Love University: A Podcast Where you can Learn How to: Love-Yourself, Others, & a Higher Power! Hosted by Renowned Clinical Psychologist Dr. Alex Avila www.loveuniversity.love
THE NEW LIMITLESS: CAN MAGIC MUSHROOMS TRANSFORM YOUR LIFE? WITH DR. JAHAN KHAMSEHZADEH, WORLD-RENOWNED PISLOCYBIN EXPERT
Have you ever thought about expanding your consciousness—thinking beyond yourself? In the popular movie, Limitless, a man who was struggling in life takes a pill that expands his cognitive abilities beyond anything he dreamed of, giving him great powers. Our fascinating guest on Love University, Dr. Jahan Khamsehzadeh enlightened us on the use of “magic mushrooms” (hallucinogenic) to achieve enlightenment and higher consciousness. According to Dr. Jahan, Psilocybin (the psychedelic compound in the mushrooms) has been used for thousands of years by native cultures to achieve higher understanding. On our program, Dr. Jahan discussed ways for the average person to achieve enlightenment and reduce suffering by using Psilocybin in medically and legally accepted ways. Here are some of the interesting findings he shared with us:
*Psilocybin has medical and therapeutic benefits. In studies at John Hopkins and other research centers, Psilocybin has been found to reduce depression, death anxiety, and the urge to smoke (80% of Psilocybin users quit versus only 15-30% using other methods). Moreover, Psilocybin is currently being studied to determine its effects on improving other psychological disorders such as Posttraumatic Stress Disorder, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, and Anxiety Disorders.
*Psilocybin may elevate consciousness, understanding, and self-acceptance, According to Dr. Jahan, psilocybin can increase a sense of openness and connection in a person’s mind, while diminishing self-consciousness (“What’s going to happen to me?”). As a result, an individual who uses Psilocybin in measured doses (even small doses known as microdosing), can be more creative, positive, and balanced. They are less fearful of the future and can experience a sense of unity and love within themselves, others, and the Universe.
*Psilocybin needs to be used under proper guidance and in adherence to local laws and accepted medical practices. It's important to recognize the legal and medical limitations to Psilocybin use. Currently Psilocybin can be legally used in certain research settings, and Oregon is the first state to pass a law that will establish a framework for Psilocybin use (some countries may also permit legal use). Moreover, according to Dr. Jahan, Psilocybin is not a substitute for therapy, spiritual practice, or other prescribed medications. Moreover, psilocybin use may pose risks for certain individuals with traumatic memories as well as those who have cardiovascular issues and other medical conditions.
Although the use of Psilocybin for therapeutic use in the US currently has legal limitations, and research is still ongoing as to its benefits and risks, there is growing research to indicate that it can provide certain life-changing therapeutic and medical advantages. Although we’ve made a lot of progress in studying the human brain, there is still a lot we don’t know. It is an intriguing possibility that the use of ancient healing and transformative methods like the magic mushroom can give us insight on how to transcend our everyday consciousness and achieve greater joy, health, and love.
THE TWIST OF INTROVERSION AND EXTRAVERSION: WHY YOUR PARTNER’S SOCIAL ENERGY LEVEL CAN MAKE A BIG DIFFERENCE IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP HAPPINESS
Are you an Introvert or an Extravert? Your social energy style can determine a lot about you and your best match in a long-term relationship. Introverts primarily like to get energy from their own thoughts and enjoy spending quiet, private time alone or with a few close friends. Extraverts primarily like to get energy from other people in social settings; they often have a lot of friends and acquaintances and love to socialize. On Love University Podcast, we talked about my book, GuyTypes, and explored the unique worlds of Introverts and Extraverts in love and relationships. Here’s what you need to know to have a great relationship, whether you’re an Introvert or an Extravert:
*Determine Your Social Energy Style (Introvert/Extravert). Before you seek a love partner, it’s important that you know yourself first. To determine your Social Energy Style (Introvert/Extravert), ask yourself the “Fun Question”: What do you like to do for fun in your spare time? If you like to spend a lot of time reading, writing, thinking, listening to music, meditating, surfing the net, watching TV, or doing a hobby by yourself, then you’re likely an Introvert. You make up about 50.7% of the population—and are drawn to more introspective careers like engineering, science, research psychology, writing, accounting, and certain types of law. If you’re an Extravert, you make up about 49.3% of the population, and you like to spend a majority of your time in the outside world and with other people in social settings. You enjoy parties, social gatherings, networking, live music venues, comedy clubs, concerts, and spending time with your many friends and acquaintances. You are drawn to fields such as sales, teaching, politics, acting/entertainment, and human relations.
*Appreciate Your Social Energy Style. Before you can love others, you need to love yourself. If you’re an Introvert, make sure you appreciate that you are an internal person who can come up with great ideas. You’re also a good listener, empathetic, and loyal (you like to settle in with the person you’re with). As an Extravert, you can be grateful for your abundant social energy and ability to communicate and connect with others. You are a lively, vivacious, and charismatic mate who brings fun and adventure to your partner’s life. Regardless of whether you’re an Introvert or an Extravert, make sure you embrace and love your Social Energy style. If you do so, you will be happier with yourself and your love partner.
