Lunch with Leaders: Influence Extraordinary Authentic Women in STEM Careers for Empowerment

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The Lunch with Leaders podcast helps women in STEM lead with authenticity and growth, create impact, & expand their influence. Hosted by Adaeze Iloeje-Udeogalanya, TEDx speaker, leadership strategist, & Founder. Each week, Adaeze sits down with innovators, trailblazers, & leaders who are changing cultures and redefining leadership. Together, they share the stories, strategies, & mindsets that empower women in STEM to amplify their visibility, influence, and impact. If you are ready to lead boldly, elevate your influence, and join a global movement, this is your invitation… would you accept?

  1. 2D AGO

    The Hidden Scorecard: Building Influence for Women Leaders Who Get Passed Over

    Adaeze Iloeje-Udeogalanya⁠⁠ tackles a frustrating paradox for high-achieving women in STEM: why do they get passed over for leadership roles despite exceptional performance? She reveals that the very habits that build expertise—being thorough, showing your work, and letting data lead—can signal a lack of leadership to senior executives. They aren’t evaluating your expertise; they assume it. Instead, they are using a hidden scorecard to assess your judgment, conviction, and ownership. Key Takeaways This episode unpacks that scorecard and provides a crucial communication shift: stop informing and start leading. Vague Feedback is a Red Flag: Phrases like "you’re not quite ready" or "work on your executive presence" are often signs that leaders can't articulate the real issue: you are signaling yourself as an expert, not a leader. The Expert vs. Leader Mindset: As an expert, you show your work and present options. As a leader, you synthesize information, form a conviction, and own a decision. Senior roles require the latter. The Hidden Scorecard: Leaders are looking for specific signals: Do you have a point of view, or just options? Do you hold your position under pressure? Do you own the decision, or hand it back to the room? Inform Less, Lead More: The solution is to shift your communication. Instead of walking through all the data, lead with your conclusion. State your recommendation clearly and confidently. FAQs Q: I always get great performance reviews. Why am I still stuck? A: Excelling at your current role proves you are a great operator or expert. To advance, you must demonstrate the qualities of the next role. This involves signaling leadership through decisive communication, not just delivering more results. Q: Isn’t it irresponsible to make a recommendation without showing all the data first? A: It’s about focus, not omission. Your leaders trust you have done the analysis. They need your judgment to cut through the complexity. You can always provide the data if asked, but you must lead with your strategic conclusion. Q: What is one immediate action I can take? A: Before your next high-stakes meeting, write down the single sentence: "My recommendation is ______." Practice saying it. When it’s your turn to speak, lead with that statement to frame the conversation and signal ownership. Timestamps [00:55 - 02:43] The problem: Why high-performers get stuck with vague feedback. [02:52 - 05:14] Case Study: Nadia, the expert who wasn’t seen as a leader. [05:15 - 06:58] The rules that get you promoted (and why they change). [06:59 - 08:46] The crucial shift: From showing your work to owning your decisions. [08:47 - 10:39] Your one-thing action plan: "My recommendation is..." Connect with African Women in STEM on Social Media: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow Adaeze Iloeje-Udeogalanya on LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow African Women in STEM on LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow African Women in STEM on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join the African Women in STEM Membership⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit the African Women in STEM Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Watch Adaeze Iloeje-Udeogalanya's ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TEDX Talk⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ on YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Decision-Level Advisory Application | Fill this Form >>⁠

    12 min

  2. 4D AGO

    Chioma Aso: Systems Thinking for Building Influence and High-Performing Leadership Teams - 024

