Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them Carmelita Tiu

What woman hasn’t disliked part of her face at some point?  My nose is too big. I don’t like my profile. My forehead is too big. I wish my lips were fuller. 
Val Monroe, former beauty editor for O, The Oprah Magazine and writer of the popular Substack newsletter How Not to F*ck Up Your Face, and Body Relationship Coach Debbie Saroufim, chat with host Carmelita Tiu about grappling with beauty standards, objectification, and how we can shift our perspectives as our bodies and faces change through our lives.
We cover:
What objectification meansMirror meditation - what it is, why it worksThe roots of beauty standards and our dissatisfactionSitting with discomfortFeeling beautiful vs. being beautiful
Today's Guests
To learn more about Debbie Saroufim, visit www.bodyrelationship.com and follow her on Instagram @bodyrelationship_coach.  And check out her Parents Guide, for what NOT to say to your kids if you want them to have a health relationship with their bodies.
Want to feel happier about your appearance—especially as you age—you might like reading more about what Val has to say about it. Subscribe for free to How Not to F*ck Up Your Face at valeriemonroe.substack.com. You can find her on Instagram at @thisisvalmonroe.
About Your Host, Carmelita / Cat / Millie Tiu
Mom, spouse, coach, podcaster, wordsmith, legal eagle.  Endlessly curious about how we can show up better for ourselves – because when we do that, we also show up better for our kids and those around us.  Visit carmelitatiu.com to learn more about Cat, and for info on 1:1 coaching, the mom collective, and her monthly newsletter.

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What is equality? What is equity? What is gender equity? How can we embrace all of these?
In this episode of Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them, Annie Warshaw, co-founder of Mission Propelle and a gender justice professor at Roosevelt University, unpacks gender equity in her chat with host Carmelita Tiu.  
In this episode, Annie:
Answers the question, "What is gender equity?" Explains how we can be aware of gender equity and encourage it Tells us the 3 things that will make her feel like she’s raised her sons successfully Helps us reframe our beliefs about old-school etiquette so we can foster more equitable gender rolesTalks about the importance of having a list of shared family values
To learn more about Annie Warshaw and her work:
for equity consulting and coaching, visit missionpropelle.com, or follow @mission_propelle on Instagramfor information about Youth Alliance Yoga, go to youthallianceyoga.com
Other references:
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Resilience – we know we all want our kids to have it. But what is it really, and how do we foster it in our kids?
In this episode of Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them, Host Carmelita Tiu chats with Dr. Kate Lund, Psy.D., author of Bounce: Help Your Child Build Resilience and Thrive in School, Sports, and Life.  Dr. Kate shares her unique viewpoint on how to help our tweens and teens build resilience and provides various strategies for how we can equip our kids to thrive, through all of life’s ups and downs.
Listen to hear Dr. Kate share:
How to define resilienceWhat really listening to our kids looks likeTips on sharing struggles and normalizing challengeWhy to focus on the process as opposed to the outcomeHow we’re wired to have negative thoughts, and how we can respond as parents
 
About this week’s guest
Kate struggled as a child with a medical condition called Hydrocephalus which made some of the typical activities of childhood challenging. Her parents' unwavering belief in their child built an inner resilience that led to a successful career and life despite her challenges.
She worked as a radio reporter while in college interviewing some notable figures such as Barbara Bush
and Ivan Lendl the number one tennis player in the world at the time. She was also a White House intern for President Bill Clinton. As a licensed, clinical psychologist, she has worked with major hospitals, schools, and hundreds of parents. Her international bestselling book Bounce: Help Your Child Build Resilience and Thrive in School, Sports, and Life is the ultimate guide to helping children build resilience and thrive in all areas of life.
Kate’s mission is to help parents bring out the best in their kids to create the leaders of our future.
She’s also launched a new podcast called “The Optimized Mind” - reflecting on what we need to think about in terms of being at our best. 
In This Episode:
The Optimized Mind PodcastConnect with Dr. Kate Lund on LinkedInCheck out her course, The Seven Pillars of the Resilient Child  
About Your Host, Carmelita / Cat / Millie Tiu
Mom, spouse, coach, podcaster, wordsmith, legal eagle.  Endlessly curious about how we can show up better for ourselves – because when we do that, we also show up better for our kids and those around us.  Visit carmelitatiu.com to learn more about Cat, and for info on 1:1 coaching, the mom collective, and her monthly newsletter.
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Body Image is an important topic to me because our relationship with our bodies and our body image is complex, especially for women and girls, and it lasts a lifetime.
The societal challenges to healthy body image don’t stop…and just like any relationship, having a healthy relationship with our bodies typically requires ongoing attention.  
My guest today, Pam Luk, is intimately familiar with how the world can make you feel uncomfortable in your skin, and what we can do about it. She’s passionate about body diversity and empowering kids to have a healthy body image.
Listen to hear:
Why Pam started Ember & AceThe importance of clothes and activewear that fits plus sized kidsHow to talk with kids when they're struggling with their bodiesWhat to add to your social media feedsHow we sabotage our efforts to get our kids to believe that all bodies are good bodiesMedia literacy and how to navigate messaging
About Our Guest, Pam Luk
Pam Luk is the founder of Ember & Ace, an athletic wear brand for plus size kids. Growing up playing sports, Pam learned firsthand the importance of finding active wear that fits. Not finding it is one of the main reasons kids quit sports. Ember & Ace launched their first five-piece essentials collection on February 2nd 2023. Visit emberandace.com to learn more.
To learn more about Pam and her work, connect with her here:
Website: www.emberandace.comInstagram: @emberandaceLinkedin:  https://www.linkedin.com/company/emberandace

References in this Episode:Debbie Saroufim - Ep 37 / Defying Diet Culture and Ep 38 / Tough Truths & TipsEmily Lauren Dick - Ep 24 / Body Positivity & Fat Phobia


About Your Host, Carmelita / Cat / Millie Tiu
Mom, spouse, coach, podcaster, wordsmith, legal eagle.  Endlessly curious about how we can show up better for ourselves – because when we do that, we also show up better for our kids and those around us.  Visit carmelitatiu.com to learn more about Cat, and for info on 1:1 coaching, the mom collective, and her monthly newsletter.

