It's Gemma Speaking

Gemma Matin

0.0 (0)
RELATIONSHIPS

A podcast where we speak about healing relationships, and how to create the space for more love, joy, and peace in our lives, Gemma is a trauma & healing informed practitioner whose work is underpinned by neuroscience, psychology, and spiritual principles that enable clients to heal and release anxiety and trauma at the deepest level for lasting change.

SEP 5

Why Silence Feels Like Rejection

🎉 Join the LIVE Masterclass: Secure Love, release anxiety and attract secure love that feels like home: https://gemmamatin.co.uk/home-to-secure-love/ 📲 Connect on Instagram @itsgemmamatin 📚 Grab a copy of my book [FREE copy available in pre-launch only]: The Monday to Friday Principle: https://gemmamatin.co.uk/the-monday-to-friday-principle-book ♥️ 1:1 Coaching & Subconscious Healing Details here: https://gemmamatin.thrivecart.com/one-to-one/ 🔗 Share: If this episode resonates, please feel free to share it with someone you think would like to hear it too. 💌 Say hello: drop me an email: hello@gemmamatin.com to share your thoughts and take aways from the show, and feel free to ask any questions you may have, I’ll try my best to answer them on the next episode. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ In this episode I’m answering questions on: why silence feels like rejection Whether you’re dating or in a relationship, being met with silence — a delayed text, no reply, or no call back — can trigger a powerful emotional response. Suddenly your mind spirals with worst-case scenarios, and you sacrifice your sleep, focus at work, and peace of mind over one simple text. WHY?! In this episode, I unpack why silence can feel so overwhelming and how to break free from the spiral so you can return to calm. We explore: · Why high-achieving, confident women feel completely undone by early dating dynamics. · The difference between constant communication (dopamine hits) and consistent communication (emotional safety). · How dopamine circuits, attachment wounds, and subconscious fears fuel the spiral when someone doesn’t reply. · Why silence activates the fight–flight–freeze response in your nervous system. · How subconscious fears of abandonment and rejection from childhood or past relationships get projected into dating today. · Practical ways to release anxiety and communicate your needs with calm confidence. Questions answered in this episode: 1. Why do confident, successful women spiral in early dating dynamics when replies are delayed? 2. Why does silence or a delayed reply trigger such a strong fight-or-flight response in the body? 3. How do subconscious fears of abandonment and rejection from past experiences project into new dating situations? If this resonates with you, I’m also hosting a live masterclass on Secure Love in September, where I’ll guide you through one powerful subconscious shift to release anxiety and find calm, so you can attract secure love that feels like home. The link is in the show notes and in my Instagram bio.

16 min
JUL 22

How Not to be Ghosted: Red Flags, Triggers & Closure

Ghosting is one of the most confusing and painful experiences when dating—and yet it’s become so ANNOYINGLY common. In this episode, we explore the emotional, energetic, and subconscious layers behind ghosting so you can close the loop with clarity and protect your peace. Whether you’re actively dating or navigating attachment trauma, this episode is for you. 🎙️ Episode 8: How Not to be Ghosted: Red Flags, Nervous Systems Triggers, and the Power of Closure I’m speaking on: · Why ghosting hurts – if you've ever spiralled after being ghosted, you'll learn how this activates your abandonment wound and dysregulates your nervous system. · The psychology behind ghosting – we explore why emotionally unavailable people ghost and how to recognise it before it happens 🧠 · How to close the energetic loop (without closure) – we break down healing practices to reclaim your peace, get closure, and stop holding space for someone who’s not choosing you 🔋 · Red flags to watch for early on – learn how to spot inconsistency, false intimacy, and subtle emotional unavailability so that you can avoid investing in someone who isn’t aligned with your higher vision for love 🚩 · How to respond with compassion—not chaos –break the cycle and lead with emotional maturity 🌿 This episode is relevant for anyone navigating dating anxiety or attachment trauma 💔 Ghosting SUCKS - it’s time to break the cycle and protect your own peace. The love you’re seeking is on its way to you my love, but you need to heal the past patterns that are keeping you in the cycles that are attracting emotionally unavailable partners. It starts with you 🫶🏼 ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ 📲 Connect on Instagram @itsgemmamatin 📚 Grab a copy of my book [FREE copy available in pre-launch only]: The Monday to Friday Principle: https://gemmamatin.co.uk/the-monday-to-friday-principle-book ♥️ 1:1 Coaching & Subconscious Healing Details here: https://gemmamatin.thrivecart.com/one-to-one/ Book a free consultation call here: https://calendly.com/gemma-matin/consultation-call 🔗 Share: If this episode resonates, please feel free to share it with someone you think would like to hear it too. 💌 Say hello: drop me an email: hello@gemmamatin.com to share your thoughts and take aways from the show, and feel free to ask any questions you may have, I’ll try my best to answer them on the next episode.

