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Love University' A Podcast Where you can Learn How to: Love-Yourself, Others, & a Higher Power! Hosted by Renowned Clinical Psychologist Dr. Alex Avila www.loveuniversity.love

Love University Dr. Alex Avila

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Love University' A Podcast Where you can Learn How to: Love-Yourself, Others, & a Higher Power! Hosted by Renowned Clinical Psychologist Dr. Alex Avila www.loveuniversity.love

    THE POWER OF ALTRUISM: HOW HELPING OTHERS CAN TRANSFORM YOUR LIFE

    THE POWER OF ALTRUISM: HOW HELPING OTHERS CAN TRANSFORM YOUR LIFE

    • 12 min
    LEARN THE 3 SECRETS OF HAPPINESS: FOREVER JOY CAN BE YOURS TODAY, RIGHT NOW.

    LEARN THE 3 SECRETS OF HAPPINESS: FOREVER JOY CAN BE YOURS TODAY, RIGHT NOW.

    You can be happy, despite the circumstances.  No matter how much you have suffered in the past, you can learn now to be happy as a consistent habit. All you have to do is learn 3 time-tested, research-proven secrets of happiness: They are:
     
    *Gratitude:  Be thankful for the good that comes to you—from your loved ones, the Higher Nature, even strangers (help you on the side of the road). Keep a gratitude journal and write down three things you're grateful for every day: Your life, family, friends, career, hobbies, talents and interests; for the air, sunshine, birds, and trees—everything you can think of. Research shows that keeping a gratitude journal increases your happiness by 30% and improves your sleep by 40%. Try it this week and notice the difference in your daily mood. 
     
    *Joyful Optimism: Optimism comes from the root word, “Optimus,”—"the best."  When you are optimistic, you expect the best; you anticipate that things will work out well for you; you feel that “I am going to be OK.”  Research shows that optimistic people are also luckier in life. They’re more likely to win the lottery, make money in business deals, pick the right love partner and friends, and make the best health and financial decisions. Because they are more open to experience, and can turn problems into possibilities, they are more flexible, motivated, and perseverant. As a result, they usually get better results and are happier.
     
    *Forgiveness:  Forgiveness erases the pain of your past.  When you forgive others for wrongs committed against you, you liberate yourself from resentment, anger, and hatred. Although you may have nothing more to do with those who hurt you, you are forgiving them so you can be mentally free of them and the harms they committed against you. By doing this, you can move on with your life with a free and positive mind. Although you may be able to forgive others, one of the hardest things to do is to forgive yourself—for your flaws, mistakes, and blunders. You are probably your harshest critic. Start today to forgive yourself for all of your real or imagined errors.  Realize that there is no need to regret your past mistakes. The truth is that you can only act at your current level of psychological awareness.  When you’re in 6th grade, you make 6th grade mistakes; now that you’re in college (higher level of psychological development), you won’t make the same mistakes. Resolve that you will learn from your errors and grow as a human being—looking forward, not backward, to a bright and promising future.
    There you have it: Practice the 3 Secrets of Happiness today and live with joy and success. Let us know your results by writing to us at loveuniversitylove@gmail.com.  To get your copy of the 3 Secrets of Happiness go to Amazon at shorturl.at/mwD89. We welcome your success stories.
     

    • 4 min
    MAKE YOUR LIFE A MAGICAL MIRACLE: 7 KEYS TO A HAPPY LIFE, WITH SPECIAL GUEST WENDELL MIRACLE, HAPPINESS INFLUENCER

