Learning How to Argue and Fight Christian Advice for Single Christians Podcast

Learning how to argue and fight is the best dating tip we could give Christian singles. That may sound like whacky dating advice unless you know that the top reason both dating and married couples break up is a lack of communication in the area of conflict-resolution.

This is very important, so let me reiterate this dating advice a different way: Learning how to fight and argue successfully is the best way to a lasting and happy dating and/or married relationship. Why? Because conflict in this life is inevitable, so you better learn how to deal with it.

Single Christians who never learn the art of fighting and arguing will most likely fail in any romantic dating relationship they enter. This is true whether they seek a soulmate through an online Christian dating service such as eHarmony, or any other way.

Additionally, ever met that dating perfect match who looked so good together, and claimed they never argued or fought? Don’t believe it.  They have common relationship problems too. That romance made in heaven will be headed south soon unless they acknowledge the reality of conflict and arguments, and learn how to fight.

Whether you are a single person already dating or only hoping to, the following dating tips on learning how to argue and fight will be helpful:

Learning How to Argue and Fight Fairly

Dating Tip 1:

Honestly and lovingly confront the problem, but leave out the personal attacks on your dating mate. If the argument or fight devolves into attacks on personhood, the battle (and possibly the dating relationship) has been lost.

Adam did this in the Garden after God confronted him with the problem of eating forbidden fruit. Instead of honestly acknowledging the problem, he put personal blame on both Eve and God: “This woman you put here with me-she gave me some fruit from the tree, and I ate.” (Gen. 3:12)

Honestly addressing conflict sometimes means swallowing our pride by admitting we are part of the problem. Ever wonder what God would have done if Adam honestly admitted his part?

Dating Tip 2:

Listen to what the other person is actually trying to communicate. That means having an earnest eye to eye contact as you open up your ears and heart because communication can take place verbally, by action or body language. So, it’s important that you understand all these forms.

Many dating singles have a lack of communication in the area of conflict resolution because they’re too busy thinking about their argument respons...