. And this is why many of us or some of us may struggle with with having connections or maintaining connections."

    22:47 - Getting into energetic alignment

    "When we're working with someone on this level, they can serve as mirrors, and they can help us even identify the blind spots we have, they can help us identify if we're moving into the repeating the same cycles, unknowingly."

    27:35 - The process of S.H.I.I.T

    "That's just one of the mechanisms that I put together to help people understand that, really, we do have to analyze our thoughts, we have to think about our thoughts. Awareness is key ignorance and freedom can't coexist."

    29:02 - Fill your cup first

    "When we are like a fire, like a bonfire and we're illuminated, we can actually spread our light to the world when we're feeling diminished and depleted, then we're only offering sparks."

    33:27 - Responding from love over fear

    "And the moment that you realize that you're attracting takers, know that when you change that behavior I've given them take is gonna leave where they need to leave, they need to leave because they're not aligned with you."

    36:47 - The illusion of lack 

    "We live in an illusion of incompleteness. And so we often seek relationships outside of us to validate ourselves."

    39:24 - Intentionality reflects relationship

    "First, thought.

    • 48 min

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