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The Truth Around Eating Disorders & Coming Home To Our Bodies with Lindsay Hall
Last week on the podcast, I shared about my personal eating disorder recovery story, and today, I am so thrilled to welcome a friend, ally and all around advocacy queen around all things eating disorders and recovery to expand the conversation and deep dive into the truth around what these cycles look like and how body toxicity and diet culture has impacted all of us in a myriad of ways.
I know many of you are as excited as I am to have her on the podcast, but if you’re unfamiliar with Lindseys work, I am so honored to get to be the one to introduce her to your world. She’s truly the most amazing combination of truth teller and tender hearted soul with a heart of gold, and I know her words and this conversation are going to seep into your soul as much as they have mine.
Lindsey Hall (she/her) is an award-winning eating disorder recovery speaker and writer, focusing on what she refers to as "the nitty gritty topics often not discussed." Having struggled with the eating disorder cycle for many years, Lindsey has actively been in recovery since 2014, and is the author behind "I Haven't Shaved in Six Weeks," an award-winning blog written to humanize the stigmas of eating disorders, treatment, PCOS, and recovery.
Through her writing, she has had the privilege of speaking around the world on nuanced topics such as Body Dysmorphic Disorder, Drunkorexia, Exercise Addiction, Orthorexia and other eating disorder behaviors, and has been featured in publications including TODAY Show, CBS, Washington Post, Bustle, Cosmopolitan, Women's Health, SheKnows, NEDA, SHAPE Magazine, Refinery29, Recovery Warriors, Project Heal, and more.
Her future dreams in recovery advocacy are focused on owning and converting a van to take it on the road so she can report on treatment centers and eating disorder resources around the country in a dream she's envisioned as "Recovery on the Road." Currently, she resides in Boulder, Colorado, with her Benjamin Button rescue dog (the vets have no idea his age), a loveable, runt kitten, and a lovely community of folx around her.
Things we talk about in todays episode:
Lindseys eating disorder and recovery story
The cycle of eating disorders & how and why it shows up for most humans
The detrimental nature to our psyches around all things diet culture
Ways to support your own healing process
The importance of kindness, learning & owning your shortcomings
The ups and downs of navigating movement & exercise through recovery
The post of Lindseys that changed the game for me in my own recovery journey this year
Learning about the brain and how it impacts how we see our bodies
A moment of my recovery story I’ve never talked about before
Triggering messaging and foods, body toxicity, and beyond.
107: My Eating Disorder Recovery Story | A Solo Episode
This episode is coming out almost 5 years to the day of my rock bottom of my eating disorder — something I didn’t realize until I started recording this week.
I haven’t really talked about this subject and my story around my eating disorder in its entirety on the podcast before. Mostly because I haven’t been ready. I haven’t known how to put into words what the experience has been for me because, really, as anyone navigating the cycle of eating disorders and/or body dysmorphia and shame around our bodies knows, the recovery process is an ongoing one.
Today, on the podcast, I share my story and what my recovery process these last 5 years have really looked like. And I deep dive into what the last 3 months in particular have taught me about what it can really mean to come home to your body and feel liberated in your own skin.
Whether you’ve experienced or are in the throws of an eating disorder or not, if you are a human who has ever felt shame around your body, if you’ve struggled to love and accept yourself for all of yourself and have lived your life from a place of shoulds and overwhelm, this episode is for you.
Using Pleasure To Cope With Trauma and Grief : A Conversation with Alyssa Pressman
Todays episode is different — you may notice that there’s no typical intro music/snippets — because it didn’t feel right today. This week has been heavy. Hell, this year has been a f*****g trip. And I wrestled with the idea of not releasing a podcast episode today — I wasn’t sure how we would be experiencing this post election day time. And when I woke up yesterday morning, in a mix of deep feels/sadness and hope for a brighter future in the US, I knew that this conversation, with a soul human of mine, was one that I needed to share with all of you today.
And with that, I’d like to introduce to you my friend and kindred spirit, Alyssa Pressman (she/her).
Alyssa is a Licensed Clinical Therapist & Certified Sex + Relationship Coach. She specializes in pleasure & joy post trauma, grief & with chronic illness. She loves supporting women in moving closer to themselves, to other people and to creating lives that feel in deep alignment with their unique desires. She is a BRCA1 mutation carrier like me, and a person living with chronic illness and pain. Reaching for joy and pleasure has been deeply healing for her. When not working, you can find her dancing, lounging, reading or cooking, usually scantily clad if not naked. She loves talking, learning and sharing on all things sex, relationships, death, healing & dark nights of the soul-you know, all the super casual things.
I invite you to take this one on a walk outside, or curl up with a cup of tea and absorb these words as a way to get away, for a moment, from the chaos. You are so loved.
