145 episodes

The Live Your F*ck Yes Life podcast is your go-to resource for all things real talk & conscious conversations around all things queer liberation, non monogamy, people pleasing, trauma, body neutrality, BRCA and beyond.

Tune in every other Thursday with your host, Amanda Katherine Loy — polyamorous queerdo, artist, author & coach — where she’ll bring a guest or a thought to help you face your fears, speak your truth & get you one step closer to living your f*ck yes life.

Live Your F*ck Yes Life Amanda Katherine Loy

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    • 4.6 • 47 Ratings

The Live Your F*ck Yes Life podcast is your go-to resource for all things real talk & conscious conversations around all things queer liberation, non monogamy, people pleasing, trauma, body neutrality, BRCA and beyond.

Tune in every other Thursday with your host, Amanda Katherine Loy — polyamorous queerdo, artist, author & coach — where she’ll bring a guest or a thought to help you face your fears, speak your truth & get you one step closer to living your f*ck yes life.

    Queer Liberation, Abuse & Non Monogamy with Rachel Krantz

    Queer Liberation, Abuse & Non Monogamy with Rachel Krantz

    Coming into queerness later in life. Kink dynamics. Going from monogamy to non monogamy. Abusive relationships. Sex parties & beyond.
    All of that, and so much more, is explored in Rachel Krantz’s book: Open, and I’m not lying when I tell you I devoured this book in the span of 24 hours and immediately reached out to have Rachel (she/her) on the podcast to get into the nitty gritty of it all — and this conversation does not disappoint.
    TW: emotional & psychological abuse, manipulation, gaslighting & self gaslighting, power dynamics
    If you’re unfamiliar with Rachel’s work — she’s a journalist and one of the founding editors of Bustle, where she served as senior features editor for three years. Her work has been featured on NPR, The Guardian, Vox, Vice, and many other outlets. She’s the recipient of the Robert F. Kennedy Journalism Award, the Investigative Reporters and Editors Radio Award, the Edward R. Murrow Award, and the Peabody Award for her work as an investigative reporter with YR Media. Open is her first book.
    And I imagine not her last — or at least, I certainly hope not ‘cause damn, it’s pretty f*****g incredible, and from a personally selfish perspective, so damn refreshing to have a first person, tell all memoir around the rollercoaster that is navigating the early days of queer liberation and non monogamy.
    I know so many of you have been waiting for this episode so let’s get the f**k to it.

    CONNECT WITH RACHEL / READ OPEN:
    Snag your copy of Open: An Uncensored Memoir of Love, Liberation, and Non-Monogamy
    Rachels Website | Instagram | Twitter
    Look out for Rachels future podcast: Help Existing

    ADDITIONAL RESOURCES MENTIONED:
    Donate/Support to Abortion Funds
    Sign petition to defend Roe V. Wade
    Greedy by Jen Winston

    WORK & CONNECT WITH AMANDA:
    Peer support sessions
    Patreon - join her “close friends” list on Instagram at the $5+ level
    Amanda’s book, I Chopped Off My T**s
    Amanda’s Instagram | Website
    Join her email list for all the important things / monthly announcements

    • 1 hr 7 min
    The Growth Is In The Unlearning, Baby

    The Growth Is In The Unlearning, Baby

    Todays episode is all about the “growth mindset” mentality vs. the process of unbecoming, unlearning and coming home to ourselves that so many of you asked Amanda for after her instagram stories last week.
    As someone who lives her life outside of many of the traditional norm boxes that our society is rooted in, this has been on her heart big time, lately, and it’s clearly been on yours too. We’re surely a unique bunch and the Live Your F*ck Yes Life community wouldn’t be what it is without all of you — my fellow people pleasing, trauma navigating, queer and/or non monogamous humans (and beyond!)
    So pop in your headphones, snag something yummy and cozy if it feels good to you & let’s dive in.
    TW: eating disorder cycles, diet culture, trauma, panic attacks

    Things she talks about in todays episode:
    The desperation for true belonging
    The environment of the “fit in” mentality to thrive and be enough
    The good and the harmful pillars around the growth mindset & pop culture “hustle & grind” mentality
    Her experience moving from Canada to the US at nineteen and how growing up in and around immigrant families has impacted her experience living in the US
    Moving through the “starving artist” trope for the last decade as an actor & performer
    The impact of capitalism, the patriarchy & white supremacy on her choices, paths & perspectives
    Navigating feelings of broken-ness, fear, lack of purpose, panic & beyond

    LINKS MENTIONED IN TODAYS EPISODE:
    Atlas Of The Heart
    Past episode highlight round up: non monogamy, queer liberation, body neutrality, brca & people pleasing/trauma

    WORK & CONNECT WITH AMANDA:
    Peer support sessions
    Patreon - join her “close friends” list on Instagram at the $5+ level
    Amanda’s book, I Chopped Off My T**s
    Amanda’s Instagram | Website | Tik Tok
    Join her email list for all the important things / future group coaching & teaching announcements

