“Marriage shouldn’t be this hard.” “Now that we are family, we should be getting along but we aren’t.” “We are in this for the long haul, but I don’t know if the long haul is worth the struggles we are encountering.” Approximately 67 percent of what couples argue about never goes away. And the baggage they carry into the marriage never seems to lighten. A happy and healthy marriage can exist … but it takes some effort. Just because you checked the “married” box doesn’t mean the honeymoon phase will last forever effortlessly. Marriage and family are an active living process that continues for a lifetime. Jessica Topor, marriage and family therapist with The Center for Relationship and Sexual Health, shares insights about this form of psychotherapy that looks at the behaviors of all family members and the way these behaviors affect each person in the family as well as their relationships with each other and the family unit as a whole. Relationships will grow and change. If you have a common goal and stay focused on it, commitment - along with hard work - are the skills needed for building lifelong relationships.