Things we discuss in todays episode:
Alyssa’s wake up call around a chronic illness that made it impossible to have penetrative sex without serious pain in her younger twenties
How her work as a sex & relationship coach started to empower her sexually, in a more wholistic way
Pelvic floor struggles
BRCA and the other piece of the fear with our mutual diagnosis: ovarian cancer
Self pleasure practices & building a relationship with your pussy
How to claim your sexuality as your own and experience life changing pleasure
Redefining what sex and pleasure is
How to talk to your partner(s) around how to have more connected intimacy with one another
Boobs, the beauty of being un-partnered, using pleasure as a form of self care and beyond
All Things Polyamory Q&A | A Conversation With My Husband Kevan Loy
Is monogamy the only way to build a conscious, loving and lifelong relationship?
I used to believe it was the only way. But as you know, as I shared in episode 101, after 8 years together, both Kev and I moved away from the monogamous framework and stepped into the ethical non monogamous space two years ago.
I know that people have MANY strong feelings around this (and it makes sense! Monogamy is what our society is built around and I definitely had my fair share of concerns and shame spiral around even the thought of considering it for years before we moved in that direction), and I’ve been getting LOADS of questions in my Instagram DMs so I decided to bring on a super special guest — my incredibly goofy and wonderful husband, Kevan — to dig into what our unique journey into polyamory has looked like.
We are certainly not experts when it comes to polyamory, ethical non monogamy or relationships — you can listen to a bunch of previous podcast episodes around relationships, sex and beyond from the experts — but I do think that almost 10 years of going through the shit with a human entitles us to have some shit to say that’s worth sharing. And hell, we are certainly experts on OUR unique individual experiences in the world of ethical non monogamy and polyamory.
And today on the podcast, we deep dive into some pretty dense topics around relationship longevity, health and beyond and I am THE MOST excited to share this conversation with you all.
Things we discuss on todays episode:
Kevans’ unique perspective around why polyamory and ENM feels aligned for him
How we opened the door to transition from YEARS of monogamy and how we ended up identifying as polyamorous
The difference between affairs/cheating and non monogamy
The multiple umbrellas of non monogamy: swinging, polyamory etc.
Attraction and relationship preferences are a spectrum as much as sexuality & gender is
A deep dive into some of the ups and downs of this journey, both as individuals and as a couple
ENM terms like unicorn hunting, triad vs. throuple, nesting/anchor partner, non hierarchical vs. hierarchical polyamory
Navigating jealousy and insecurities we’ve both experienced in our journey
Boundaries, communication and agreements & the path to figure that shit out being MESSY AF
All things fantasy/kink, how polyamory isn’t really so different than monogamy, ridiculous banter between the two of us and so much more.
Five Years Ago I Hit Rock Bottom And Now I'm Here | A Solo Episode
I had planned an entirely different episode for today and in true Amanda following the gut tugs fashion, I needed to share from the depths of my heart around what this move has shown me about the power of conscious thought shifts, inner work and small simple shifts that brought me from rock bottom to here.
5 years ago, I was:
in the depths of a cycle of eating disorders and body dysmorphia
having panic attacks weekly
working 7 part time jobs and just barely paying my bills
just coming off of a move (my last one) that was FILLED with breakdowns and fights with my husband
burnt out, overwhelmed and in a perpetual exhaustion cycle
On Saturday, I moved into my dream home. A home that 5 years ago, I never imagined I could possibly have no matter where my life took me. This move — something that had it been the me of 5 years ago navigating it — would have brought me to my knees with stress, overwhelm and exhaustion. And instead, I moved through it with ease and light.
And on todays episode, I share all about my journey to help illuminate for you how to get unstuck on your own.
Let's Talk About Sex Baby with Gabrielle Kassel
This week on the podcast, we deep dive into all things sex with Gabrielle Kassel. This episode is a MUST listen if you are having sex. And yes…I definitely share some personal stories I never thought I’d be talking about online — Mom, maybe don’t listen to this one!
Gabrielle Kassel (she/her) is a sexual health journalist who focuses on creating sex-positive, queer-inclusive, health-informed stories about everything from scissor and anal fisting to STI testing and aftercare, whos work has been published in various publications such as Cosmopolitan, Healthline, Women's Health, Greatist, Men's Health, Shape, Well and Good, and more. She's also in training to be a sex educator and does CrossFit coaching on the side.
Things we talk about in todays episode:
How she got into queer focused sex journalism
The most vulnerable share she’s shared online about her own sex life
How being a sex journalist has impacted her personal life
How to communicate and get your get your needs met in the bedroom
How to amplify your sex life
Sex toys, masturbation, anal play and beyond!
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