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A podcast hosted by Kayla Lords and John Brownstone to share what a love of BDSM looks like in a loving relationship between a Dominant and a submissive. People new to the lifestyle or new to the idea that BDSM and love can mix will find something to learn or realize they're not alone in their experiences or feelings.

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A podcast hosted by Kayla Lords and John Brownstone to share what a love of BDSM looks like in a loving relationship between a Dominant and a submissive. People new to the lifestyle or new to the idea that BDSM and love can mix will find something to learn or realize they're not alone in their experiences or feelings.

    Podcast Minisode 9: Things to Say in Your D/s Relationship

    Podcast Minisode 9: Things to Say in Your D/s Relationship

    Part of this week’s episode will sound similar to last week when we talked about gratitude. Why? Because one of the things you should say regularly in your D/s relationship is “Thank you.” But there’s more to it than just that. We share five things in this list, but you can make it your own and add a few things you definitely need to hear or say to be happy.

    Thanks to this week’s sponsor: BDSM Contracts

    Links from the episode:

    Shop BDSM Contracts and save 20 percent

    5 Things You Should Always Say or Hear in Your D/s Relationship (blog post)

    Using Positive Reinforcement in D/s (blog post)

    Consent (episode 115)

    How to Show Gratitude in Your D/s Relationship (blog post)

    The Importance of Gratitude in D/s Relationships (episode 108)

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    • 14 min
    Managing Your Expectations in Your D/s Relationship

    Managing Your Expectations in Your D/s Relationship

    There’s the fantasy of our BDSM life or power exchange relationship, and then there’s the reality. When our expectations aren’t realistic, we spend our time disappointed or disillusioned. In this week’s episode, we talk about a few common expectations people have about what their D/s relationship “should” be like. We also share our thoughts on how to deal with them.

    In this episode:



    * Announcements: Friday night hang-out on YouTube and Saturday celebration live stream

    Certain expectations should be a given — consent, willingness to communicate, respect. You should expect those things, and if you don’t receive those things, there’s a serious problem.

    Expectation: Always feeling your Dom or sub self

    Expectation: Adjusting to a new D/s relationship at the same pace as your partner

    Expectation: Your partner understanding your unspoken submission or dominance

    Expectation: Thinking you’ll always want the same thing from your D/s

    Expectation: A Dom always has all the answers

    Expectation: Submissives always want to serve all the time

    Expectation: My partner should just “know”



    Links from the episode:

    Friday night (May 29) YouTube Live Stream at 9:30PM EST (video may not be available after the stream)

    Saturday Celebration Live Stream on YouTube (starts at 8:00PM)

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    • 1 hr 26 min
    Podcast Minisode 8: How to Show Gratitude

    Podcast Minisode 8: How to Show Gratitude

    Gratitude is a big deal to both of us. It helps keep resentment at bay and makes it easier to take care of each other, even in times of stress or when we just don’t feel like doing a specific thing or task. Some people think a Dominant partner should never need to thank their partner or that submission is all the “thanks” a submissive ever needs to provide. We disagree.

    If you want to add more gratitude into your D/s relationship — and life — here are a few ways to say “Thanks” and show your appreciation.

    Links from the episode:

    How to Show Gratitude in Your D/s Relationship (blog post)

    The Importance of Gratitude in D/s Relationships (episode 108)

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    • 17 min
    Our Top Tips for BDSM Communication

    Our Top Tips for BDSM Communication

    We talk about communication ALL THE TIME, but rarely in one episode. This definitely isn’t everything, but if you struggle with communication, this may help you out a bit.

    In this episode:



    * Announcement: Friday night YouTube live stream is at 9:30 p.m. EST

    * Announcement: The Patreon Live Q&A for May will be Saturday, May 23 at 1:00 p.m. EST

    * Announcement: We will live stream on YouTube to celebrate 3000+ subscribers at the end of May. More details to come.

    It’s not just that you listen but HOW you listen — finding out what the person sharing information needs from you (advice, support, vent)

    Communication is a skill that must be practiced

    There is no single “right” way to communicate. If you need to write or record it so you say it without your partner looking at you, go ahead!

    Tips for safewords and checking in during kinky scenes

    Don’t listen to respond. Listen to your partner to really hear what they’re saying.



    Shout-out to patrons: Cdc, Chris A., Sir&her78, Janie K., B, Devoted Cricket, and Jessica G.

    Links from the episode:

    Friday night (May 22) YouTube Live Stream at 9:30PM EST (video may not be available after the stream)

    Tongue-Tied by Stella Harris (Amazon link — NOT an affiliate link)

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    • 1 hr 36 min
    Podcast Minisode 7: Different Styles of D/s Relationships

    Podcast Minisode 7: Different Styles of D/s Relationships

    There’s no single style of D/s relationships. Not everyone wants 24/7, and not everyone wants something sexual. In this quick episode, we run down a few common styles or “ways” of setting up your D/s relationship. All that matters is that whatever you choose works for everyone involved.

    Thanks to this week’s sponsor: Hot Octopuss

    Links from the episode:

    JETT by Hot Octopuss — use code JETTKL20 thru 6/2/20 to save 20 percent! (affiliate link)

    JETT Review (video)

    What Style of D/s Do You Want? (blog post)

    D/s Isn’t About Sex (podcast episode 110)

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    • 17 min
    Podcast Minisode 6: Why Dom Drop Happens

    Podcast Minisode 6: Why Dom Drop Happens

    Dom drop (or top drop) happens. Just as submissives undergo the highs and lows of their BDSM experience, so do Dominants. In this week’s minisode, we share a few reasons why it can happen. Are these ALL of the reasons? Nope. But we’ve got to start somewhere, and the most important thing (to us) is acknowledging it exists at all.

    Thanks to this week’s sponsor: The Butters Hygienic Co.

    Links from the episode:

    The Butters — use code kayla to save 5 percent off your purchase

    3 Reasons Dom Drop Happens (blog post)

    Dealing with Drop for Doms and Subs (episode 39)

    Dom Drop and Aftercare (episode 127)

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