It’s Okay to Ask for Help Heart & Soul

It’s Okay to Ask for Help

Brother Solo Figueroa: Though we were weak at the time, though we may have been confused at that time. But when we made that prayer and we really ask God for that help, that specific help that we were looking for. He provided for us, right?

Shannon Santamaria: You know, Brother Solo you put it best asking for help from Him. And I think all of us can really take that advice and run with it, because it's the best kind of advice.

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Shannon: You’re listening to Heart And Soul, a podcast from the Iglesia Ni Cristo Church Of Christ. I’m one of your hosts, Shannon Santamaria, and it’s here where we have real conversations with friends who are helping each other reach the best version of themselves. This is Heart and Soul.

[Show intro]

Shannon: Hey, everyone, it's Shannon. And today I want to talk about how to effectively ask for help. And with me today, our host, Gretchen. Hey, Gretchen.

Gretchen Asuncion: Hey. 

Shannon: Nice to see you again.

Gretchen: Same to you

Shannon: And hey, McGill.

McGill Onate: What's up, Shannon?

Shannon: Hey. And of course, with us is the Minister of the Gospel Brothers Solo. Hi, Brother Solo.

Brother Solo: Hi sister Shannon. Hi, everyone. Thank you for having me.

Shannon: I'm so glad you're here with us. And I feel like you are the perfect person to ask for help in this podcast. Actually, you know I've actually had a lot of advice and I've openly asked for your help Brother Solo. Asking for help is a difficult thing to do because, you know, there are a lot of insecurities and maybe even, you know, I guess, vulnerability when it comes to asking for help, right Gretchen?

Gretchen: Yeah, definitely. It can sometimes be seen as a weakness because we are all empowered to be able to do it on our own.

Shannon: Right. Now McGill I want to know if you've ever had a moment where you, you know, struggled with asking for help, you know, whether it was in public or whether you were scared to ask for help from a friend. I know I've had my fair share of moments.

McGill: I'm 100% guilty of that. Like, I mean, I probably still am guilty about that today. You know, a lot of my mindset around nowadays is that I can do everything on my own. I'm okay. I'm strong. I don't really need another one's help. Or if I am going through problems, I can do things generally on my own. But I know thinking like that nowadays isn't the best way to think about things. But yeah, I've definitely been guilty about not asking for help when I definitely do need it.

 

Shannon: I know I remember I would keep things to myself because I thought, you know, asking for help isn't like—what you said, it wasn't the best option to do so. But, you know, I think when it comes to asking for help, it's also a sign of strength. I don't know if you guys would agree.

McGill: Yeah, no, I definitely agree with that because, going through my day-to-day life, I've noticed that it actually does take a lot of strength to ask to reach out. I know some of my other friends at Church, they have trouble reaching out and asking for help. It does take some strength. It does take—because you need to make yourself vulnerable, right?

In that situation, you have a problem going on and then reaching out and exposing these problems does make you vulnerable. Some people aren't comfortable with that, including myself. So yeah, it does take a lot of strength to actually do reach out to and ask for help.

Gretchen: But then there's a benefit in asking for help. You get that it almost alleviates whatever burden that help that you're asking for and knowing, you know, the ones that you could ask help from.