    MAKE YOUR LIFE A MAGICAL MIRACLE: 7 KEYS TO A HAPPY LIFE, WITH SPECIAL GUEST WENDELL MIRACLE, HAPPINESS INFLUENCER

    In our world of turmoil and strife, we need more positivity; more miracles, more loving energy—to lighten our minds and lift our spirits. Recently, Wendell Miracle, happiness influencer and author, appeared on Love University and inspired us with his story of triumph over tragedy. Born in The Philippines, when Wendell became a US citizen he decided to change his last name to “Miracle” because he wanted to be an inspiration to many suffering people worldwide. After losing his beloved mother to breast cancer, and being broke and suicidal, Wendell transformed his life by giving to others through his inspirational pieces of advice, Hope Nuggets (#hopenuggets) on Instagram. Here are some of the Hope Nuggets we discussed on the show:
    Gratitude is your magic elixir. Research shows that keeping a gratitude journal—writing three things you’re grateful for every day—can reduce your depression by 30% and improve your sleep by 40%. When Wendell wakes up each morning, he gives thanks for two gifts—his eyes—and then proceeds to list all of the things he’s grateful for: his bed, toothpaste, car, life, friends, family, health, career, spirituality, and so on. As a result, he feels constantly blessed and joyful.  If you’re feeling down, start a Gratitude Journal and write down all of the things that you’re grateful for, starting with your life, loved ones, and so forth. When you bring more gratitude into your life on a consistent basis, you will uplift your mood and reclaim your spirit of positivity.
    Use generosity as a reversal to eradicate feelings of deprivation and sadness.  When you’re feeling sad or lonely, and engaging in self-pity, there is a sure-fire solution: Go out and help people, be generous, and give them what you believe you are lacking.  If you’re lonely and want love, find the loneliest person in the room and cheer them up with loving energy. If you’re lacking finances, give time or money to a charity or a needy person. Being generous when you feel you have nothing to give will transform your mindset—from a mentality of lack and scarcity to one of glorious abundance. When you give loving energy to others, you realize that you already have love inside you. After all, you can’t give something you don’t already have. If you are short of money, yet give money or practical resources to others, you  start to stimulate a prosperity mindset in yourself. You begin to believe that there is enough money to go around. You will understand how the world is an abundant place where there is constant growth: there can always be more money, more creativity, and more love.  
    Love and forgive yourself.  You may be able to forgive others, but you probably find it difficult to forgive yourself—for your mistakes, inadequacies, and weaknesses. Yet, one of the most important elements of success and happiness is to be compassionate with yourself—to love yourself enough to forgive your past errors and blunders. When you are self-compassionate you accept yourself as you are—with your strengths and weaknesses. You also realize that you can contribute a great deal to the world if you utilize your Don—your God/nature-given talent or gift—to help others.  It’s also important that you take good care of your physical, emotional, and spiritual needs—don’t neglect your health just to get more work done or to meet other people’s expectations. On a regular basis, take time for self-care. Get a massage or facial, spend time with loved ones, do your favorite hobby, engage in an exercise or spiritual practice; take a break from working too hard and just relax. When you love and take care of yourself, you will have more energy and ability to love and help others. In fact, the most selfless thing you can do is to nurture and reenergize yourself so you're able to redirect your loving and nurturing energy out

    • 30 min
    CAN MARIJUANA ELEVATE YOUR LIFE? WITH SPECIAL GUEST, MARIJAYNE, CANNABIS ADVOCATE AND EDUCATOR

    CAN MARIJUANA ELEVATE YOUR LIFE? WITH SPECIAL GUEST, MARIJAYNE, CANNABIS ADVOCATE AND EDUCATOR

    • 43 min
    WOULD YOUR MARRY YOUR SOUL MATE IF THEY WERE ABOUT TO DIE? SPECIAL GUEST ASHLEY JACKSON, CREATOR OF TIMELESS DREAM EVENTS FOR TERMINALLY ILL PEOPLE

    WOULD YOUR MARRY YOUR SOUL MATE IF THEY WERE ABOUT TO DIE? SPECIAL GUEST ASHLEY JACKSON, CREATOR OF TIMELESS DREAM EVENTS FOR TERMINALLY ILL PEOPLE

    Imagine if your soul mate had terminal cancer and were about to die soon—would you marry them? That is exactly what our amazing guest on Love University, Ashley Jackson, did when her fiancé, Troy, was diagnosed with stage 4 nasal cancer—two months after he proposed to her.  Not only did they marry, but they are still happily married three years later and Troy has made a full recovery. Here are some of the nuggets of wisdom we learned from Ashley on how to survive and thrive when hearing about a loved one’s terminal diagnosis:
     
    *Match and lead.  When a loved one is diagnosed with a terminal illness, shock, anger, and despair often follow. The loved one may feel like they have a “death sentence” and that their life has ended. Regardless of how they feel, it’s important that you initially match their feelings.  If they are sad, you can have empathy for their sadness, and you will speak slower and in a more somber tone to mirror their depleted energy. When they are more optimistic, you can match their optimism and speak in a brighter and cheerier tone. Being sensitive to your loved one’s feeling is part of being empathetic—putting yourself in their shoes. If you try to cheer them up too soon, they may not react well to it because they are mired in a lower emotional state (sadness).  The key is to mirror their emotions (match how they are feeling)—whether sad, hopeful, fearful, or peaceful. Then, once you have met them at their emotional level, you can slightly elevate your response. You can offer them your own positive emotions, including optimism and faith, to raise their emotional state. Remember, however, that you will only upgrade your emotional reaction—smile, laugh, joke, be positive—when your loved one is ready to receive it.  
     
    *Jump out of the box and live fearlessly. When we hear about a loved one’s cancer diagnosis, or other catastrophic news, the tendency is to give in to fear, worry, and anxiety. Yet, Ashley counsels us to jump out of the small box that fear tries to put us in. You need to realize that life is meant to be lived with love, faith, and courage, and that you can express those sentiments, despite the fear that tries to grip you.  Make a list of all the things you want to do with your loved one, including traveling, learning a new skill or hobby, starting a business project or venture, helping others, or trying a new experience. As long as your loved one is physically able to do so, give it a try. Maybe you can throw them a special “life” party, celebrating their life and love.  Or, you can take them on a fun treasure hunt on the beach or participate in fun outings and get- togethers with loving family and supportive friends.  The important thing is to bring loving energy and fun into your activities together as you recognize that love is the perfect antidote to fear; and joy is the ideal cure for despair.
     
