Joyful Courage for Parenting Teens Casey O'Roarty
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The Joyful Courage for Parenting Teens Podcast is a place for inspiration, education and entertainment. You are not alone, the terrain of adolescence is messy... I am your host, Casey O'Roarty, and I am honored to get to share conversations with leading parenting experts about challenges that show up while we raise our kids. We don't hold back here - all topics are on the table. You will hear interviews and solo shows centering risky behavior such as substance use and sexual development, as well as convos that deep dive into development and nurturing relationship. If you love what you hear, leave a review! This helps others find the show. If you are looking for more, head over to my website www.besproutable.com/teens/ for more information about online and live classes. Thank you for listening!
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Resetting unhealthy screen time habits with Michael Jacobus
My guest today is Michael Jacobus, and we’re talking about unhealthy screen time, social media overuse, gaming addiction, and his Reset Summer Camp program.
Michael shares how his own son becoming addicted to video games and the lack of help & programs available inspired him to create Reset Summer Camp. We, as parents, did not know the Pandora’s Box we were opening when we first brought technology and social media into our homes. We end up feeling guilty and don’t know what to do. How and why would we? None of this was available when we were teens!
Michael posits that over half of the teens in the US have an issue with screen time, and he shares some recommendations for screen time at home (including when you get big, emotional reactions to new limits). I ask Michael how to first open up this conversation with your teen, how to best roll out social media to younger teens, and we wrap up agreeing that screen time usage is an issue that is truly universal and in every home.
Takeaways from the show
Gaming disorder is a real, diagnosable condition
Parents typically don’t know what to do about gaming disorder and other screen time addictions
Technology addiction or screen time addiction is a family problem
How do you differentiate between typical teen behavior and serious overuse of technology?
Checking your own screen time usage
Recommendations for screen time at home
The importance of good sleep
How to roll out social media to a young teen
Screen time is an issue in every household
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Positive Discipline concepts for the adolescent years
This week I am taking us back to the core concepts of PD. For some of you, it will be a review, for others, it will be no - no matter, this show is sure to take EVERYONE deeper in their thinking about how we be in relationships with our kids as they move through the season of adolescence.
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Endurance and evolution - The Art of Connected Parenting, part 6
Join Alanna Beebe, Julietta Skoog, & Casey O’Roarty, the three founders of Sproutable, as we dig deeper into finding the why of the work we do. This is the last episode of this limited series, and we’re excited to talk about leaning into perseverance. Parenting is messy! We’ve got to keep our growth mindset and get into the thick of it to build grit, resilience, and to evolve as parents.
Get in the ring with these kiddos. Engage! We’re not going to get it exactly right; it’s going to be messy, and that’s part of the work. So often, we just want to get back to comfort, and we use our easiest tools without a pause to see what the situation really called for. Kids need for us to be in discomfort with them, not fix it for them!
Alanna explains what mirror neurons are, where our empathy comes from, and why it’s so hard for us when our child(ren) are losing it. Casey digs into how our own history and inner-child affects our parenting, and Julietta shares what signals we need to keep our eyes open for.
We often talk about fostering a growth mindset in our children, but how do we lean into a grown mindset when it comes to our parenting style? This is real neuroscience, and everyone can grow and change. What do you do when something doesn’t work? What can you learn in those tough moments and the parenting mistakes? You are capable of this!
We wrap the Founders Series with a metaphor that we started with - how do we set our kids up for adulthood with a U-Haul full of tools instead of a U-Haul full of trauma? Kids don’t have to learn from painful experiences. We can teach life skills in a way that sets our child(ren) up with a loving, encouraging inner voice. We can be grateful for what we learned from our parents and still choose to parent differently.
Takeaways from the show:
Leaning into perseverance
Fine tuning our inner listening
What does this moment actually need?
Being uncomfortable with your child
Truly accepting your kids starts with acceptance of yourself
Mirror neurons & empathy
Growth mindset
Staying hopeful
“We choose the challenge.”
Assuming positive intent, explaining intention, and collaborating with your child
“You get to choose what’s hard.”
