Love University with Dr. Alexander Avila

Dr. Alexander Avila
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Love University with Dr. Alexander Avila

Love University: A Podcast Where you can Learn How to: Love-Yourself, Others, & a Higher Power! Hosted by Renowned Clinical Psychologist Dr. Alex Avila www.loveuniversity.love

  1. APR 7

    ARE YOU THE GENERAL? HOW TO FIND YOUR PERFECT LOVE AND BUILD AN EMPIRE AS AN ENTJ (MYERS-BRIGGS TYPE)

    Do you desire a love that blends strategic drive, bold vision, and heartfelt connection? If so, you may be the General LoveType (ENTJ on the Myers-Briggs personality test)—the decisive leader who thrives on challenges, big goals, and purposeful relationships. On our Love University podcast, we explored the unique qualities and romantic requirements of the General—one of the most powerful love personality styles from my classic LoveTypes (lovetype.com). Here’s what we learned: As a General, you approach life with a confident intellect and proactive mindset, making you a strong and compelling partner. You excel in relationships that allow you to brainstorm creative solutions, set audacious objectives, and champion each other’s dreams. For you, love is about forging a dynamic alliance, celebrating every success along the way, and cultivating mutual respect through honest communication and shared ambition. In relationships, you may sometimes get caught up in your drive to achieve, which can lead you to miss important emotional subtleties—both yours and your partner’s. Yet, this same determination often makes you exceptionally supportive, visionary, and inspiring. Your capacity to see potential in both yourself and your loved one can be a priceless asset in any partnership. If you’re looking for true connection, consider these helpful pointers: Leverage Your Leadership: Your gift for motivation and organization is one of your biggest strengths—don’t hesitate to involve your partner in the strategic process. By crafting goals together, you build unity and show that you value their perspective.• Practice Mindful Empathy: You’re direct and solution-focused, but remember to pause at times and genuinely hear how your partner feels. By showing care for their emotional experience, you foster greater trust and understanding.• Cultivate Shared Ambitions: You’re at your best when you can collaborate on exciting projects or tackle new challenges as a team. Whether it’s launching a business, planning an epic travel adventure, or investing in mutual learning, striving side by side fortifies your connection and your achievements.• Balance Drive with Warmth: While you flourish in goal-oriented environments, you also need a tender emotional bedrock. Be transparent in your affections, and let your partner know you value them as more than just a teammate in your pursuits. Remember to let your partner see your vulnerable side and share the feelings that often lie beneath your confident exterior. Although it’s easy for Generals to stay focused on action and progress, opening your heart to emotional truths can lead to a deeper and more rewarding connection. By pairing your passion for achievement with authentic emotional presence, you’ll create a love that’s as powerful as it is nurturing. Ultimately, your ideal relationship is one that harmonizes ambition with genuine closeness. When you extend your leadership and vision to someone who appreciates your individuality, you can build a life of impactful collaborations, heartfelt companionship, and ongoing success. With the right person by your side, you’ll discover that true love can be an extraordinary partnership—and a lasting source of mutual growth and happiness.

    12 min

  2. APR 1

    ARE YOU THE EXPERT? HOW TO FIND YOUR PERFECT LOVE AND SEXY MIND AS AN INTJ (MYERS-BRIGGS TYPE)