    *Don’t be Happy, Be Joyful.   Ashley tells us about a fascinating reversal: Don’t seek to be happy with your loved one—focus on being “in joy” with them. When you’re happy, you need something to “happen” for you to maintain that feeling. Your loved one needs to do or say something that you want them to do or say; this is a form of conditional love that depends on their words and actions matching exactly what you want of them. On the other hand, when you are in joy with your loved one—whether it’s a love partner, child, family member, animal, or close friend—you simply love being with them; you have joy when you’re together.  When this happens, you are in the moment in your joyfulness and love—and simply say, “Wow.” With this type of loving energy without expectation, there is never a thought that you will leave that person (or animal)—or that they will leave you—your loving energy is what will always keep the two of you toge

    • 50 min
    THE POWER OF FRIENDSHIP: HOW GOOD FRIENDS CAN SAVE YOUR LIFE

    THE POWER OF FRIENDSHIP: HOW GOOD FRIENDS CAN SAVE YOUR LIFE

    Friends can save your life.  Aristotle, the great philosopher once said: “In poverty and other misfortunes in life, true friends are a sure refuge.” When you’re feeling down, depressed, or worried, an empathetic and supportive friend can be the balm you need to soothe your mind and get you back on track—helping you survive and thrive in times of turmoil. Loneliness—disconnection from self, others, and a higher nature—is one of the biggest problems and diseases in the world. Our primary mission at Love University is to eradicate loneliness by building a community of like-minded “Love Givers.”  Research indicates that having strong social support can reduce loneliness, which in turn, lowers dementia and blood pressure, while increasing self-confidence, gratitude, and optimism, and even helping you live longer.  In our difficult and turmoil-filled world, we need great friends to combat social isolation and loneliness. With loving and committed friends motivating us to be our best,  we can prosper and enjoy life to the fullest.  Here are some ways to have more amazing friends in your life:
     
    *Assess Your Friendship Level.   Make an inventory of your circle of friends. On a pad, tablet, or journal write down your total number of friends and rate their level of emotional closeness, from 1 to 100. You might have 2 100 level friends (long-term, emotionally close friends),  4 at the 80 level (close friends), and 7 at the 50 level (acquaintances). Or, if you’re Introverted (enjoy your alone time), you might have lower numbers. Regardless of your number and quality of friends, your next step is to decide if you want to increase either the number and/or the quality of your friends. Perhaps, you decide to reach out to new people by joining groups of like-minded individuals (science, psychology, crafts, politics, business). Or you may want to reconnect with old friends from school, work, church, or the neighborhood that you haven’t spoken to in a while. As your measure your friend circle, you will be able to make improvements in the number and quality of your friends so you can have stronger and more enjoyable social support.
     
    *Be a Friend to Yourself.  One of the most important keys to having good friends is to be a friend to yourself.  This means that you fully understand, accept, embrace, and love yourself as you are—with all your foibles, weaknesses, and idiosyncrasies.  When people are isolated and lonely, they tend to get down on themselves—they criticize, attack, and reject themselves, saying “I’m not worthy of love and success.” On the other hand, when you’re a friend to yourself, you focus on your good qualities and how much you can contribute to others and the world. Although you recognize your needed areas of improvement, you concentrate on loving yourself for who you are right now—at this very moment. You say to yourself, “I am lovable, and I can be a great friend to others; I deserve the friendship and love of others.” When you think like this, a miraculous door to friendship opens, as you attract people by the power of your personality and the depth of your loving energy.
     
    *Look Within the Person.  Many times we judge too quickly. We meet a new person and immediately form an impression of them: jerk, cool, attractive, nice, arrogant. Yet, we may make a superficial assumption and reject a person who could have been a great friend to us (or perhaps more, even a romantic partner). In psychology, this quick to judge attitude is known as “Primacy Effect,”—the idea that first impressions are the only impression. Have you ever met someone you initially thought was mean, unkind, or harsh, and then later you turned out to be totally wrong about them? Perhaps, when you met the person they were having a bad day—they just had a fight with their love partner or coworker. Later

    • 17 min

Customer Reviews

4.6 out of 5
17 Ratings

17 Ratings

Love Student ,

Interesting Topics

I enjoy that Dr. Avila presents us with actual terms that describe what he is teaching us, but also does a great job in explaining them so that anyone can follow along. This podcast not only informs us about all types of love, but it gives us the opportunity to put it into practice. Therefore, I have some homework to catch up on!

Zava55 ,

Pass

His interviewing techniques are not engaging. He rushes through their answers and interrupts guests, he has very scattered questions, and he changes topics on the drop of the dime. I listened to a few episodes and just couldn’t follow anymore.

ashleylemos ,

So informative!!

Dr. Avila's knowledge and insight about love and relationships is very refreshing and informative. I like how he breaks it down for the average listener to understand, especially when it comes to topics that are more scientifically based. It's great that these podcasts go straight to the point and don't waste any time talking about unnecessary fluff. I am really enjoying his podcasts every week and I feel it's helped me understand myself on a whole different level. I look forward to many more!

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