Setting our kids up with a U-Haul of tools, not a U-Haul of trauma
Gratitude for the lessons your parents taught you (and choosing to parent differently)
There’s never been a better time for a parenting revolution, and we’re gaining momentum & resources
Dignity & respect for all
Sproutable’s mission statement
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Teens, tweens and screens
Today I am attempting to have a conversation with listeners about the messiness being in relationship with our adolescents relationship with their screens. I know. It's so much - so annoying and not going anywhere and impossible and all the things. Or maybe you have it handled, if so shoot me a message and teach me your wisdom.
If you have a tween or a teen, my guess is that you have some opinions on this whole thing - listen in to today's show to hear my take.
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Dropping into the practice - The Art of Connected Parenting, part 5
Join Alanna Beebe, Julietta Skoog, & Casey O’Roarty, the three founders of Sproutable, as we dig deeper into finding the why of the work we do. This week, we’re talking about when we’re doing all “the right” parenting moves, but we’re STILL having challenges. Spoiler alert: the challenges will change, but there will always be challenges. What we can change is how we handle, experience, & grow through those challenges.
ALL families and ALL children bring challenges - it’s typical, it’s normal, it’s developmental. Julietta explains what the Continuum of Change is and why conscious parenting takes so much time, effort, & intention. It’s not easy!
Julietta shares a detailed recounting of helping one of her children through a serious phobia and why she always has a dog treat in her pocket! We get into the importance of family meetings, helping children through anxiety, and how and when to hand the reins over to children to solve their problems. Casey shares a story about her son, and how we get to keep practicing these skills with our older children.
We wrap today with a lovely quote from Maya Angelou and an invitation to envision showing up in a different way. The only thing you can control is how you show up. Join us next week for the last episode in the Founder Series and a deep dive into perseverance for the long term.
Takeaways from the show
Challenges change, but they will always be there
“Magic 8”
What is useful? What is helpful?
Understanding where your child is developmentally
Being firm without being harmful
The Continuum of Change
Family Meetings
When and how to know when to let your child lead
Slice it thinner: What do you want? What’s your plan?
Trusting your child(ren)’s gifts & skills
Intrinsic motivation & practicing skills in the safety of home
They’ve got it! And if they don’t, they will figure it out!
“Fiercely committed, lovingly detached”
“This is a wonderful day, I have never seen this one before.” - Maya Angelou
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Consciously practicing connection, curiosity, and presence with ourselves and others
Back again on the ride of the messiness of humaning. This week I am all of the place and talk about all the things that are showing up with parents who are just stepping into this work of parenting teens differently, about the ever evolving relationships we have with ourselves and the people in our life, and even a little bit of Buddhism woven in... Check it out!
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Customer Reviews
Practical and Encouraging
Casey is a breath of fresh air for me when it comes to parenting my teenagers - I find her demeanor to be relatable and also so confidently kind and helpful. She has a way of being so authentic and I love that she will often model what the language might sound like when actually talking to your teens. I get something out of every show and appreciate her ways of helping me see what it looks and sounds like to prioritize the relationship with my teens. I think it also helps that she is in the trenches, just like the rest of us! So grateful for all that Casey shares and that this podcast is available to help me along the way. Thank you!
Making a difference
Casey shows up every week in the sticky muck of raising teens. For me, I believe in positive discipline but struggle to get there. She takes my progress in fits and starts down the path of positive discipline and keeps me striving for a positive relationship with my son.
Thank you Casey
Authentic and Real.
Joyful Courage has quickly become one of my favorite parenting podcasts. I was struggling with a teen who was struggling. Casey breaks down so many topics into bite sized pieces making it less overwhelming for someone in crisis. It seems like whatever she says resonates with me the first time. I love how Casey presents herself as authentic, compassionate, real, and optimistic. I love her energy and humor, it's contagious. I love that she has the ability to articulate analogies that make listening and learning enjoyable for each and every episode. No judgement on her part either. Lastly, I love how she often gives a script to help with having these difficult conversations with our teens while maintaining connection. I find myself opening notes on my phone & quickly typing up a script that I try to memorize so that I don't fumble so much when a situation presents itself. My only question is, why does Apple Podcasts rate this podcast as explicit!!??