As a toxic relationship specialist my mission is to bring hope, healing, and FREEDOM to those whose lives have been affected by toxic relationships, emotional abuse, and narcissistic behaviors. Living and being in relationships that are not healthy for us can cause this type of abuse to be accepted as “normal”. TRUTH IS...ITS NOT NORMAL... ITS TOXIC! Having been in toxic relationships myself, I am now able to use my experience to guide those walking a similar path to my own. This podcast is dedicated to YOU so that you too can find peace & be free of relationships that are not healthy for you.
#215 Been There, Done it, Now Helping Others-(with Guests Kerry McAvoy Ph.D. & Tara Blair Ball)
Today I was able to speak with fellow podcast hosts to get their perspective on the toxic relationship when there are narcissistic behaviors present. Kerry McAvoy, Ph.D, a mental health clinician, & Tara Blair Ball, a certified relationship coach, together are the hosts of the podcast "Breaking free from Narcissistic Abuse".
The long term effects for those involved in toxic relationship are devastating. Those around you will not understand which will lead you to feel isolated to protect yourself. Kerry & Tara discuss how the brain changes when you are in relationships requiring survival from day to day. Why we see things differently than many and how to overcome the challenges that face us post toxic relationship. Some misconceptions about the toxic relationship are debunked giving some insight on how to heal yourself.
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#214 The Masks We Wear
Masking our personality is something that we all struggle with. It is easy to want to cover up who we really are around people who may not like us, around those who make us feel unsafe, or around those who we are threatened by. We change who we are in certain environments so our vulnerable ares and weaknesses do not show.
Why would we do this?
To gain approval/acceptance of others - To avoid conflict - To lessen fear - To gain love - To make others happy.
I am not pointing fingers at anyone because I myself had perfected the art of mask wearing when I found myself facing the shame of being in an emotionally abusive relationship for many years. I did not realize the damage that had been done to my emotional health until years later. In order to hide my past I began to wear masks to that I would not have to explain to others anything about the shame I felt. I am not sure that anyone knew the true Heidi for many many years.
What masks do you wear?
Want to know where to go next? What is the best thing to do first?
Click here and see how you are feeling right now and lets get started on throwing your masks out the window.
#213 Making Things Little is a Bigger Deal Than You Think
Why is it that with the toxic relationship comes the art of minimization? To minimize is to take significant things, either good or bad, and lessen the importance or degree of them. In a nutshell minimizing makes the good things seem not so good and the bad seem not so bad. When we learn to minimize in a unhealthy relationship it allows us to avoid dealing with our emotions and our feelings. Do you minimize the things you should be celebrating? Are you minimizing abusive behavior? Learning how the emotionally abusive relationship can change so much in us just out of our need to survive. If you want more information about my services go to:https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/
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#212 The Transformation Truth
Whether we like it or not transformations show up in our lives, sometimes at the most inconvenient times. We can fight them, but that will only make them last longer. The transformations in your life are there for a reason. We were not meant to stay the same person, we were meant to grow, to learn, to be our true self. With each transformation, even the painful ones, you will see that they are working for your good and for a place of higher peace in your life.
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#211 Let me Read You Your Rights!
Unhealthy relationships change us, rewire us, cause us to adapt in order to survive. Being in a longstanding toxic relationship changed my view of myself, my life, and the things that I deserved. I forgot that I was important too. I put all my energy in to making the relationship “feel” safe and in the end, I lost myself which doesn’t feel safe at all. We, as individuals have certain rights. You had them given to you the minute you were born, yet they seem to disappear when surviving each day becomes your focus. Listen to this episode to hear the things you are entitled to just for being a person. Most were lost for me, ignored, or forgotten during my time in an unhealthy relationship. This episode will remind you of those rights and possibly open your eyes to the reality that you have been unable to execute them. If you are looking for a list of the rights that were read in this episode you can either search “personal bill of rights” or follow this link: https://www.etsu.edu/students/counseling/documents/stressgps/personalbillofrights.pdf As always if you are looking for further support https://coachingwithdrheidi.com will get you to my website where you can schedule a session or join the membership support community where you will find the support to make the changes you did not think you could make.
#210 The Struggle After Leaving!
I direct people daily to specific podcast episodes they need to hear according to the situation they are in right now. Last week I featured the top episode for those seeking validation. This week I would like to suggest some to those who have made the choice for themselves to leave a relationship but who now may be struggling with self doubt or guilt. If you are feeling alone and uncomfortable now when you thought you were ready… it’s ok, it is normal to feel this way for a while. The following episodes may help explain why. If you feel you need more support you can always head over to my website and schedule a session with me I would be happy to support where I can. https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/consult-page You are not alone on this journey!
I never needed to hear something more than I needed right now
I just want to start off and say thank you I needed to sign I guess but I’ve been in and out of a toxic relationship. I’m pretty certain regardless what kind of title you want to put it I’m pretty certain my partner is very narcissistic. Tell that my father is very similar. It seems like it’s a pattern I go through of dating the wrong guys and trying to find that love I so much craved from my father. I never got his approval and so I searched and searched to find love. I’m on my self-love journey but at the same time I’m still stuck in limbo. I’m going back to the same guy who treats me like garbage everyone says just leave and block them but it’s, like losing a piece of yourself when you’ve been with them so long I guess with mine situation I feel like I’ve lost part of myself and someone told me going through a toxic relationship. It’s like you have to almost forget the person you was prior and start you’re not gonna be the same person when you leave a toxic relationshipdoesn’t mean you can’t be amazing person afterwards. Thank you for this amazing podcast. It really was an eye-opener for me.
Dr. Heidi has offered me a lifeline during one of the most difficult times of my life. Every time I felt confused or alone in my toxic relationship, I could listen to an episode and feel understood. She would bring back my conviction to improve life for myself and my children. With her inspiration and the help of her supportive Facebook group, I’ve been able to do what, at times, felt impossible. I am so thankful I came across this podcast and Dr. Heidi. I do believe it was a Divine intervention.
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It feels like Dr. Heidi knows exactly what you’re going through.