    Do you desire a love that blends intellectual synergy, strategic vision, and heartfelt connection? If so, you may be the Expert LoveType (INTJ on the Myers-Briggs personality test)—the forward-thinking strategist who thrives on knowledge, self-improvement, and purposeful partnerships. On our Love University podcast, we explored the unique qualities of the Expert and how you can find your perfect love match. Here’s what we learned: As an Expert, you approach life with a keen analytical mind and an unquenchable thirst for understanding, making you a focused and perceptive partner. You excel in relationships that allow you to delve into stimulating topics, share well-reasoned perspectives, and collaborate on future goals. For you, love is about building a shared vision, celebrating each milestone of the journey, and creating a deep bond through honest dialogue and mutual respect. In relationships, you may sometimes get absorbed in your own thoughts and overlook important emotional cues—both yours and your partner’s. Yet, this same dedication to thinking things through often makes you exceptionally loyal, attentive, and supportive. Your ability to plan for the future, notice small details, and offer insightful observations can be a wonderful asset to any partnership. If you’re looking for true connection, consider these helpful pointers: Honor Your Vision: Your ability to see the big picture and chart a course toward meaningful objectives is one of your greatest strengths—don’t hesitate to share it. By inviting your partner into your planning process, you create a sense of teamwork and inspire mutual trust. Practice Empathetic Listening: You’re naturally focused on logic and problem-solving, but remember to slow down and truly hear your partner’s feelings. By showing genuine interest in their emotional world, you foster deeper understanding and respect. Nurture Shared Goals: You’re at your best when you can pursue growth and learning together with your partner. Whether it’s studying a topic of mutual interest or taking on a challenging project, dedicating time to common pursuits strengthens your intellectual and emotional bond. Balance Logic with Warmth: While you thrive on analysis, you also need a loving emotional foundation. Be open with your affections, and reassure your mate that you’re emotionally available despite your more reserved nature. Remember to share your inner feelings and let your partner see the more vulnerable facets of who you are. Although it can be easy for Experts to remain in the realm of logic, acknowledging and communicating your emotional truths can lead to a more authentic and fulfilling connection. By pairing your visionary mindset with genuine warmth, you’ll cultivate a love that’s both stimulating and comforting. Ultimately, your ideal relationship is one that combines intellectual exploration with true emotional closeness. When you offer your insights to someone who values your individuality, you can build a life of deep conversations, purposeful collaboration, and meaningful partnership. With the right person by your side, you’ll discover that true love can be a profound journey and sustaining source of lifelong growth.

    12 min

  3. MAR 17

    ARE YOU THE PERFORMER? HOW TO FIND YOUR PERFECT LOVE AND A LIFETIME OF FUN AS AN ESFP (MYERS-BRIGGS TYPE)

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    11 min

  4. MAR 10

    THE BIG BALLER WHO FOUND HIS HEART, WITH SPECIAL GUEST, DANIEL GUTIERREZ, THE RADICAL MINDFULNESS MASTER

    Daniel Gutierrez was once at the top of his game in the business world—an advisor to the Obama Administration, a big-time speaker, and a highly paid consultant to major organizations. But then he left it all behind to embark on a spiritual journey toward self-love. Now a mindfulness master (danielgutierrez.com) and bestselling author (Radical Mindfulness), he leads life-changing retreats to Peru, teaching Radical Mindfulness and the power of living and loving fully in the present. A Life-Changing Encounter with Wachuma In his search for enlightenment, Daniel took San Pedro (Wachuma), a plant medicine known for opening the heart and deepening wisdom. Unlike the intense night visions of Ayahuasca, Wachuma is taken during the day, bringing clarity and connection to nature. During the experience, he saw a powerful condor (a large bird of prey)—a sign to trust his inner wisdom and embrace his path as a teacher and healer. A Mother’s Final Words of Freedom During his mother’s dying moments, Daniel experienced the sacred energy of Palo Santo wood. He saw two lights and felt her presence. Her last words to him: “You were here when I needed you. I release you to the world.” With that blessing, he stepped fully into his mission of love and mindfulness. Radical Mindfulness: The Art of Being Fully Present Mindfulness rewires the brain—lowering fear, increasing memory and planning, and boosting compassion by 23%, while reducing aggression by 57%. Daniel’s Six-Step Radical Mindfulness Framework helps people stay present: Focus on the present (breath, senses). Direct thoughts to the moment. Ask: Am I okay right now? Question fear: Is this real? Assess: Am I moving toward or away from my goal? Take action: Shift energy through movement. Plant Medicine: Nature’s Teachers and Healers Daniel learned that Indigenous wisdom sees plants as living beings (Anima). If a plant loves you, it heals you. This is a sacred exchange—plants willingly offer their spirit when treated with gratitude and respect. Spiritual Wisdom From the Jungle Here are some of Daniel’s Nuggets of Natural Higher Knowledge: Healing isn’t the goal—love is. When you love, healing happens. Don’t wait for the storm to pass—dance in the rain. The dangers of the jungle aren’t there just to kill, but to protect (like in life, what you fear may be guarding something valuable). Unplug from technology to reconnect with yourself. Guilt and sadness come from burdening yourself with self-harming expectations—but Radical Mindfulness teaches acceptance and love. Finding Peace in Sacred Lands Daniel now runs the Catalina Retreat Center (catalinaretreatcenterperu.com), named after his beloved departed mother. He leads earnest seekers on transformational journeys to Peru, including spiritually evolved places such as Cusco and Machu Picchu in the Andes.   A New Definition of Success Once a "big baller" in the business world, Daniel discovered that true success isn’t about money or power. It’s about stillness, presence, and love. On Love University, we invite you to embrace the powerful lesson inspired by Daniel’s journey to peace and self-acceptance: Live more. Love more. Be more. When you do this, the world opens its arms to you, and your joy will be unending. Listen to the full episode with Daniel Gutierrez on Love University Podcast. Take the first step toward a life of peace and purpose—because true success begins within.