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Have you ever stopped to question the version of success that you may be pushing your kid to achieve?  Do you wonder if you’re over-involved in your tween or teen’s life, or not enough? Do you want your kids to get straight As and secretly get a thrill if they say “I think I want to go Stanford or Harvard or Yale”? And then you kind of feel anxious about the pressure and what that means for them?
As parents, we all have an internal compass that guides us as we raise our kids.  And it today's competitive world, it's more important than ever for parents to raise their kids with intentionality and grace.

Today’s guest, Cindy Muchnick, co-wrote the book, The Parent Compass: Navigating Your Teen’s Wellness and Academic Journey in Today’s Competitive World to help us navigate questions like this, and help us calibrate our parent compasses towards our kids’ wellbeing.

Listen to hear:
The downsides of over-involved parentingWhen and how to nurture self-advocacy in your tweens and teensA tip for teen self-advocacy that Cindy’s never shared before!The ask that can forge new connections with your tween and teensWhat parents need to do before looking at how they're raising their kids
And more nuggets of wisdom!

About Our Guest, Cynthia Muchnick
Cindy, a graduate of Stanford University, is an expert in the college admission process: she got her start in admission offices before opening a private study skills and college counseling business in Southern California, which she ran for over fifteen years. As an Assistant Director of Admission for the Illinois Institute of Technology and the University of Chicago, she screened and reviewed over three thousand applications, interviewed prospective students, and served on the admission committee to evaluate borderline applicants and appeals cases. Then, as a private counselor, she helped hundreds of high school students navigate their academic journeys, including course selection, study skills, time management, and college applications. Since closing her private educational practice in 2011, Cindy has focused on public speaking to student, parent, school and business groups on a variety of education-related topics.

Over the course of her career, Cindy has written numerous books; The Parent Compass: Navigating Your Teen’s Wellness and Academic Journey in Today’s Competitive World (Familius/Workman/Hachette, 2020) is her tenth. Her other titles include The Best College Admission Essays (co-author, ARCO/Peterson’s, 1997), The Everything Guide to Study Skills: Strategies, Tips, and Tools You Need to Succeed in School (Simon& Schuster, 2011), Straight-A Study Skills (co-author, Simon& Schuster, 2012), The Everything College Checklist Book (Simon& Schuster, 2013), Writing Successful College Applications: It’s More than Just the Essay (Peterson’s Publishing, 2014), and four other books (Simon & Schuster and Penguin Random House). Her essays have appeared on Zibby Owens’ Moms Don’t Have Time To Write Medium platform, Your Teen Magazine, College Confidential, Raising Teens Today, The Los Angeles Times, and The Mom Experience, among others. 

Cindy holds a bachelor’s degree in Political Science and Art History from Stanford University and a master’s degree in Liberal Studies from Nova Southeastern University. Some of the other twists and turns in her multifaceted career include her stints as a campus tour guide and volunteer student coordinator for Stanford’s Office of Undergraduate Admission and a tenth-grade history teacher at The University School, in Ft. Lauderdale, FL. She is a professional speaker and panelist on the subjects of education, study skills, parenting, and mental...

We’re still early in 2023 and if you’re like me, you’re still jazzed about goals, intentions, resolutions, etc.  Julie DeLucca-Collins joins host Carmelita Tiu to talk about the power of tiny habits, and how small habits can build into big results.
Listen to hear:
How motivation doesn’t work when creating habits, and what doesThe recipe for creating tiny habits that stickThe importance of celebrating even the small wins
About Our Guest
Julie DeLucca-Collins is the Founder and CEO of Go Confidently Services, the host of the popular Casa DeConfidence Podcast®, and her weekly Radio Show Confident You featured on a global talk radio network.  
As a Business and Life Strategist Coach, Julie helps women business owners launch or grow their businesses, get clients, be productive, and achieve their dreams. Julie helps her clients create simple habits to achieve goals and change their lives. 
Julie is a sought-after public speaker, author, trainer, and course creator. She is certified as a coach in Cognitive Behavioral Techniques, Holistic Coach, and Tiny Habits. She is also certified as a Social Emotional Learning Facilitator and has completed her 200-hour Yoga Teacher Certification. Julie enjoys helping her clients build mental fitness and improve their mindset to be at peace and improve peak performance. Julie is also the #1 best-selling author of the book Confident You (simple habits to live the life you've imagined). 
Julie has been honored with the "25 Most Powerful Minority Women in Business Award." by the Minority Enterprise Executive Council in Washington, DC. Julie and her Podcast co-host/producer husband Dan reside in Vernon, CT, with their fur babies, Yogi Bear, Junior, and Simba.
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References in this Episode:
Tiny Habits AcademyTiny Habits - The Small Changes That Change Everything, by B.J. Fogg
About Your Host, Carmelita / Cat / Millie Tiu
Mom, spouse, coach, podcaster, wordsmith, legal eagle.  Endlessly curious about how we can show up better for ourselves – because when we do that, we also show up better for our kids and those around us.  Visit carmelitatiu.com to learn more about Cat, and for info on 1:1 coaching, the mom collective, and her monthly newsletter.

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