    In this episode, Adaeze Iloeje-Udeogalanya⁠ talks with Chioma Aso, a systems engineer, entrepreneur, and founder of the nonprofit STEAM Divas. Chioma shares her unique perspective on how our diverse backgrounds, including cultural knowledge, are invaluable assets in the world of technology and AI! She introduces the concept of "systems thinking"—a holistic approach to problem-solving that considers how different parts of a system are interconnected. This mindset, she explains, has been the key to her successful career across multiple industries, from manufacturing and aerospace to gaming. Chioma also discusses her passion project, STEAM Divas, a nonprofit dedicated to empowering young girls by integrating the arts into STEM education. She believes that cutting off the artistic side of ourselves limits our potential and that true innovation comes from blending creativity with technical skills. Through hands-on activities like building with electronics and learning the chemistry behind everyday products, she watches young girls transform from curious participants into confident innovators. The conversation also delves into Chioma's upcoming book on "Productivity Personalities," a framework for understanding how different people contribute to projects. She identifies three key types: Early Starters who thrive on new projects, Deep Divers who specialize and go deep on one area, and Final Finishers who take projects across the finish line. Understanding these personalities, she argues, is essential for building stronger teams and preventing burnout. Key Takeaways: Embrace Your Unique Background: Your cultural knowledge and life experiences are valuable assets that can bring a unique perspective to any field. Adopt a Systems Thinking Mindset: Think holistically about how different parts of a system are interconnected to find innovative solutions. Integrate Arts with STEM (STEAM): Don't neglect your creative side. Blending arts and technology leads to more well-rounded and innovative outcomes. Understand Productivity Personalities: Recognize that people have different strengths and work styles (Early Starters, Deep Divers, Final Finishers) to build balanced and effective teams. Memorable Quotes: "When you bring in diverse talents, you are basically learning in a much broader field." [02:15] "The whole world itself is the systems, and everything we do is systems." [05:37] "I call myself the gateway drug to STEM. I'm hoping that I can trick them into looking at STEM differently." [53:05] Timestamps: [00:04] The value of cultural knowledge in tech. [04:30] Introduction to systems thinking. [11:00] The mission of STEAM Divas. [30:00] The Productivity Personalities framework. [40:00] Intellectual property: when to protect and when to share your ideas. [52:00] Chioma's vision for the next generation of women in STEAM. [61:00] Transitioning from corporate to entrepreneurship. FAQs: What is systems thinking? A holistic approach to problem-solving that considers how all parts of a system are interconnected. What are the three Productivity Personalities? Early Starters (ideators), Deep Divers (specialists), and Final Finishers (implementers). What is STEAM Divas? A nonprofit empowering young girls by integrating arts into STEM education through hands-on workshops and events. Connect with Chioma: Guest: Chioma Aso, Founder of STEAM Divas & Polymatrix Engineering Website: steamdivas.org Social: @steamdivas on LinkedIn, Instagram, and Facebook

    1h 3m

  3. MAR 3

    Natasha Henry: Tackling Uterine Fibroids and Advancing Women's Leadership in Health Equity with Myocurrent - 023

    In this episode, Adaeze Iloeje-Udeogalanya talks with Natasha Henry, founder of the health tech company Myocurrent, about her journey from patient to pioneer. Natasha shares the harrowing personal health crisis that led her to pivot her career and dedicate her life to solving systemic issues in women's health. For years, her debilitating symptoms from uterine fibroids were dismissed by doctors as "normal," culminating in a terrifying collapse and hospitalization with a critically low hemoglobin level of 2.4. This traumatic experience became the catalyst for Myocurrent, a patent-pending, AI-powered solution integrating neuroscience to help women manage their conditions by translating complex patient data into an interpretable format. The conversation delves into the multifaceted nature of leadership and success. Natasha challenges traditional models of leadership, arguing that true leadership is about service. The discussion also explores the broader societal issues at play, from the historical dismissal of women's pain to the fact that uterine fibroids are a global issue affecting women of all races, a topic from Natasha's upcoming book. Natasha also speaks on the importance of self-awareness and finding your voice, and how intentional mentorship, not saviorism, is the key to meaningful professional relationships. This episode is a call to action for listeners to become advocates for their own health and support women-led innovation. Key Takeaways: Personal Crisis as a Catalyst: Natasha's life-threatening experience with uterine fibroids and the repeated dismissal of her pain by the medical system directly inspired her to create Myocurrent. The Power of the Patient-Researcher: By refusing to be sidelined and taking ownership of her health journey, Natasha embodies the "patient-researcher" ethos, using her lived experience to drive innovation. Leadership is Service: True leadership is not about command and control but about service, a quality Natasha argues women inherently possess. Intentional Mentorship Over Saviorism: Effective mentorship is a two-way street. Know what you need, offer value in return, and be intentional about who you invest time with. Memorable Quotes: "I think this objective about leadership that leadership is served. And if women, by default, we know how to serve... You have to stop modeling the men you see. You have to lead in your own way." [26:33] "Because something hasn't been done doesn't mean you can't do it, right?" [21:48] "I think when it comes to owning your power, it's getting to know who you are. Outside of what the world calls you..." [38:36] Timestamps: [04:39] Natasha shares the personal health crisis that led to the founding of Myocurrent. [08:43] The moment of validation after years of dismissal by the medical system. [16:35] The mission of Myocurrent: integrating neuroscience and AI for women's health. [31:29] Natasha discusses her upcoming book on the history of women's pain being dismissed. [37:57] Advice for women on owning their power and being curious. FAQs: What is Myocurrent? A health tech company developing a patent-pending AI solution that uses neuroscience to help individuals manage uterine fibroids. Are fibroids only a Black women's issue? No. In the episode, Natasha clarifies that her research shows it is a global issue affecting women of all races. Connect with Natasha: Guest: Natasha Henry, Founder of Myocurrent Social: linkedin.com/in/natashahenry Company: linkedin.com/company/myocurrent Email: natashahenry@nyu.edu