33 min
JUN 25

Letting Go: Heal Your Heart & Move On

In this powerful episode, you’ll be guided through the very real, raw experience of the letting go process when you've left a relationship or someone you've dated — especially when there’s chemistry, deep emotional connection, and confusing push-pull dynamics that leave you hurting but still attached. You’ll learn why it’s so hard to let go — especially when attachment trauma and anxious-avoidant dynamics are involved — and how your subconscious is often chasing what feels familiar, not what’s healthy. This episode guides you through five essential steps to help you grieve, ground yourself, and begin your healing journey, including: How to feel your emotions fully without being consumed by them 🫶🏼Why your nervous system struggles to let go, and how to regulate 🌳Practical tools to prioritize your peace in everyday life 🕊️How subconscious reprogramming heals the real root of heartbreak ♥️Reflective questions to help you stop settling and start choosing you 🪞You don’t have to keep repeating the same cycles in love. You’re allowed to let go — not just of the person, but of the version of you that believed you weren’t worthy of more. This episode is your reminder: the love you seek starts with how deeply you choose yourself, time and time again, my love. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ 📲 Connect on Instagram @itsgemmamatin 📚 Grab a copy of my book [FREE copy available in pre-launch only]: The Monday to Friday Principle: https://gemmamatin.co.uk/the-monday-to-friday-principle-book ♥️ 1:1 Coaching & Subconscious Healing Details here: https://gemmamatin.thrivecart.com/one-to-one/ Book a free consultation call here: https://calendly.com/gemma-matin/consultation-call 🔗 Share: If this episode resonates, please feel free to share it with someone you think would like to hear it too. 💌 Say hello: drop me an email: hello@gemmamatin.com to share your thoughts and take aways from the show, and feel free to ask any questions you may have, I’ll try my best to answer them on the next episode.

22 min
JUN 17

In The Arena with Avoidant Attachment: Part 2 of 2

Choosing Peace Over Potential and Walking Away I’m diving deeper into avoidant attachment dynamics, and the power of choosing yourself in the process. If you’ve ever felt stuck in a confusing push/pull connection, or valuing them above you, this episode is for you. You'll learn: How attachment styles are formed and how they can shift through conscious learning and subconscious healing.Why avoidant partners aren't “bad” — and how their behaviour often reflects unhealed trauma.What it really means to walk away when someone isn’t emotionally available — and how to reclaim your self-worth.The mindset shift I needed to walk away from an avoidant partner.Why choosing peace isn’t about giving up — it’s breaking a generational pattern of emotional unavailability.This episode is a must-listen if you’re:Navigating heartbreak from an anxious-avoidant dynamic 🧲Working to become more secure in your attachment ❤️Committed to showing up as a safe space for yourself and your future relationships 🕊️This is about becoming the heroine in your own story—especially when it hurts—and creating a new emotional legacy for yourself and for your own children. 👑 You’re holding the family heirloom, my love. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ 📲 Connect on Instagram @itsgemmamatin 📚 Grab a copy of my book [FREE copy available in pre-launch only]: The Monday to Friday Principle: https://mailchi.mp/gemmamatin.com/book ♥️ 1:1 Coaching & Subconscious Healing Details here: https://gemmamatin.thrivecart.com/one-to-one/ Book a free consultation call: email me with the word “healing” in the subject on: hello@gemmamatin.com or the same via DM’s on Instagram @itsgemmamatin 🔗 Share: If this episode resonates, please feel free to share it with someone you think would like to hear it too. 🌟 Review: Please take a moment to leave a star review or drop me an email to share your thoughts and take aways on the show – I really appreciate reading them!

