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La Forza della Mentalità Say Cheese!
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What is mindset?
When I first arrived in the United States, I kept hearing this word, “mindset”.
Mindset here, mindset there, all of the self-help gurus, entrepreneurs, and photographers were talking about it as part of their growth and learning. I wasn’t quite sure what it was so I did what any normal person who is looking for information does, I asked Google. “What is the mindset?”
And the answer I got:
The established set of attitudes held by someone.A person’s way of thinking and their opinions. Their attitudes, dispositions, or moods.How a person approaches a situation.
Your mindset is what gives you your worldview or philosophy of life.
Let’s take two simple sentences that clarify the concept of mindset:
Failures are bad experiences = fixed mindsetFailures can be positive experiences = growth mindset
Where does your mindset come from?
Our mindset comes from how we are raised, the environment we grow up in, the experiences and situations we have in our lives that shape who we become. Yes, of course, each of us has a unique character but let’s focus on the other parts for a moment.
When we are younger, we (usually) conform to what society expects for us, it’s what most of us are taught from an early age. Our families want us to be safe in life. But that often means we live sheltered lives, not fully experiencing life with all of its challenges, failures, successes and accomplishments. Not trying something because we might have the chance to fail.
Because of being sheltered, we think that we are safe and don’t have to worry about difficulties in life. But in reality, we think we have safety but what we have really done is given away our freedom, independence and ability to create and grow. We are taught to be afraid of trying and failing. And in the process, learning and growing which gives us the seeds of success for the future. Being able to take a risk and not fearing failure is part of the process of becoming successful. Because your success is built on top of past failures and experiences. Opportunity has risks but it also brings the rewards of a rich and fulfilled life. The “safe” life can sometimes turn into a life lived unfulfilled and full of regrets and not really safe at all.
We always assume that we live our lives as it should be, based on the advice of our parents, our friends or just by looking around us and seeing at what most people do and thinking that will be right for us too.
I remember that feeling of not being happy and feeling like something is wrong. It’s like finding yourself in a limbo when the people around you think you’re going through a phase that will pass. But in reality, your head is telling you something isn’t right but everyone around you is telling you that it’s you that is wrong for questioning yourself and your situation.
You have to work in an office. You have to have a boyfriend. You have to go to the gym everyday to have a perfect body. Who are you to have a different opinion? You have to do this, you have to do that, you need to buy this. It’s never ending, there is always someone who has an expectation of what you need to do.
I started to realize that I was responsible for myself. I listened to myself and that little voice in my head that was telling me the truth, that if I wasn’t happy with something in my life, that I was the one that needed to change. And I followed that voice because I was afraid. I was afraid of change but I was more afraid of being stuck in the same unhappy situation forever.
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At school, we learn languages, history, mathematics but where do we get our lessons in how to approach and be successful and confident in life? How do we prepare for dealing with a life full of challenges? Where do...
What is mindset?
When I first arrived in the United States, I kept hearing this word, “mindset”.
Mindset here, mindset there, all of the self-help gurus, entrepreneurs, and photographers were talking about it as part of their growth and learning. I wasn’t quite sure what it was so I did what any normal person who is looking for information does, I asked Google. “What is the mindset?”
And the answer I got:
The established set of attitudes held by someone.A person’s way of thinking and their opinions. Their attitudes, dispositions, or moods.How a person approaches a situation.
Your mindset is what gives you your worldview or philosophy of life.
Let’s take two simple sentences that clarify the concept of mindset:
Failures are bad experiences = fixed mindsetFailures can be positive experiences = growth mindset
Where does your mindset come from?
Our mindset comes from how we are raised, the environment we grow up in, the experiences and situations we have in our lives that shape who we become. Yes, of course, each of us has a unique character but let’s focus on the other parts for a moment.
When we are younger, we (usually) conform to what society expects for us, it’s what most of us are taught from an early age. Our families want us to be safe in life. But that often means we live sheltered lives, not fully experiencing life with all of its challenges, failures, successes and accomplishments. Not trying something because we might have the chance to fail.
Because of being sheltered, we think that we are safe and don’t have to worry about difficulties in life. But in reality, we think we have safety but what we have really done is given away our freedom, independence and ability to create and grow. We are taught to be afraid of trying and failing. And in the process, learning and growing which gives us the seeds of success for the future. Being able to take a risk and not fearing failure is part of the process of becoming successful. Because your success is built on top of past failures and experiences. Opportunity has risks but it also brings the rewards of a rich and fulfilled life. The “safe” life can sometimes turn into a life lived unfulfilled and full of regrets and not really safe at all.
We always assume that we live our lives as it should be, based on the advice of our parents, our friends or just by looking around us and seeing at what most people do and thinking that will be right for us too.
I remember that feeling of not being happy and feeling like something is wrong. It’s like finding yourself in a limbo when the people around you think you’re going through a phase that will pass. But in reality, your head is telling you something isn’t right but everyone around you is telling you that it’s you that is wrong for questioning yourself and your situation.
You have to work in an office. You have to have a boyfriend. You have to go to the gym everyday to have a perfect body. Who are you to have a different opinion? You have to do this, you have to do that, you need to buy this. It’s never ending, there is always someone who has an expectation of what you need to do.
I started to realize that I was responsible for myself. I listened to myself and that little voice in my head that was telling me the truth, that if I wasn’t happy with something in my life, that I was the one that needed to change. And I followed that voice because I was afraid. I was afraid of change but I was more afraid of being stuck in the same unhappy situation forever.
Take Advice/Mentorship
At school, we learn languages, history, mathematics but where do we get our lessons in how to approach and be successful and confident in life? How do we prepare for dealing with a life full of challenges? Where do...
20 min