    47 min

  4. FEB 26

    Owning Your Authority: How Senior Women in STEM Can Break Through Social Conditioning and Lead with Confidence - 022

    In this powerful solo episode of the Lunch with Leaders podcast, host Adaeze Iloeje-Udeogalanya⁠, a TEDx speaker, leadership strategist, and founder of African Women in STEM, delivers a deeply personal reflection on one of the most overlooked barriers to career advancement for senior women in STEM and corporate leadership: social conditioning. Adaeze uses this solo episode as a one-on-one conversation with her audience, creating an intimate space to explore a topic that many women recognize but rarely name. The episode opens with a scenario that will feel painfully familiar to many listeners. You are in the room, the room you worked over a decade to earn a seat in. Someone asks for your recommendation. You know the answer. But instead of stating it with clarity and conviction, you hesitate. You second-guess yourself. You mumble something vague, and the moment passes. Then someone else speaks up, the room nods in agreement, and everyone moves on. Everyone except you, because you know you just lost another opportunity to demonstrate your value. Adaeze traces this pattern back to its roots: social conditioning. From childhood, women are taught to be likable, to smile more, to not be too certain, and to never make anyone uncomfortable. These lessons are reinforced in school, at home, and especially in corporate environments where women, particularly women of color and African women in STEM, are often the only ones who look like them in the room. Over time, these survival strategies become deeply ingrained habits. They show up as over-explaining, apologizing before stating an opinion, polling the room for consensus before sharing a recommendation, and softening language to avoid appearing too assertive. Memorable Quotes "What got you into the room and helped you survive is now the very thing that is stopping you from getting to your next level. And no one is going to flag it for you, except me." — [06:52] "Every time you hold back, you're undermining your own authority to make others more comfortable and it's costing you." — [09:39] "This week, in your next meeting, say the thing. State the recommendation. And like I said earlier, pause. Don't explain. Don't scan people's faces for approval." — [09:52] "You're not unprepared, you're not unqualified, that's not it. But you've been conditioned for years to pause, to question, and ultimately to say nothing." — [01:50] "Say the thing. That's it. Say it. Own it. Don't overthink it. Don't hold back. Don't apologize for it." — [08:32] "At this level, the rules are different. Social conditioning in executive spaces is not quite correct." — [03:35] Connect with African Women in STEM on Social Media: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow Adaeze Iloeje-Udeogalanya on LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow African Women in STEM on LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow African Women in STEM on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join the African Women in STEM Membership⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit the African Women in STEM Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Watch Adaeze Iloeje-Udeogalanya's ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TEDX Talk⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ on YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Decision-Level Advisory Application | Fill this Form >>

    12 min

  5. FEB 24

    Charis Loveland: Navigating Career Transitions and Building AI Influence in STEM - 021

