One of life’s complexities is the need to be needed. You make a common mistake when you need to have a role in other people’s lives. Rebeccah Silence talks about this on the Tougher Together Breakthrough podcast. She lets us know that it’s okay to care and natural to want to help, but it’s a fine line between helping people with what they need, as opposed to making it about you and what you need.
When we NEED to be needed, we typically get a result that’s different from our intention. We push people away when our ego becomes involved, and we come across as needy.
Most people are not looking to be saved but to be seen, heard, and held capable. Beware of lowering the bar with those you want to help. Adopting a victim mindset will not help them at all, so don’t approach them from that angle.
Don’t let your best intentions turn into a “take” instead of a “give.” Help in a way that empowers and do so without attachment to outcomes. Focus on connection to build possibilities for others.
Rebeccah takes some questions on this and other topics and gives insightful answers to wind up this heartfelt podcast episode.
Rebeccah Silence is a speaker, coach, and international media personality, who survived cancer while pregnant and has impacted hundreds of thousands of listeners through her radio programs and appearances. She is the Creator of the HEALING IS POSSIBLE movement and courses and is committed to helping others heal their traumas. As a certified world-class Emotional Healing Coach, Rebeccah is uniquely qualified to facilitate breakthroughs to wellness and transformation while she inspires hope and possibility in even the most challenging times. She is best known for healing heartbreak, and her clients frequently tell her that she brought them "back to life"!