20 min
JUN 2

Empowered Vulnerability: Communicating Needs EARLY In Dating

This week’s episode is a raw and empowering one — I'm taking you behind the scenes of some recent dating dynamics I’ve experienced and the lessons that emerged from communicating my needs in real-time, early on in dating. We often associate “communicating our needs” with being in a relationship. But what about when we’re dating? I share real-life stories of: Navigating a push-pull dynamic with an avoidant partner (and how it reactivated an old fear of abandonment).Sending empowered, respectful messages to close energetic loops.The surprising difference between fearing someone else abandoning you… and the much deeper fear of abandoning yourself.Why dating multiple people with clarity and respect is okay – and how to do it right.How consistency and communication are the markers of aligned connection.This episode is a gentle call to action — to stop performing the “cool girl” role and start honouring your truth. Because you deserve to be met, seen, and valued from the very beginning. 💌 Topics we explore: How avoidant partners can trigger anxious attachment patternsMy personal texting boundary and why it mattersSelf-reflection questions when fears resurfaceThe right way to express disinterest without ghostingWhy clear communication inspires men🎧 Tune in to hear the exact scripts I used, the behind-the-scenes of these dynamics, and how I returned home to myself — again and again. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ 📲 Connect on Instagram @itsgemmamatin 📚 Grab a copy of my book [FREE copy available in pre-launch only]: The Monday to Friday Principle: https://mailchi.mp/gemmamatin.com/book ♥️ 1:1 Coaching & Subconscious Healing Details here: https://gemmamatin.thrivecart.com/one-to-one/ Book a free consultation call here: https://calendly.com/gemma-matin/consultation-call 🔗 Share: If this episode resonates, please feel free to share it with someone you think would like to hear it too. 🌟 Review: Please take a moment to leave a review, share your thoughts, take aways, and reviews on the show – I really appreciate reading them!

23 min
JUN 2

In The Arena With Avoidant Attachment: Part 1 of 2

This episode is one of the most personal and transformative ones I’ve recorded yet. I’m talking about the difference between chemistry and compatibility—and why understanding the two could change everything in your love life. I share an honest story of a recent dating experience that triggered my old attachment wounds, and how I navigated it through subconscious healing and the work I teach from The Monday to Friday Principle™️ We dive into: How avoidant attachment styles often stem from childhood experiences and how they show up in adult relationshipsThe difference between a trauma bond and compatibilityWhy chemistry can feel so intense but still be rooted in unmet needs, not genuine alignmentMy process of staying open to connection while choosing myselfThe power of energetic cord cutting and subconscious healingThe courage it takes to walk away when someone can’t meet you emotionallyThe importance of regulating your nervous system and the grief of letting goWhether you’re currently navigating a similar dynamic or reflecting on a past one, this episode is a loving invitation to choose yourself—while staying open to secure, healthy love. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ 📲 Connect on Instagram @itsgemmamatin 📚 Grab a copy of my book [FREE copy available in pre-launch only]: The Monday to Friday Principle: https://mailchi.mp/gemmamatin.com/book ♥️ 1:1 Coaching & Subconscious Healing Details here: https://gemmamatin.thrivecart.com/one-to-one/ Book a free consultation call here: https://calendly.com/gemma-matin/consultation-call 🔗 Share: If this episode resonates, please feel free to share it with someone you think would like to hear it too. 🌟 Review: Please take a moment to leave a review, share your thoughts, take aways, and reviews on the show – I really appreciate reading them! Bonus Journal Prompt: What does it look like for you to choose yourself while staying open to connection with someone else? As always, I love hearing from you—share your reflections or send me a message if this episode resonated.

22 min
MAY 29

Attachment or Alignment. What’s Motivating Your Dating Choices?