*Identify your ideal mate’s social energy style: Once you know and embrace your own Social Energy Style, ask the “Fun Question” to determine the type of the person who is the best match for you. Research shows that similarities in this personality dimension (two Introverts or two Extraverts) do well together in long-term relationships. For example, an Introvert couple can enjoy their nights at home or with a few close friends. They tend to have a quiet, calm, and loving relationship. Also, two Extraverts in a relationship can be great love and business partners, as they excel at human interaction, networking, and marketing. Their time together can be a never-ending party of fun social times with the people they care about.
One of the keys to a successful relationship is to respect your partner’s personality type. This is especially important if you’re in an opposites attract relationship; for example, an Introvert with an Extravert. If you’re an Introvert, you can respect your Extravert’s need to go out and connect with people without taking it personally (“You don’t love me”). If you’re an Extravert, you can appreciate your Introvert’s calming nature and their desire to spend time with you at home. In the end, compatible love is based on appreciation, respect, and mutual goals. If you can blend your strengths with your partner’s natural abilities, you will have a great relationship that stands the test o
WRITE YOUR OWN SUCCESS STORY AND TAP INTO YOUR HIDDEN GENIUS: WITH SPECIAL GUEST, DR. TIMOTHY WILSON, AWARD-WINNING SOCIAL PSYCHOLOGIST AND MIND PIONEER
Do you have hidden genius? Although genius has various definitions, it’s true that there are untapped areas of your mind that you can access to achieve better results and happiness in life. On Love University podcast, we had the pleasure of having as our guest, Dr. Timothy Wilson, award-winning social psychologist and pioneer in the fields of adaptive unconscious (Strangers to Ourselves: Discovering the Adaptive Unconscious: Wilson, Timothy D.: 8601404753879: Books - Amazon) and self-knowledge (Redirect: Changing the Stories We Live By: Wilson, Timothy D., Gilbert, Daniel: 8806391102055: Books: Amazon.com). ). On the show, he enlightened us on new research into the amazing abilities of our brain and how we can access these higher order connections. Here’s what we learned:
*Become Friends With Your Adaptive Unconscious. The Adaptive Unconscious is the quick thinking, effortless, unconscious part of your mind that interprets information and helps guide you through life without you realizing it. Malcom Gladwell calls it “Thin Slicing”—your mind’s ability to come up with generally accurate findings and conclusions based on a small amount of information in a short period of time. Some people call it “gut instinct,” or “intuition.” To tap into your Adaptive Unconscious, observe your own behavior so you can determine what you’re really thinking or feeling inside (Are you helping someone because you want to feel better than them, or because you genuinely like them?). When you are aware of how the Adaptive Unconscious works, you will make better and quicker decisions, you will be more accurate in your assessments of yourself and others, and you will live in a more positive and self-enhancing way.
*Redirect your inner stories. Your narrative or inner story is what you believe about yourself. It is your internal script and self-concept; what you tell yourself about yourself and life. Do you have a Money Scarcity Story (“Money doesn’t grow on trees”) or a Wealth Story (“I can gain more riches—material, emotional, and spiritual—every day”)? Your story shapes your thoughts, feelings, actions, and ultimately your life. If you have a negative or self-defeating story playing in your head, here are some ways Dr. Wilson suggests you can change, or redirect your story, to a more positive one.
There are three ways to do this:
Step back and ask Why? In this exercise you will recall an upsetting event and see yourself as a “fly on the wall”—standing a good distance from the situation to observe it. When you do this, you will see the event from a bigger perspective and you will ask yourself, “Why did I feel like I did at the time.” Perhaps, you felt insecure that your lover would leave you so you reacted with unreasonable jealousy and anger (you lost the relationship). Now that you see that, you can forgive yourself, and move to a place of harmony and healing.
Imagine Your Best Possible Self. Imagine your best possible self and life in the future. See what you will look like, what you will be doing, who will be around you, and how you will feel 5 or 10 years into the future. Then, ask yourself, “How did I get here?” Maybe you took a certain career path, became involved in certain preferred activities, and met great people, including a wonderful romantic partner. By focusing on how you did it, you will have a clear roadmap to how to achieve your future success and happiness.