    This episode of "Lunch with Leaders" features a compelling conversation between host ⁠Adaeze Iloeje-Udeogalanya⁠⁠ and Charis Loveland, an expert at the intersection of emotional intelligence (EQ) and Artificial Intelligence (AI). They delve into the critical importance of a human-centered approach to technology, navigating career transitions in the age of AI, and the power of emotional intelligence in leadership. Charis shares her inspiring journey from an English literature major to a leader in the AI space, offering valuable insights for women in STEM and anyone looking to thrive in our rapidly changing world. Episode Key Takeaways The Intersection of AI and EQ: AI is a powerful tool, but it must be guided by emotional intelligence to serve humanity. Leaders must prioritize human well-being and ethical considerations in the design and implementation of AI. Navigating Career Transitions: Life is full of "disruptive events" or "life quakes." Embracing these transitions as opportunities for growth and self-discovery is crucial. Charis shares her personal experience with layoffs and how she navigated the "messy middle" to launch her own business. The Power of Emotional Intelligence: EQ is a critical skill for leaders and individuals. It encompasses self-awareness, self-management, social awareness, and people management. Developing EQ can lead to greater success and fulfillment in both personal and professional life. Human Connection in a Digital World: In an era of increasing automation and digital communication, genuine human connection is more important than ever. Leaders should foster environments that prioritize meaningful relationships and transparent communication. FAQs 1. What is the difference between Artificial Intelligence (AI) and Emotional Intelligence (EQ)? AI is the application of statistical techniques to data to make predictions. EQ, on the other hand, is about understanding and managing your own emotions and the emotions of others. It consists of four quadrants: self-awareness, self-management, social awareness, and people management. 2. How can we ensure AI is developed and used responsibly? To ensure responsible AI, we need to prioritize human rights, dignity, and well-being in the design process. This includes bias testing, transparency, and involving diverse communities in the development of AI systems. 3. How can I navigate a career transition or a "messy middle" in my life? Embrace the transition as an opportunity for growth. Reflect on your values, skills, and what you want to achieve. Seek support from your community and be open to new possibilities. Remember that everyone, even experts, starts somewhere. Episode Timestamps [03:56] - Charis Loveland's career journey and the "messy middle." [15:33] - Defining Artificial Intelligence (AI) and Emotional Intelligence (EQ). [24:35] - Rethinking value creation in the AI-driven economy. [38:55] - The responsibility of leaders and women in STEM in shaping the future of AI. [49:30] - Charis Loveland on her legacy and bringing "charisma back with charisma intelligence. Follow Charis Loveland on Social: Charis Loveland LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/charisloveland/ (LinkedIn) Booking link (Google Calendar appointments with Charis): https://calendar.app.google/ecgik1vFTb8GxpRB8  Coaching circle information page: https://mailchi.mp/7311fd8852e8/confident-connected-2026-coaching-circle (Mailchimp) Chris’s substack: https://helloadversity.substack.com/  AI for Human Flourishing (toolkit / framework site): https://www.aiforhumanflourishing.com/ (AI For Human Flourishing)

    54 min

  6. FEB 21

    Stop Proving, Start Positioning: Building Influence with The Authority Code - 020