    39 min

  5. FEB 22

    YOUR INVINCIBLE YEAR, PART TWO: 8 KEYS TO UNSTOPABBLE SUCCESS AND UNILIMITED JOY

    Have you ever felt like success, love, or happiness was just out of your reach? Do you feel like there’s something bigger waiting for you, but you’re not sure how to grasp it? On our Love University podcast, we explored what it means to step into your Invincible Self—and achieve your dreams—not by forcing change overnight, but by making small, meaningful shifts that open doors you never knew existed. Here are 8 powerful ways to unlock your unstoppable success in 2025: The Thing You Seek Is Seeking YouWhat if your biggest desires—love, success, purpose—are also looking for you? Consider Sara Blakely, the founder of Spanx. With only $5,000, she noticed a problem (uncomfortable shapewear) and realized the solution was calling her just as much as she was searching for it. The same happened with Tim Berners-Lee, who invented the World Wide Web—his vision for a connected world was something humanity was already yearning for. The Dark Room: Desire Versus ResignationImagine standing in a pitch-black room filled with everything you need, but you can’t see it. You fumble for a light switch but come up empty. Frustrated, you think, maybe I should just accept the darkness. Then a thought hits you: What if the switch isn’t on the wall? You feel around, find a button on the floor, press it—and suddenly, light floods the room.  You see everything you need. Do You Want It as Much as a Dying Person Wants Life?True desire is intense. Imagine someone fighting to survive—they don’t hesitate, doubt, or give up. They fight with everything they have. That’s the level of passion you need for your goals. Be the Thing You Long ForIf you want love, be loving. If you want success, act as if you’re already successful. The moment you embody what you seek, the world starts reflecting it back to you. Lift Your Mind Above Effort and ResistanceMany people struggle because they fight against life instead of flowing with it. Imagine trying to swim upstream—it’s exhausting and gets you nowhere. Now, picture letting go and allowing the current to carry you. When you do this, love, happiness, and success will surely flow to you. Attract High-Value RelationshipsYour relationships are a direct reflection of your energy. If you radiate confidence, kindness, and self-worth, you’ll attract people who have the same qualities. Now your relationships become your golden treasure. Search for Worthier PrizesSometimes, failure is just a redirection to something better. Consider Lady Gaga who was dropped by her first record label after only three months. Devastated, but determined, she refined her artistry and soon became one of the biggest pop stars in the world. Reverse the DesireNot every desire is meant for you—and that’s okay. Sometimes, the greatest act of self-love is letting go. Holding on to something that isn’t aligned with your true path—whether it’s a relationship, career, or outdated dream—only blocks the right opportunities from finding you. When you release what no longer serves you, you create space for something far greater to take its place. Remember this: What you seek is also seeking you. Align your energy with your desires, and opportunities will follow. Even when life feels like a Dark Room, keep searching—the light switch is there. Success, love, and happiness require full commitment. Sometimes setbacks are actually redirections toward something better, but you must be willing to let go of what no longer serves you. The moment you fully embrace your worth, act with purpose, and let go of what doesn’t belong to you, you will naturally attract the success, love, and joy that were always meant for you. Here’s to your Invincible Year.

