Joyful Courage for Parenting Teens Casey O'Roarty
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The Joyful Courage for Parenting Teens Podcast is a place for inspiration, education and entertainment. You are not alone, the terrain of adolescence is messy... I am your host, Casey O'Roarty, and I am honored to get to share conversations with leading parenting experts about challenges that show up while we raise our kids. We don't hold back here - all topics are on the table. You will hear interviews and solo shows centering risky behavior such as substance use and sexual development, as well as convos that deep dive into development and nurturing relationship. If you love what you hear, leave a review! This helps others find the show. If you are looking for more, head over to my website www.besproutable.com/teens/ for more information about online and live classes. Thank you for listening!
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The power of examining the beliefs we hold about our teens and tweens
This week we are going deep into examining the beliefs we hold about our kids and how they might actually be what is getting in the way and creating the suffering we are experiencing. I know, seems like an easy fix, right? We may not be able to control our kids (truly, we can't) but what we BELIEVE about them is for sure a part of our influence AND for SURE impacts how we EXPERIENCE them. Listen in and let me know what you think.
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Cindy Palmer helps us set our neurodivergent kids up for success
My guest today is my good, local friend - Cindy Palmer.
Cindy’s here to talk about executive functioning in kids with neurodivergence, especially during the transition to college. High School is a time that is typically incredibly structured, down to the minute, and the transition to college is tricky for all adolescents. What do we do when it feels like our kids aren’t ready? How can parents help scaffold that transition? Especially for kids with neurodivergence? Cindy shares lots of strategies and ideas around supporting our adolescents during this tricky time - getting curious & compassionate, not holding a certain view on what things “should” look like, and what kind of bumps slow down (or stop) our kiddos from getting their work done.
I ask Cindy what we can be doing in the middle & high school years to help with the transition (spoiler: it’s lots of practice & baby steps) and we talk about how important grades actually are. We get into what we can hand over to our kids right now (how about waking themselves up in the morning?) and why we want to practice these life skills in middle school, not the first week of college. We wrap up touching on adjusting our expectations for how older kiddos contribute to the family (and how we can use these as opportunities to teach life skills).
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Meeting misbehavior with enthusiastic curiosity
You and me and enthusiastic curiosity - WOOHOO! It may sound crazy but when we can really connect with the experience we are having while navigating our kids' mischief, regulate, and shift into curiosity, there is space for much deeper connection and learning for all. Truly. Listen to this show for tips on all the things - and let me know what you think!
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Tackling screen challenges intentionally with Emily Cherkin
I am SO glad you’re here this week for my second chat with Emily Cherkin, AKA The Screentime Consultant.
We start by talking about what Emily’s been seeing & dealing with lately: managing screentime at home, reigning screentime in after Covid struggles, and kids having more access to tech at younger ages than ever before. It’s obvious that parents are really trying to figure out how to set screentime limits that actually work without isolating our kids from their social network or hindering their schoolwork. We also get into screens & tech in the bedroom & our hypocrisy on expectations around screentime.
After catching up on all of that, we dig into AI - what AI is, how quickly it’s changing, & the lack of transparency and understanding around AI. Emily shares her TLDR around all tech: “less is more, later is better, & relationships first.” Emily and I ponder on what parents can do when they want their kids to have a phone for emergencies, and she shares what her two questions for parents are around screentime.
Key Takeaways
How do we set screentime limits that actually work and are helpful?!
Tech use is all about balance
Managing screentime at home
Reigning in screentime after Covid
Screens & electronics in bedrooms
What is AI?
“Less is more, later is better, & relationships first”
How adolescents having phones helps & exacerbates parental stressors
Do you know what your kid is doing on their device?
You have the tools you need to manage this!
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Being right and the downside of comparing our experience to others
Hey there - back again with thoughts on Monday's episode and prompting us all to have a broader perspective than just the one that lives in our heads. Our relationships depend on our willingness to consider how where we are coming from is getting in the way of what we ultimately want to create. I can't wait to hear your thoughts on this!
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Nurturing partner relationships and parenting with Aaron Steinberg
My guest today is Aaron Steinberg.
Aaron is super passionate about equipping couples with the tools they need for the challenges of parenthood. The good news is that these challenges are universal, and we can make changes in our relationships. Aaron and I get into a whole lot in our conversation: family meetings, offering & receiving feedback from a spouse, and how to talk to your spouse when you’re the one with the new tools & ideas to try. I love Aaron’s framing of being “somewhat right” and why the objective truth doesn’t really matter in a relationship. I ask Aaron what he thinks about ambivalence showing up in a long-term relationship and what realistic expectations are in a long marriage.
Takeaways from the show:
Parenting brings up all kinds of things from our past & can make us feel incompatible with our partner
Sometimes our needs are seemingly incompatible with our partner’s needs
Relationships are constant practice
Family meetings
Offering feedback kindly & receiving feedback openly
Separating feelings problems from action problems
Erasing competitiveness from problems
Being “somewhat right”
Ambivalence in a long relationship
Checking your vision of marriage
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Customer Reviews
Amazing show for ALL- especially parents of teens
The Joyful Courage podcast is inspirational, helpful, and practical. I was referred to Casey’s podcast by another parent coach who told me that she (Casey) really gets connecting with teens. This is what I have needed and need. I am 43 and a single mom (widow) to 3 teens. The struggle is real. I listen to many of these episodes and they give me hope and often doable action steps. I also started coaching with Casey and that has been incredible. Definitely check out this podcast- especially if you want to connect with not only your teens but yourself and really any relationship. I especially appreciate that as a current widow I have listened to episodes that talk about partners and relationships and those specific episodes still give gems and insights of how to connect to my kids. I look forward to the next episode!
So Good!
Having Casey’s voice to guide me through parenting my teen is such a blessing. She is real and speaks from the heart. She gives practical, tactical support and advice to ensure I feel less alone on the parenting journey.
Making a difference
Casey shows up every week in the sticky muck of raising teens. For me, I believe in positive discipline but struggle to get there. She takes my progress in fits and starts down the path of positive discipline and keeps me striving for a positive relationship with my son. Thank you Casey