    In this solo episode of "Lunch with Leaders," Adaeze Iloeje-Udeogalanya shares a pivotal career insight: the shift from proving your worth to positioning yourself for leadership. Drawing from her own experiences as a woman in STEM, she explains how the common drive to over-prepare and seek validation can paradoxically hinder career progression. Instead of constantly trying to prove you belong, she argues for a proactive approach of positioning, which involves shaping perceptions, asserting capability, and demonstrating readiness to lead. This episode is a guide for high-achievers, especially women in male-dominated fields, on how to build authority, own their decisions, and ultimately, secure their seat at the table. Key Takeaways Stop Proving, Start Positioning: Instead of over-explaining and seeking validation, focus on framing decisions, clarifying risks, and making clear recommendations. Proving says, "I deserve to be here," while positioning says, "I'm here to set the direction."Ownership Creates Authority: Taking ownership of your recommendations, trade-offs, and outcomes signals certainty and authority. Organizations elevate those who reduce uncertainty and see the bigger picture.Detach from Validation: At senior levels, decisiveness, especially in ambiguity, is valued over being right. Authority requires detachment from the need for approval. Seeking agreement erodes your authority.Likability vs. Influence: Prioritizing being liked can delay your career growth. To gain influence, you need authority, which sometimes means making unpopular but necessary decisions.FAQs Q: What is the "Authority Code"? A: The Authority Code is the mental and strategic shift from trying to prove your value to proactively positioning yourself as a leader. It's about owning your expertise and decisions rather than seeking external validation. Q: How can I tell if I'm "proving" instead of "positioning"? A: Signs of proving include over-preparing, over-explaining, hedging recommendations (e.g., saying "I think" instead of "I recommend"), and seeking constant agreement. Positioning, on the other hand, involves framing decisions, owning outcomes, and communicating with conviction. Q: Why is being a high-performer not enough for advancement? A: While high performance is essential, at senior levels, leadership is evaluated on the ability to be decisive, manage ambiguity, and demonstrate ownership. Simply being "right" or deserving is not enough; you must signal that you are ready to lead. Timestamps [00:00 - 00:55] Introduction to the episode's theme.[00:56 - 03:53] Personal story: The pitfalls of over-preparation and the need to prove oneself.[03:54 - 05:15] Introducing the concept of "Positioning" vs. "Proving."[05:16 - 09:12] The "Authority Code": Decisiveness, ownership, and detachment from validation.[09:13 - 11:12] Actionable advice and call to action: Shifting your strategy for senior leadership. Connect with African Women in STEM on Social Media: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow Adaeze Iloeje-Udeogalanya on LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow African Women in STEM on LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow African Women in STEM on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join the African Women in STEM Membership⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit the African Women in STEM Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Watch Adaeze Iloeje-Udeogalanya's ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TEDX Talk⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ on YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Decision-Level Advisory Application | Fill this Form >>

    11 min

  7. FEB 18

    Dr. Kim Nichols: What if Your True Calling is a Journey, Not a Destination? | Leadership Mindset & Career Growth - 019

    In this episode of "Lunch with Leaders," host Adaeze Iloeje-Udeogalanya⁠ sits down with Dr. Kim Nichols, a physician executive, speaker, and coach. Dr. Nichols shares her inspiring journey of discovering her true calling in empowering professional women to cultivate their authentic leadership presence. The conversation delves into crucial topics such as the power of authenticity, the significance of mentorship and sponsorship, the art of setting boundaries, and the creation of psychologically safe work environments where individuals can thrive. Co-author in Chronicles of Women in White Coats - 4th edition | Buy Book Available on Amazon Key Takeaways Embrace the Journey of Self-Discovery: Your true calling isn't always a predetermined path. It can be a continuous journey of evolution and rediscovery.Lead with Authenticity: Authentic leadership is about showing up as your genuine self. This builds trust, fosters connection, and creates a more comfortable and productive environment for everyone.Asking for Help is a Strength: Don't be afraid to ask for help. It's a sign of self-awareness and strength, not weakness. It also provides an opportunity for others to share their expertise.The Power of Mentorship and Sponsorship: Mentorship provides guidance, while sponsorship actively advocates for your career advancement. Both are invaluable for professional growth.Set Boundaries for Well-being: Setting boundaries is not selfish; it's essential for your well-being and long-term effectiveness. It allows you to show up as your best self in all aspects of your life.Cultivate Psychological Safety: Leaders have a responsibility to create an environment where team members feel seen, heard, and valued. This psychological safety is the foundation of high-performing teams. Memorable Quotes "The best leaders develop other leaders and create spaces for others to be heard." - Dr. Kim Nichols "Asking for help is a sign of strength, actually, it's not a sign of weakness." - Dr. Kim Nichols "Logic can sometimes keep you exactly where you are instead of where you want to be." - Dr. Kim Nichols FAQs Q: How can I find my true calling? A: Dr. Nichols suggests that finding your true calling is a process of self-reflection and can change over time. It's about understanding your values and what truly fulfills you, rather than conforming to external expectations. Q: What is authentic leadership? A: Authentic leadership is about leading as your true self. It involves being genuine, transparent, and comfortable in your own skin, which in turn inspires trust and authenticity in others. Q: How can I overcome the fear of asking for help? A: Reframe asking for help as a sign of strength. It shows that you are self-aware and open to learning. It also empowers others by allowing them to contribute their skills and knowledge. Timestamps [03:39] Dr. Kim Nichols on discovering her true calling.[07:51] The importance of embracing imperfection and being a lifelong learner.[13:09] Defining and practicing authentic leadership.[16:34] The distinction between mentorship and sponsorship.[23:05] A powerful framework for setting boundaries without guilt.[26:23] How to foster psychological safety in the workplace.[38:55] Dr. Nichols' advice for those who feel stuck and want to move forward. LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/level-up-with-drkimn/ Facbook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61564571362046 Website: https://www.levelupwithdrkimn.com/ Email: krnichols1@yahoo.com