Do Good, Be good. One of the interesting paradoxes in life is that you can change your feelings and thoughts by doing certain actions. If you act like a good and loving person—give to the needy, volunteer to help others—you will start to feel like a quality and loving person. This will, in turn, motivate you to be more giving and helpful—thereby creating a positive feedback loop of positivity and contribution
Yes, it is possible to tap into hidden aspects of your mind to accelerate your suc
HOW TO BRING MORE FUN AND EXCITEMENT INTO YOUR LIFE: SECRETS OF THE EXCITEMENT SEEKERS
Are you the type of person who loves fun, excitement, and adventure? If so, you may be the unique personality known as the Excitement Seeker—someone who is spontaneous and enjoys the sensory pleasures of life. If this sounds like you, then it’s important that you understand how to maximize your personality strengths, as we discussed on our latest edition of Love University Podcast. Here are some tips to upgrade your life in love and success:
*Don’t be too generous too soon. Because you are usually an optimistic person, you believe that there is “always more where that came from,” whether it’s money, people, resources, time, and the like. As a result, you may be too generous when you first meet someone, especially in a romantic context. You may overgive with presents, time, energy, and attention. It’s a good idea to control your tendency to give too much at the beginning because it may overwhelm people and make them doubt your sincerity. Instead, give in a measured way as you observe how the other person reacts (and reciprocates in return).
*Don’t make promises you can’t keep: Because you’re often excited and enthusiastic when meeting new individuals, you may overstate or exaggerate your ability to do certain things (“I can get you that new job” or “This investment idea will make you millions”). Watch your words carefully and only promise what you can actually deliver so that others will maintain faith and confidence in you.
*Don’t immediately dismiss a “boring” person. You’re the type of person who likes to joke, laugh, and have a lot of fun. When you first meet a new person, you may judge them on your high “fun” standard. However, they may often fall short, especially if they are one of the more serious Introverted types. However, that quiet, “boring” person may be the ideal for you in a romantic relationship, friendship, or business partnership. They could be the Yin to your Yang; the water to your fire—the individual who can bring balance and harmony into your life. Give them the benefit of the doubt and get to know them.
*Focus your energies on one person or goal at a time: As an Excitement Seeker, you may have a tendency to have too many things going at once. You may date several people or get involved in various money-making ventures at the same time—consequently spreading yourself too thin. Instead, concentrate on spending the most time with the person you really like, and working on the project that excites your passion the most. If you do this, you will achieve much better results, and you will be more content in the long run.
If you’re an Excitement Seeker, you have a lot of fun, excitement, pizzazz, and charisma to contribute to the world. When you meet new people, dazzle them with your fun and spontaneous nature, but also make sure you temper your enthusiasm with practicality and prudent observation. When you do that, you will have the best of both worlds—spontaneity and planning, fun and serious intent. Now the world will truly be at your feet.
HOW TO FIND SECURITY IN AN INSECURE WORLD: DISCOVER THE POWER OF THE SECURITY SEEKER
How important is security in your life? In our topsy turvy and chaotic world, we need safety and security more than ever before. If you’re a Security Seeker personality type, you’re someone who is practical, structured, and schedule-orientated. For you, relationships represent family, tradition, loyalty, and long-term commitment. On Love University, we learned some valuable tips to help Security Seekers find love and happiness, as follows:
*Your best match in love is a fellow Security Seeker: If you’re single, you can find a compatible Security Seeker by getting involved in groups or activities that cater to family, church (volunteer), the community (neighborhood watch, chamber of commerce), and country (grassroots political organizations). Together, you and your Security Seeker mate can build a stable and secure family life that is rewarding and long-term.
*Develop your spontaneous side. Although you respond well to structure, it’s good to “let your hair down” once in a while and be a little spontaneous. Try a new restaurant or activity; go to work in a different route; change your hair or clothes. Be a little adventurous to balance out your more cautious and skeptical side.
*Practice self-care: As a Security Seeker, you like to take care of others and make sure they feel safe and secure. Sometimes, however, you neglect your own well-being to help others. Make sure that you take time for yourself: Exercise, eat healthy, engage in recreational/hobby time; get a massage, facial, spa day or take a “me day (relaxing and doing what you love).” When you rejuvenate yourself, you will feel better, and you will have more to give to others.
Security Seekers are the people who keep our civilization from crumbling to the ground. As a Security Seeker, you are the glue of society; you keep everything running on time, and you make sure that we are comfortable and safe. Celebrate your nature and realize how important you are to yourself and the world. When you do that, you will experience greater joy, happiness, and of course, security.
ARE YOU A KNOWLEDGE SEEKER? TAP INTO YOUR SUPERPOWER OF WISDOM AND FIND YOUR SOULMATE
The dating podcast are always my favorite to listen to and are really helpful in my dating life. I’m a huge over thinker about everything, especially dating and tend to be confused about certain situations I encounter with dating but these podcast allow me to view those situations from a different perspective and not overthink it as much. Such a great podcast to listen to daily!
Why time and space are not real was an awesome podcast! This podcast really opens your eyes. It made me think of different perspectives which we should all try to do. I think it was nicely structured, great facilitation on the interviews part, and awesome explanations on the interviewee’s part.
I enjoy that Dr. Avila presents us with actual terms that describe what he is teaching us, but also does a great job in explaining them so that anyone can follow along. This podcast not only informs us about all types of love, but it gives us the opportunity to put it into practice. Therefore, I have some homework to catch up on!