We explore the life changing magic of simply honouring “what feels good” for you —not just what feels familiar or easy. Through the lens of dating, we unpack how to stop outsourcing your value and start leading with aligned decisions, even when it feels uncomfortable. In this episode, you’ll hear how to: Do “what feels good” looks like when you’re dating someone new.Tell the difference between comfort based on familiarity vs. choices rooted in alignment with your relationship vision.Why we abandon ourselves in dating (and how to start choosing yourself without guilt or shame).Recognize if you’re outsourcing your worth in a relationship—and what it looks like to take your power back.How to be in a relationship and still choose yourself—and actually live that in practice.------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ 📲 Connect on Instagram @itsgemmamatin 📚 Grab a copy of my book [FREE copy available in pre-launch only]: The Monday to Friday Principle: https://mailchi.mp/gemmamatin.com/book ♥️ 1:1 Coaching & Subconscious Healing Details here: https://gemmamatin.thrivecart.com/one-to-one/ Book a free consultation call here: https://calendly.com/gemma-matin/consultation-call 🔗 Share: If this episode resonates, please feel free to share it with someone you think would like to hear it too. 🌟 Review: Please take a moment to leave a review, share your thoughts, take aways, and reviews on the show – I really appreciate reading them!

17 min
MAY 29

Healing Heartbreak & Choosing You

“She needed a hero, so that’s what she became” In today’s heartfelt episode, we explore the bravery it takes to choose yourself—especially when someone else isn’t choosing you—and the deeper emotional layers that often go unseen during a breakup. Whether you’re healing from a relationship, a dating experience, or simply ready to reclaim your worth, this episode is an empowering invitation to return to your truth—and to always choose yourself. In this episode, we unpack: · How childhood wounds shape our desire to feel "chosen" in adulthood · Why choosing yourself is the bravest act of self-love. · The link between emotional pain and self-sabotage and the role of the subconscious in healing heartbreak and unmet needs. · Masculine vs. feminine energy: the mask of protection and returning to your truth. · The transformational power of doing “the inner work” and becoming the heroine of your own story 🪞 ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ 📲 Connect on Instagram @itsgemmamatin 📚 Grab a copy of my book [FREE copy available in pre-launch only]: The Monday to Friday Principle: https://mailchi.mp/gemmamatin.com/book ♥️ 1:1 Coaching & Subconscious Healing Details here: https://gemmamatin.thrivecart.com/one-to-one/ Book a free consultation call here: https://calendly.com/gemma-matin/consultation-call 🔗 Share: If this episode resonates, please feel free to share it with someone you think would like to hear it too. 🌟 Review: Please take a moment to leave a review, share your thoughts, take aways, and reviews on the show – I really appreciate reading them!

17 min
MAY 29

Brave Women Cry: The 90 Second Practice For Emotional Healing

Many of us were never taught how to meet our emotional needs. Instead, we learned to numb, distract, or abandon ourselves to avoid pain. But what if the path to healing is just 90 seconds of bravery? Join me as I share a heartfelt episode reflecting on emotional self-soothing, subconscious patterns, and how our unmet childhood needs often shape our adult lives. We’ll dive into why it's so difficult to feel our feelings, what happens when we avoid them, and how you can begin to show up for yourself in the most loving way—even in moments of heartbreak or anxiety. In this episode, you’ll hear about: · Why we avoid emotional pain (and how it’s wired into our brains) · How childhood experiences shape the way we handle emotions as adults · The subtle ways self-abandonment can show up in everyday life · A simple 90-second practice to process emotions instead of suppressing them · How healing yourself creates a ripple effect for your relationships, your lineage, and even future generations 🤍 Gentle reminder: Brave women cry. Brave women feel. And brave women heal. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ 📲 Connect on Instagram @itsgemmamatin 📚 Grab a copy of my book [FREE copy available in pre-launch only]: The Monday to Friday Principle: https://mailchi.mp/gemmamatin.com/book ♥️ 1:1 Coaching & Subconscious Healing Details here: https://gemmamatin.thrivecart.com/one-to-one/ Book a free consultation call here: https://calendly.com/gemma-matin/consultation-call 🔗 Share: If this episode resonates, please feel free to share it with someone you think would like to hear it too. 🌟 Review: Please take a moment to leave a review, share your thoughts, take aways, and reviews on the show – I really appreciate reading them!

12 min

9 Episodes

A podcast where we speak about healing relationships, and how to create the space for more love, joy, and peace in our lives, Gemma is a trauma & healing informed practitioner whose work is underpinned by neuroscience, psychology, and spiritual principles that enable clients to heal and release anxiety and trauma at the deepest level for lasting change.

Creator

Gemma Matin
Years Active

2K
Episodes

9
Rating

Clean
Copyright

© Gemma Matin 2025
Show Website

It's Gemma Speaking