    42 min

  8. FEB 16

    The Hidden Truth About Career Success for African Women in STEM - 018

    In this powerful solo episode, Adaeze Iloeje-Udeogalanya challenges the pervasive belief that "no one is coming to save you" and reveals why this mindset is actually holding African women in STEM back from achieving their full career potential. As a TEDx speaker, leadership strategist, and founder of African Women in STEM, Adaeze unpacks the incomplete narrative of self-reliance and introduces the complete truth: while no one is coming to save you, many people are willing to help you. Through compelling statistics and real-world examples, Adaeze demonstrates that career success is never a solo journey. She reveals that only 1-2% of jobs come from job boards, while 85% are filled through networking, and 70% of jobs are never publicly advertised. Drawing parallels from team sports and individual athletics, she illustrates how even the most successful people rely on networks, coaches, and support systems to reach their goals. This episode is a wake-up call for high-achieving women who have internalized the belief that they must figure everything out alone. Adaeze provides practical insights on building genuine relationships, creating access and proximity to decision-makers, and positioning yourself strategically for opportunities. She emphasizes that relationships, proximity, and access matter more than productivity alone, and encourages listeners to shift from working in isolation to building intentional connections that can open doors and accelerate career growth. Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs) Q: What does Adaeze mean by "no one is coming to save you, but many are willing to help"? A: Adaeze explains that while you shouldn't wait for someone to rescue your career, many people are genuinely willing to support you. The key is to place yourself in the right environments, communicate what you're doing and why, and make it easy for others to see how they can help you. It's about shifting from isolation to strategic connection. Q: How can I start building the right network if I've been working in isolation? A: Start by having coffee chats with decision-makers, sharing your career goals with skip-level managers, and getting involved in conversations where strategy is discussed (not just task execution). Join communities like African Women in STEM where you can connect with like-minded professionals who understand your unique experience. Timestamps 00:00 - Episode Introduction 00:56 - The "No One Is Coming to Save You" Mindset 01:56 - The Identity of Self-Reliance 03:04 - The Limits of Solo Success 04:26 - The Incomplete Phrase Revealed 05:11 - Asking for Help Is a Strength 06:03 - The Team Sport Analogy 07:11 - The Job Market Reality 08:11 - Relationships Matter More Than Productivity 09:07 - Critical Questions for Self-Assessment 10:19 - The Need for Centered Spaces 11:04 - Event Announcement 12:23 - Closing Remarks Target Audience •African women working in STEM fields •Mid-career professionals feeling stuck despite high productivity •Women who have internalized the "figure it out alone" mindset •Professionals seeking to transition from effort-based to strategy-based career growth •Anyone interested in building strategic professional relationships Episode Themes •Career Development & Strategy •Professional Networking •Leadership for Women in STEM •Overcoming Isolation in the Workplace •Diversity & Inclusion in STEM •Personal Branding & Visibility •Mentorship & Sponsorship Connect with African Women in STEM on Social Media: ⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow Adaeze Iloeje-Udeogalanya on LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow African Women in STEM on LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow African Women in STEM on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Join the African Women in STEM Membership⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit the African Women in STEM Website⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Watch Adaeze Iloeje-Udeogalanya's ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TEDX Talk⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ on YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Decision-Level Advisory Application | Fill this Form >>

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The Lunch with Leaders podcast helps women in STEM lead with authenticity and growth, create impact, & expand their influence. Hosted by Adaeze Iloeje-Udeogalanya, TEDx speaker, leadership strategist, & Founder. Each week, Adaeze sits down with innovators, trailblazers, & leaders who are changing cultures and redefining leadership. Together, they share the stories, strategies, & mindsets that empower women in STEM to amplify their visibility, influence, and impact. If you are ready to lead boldly, elevate your influence, and join a global movement, this is your invitation… would you accept?

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