    11 min

  6. FEB 10

    ARE YOU THE SCHOLAR? DO YOU THINK BRAINS ARE SEXY? HOW TO FIND YOUR PERFECT LOVE AND INTELLECTUAL EQUAL AS AN INTP

    Do you think brains are sexy, and do you seek an intellectually compatible mate? If so, you may be the Scholar (INTP on the Myers-Briggs test), a knowledge aficionado who loves to learn and values a partner who can keep you thinking. On our Love University podcast, we explored the unique qualities of the Scholar and how they can find a love that stimulates both  heart and mind. The Scholar's Approach to Love: As a Scholar, you approach relationships with curiosity and a desire for deep understanding. You value meaningful conversations and are drawn to partners who can engage in intellectual debates and share your passion for knowledge. Your analytical nature means you appreciate honesty and directness, often favoring straightforward communication over emotional nuance. This can lead to profound connections with those who appreciate your thoughtful and introspective demeanor. Challenges in Romantic Relationships: While your intellectual approach is a strength, it can also present challenges. You may find it difficult to express emotions, leading partners to perceive you as distant or detached. Your preference for logic over emotion might cause you to overlook the emotional needs of your partner, potentially leading to misunderstandings. Additionally, your tendency to become absorbed in your thoughts can make you seem unavailable or uninterested in the relationship. Finding Your Intellectual Match: To find a partner who complements your scholarly nature, consider the following: Seek Shared Interests: Engage in activities and communities that align with your intellectual passions, such as academic clubs, book discussions, or science forums. Prioritize Open Communication: Be transparent about your need for intellectual stimulation and seek a partner who values and reciprocates this need. Balance Logic with Emotion: While you thrive on intellectual connection, remember to nurture the emotional aspects of a relationship. Practice expressing your feelings and be attentive to your partner's emotional cues. By embracing your intellectual strengths and addressing potential challenges, you can build a fulfilling relationship that satisfies your intellect and emotional needs.  Now it’s up to you: Valentine’s Day is almost here. Go out this week and connect with like-minded individuals who match your thirst for knowledge, competence, and wisdom. Who knows, your compatible love partner may be a click or text away.

    10 min

  7. FEB 3

    THE YEAR OF INVINCIBLE YOU: AWAKEN YOUR DREAMS

    Have you ever felt like there’s something more waiting for you—something bigger, but just out of reach? Maybe you’ve had moments where you imagined a wonderful career or relationship, a new direction, or a fresh start, but doubts crept in, making it seem unrealistic. On our Love University podcast, we explored what it means to step into your Invincible Self—not by forcing change overnight, but by making small, meaningful shifts that open doors you never knew existed. Here are 7 ways to move toward the life you truly desire in 2025:   Imagine What You Truly Want—Not Just What You Think You Deserve Unfortunately, many people dream within their comfort zone—what they think is realistic or possible. When they do this, however, they limit themselves and mute their passion and drive. But, what if you removed the limits? Picture the life you’d love—career, relationships, health—without the "I can't" or "it's not realistic" filters. The second you stop aiming small, the universe starts expanding the possibilities. Plant the Desire Seed: Are You Growing or Neglecting Your Dreams? Your dreams are like seeds—if you feed them with time, effort, and belief, they grow. But if you let distractions (negative people, doubts, excuses) take over, they dry up. Are you making small daily movements toward your goals, or are you just hoping things will magically happen? Love yourself enough to water the seeds of your desires until they bear the fruits of success. Make Every Action a Win by Keeping Your Vision Strong Every small step adds up. A painter doesn’t finish a masterpiece overnight, but makes a little progress daily to create something incredible. Are you thinking of a great business idea, fitness goal, or creative project? Stick with it even when progress feels slow. The key isn’t speed—it’s consistently moving toward your goals every single day. Call Every Experience a Success (Even the "Failures") What if nothing was truly a failure—just a stepping stone? A lost job might push you toward a dream career. A bad relationship might help you find real love. When you label everything as progress, setbacks lose their power over you, and you feel like a winner no matter what. Focus on What You Want Until Your Actions Feel Natural Have you ever started something that felt like a struggle, but over time, it became second nature? That’s what happens when passion meets consistency. The first steps might feel forced, but stick with it, and suddenly, your effort turns into a natural attraction of what you desire. Every Person is a Golden Link in Your Chain of Good No connection is random. Some people push you forward, others teach you lessons, and some fade away to make room for who you really need. Trust that the right people will show up at the right time—whether it’s a mentor, friend, romantic partner, or even a stranger who sparks an idea. It’s Never Too Late to Take Back Lost Time Do you feel like you’ve wasted a lot of time in life? In reality, you haven’t. Some of the world’s most successful people found their passion and achieved their dreams later in life. Vera Wang started designing in her 40s. Stan Lee’s biggest comic book hits came in his 60s. The road wasn’t straight for them, but every detour had a purpose. In the same way, be open to life changes and use them for your ultimate good.                    It's Time to Step Into Your Invincible Self This is your year to stop waiting and start believing in something bigger for yourself. Here’s the truth: Your dreams matter, your past doesn’t define you, and every action—big or small—moves you forward. On our next Love University episode, we will dive even deeper into stepping into your power and creating the life you truly deserve. Until then, dream big, take action, and keep spreading love—because the energy you put out is the energy you attract.