    • 43 min
    Let’s Talk Solo Polyamory with Jayda Shuavarnnnasri

    Let’s Talk Solo Polyamory with Jayda Shuavarnnnasri

    After our last episode on the various relationship models, it felt only fitting to expand on the relationship model that I know most folks are usually either very intrigued and excited by or absolutely terrified about considering — and that is: solo polyamory.
    I am not a solo polyamorous person. Never have been, and given my personal values and needs (and inherent biases and privileges), I likely will never choose to intentionally step into that path. But I know that it resonates HARD for many folks, and I knew this conversation that I had with Jayda in May 2021 for a workshop, that she consented to sharing on todays episode of the podcast with all of you, was gonna rock your world as much as it did.
    Jayda Shuavarnnnasri (she/they) is a queer Southeast Asian sexuality & relationship educator and trauma-sensitive facilitator. Also known as Sex Positive Asian Auntie, she works to liberate folks from sexual shame by creating space for authentic conversations about sexuality, relationships, identity and healing. The topics that excite her most are sexual exploration, identity, transformative justice, and non-conventional relationships. 
    Things she highlights & talks about in todays episode:
    Curiosity & exploration of self in juxtaposition of societal norms
    Their experience of being cheated on 4 years ago and how that led into research re: non monogamy
    Nobody really knows what the f**k they’re doing in any relationship style
    The false perception that non monogamy is the same as being “single & dating”
    Jayda’s solo polyamory journey
    The relationship galaxy model
    Approaching non monogamy from a lens of possibility vs. Rigidity
    The importance of being trauma informed in opening up your relationship
    Navigating life as the caregiver/oldest child, choosing to be child free, astrology shiz, core values, shame and beyond

    CONNECT/WORK WITH JAYDA:
    Jaydas Instagram 
    Jumping Off The Relationship Escalator self paced workshop 
    Poetry collection: “From A Place of Love”

    • 45 min
    You Can F*cking Choose The Way You Do Relationships, And It’s Epic

    You Can F*cking Choose The Way You Do Relationships, And It’s Epic

    Confused AF about what kind of relationship model you actually want because all you’ve ever been taught is monogamy or bust? And even THEN, monogamy has soooo much variability from person to person around expectations, needs, what the relationship feels like/looks like, boundaries etc?
    Amanda was too.
    We aren’t taught this shit. We’re just thrown into the world to figure it out by the seat of our pants, so she’s popping into your earbuds today to talk about just what your options really are, so you can move through your relationships and life decisions from a place that is rooted in your unique values, desires and needs.
    Things she talks about in todays episode:
    A breakdown of the different relationship models, from Monogamy to Relationship Anarchy (all along her F**k Yes Relationship Model scale) — go to @amandkatherineloy on Instagram for the visual to follow along
    What model she feels most particularly aligned with
    The importance of knowing your values
    How to communicate with your partners so you can have aligned expectations

    RESOURCES:
    Polysecure by Jessica Fern
    122: Breaking Down Attachment Styles with Jessica Fern
    134: I’m Addicted To You Don’t You Know That You’re Toxic Monogamy Culture

    WORK & CONNECT WITH AMANDA:
    Peer support sessions
    Patreon - join her “close friends” list on Instagram at the $5+ level
    Amanda’s book, I Chopped Off My T**s
    Amanda’s Instagram | Website
    Join her email list for all the important things / monthly announcements

    • 36 min
    Dating Is F*cking Hard: A Conversation with Ali (Finding Mr. Height)

    Dating Is F*cking Hard: A Conversation with Ali (Finding Mr. Height)

    If there’s anything I’ve learned since opening up my marriage in 2018 and getting on the dating apps for the first time in my life, it’s that dating is HARD. And I’ve felt really lost on how to approach the dating scene. I know so many of you are in my boat, and I knew an episode on the pod around all things dating was vital, and I couldn’t think of anyone better to have one than the one and only Finding Mr. Height (aka Ali).

    Ali is a positive, practical dating coach who’s built social media channels with over 200k followers and conducts one-on-one coaching as well as group seminars. Ali believes that finding love should be the same as any other major goal. We can’t expect it to fall into our laps, nor can we expect the same approach to work for everyone. Using actionable, targeted strategies, Ali will help you define what you're looking for...and then go get it. Find her on TikTok and Instagram @findingmrheight or online at www.findingmrheight.com.

    Here are some things we talked about in todays episode:

    our pasts with dating/dating apps

    what “success” means in relationships

    what it feels like to share about your dating life online so transparently

    our thoughts around west elm caleb

    dating when you’re in the “public eye” and how to maintain privacy

    dating red flags, ridiculous dating stories, dick picks and beyond

    • 58 min
    Finding Steadiness Amidst The Storm (How I'm Really Doing)

    Finding Steadiness Amidst The Storm (How I'm Really Doing)

    After a short unforseen intermission, we’re back for the rest of the season and Amanda is kicking off this post hiatus with a solo episode sharing about what she’s been navigating and how she’s really doing. Hint: it’s been really f*cking hard.

    Things she talks about in todays episode:

    the intense losses she’s experienced the last 2 years

    the excavation process of owning identities and navigating change

    grief, and the beast it is

    navigating depression for the first time in her life

    the 3 practices that have allowed me not to lose myself amidst this time

    • 36 min

Customer Reviews

4.6 out of 5
47 Ratings

47 Ratings

Dr. Nicole Theron Parkes ,

Love The Topics Selected & The Bold, Brave Manner In Which They Are Delivered

I was intrigued and greatly excited about the name of the podcast. I knew I just had to listen! I love the authentic, real way that Amanda talks. If feels like I have known her for years. I really loved her solo episode about how to cultivate worthiness from the inside (#92). She is a beautiful soul and her voice, her candor and her vulnerability are so inspring to listen to. I highly recommend!

thecanadiangirlfriend ,

Best podcast I’ve listened to in a while

So much authentic real talk about the mess that most people don’t cover ever and I appreciate that SO deeply.

This is a must subscribe to!! Funny, candid, honest, tackling taboo and “TMI” topics that we all desperately want talked about.

Go listen!!

Evalyne ,

So Helpful!

I’ve been listening to Amanda’s podcasts for the last few months, and they are absolutely helpful!I really appreciate how honest and raw she is, and the people that she brings to discuss various topics are super helpful and I just get a new insight on things that I would not pay attention to, and then you realize how they connect to your daily life. For example, I really loved listening to the Maddy Moon podcast where she discusses the masculine and feminine energy... it was awesome! Thank you Amanda for creating this podcast💗💗💗

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