    10 min

  8. JAN 26

    ARE YOU THE GENTLE ARTIST? HOW TO FIND YOUR PERFECT LOVE AND AUTHENTIC NATURE AS AN ISFP

    Do you believe that love should be a gentle dance of understanding, emotional connection, and shared appreciation for life’s beauty? If so, you may be the Gentle Artist LoveType (ISFP on the Myers-Briggs personality test)—a compassionate and introspective soul who values nature, animals, art, and the simple yet profound joys of life. On our latest Love University podcast, we delved into the unique qualities of the Gentle Artist and how you can find a love that complements your tender, creative spirit. As a Gentle Artist, your love for the world around you is reflected in everything you do. Whether it’s through creating art, cherishing the beauty of nature, or forming meaningful connections with children and animals, your heart is deeply attuned to the world’s softer, quieter side. You are flexible and willing to adapt for love, even to the point of moving cross-country if it means being with your soulmate. This openness and gentleness make you an incredible long-term partner, but they also mean you must guard your heart against being taken advantage of by those who might mistake your trust for naivety. In relationships, you express your love in subtle yet profound ways—through a handmade gift, a quiet moment shared under the stars, or the warmth of your presence when words aren’t needed. You value harmony and emotional connection above all, making you a nurturing and empathetic partner. Yet, your natural reserve can sometimes make it hard for others to fully understand the depth of your feelings, leading to occasional misunderstandings. To find your perfect love, seek someone who appreciates your creativity and gentle spirit—someone who values authenticity, loves nature as much as you do, and treasures life’s simple yet meaningful moments. A partner who supports your artistic passions and honors your need for introspection will help you flourish. This person will not only cherish your sensitivity but will also inspire you to grow in ways you never imagined. At the same time, it’s important for you to express your needs openly in a relationship. While you often prefer to let your actions speak for you, sharing your feelings and vulnerabilities will deepen your connection with your partner. Vulnerability, far from being a weakness, is your pathway to true intimacy. Your ideal relationship as a Gentle Artist is one filled with shared experiences that celebrate life’s beauty—strolling through a quiet forest, creating something meaningful together, or simply enjoying a peaceful evening side by side. With the right partner, you’ll find a love that feels as natural and enduring as the art and beauty you so deeply value. The key to finding your perfect love as an ISFP lies in embracing your gentle, creative nature while learning to set boundaries and communicate openly. Trust in your ability to connect on a deep emotional level, and seek someone who resonates with your values of authenticity and emotional depth. With the right person, your love will not only be tender but also transformative—a testament to the beauty of two sensitive souls coming together in harmony.

    9 min
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Love University: A Podcast Where you can Learn How to: Love-Yourself, Others, & a Higher Power! Hosted by Renowned Clinical Psychologist Dr. Alex Avila www.loveuniversity.love

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